Every Day Gets Lighter When You Let Go of Yourself | The Michael Singer Podcast

[Music] welcome to a special bonus episode of the Michael Singer podcast season 3 Michael Singer is the author of the widely influential New York Times bests sellers the untethered Soul the surrender experience ment and most recently living untethered beyond the human predicament produced in partnership with Shanti Publications the Michael Singer podcast brings you select Recordings from the Temple of the universe a yoga and meditation center that Michael founded in 1975 in this bonus session Michael Singer shines a light on the new year ahead by exploring how every day gets lighter when you let go of

yourself sounds true would also like you to know about an extraordinary eight-part video course that we've created with Michael Singer it's called living from a place of surrender the untethered soul in Action it's an online course many people report to be utterly lifechanging you can find out more at Michael Singer podcast.com and you can save 15% off any Michael Singer program available through sounds true when you use the code singer 15 at checkout that's singer numeral 1 numeral 5 and now every day gets lighter when you let go of yourself with Michael [Music] Singer [Music]

CH G Masters as you come into a new year me New Years are very auspicious very meaningful all the really happened you didn't orbit around the sun if only our minds would remind us of that they have the power of abstract thought we don't use it we stay very focused on little things your mind is capable of knowing that you are floating Throughout our space I asked this question the other day to a group if you fell out of a spaceship and we're just in a suit floating through empty space and looking around and just

seeing the vastness of all that is you know you're in outer space for the people that are still in the spacecraft say the International Space Station we say they're in outer space when you came back where' you Spend your you're in outer space just because you were inside the space station does not mean you were not in outer space if you see the new Star Wars movie they have these giant spaceships way bigger than a whole country all right they're enormous forget what they call them well if you're in one of those floating around you're

still in outer space you don't have to wear a helmet you don't to do anything they're all climatized and very nice and there are Spacecrafts that can have Gardens certainly sci-fi has shown a lot of that you can have a lot going on but you're still in outer space the point of this discussion is you're in outer space you're in outer space right now just be because you're on this Earth does not mean you're not on a spaceship floating throughout our space it's just a really big one and it's floating through outer space so just

if you're in the International Space Station on the planet Earth you're in outer space period that's what's happening if you could train your mind to be kind to you instead of the silly things it thinks about and realize you're floating through empty space it's so big your closest star is 93 3 million miles away 93 million miles a very long time all right and its closest star in the same galaxy its closest star is I think 4.2 light years away something like that look how big that's your Nearest star that's how big this thing is

I realize people don't understand you say Lighty years what does it mean so I used comparisons if I caught a beam of light and I held it in my little fingers and I held it up above above the planet Earth Big Planet you know that and I let it go and caught it after one second it would circumnavigate the globe six times the speed of light it's extremely fast now go do that for 4.2 Years you might get to the next store you're just floating in emptiness nothing nothing just this tiny little ball and during

a year you orbited the sun that's what you did I mean you're getting caught up in the small stuff you just did a lap around the Sun big deal I don't understand how anybody can have a problem it's just pretty simple stuff you sit on a planet you go for the ride you're not going to stay no one has ever Stayed you know that you're guaranteed to take it off you stay here here for a few years you orbit the Sun and you leave you don't know how you got here you didn't take a spaceship

to get here it's pretty neat and you don't know where you're going afterwards you'll find out don't worry about it but the main point is there's nothing going on except that you're sitting on a planet spinning around a star I hope you're having a good time but the truth of the Matter is you're not and that is what spirituality is about is why am I not having a good time all right it's just the planet how long's the planet been circling around the Sun 4 and a half billion years how long you here for that's

embarrassing 70 80 little Chucks around the Sun what are you having a problem with and what you're going to find out is you're having a problem with your mind your mind has decided what you want Want to be happening and what you don't want to be happening and that's what you're having a problem with why would you have a problem with sitting on a planet that you didn't make that has nothing to do with you and you're just spinning through empty space a few times because your mind decided that it's in charge it's really funny

your mind thinks it's God while I'm here in this position this is what's supposed to be going on down to the tiniest detail Every supposed to wear what they're supposed to talk how they're supposed to act how they're supposed to drive what I'm supposed to drive every single whether I'm supposed to get a blemish on my face whether I'm supposed to have a big nose every single thing you didn't make your body how dare you judge it but you do don't you all right just every single thing because your mind did this you are suffering

that is Buddha's first Noble Truth all of life is Suffering why I would say to people you know it's not Buddha was negative or anything like what a negative attitude all the life of suffering it is everybody suffering old people are suffering young people are suffering sick people are suffering healthy people are suffering rich people are suffering poor people are suffering men are suffering women are suffering everybody is suffering not like I got a broken arm all the time or my husband left me no But you're suffering you're suffering you're scared you're self-conscious you're anxious

you're guilty you're insecure all right there's always something going on in there that is not so much fun and you have to try and make it be okay and that is called suffering if if you have to do something about it you're suffering you're trying to be okay and the Buddhist second Noble Truth was what we just said he said the cause of suffering is that you have a way you Want it to be what if I said it like that which is what I just said a minute ago right the cause of suffering is

that you decided how you want it to be and now you suffer when it's not that way don't you you decide I don't want it to be a certain way when you suffer it it is that way I want it to be a certain way it doesn't be that way you suffer it is exactly the way you want it to be and you suffer because you're afraid it will stop so Buddhist truth is that the cause Of suffering he used the word desire but people don't understand that word in the west we think desire means

lust greed of course you suffer if you're lustful and greedy you missed the whole thing he said he said you suffer all of you everyone suffers because they have a way they want it to be that's what a desire is what is a desire having a way you want it to be isn't it that what the word means I desire that you not stay so close to him so I'm suffering all right I desire that you're just a few inches shorter because I'm not so tall but I really really love you but you're just a

little tall for me oh my God if only you were shorter you'd be perfect because you have made up in your mind how you want the moment in front of you and by the way the moment that hasn't happened yet and the one that already happened how you want it to be because you did that with your mind you are suffering here's how I Define suffering if you Have to be doing anything about it to try and be okay it means you're suffering your suffering is driving you to get married your suffering is driving you

to have children your suffering is driving you to make money your suffering is driving you to make a name for yourself your suffering is driving you to look better you have these needs that are coming up inside what is the need about I have a way I want it to be that creates a need because I have a way I Want it to be and now I have to go out and try to make it happen that way I have to get what it is that I think will make me be okay can you relate

to that one and I have to make sure I don't get what I think will make me not be okay that is suffering I know it's hard because because we all do it so we don't call that suffering we call the extreme of that in other words if I don't get what I want really badly and I get suicidal I'm suffering or if I get what I don't want really badly and I'm all messed up I'm suffering no the very fact that you have to be out there struggling to try and make the moment in

front of you be the way you need it to be to be okay means what you're suffering suffering is a state of not being okay is a state of disturbance and now I need to do things in order to try and make it so I'm not Disturbed and the Buddha was right all people are suffering and he is right about why that's what's so deep About his teachings it was very simple the cause of suffering is having a way you want it to be if you have a way you want it to be well maybe

it'll be that way Fat Chance like why would it be the way you want it to be you meet somebody they remind you of someone you dreamt about when you were young and they act a little bit like that well it must be that person no it's not that person it's not you just made it up in your head and now you're projecting onto that person How they're supposed to be because you need them to be that way they will disappoint you but the problem is you not them you have made up a person and

now you're trying to find them you will never find them you have made up a life and now you're trying to create it or find it you will never never create it you will never find it and you will never be okay I'm serious it doesn't exist out there the world has been here for 4.5 billion years it is the result Of all the forces of creation that cause it to be the way it is every moment that's unfolding in front of you is part of the expression of reality it never asked you what you

want it couldn't care less what you want I don't care what they tell you it is doing its physics thing things are the way they are because of Cove valent bonds they're put together the way they are and they move the way they are based on Quantum bosen that those are the forces that cause Things to be the way they are that's why things are the way they are not because you made up how you want them to be it makes me laugh so hard you honestly believe that you get to make up with the

moment in front of you should be like and that it really should be that way and you get upset when it's not that way and therefore you suffer that's what causes suffering so the great way is not difficult for those who have no preferences that's the first line of one Of the deepest Zen writings that was ever ever put down that doesn't mean that you suppress your preferences that doesn't mean you deny your desires it's not deep enough it is that you wake up and you realize I sitting on this planet spining around a star

I'm going to have a good time I have a limited amount of time that I'm going to be here it's kind of an exciting place would you rather live on Mars you don't kid yourself there ain't nothing going on on Mars so Basically you have this exciting Journey with colors and shapes and noises and sounds and animals and birds and flowers give me a break How could somebody make a nicer place you think Walt Disney did well Disney World how'd God do with this how creation do with this it's very amazing planet is it and

you won the lottery you get to live on this one and you're suffering there's something wrong with that okay and so what spirituality says Is very simple says why are you not having a good time not what do I need to happen so that I have a good time no no no no no no that's you being God that's putting you at the center of the universe what needs to happen for me to be okay what needs to not happen so I don't get worse no longer do you say that you sit there and say

why am I not having a good time why am I not enjoying the Journey of what's going on and if you study that carefully and watch it You're going to see it is because you have limited your happiness to events being exactly the way you define them to be all right in order for me to feel good and my heart to open and my mind to be comfortable every single thing has to be the way I decided it needs to be if you tell me you love me so then you sneeze oh forget it man

there's not a way in the world you don't sneeze when you say something like that okay it's just so amazing wake up what you have Done is made up in your mind based on your your past experiences what it is that you think is going to make you be okay and what it is you think is going to make you worse why did you do that you don't ask why you just ask what it is you don't ask why' you do that because you're not okay if I just had a wonderful meal in your full

you don't sit around thinking what you can eat if you just met somebody and you have this wonderful relationship you don't think About who to date if you are fulfilled you don't sit there and thinking what do I need in order to be okay so that's the level that Buddha was talking about and I'm talking about with suffering which is you're never okay for a split second maybe something only if it's exactly the way you wanted to be or if it catches by surprise like the sunset when you turn the corner and weren't looking for

anything it's so beautiful it takes you out of yourself then you can feel Something deeper but as a normal State a human being walks around suffering and so what spirituality says is wake up it's the start of a new year you're going to get another lap around the star what are you going to do with it and then I'm going to draw a line what almost every single person's going to do with this year the same as he did every of year of their life is try to decide what will make them happy what will

make them sad how to make it happen how to Make it not happen and they think that's what it means to live a good life to fight as hard as you can to manipulate the world unfolding in front of you to match what it is you made up and then if it matches some you feel pretty good if it doesn't match you feel terrible if it's worse if it's not what you what you don't want you get scared to death etc etc right I'm telling you the probability that the world in front is going to

unfold exactly the way you Decided you want it to be is zero and you know that you know that's why you plot and plan all the time that's why you're so busy manipulating and dressing certain ways and buying just every single thing in the world it's all manipulating you're trying to manipulate the moment in front of you so that it simulates what it is that you want so that when it comes in it will feel good and not feel bad well the moments keep coming and going what chance do you have To manipulating I mean

maybe you could spend $100,000 on your wedding nobody has succeeded by the way and get it exactly the way you want there's always something wrong but that's just one moment what are you going to do with the rest of the moments unfold nobody's capable of manipulating everybody and everything that comes into their environment to be exactly the way they want so you have relegated yourself to having very very very little high Experiences what do you do about it instead of spending this next year doing the same thing you've done every year how do you know

something doesn't work because you've done it every year of your life and you're still doing it if I did something every single moment of every day of my life and I woke up and one day looked at well that's been going on for a while and I still doing it it must not have worked so I'm telling you that getting what you want is so Overrated it's ridiculous and avoiding what you don't want is so overrated it's ridiculous period it's a waste of your life life why one you're not going to get what you want

you know for a fact it's true you're living proof all right you are not going to get everything the way you want it are you and it's not going to stay that way it's just every once in a while looks like it's going to be that way and you get excited but it doesn't Last very long Mazo Define those as Peak experiences go study him how often he thinks you get Peak experiences everything has to be exactly right all your needs have to go away your mind has to be totally satisfied with everything your heart

has to be completely open good luck so devoting your life to getting what you made up and trying to make it be that way is a waste of your life it causes suffering it causes anxiety it causes all kinds of tension And every why do you think we have so many problems how can you not have problems if you're fighting with everything and everyone to try and make it be the way you want and how can you not be anxious and neotic if you understand well it doesn't keep being the way I want I have

to keep struggling with it getting what you want avoiding what you don't want is an endless Journey isn't it it's like there's a part of your being that's not okay it's Trying to make up based on its past experiences good and bad what it thinks will make it happy and what it thinks will make it sad and then it goes out there try to make it happen the problem is you're dealing with a part of your being that's not okay the best thing it can do is take something and feel a little bit better I'm

telling you the part of your being that's not okay can't be okay let's say you have a problem with jealousy and you try to solve it by Hiring detectives and having everybody study and go after who it is you're concerned about is that going to make the jealousy go away it is not going to make it go away it is actually going to make it stronger you have devoted yourself to the part of your being which is a rather low part which is jealous which has a disturbance I'm not denying there's jealousy that you can

feel that's a human emotion but if you devote your life to it no matter how hard you Try in fact the harder you try the more it bothers you the more energy you put into something the more you're feeding that part of your being the exact same thing is true with the part of you that needs things the part that is not okay the part that is sad the part is not inspired the part that etc etc the part that doesn't feel loved it's just like jealousy it's a part that's not okay and you are

devoting your life to it by asking it all will this make you happy If I wore this with this we feel good about this da I got a new car but I feel more confident and so on right what if I took another class and I could speak better then I feel what are you doing you're devoting your life to the party that's not okay it's exactly the same is devoting your life to jealousy all it does is make you become addicted to that part of your being become fixated on that and you struggle to

try to be okay all right what's the alternative the Alternative is very deep but there is an alternative you notice that you are in there and you notice that there's jealousy you notice there insecurity you notice that it's not okay you don't need a master's degree all right you notice it's not okay in there from the time you wake up in the morning to the time you go to bed at night if you manage to fall asleep there's somebody complaining there's somebody who's scared there's somebody who's just not got it together And they got problems

they may be relatively better one day than the other because they looks like they're going to get what they wanted but in the overall pattern it's not okay and you realize that you are not that part you are the one who's noticing that if your heart hurts CU you feel lonely I'm not interested in helping you find someone or something that will make you not feel lonely I'm interested in finding out why you can't handle that There's a part of your being that periodically feels loneliness and other times doesn't that's why you get in trouble

your relationships because you're hanging out with a part of you that need somebody but there's another part of you that mean you get that that wants some space they're just parts of your psyche they're just parts of your being the only part that is safe and consistent is you who's noticing you notice that the heart hurts you notice You feel some jealousy you know you feel insecure you notice you're feeling love right now you notice that it went away when they told you something you didn't want to hear you just notice that you're noticing is

anybody in there do you notice these things if you come to me you say heart hurts I'm not going to help you fix it I'm going to ask you how do you know how do you know your heart hurts it's very frustrating question isn't it I don't care I just don't want it to hurt no no you got to care how do you know your heart hurts and eventually you're going to look at me angry steam come out of your ears you say because I'm in here and I feel it stupid you just said the

most spiritual thing you will ever say in your entire life what how could you say that my heart hurts has nothing to do with it the fact that you have sat in a space that you notice I am conscious I am centered I am in Here and one of the things I notice is that my heart hurts is that the only thing you notice no I notice that you're talking to me I notice that I have a hand I I notice all kinds of things don't I I notice that my mind is thinking how to

get my heart to stop hurting that's that one in other words I notice these things why because I'm conscious because I exist because I'm in here that's what it's all about there is an alternative way of life and what it Says is as follows if you are in there and you are then you are not the hurting heart it is just something you're experiencing you are not the Disturbed mind it is something you're experiencing you are not the one who's watching the Mind try to figure out what everybody else needs to do for me to

be okay or thinking about what should have happened in the past 20 years ago so that I would be okay okay now if that had happened and you just realize you're wasting your Life you're wasting your time and instead you do something meaningful with your life which is find out who you are who are you in there that's watching who are you in there that sees me who are you in there that notices the heart hurts who are you in there that notices all of this that is what spirituality is about it's not about anything

else it's about that it's about self-realization that's what that word means realize who you are now who some mystical thing my Soul or something like that no no no don't give it a name you hi you in there all right who are you who are you and you start exploring the nature of your being instead of exploring how to make the psyche be okay so you're not serving the Disturbed parts of your being this becomes not your path your life so instead of spending the year circling the sun trying to manipulate and control the moments

that are holding in front of you and worrying about the ones that Weren't then that might be whatever it is you spend your life freeing yourself from yourself you spend your life realizing me who's watching this disturbance is not Disturbed it's watching a disturbance relax let go just let go let go you're seeing it that's fine but you're not it you're the one who sees it just relax as you go through these things I'm going to spend my life my year circling the sun letting go of These parts of my being that are like anchors

that are holding me down I had an experience when I was young my parents got divorced my 6 years old let's say I had so much trouble with it it was so traumatic to me Etc I understand that it's rough for a six-year-old right but now you're 66 years old your parents have been dead for 40 years and you're still disturbed by there's something wrong with that that's Not healthy and what you're going to find out is that you're disturbed by that therefore when some somebody tells you their friend is getting married you feel sorry

for them because a lot of marriages you know 50% of all marriage and divorces and divorces are really hard on the kids believe me I know it happened to me what are you doing you're letting this problem that you stored inside of yourself 40 years ago determine what it is that you like and What you don't like I'm telling you if you watch it carefully every single like and dislike come from there you not deciding what you like you don't sit there and look at something I wonder if I like that and if you do

like you're trying on a dress or something or a suit and going in a little eight-sided mirror I wonder if I like that you're trying to see how it hits you right if you turn a certain way and it reminds you of the suit that your uncle had on On the day your grandfather died I just don't like it I don't like the way it looks in the back you don't even realize what's happening there is no like or dislike why would you like or dislike something just as bun atoms floating around in outer space

it's because you've had past experiences and some of them were nice and some of them were not nice and you stored them inside of you and now when the new things come in they stimulate those experiences call Some scaras in yoga those impressions get hit and they manifest and you feel them as positive or negative proclivities it pulls you toward or away from something doesn't it that's what like and dislike are do not put them on a pedestal they are nothing they're worse than nothing they're the bane of your existence because they tie you to

your past they have no meaning have you noticed how hard it is to decide what you like or dislike have you noticed There's nothing consistent inside of you maybe they took your blankie away when it was blue when you were young and it was a terrible experience now you can't handle blue I just don't like you know I don't like blue I told you I don't like blue or maybe you love blue because that was the color of the car that you first rode in that somebody took you out on a date and it was

such a nice person I don't know but all those impressions are in there aren't they and now the world Comes in and it brings them up and if it brings them up positive you like it if it brings up a negative you don't like it that's the shallowest thing in the whole world let's say you enjoy go going to a certain place on Friday nights and you've been going there for years and all of a sudden s comes up and tells you something negative about the place or about somebody who goes there now you're not

comfortable going there anymore OMG give me a break one stupid Thing goes inside your head and all of a sudden you get this discomfort going on and maybe you'll be there for years if you really want to see whether I'm telling the truth go to a high school reunion go to a high school School reunion and see how you feel about these people we haven't seen for 30 years the same stuff's coming up faced with life's challenges and uncertainties many of us feel quite stressed and Overwhelmed but does it have to be this way with

his newest book living untethered Michael singer has written a followup to the spiritual classic the untethered Soul taking us within to our still and liberated Center to learn more about this book and Michael singer's other offerings please visit living dunte [Music] so basically like and dislike are just the Impressions that were stored from Your past coming up if you spend your life chasing them you're wasting your life and you will never satisfy them because they're not even real so what spirituality means what a meaningful life is I am going to take a lap around the

Sun and during that lap I assure you that when I come back to the starting position there's going to be less of me so a wise person who caught on it's not that they're not trying to be happy it's not you go sit in the woods Somewhere by yourself right and give up on life no you use life for something meaningful I'm going to take a lap around the Sun and guess what's going to happen a lot of things are going to happen that's what's going to happen during that year there are going to be

all kinds of moments unfold in front of me how about you every single moment there's something different unfolding in front of me it just keeps changing and what I've noticed is if I sit in here it Hits my stuff right just hits my stuff it's just amazing it's like arrows it just comes by and stuff starts coming up inside of me I like it I don't like it I'm scared of it I'm like I happen again I don't just all this stuff goes on is that just me or is happening to you too okay I

am going to use every single moment to let go of that stuff whoa you mean it can go of course it can go let's get something straight there is No super glue in there really I'm serious if something is inside of you from the past it's because you're holding it there you are using your will to hold it how do I know when it comes back up you push it back down because it was stored with pain it comes up with pain so when this stuff starts coming up you push it back down don't you

you have hands in there yes or no can you push things around in there emotions thoughts all kinds of things Have thoughts starts to come about your ex-husband so you are in control you are doing it it's your house Master us to say regain your kingdom this is your house nobody else lives in there your husband don't live in there your wife don't live in there your kids don't live in there you are who lives in there nobody else will ever live in there I don't care how close you try to get as your house

what are you doing letting all that garbage be in there I'm going To ask you a very simple question if every single time you have an experience that bothers you you store it inside how are you going to be doing in there that's the silliest idea anybody ever had to collect bad experiences collect Coins Stamps something all right don't collect bad experiences it's not going to work out well but that's what we've done CU nobody will talk to us like this they say the answer is if you're not Comfortable get something avoid something or get

rid of something do something do something about it no I'm going to do something about it I'm going to get rid of the reason it's there what you have to do is sit there and say now I'm saying it to you this stuff is not supposed to be in here what stuff all of it I'm serious it's not supposed to be in there passes over what are you doing carrying inside of you that's ridiculous it doesn't mean you don't remember it it Merely means you didn't suppress it there's a big difference you drive down roads

all the time there are white lines you could remember you could say yeah that's dotted that's solid but it didn't leave an impression inside of you of like and dislike and you don't freak out the next time you see a line because it wasn't the same as something else it's just an experience that you had you experience things you don't have problems with them So when they come in you let them go that's called be here now that's what that's about is experiences are meant to be experienced they're not meant to be renounced it has

nothing to do with renunciation the experiences unfolding in front of you are sacred why because you're missing every other experience in the universe all you're having is the experience that's happening in front of you there are billions of other experiences going on everywhere else you Don't get to have those do you so at least honor and respect the one you're having so the moment unfolds in front of you you experience it I agree sometimes it's Pleasant sometimes it's not but then it's over it shouldn't be in you anymore and if it's not in you anymore

all of a sudden you're going to be free you're going to find out that you don't need things to be a certain way for you to be okay the only reason you need them to be a certain way now is because you Closed Yourself by storing all this garbage inside of you now if something happens that matches well well with your garbage all of a sudden you feel Joy don't you you feel excited if it goes the way you want you open up if it doesn't go the way you want you close down it is

this opening and closing that you're experiencing as the quality of your life what spirituality in yoga says is why don't you try to look and see why it's opening and closing instead of what I need to do to make it open and close and you look and I'm telling you what you'll see you'll see it is the stuff I stored inside of me that is making it open and closed the reason life is conditional and I have conditional love and conditional happiness and conditional well-being is those are the conditions what turns him on turns you

off what turned you on yesterday turns you off today because you have these conditions that get stored inside of you Get rid of them that's what I'm inviting you to do seriously I'm promise you you can get rid of them all of them there not a single one that needs to be inside your past does not belong inside of you as you let go of these things you're going to find out that you're way happier than you were before why because it's the Law of Attraction and manifestation that if I let go of this garbage

inside of me I will attract to me everything I want no no I hope not I Hope you don't what I want is that you let go of the basis of like and dislike you let go of this garbage you stored inside and because you don't have blockages in side anymore you feel the spontaneous joy and love all the time unconditionally you don't need things to be the way you want to be okay you're just okay just like you can be healthy body can be healthy well your body's healthy you don't need anything it's when

your body's sick that you need to Go to the doctor you need certain food you need certain medicines it's the same thing with your spiritual energy body it can be fine it can be filled with love filled with joy all the the time all the time that's called that ever New Joy you just feel waves of uplifting Spirit Joy love pouring through your being all the time because that happens to be your natural state and what you did is shove all this garbage on top of it so now you're Blocked and the only way you

feel openness is when something happens that matches your garbage that's why you feel Joy when you meet somebody who's just the way you like them because it causes you to open up if they weren't just the way like them it wouldn't happen if they behave tomorrow different than they behave today and you didn't like that one different aspect you didn't expect to have you don't like him so much anymore that was so disappointing I Trusted you trusted me to what to be the way I expected but that's what you mean isn't it I had a

way that would open me and you said you loved me and I assumed that's a big assumption that therefore you would always be the way I need you to be and you would never ever not be the way I needed you to be I don't even know how you need me to be how would I know I only know me unfortunately I don't know you're some scars I wasn't around when you were six I don't know I Didn't know that I said the word marriage or divorce and it freaked you out or I I don't

know you're really sensitive you have lots of stuff in there so it is not going to happen that you're going to find somebody you are your own soulmate find the wholeness within your own being by getting rid of your blockages and I'm telling you I'm guaranteeing you if you will let go of this garbage you stored inside you will start to feel spontaneous Joy Spontaneous love this constant state of being fed from inside man does not live by bread alone but by every word to leave with the mouth of the father you will know exactly

what that means and there'll be no question in your mind why because you're being fed by this Fountain of Joy so in order to do that you change it's a true Paradigm sh shift now as you go around the Sun you spend every minute of every second trying to manipulate and Control the environment around you to match your garbage instead when you truly turn to a spiritual path you spend your entire orbit around the sun letting go of your garbage and that's it and there there never the twain shall meet there are two totally different

ways to live your life one works the other doesn't it doesn't work to keep trying to get what you want you know that you live that it does work every single thing you let go of you're a wher person You feel better if you say something to me that wasn't so nice you weren't feeling good you just said something not so nice and I hold on to it I don't get to like you I don't like when I drive down the street where you live I sure as heck don't like the street corner where you

said it to me on or the car I was driving in I my God I got all these Impressions that cause problems to me if it happens and I just let it go you mean I can do that that yeah you're a great Being in there you can do whatever you want you can do whatever you want in there I'll teach you how I can go for an hour to inspire you to do it and I only need one minute to tell you how to do it whereas you want to run around say I need

a technique I need a patch I need no no no no you need to want to do it you can let go of the things that happen to you you do not have to store them inside of you there's no purpose for storing them inside of you I want you That if somehow she was in a bad mood or at least you thought she said something not nice half the time you're wrong anyways but she said something or didn't say something it it disturb you a little bit that when she walks away it's gone that's

what I want for you I will not try to get you what you want I'm not going to try to help you get what you want I don't even want you to get what you want I want you to get rid of the reason you want things so that I know You'll be okay forever if you have children you have children I have a daughter I have a wonderful daughter I don't want her to get what she wants I want her to get rid of the reason she would want something so that I know she's

okay no matter what no matter what happens all the time I know that she's happy and she's fine and she can handle which do you want for your kid that it's conditional and only going to happen in a little tiny little laser beam of light Or that they learn to be always okay so that's what we're talking about so basically you wake up be strong inside and you say this is my kingdom yes it is true I have stored all this garbage guilty guilty guilty did it since I was little I stored every single thing

that ever bothered me it's still in there if I in fifth grade I put a rose in for a a flower contest and then day before I brought it in a beetle ate one of the little edges of the thing right I hate Beetles I hate roses I hate contests and I hate people who have perfect flowers okay don't laugh I'm telling you that's what happens and guess who I have agree with me all of psychology your formative years right you got a stuff stored in there I am telling you that it does not have

to stay in there it stays in there because you keep it in there the day you decide you want to stop smoking and you really mean it stop putting C in your Mouth and it's shocking you will find that you stop smoking and you will find that the urge to smoking will go away it is exactly the same with this the day that you want to stop being screwed up let go of the part of you that is making you screwed up and don't you dare tell me I can't like the challeng I give to

people is okay she came by she said something not so nice it's starting to bother me it's bothering me she walked away and I'm standing there let go I Can't let go I can't I can't she had no right to say that that's called not letting go it's called getting involved what I'm doing is I am justifying keeping it I went out to dinner it made me sick I am going to take it home I'm going to taste it every single day so I never forget what it was like to eat something that made me

that sick I'm going to show that that Chef for every day of my life I'm going to show him how sick he made me that's what you did with The fact that she says something I'm going to keep it in here I have the right you don't understand what she said what are you doing I have the right to screw myself up for the rest of my life fine I don't know why you want that right I don't want that right so you tell me but I don't know how to let it go I can't

let it go I can't let it go g be terrible right now here's a million dollars million dollars Let It Go really yep oh wait if you're really Caught for how long 10 seconds okay it's gone and if you can let it go for 10 seconds you let it go for 10 minutes either you do or you do not have the ability to let go see people say to me what do you mean by let go now you understand what I mean by Let Go I mean you in there noticing this bothered you aren't you

you're noticing your mind complaining about it you're noticing your heart hurting you about it okay just relax relax relax you don't Change it just relax and say help for a million dollars or better yet for happiness for Eternal happiness all right I will relax I will relax and give it the space it needs to pass and I guarantee it will pass if you're hooked on Heroin and you go through withdrawal it'll pass if you don't go through withdraw it won't but if you do go through the draw it will pass well this ain't nowhere's near

being hooked up or she just said something not nice be a Big deal let it go do you understand what I meant Now by letting go a wise person does that with everything a wise person says if I want to be happy then I have to be willing to be happy you understand that right we're back to the path of unconditional happiness if I want to feel love then I have to not close my heart I have to be want to get my heart open because there ain't no love when your heart's closed if you

haven't noticed so if something happens And it starts to close my heart I'm going to relax and let it go I'm going to learn to let it pass Let It Go and you're going to find over time I know that you don't know how to do it now no one's ever done it we weren't taught to do it we went to graduate school and all the way through kindergarten graduate school and nobody ever taught us any of this did they they taught us the opposite how to manipulate and control so basically you come down and

you say This year the end of the year then we start our year you say I'm going to let go of this stuff in here that's what I'm going to do I'm in here it's my house I'm letting it go and then every time it comes up every time something happens and it hits your stuff you let it go just relax keep relaxing and at first you don't know how to do it I tell you you don't know how to play the piano at first you don't how to do calculus when you went to your

Calculus class you did This thing called learning why can't you learn this it's the most important thing you will ever learn is how to let go of the garbage that you're building up inside yourself cuz you can't be okay with this garbage in there all right so you relax with the new stuff and little by little the old stuff will come up by itself it's a lifo stack last in first out if you keep shoving more on top of it that's the problem of the day you won't feel the stuff from underneath Every once all

come up but in general you to be busy with the fact that she didn't say something nice to you or somebody beeped at you or rain when you didn't want it to you put all these little things there and just on top of the bigger things they won't come back up I'm warning you if you let go of the little things the bigger things are going to come up all by themselves you start having dreams that you never dreamt about before you'll look at Somebody all sudden you start crying remind you of your mother and

that thing all forgotten about that I love it I want more of it you have to love that I don't want this inside of me so if I have to go through the growth of what it's like to let it go I am willing to do that I am ready willing and able in fact it is the meaning of my life it used to be the meaning of my life was to make the world match my junk now the meaning of my life is to let go of my Junk and I'm telling you it works

it can not work right how can it not work you just keep letting go relax and release relax and release then people say to me but what about the outside world don't I have to do anything there isn't there a real world out there and the answer is yes yes there's a real world out there and you're supposed to be interacting with it I didn't think he was going to say that all right well what does that mean Right now you are interacting with the moments that unfold in front of you on a basis of

taking from them trying to be okay trying to get from them what you want and make them not be the way you don't want you're using the moments that are unfolding in front of you to try and make yourself be okay when you live this life you are first letting go of these problems you have inside and then you're going to find out all of a sudden that you can face the moments that are Unfolding outside as a thing of themselves not in relationship to your personal self not in relationship do I like it do

I not like it what do I do to make it so I do like it what do I do to make it so that it's not about me it's about itself there's a moment unfolding in front of me and it's asking me to interact with it not me trying to make it give me what I want you stop being a taker and you become a giver and next thing you're going to know is all of a Sudden you realize life is so simple it unfolds in front of you and you dance with it not I

make up how I want it to be and beat it over the head if it's not that way and keep grabbing and taking and manipulating no no you honor that the moment has the right to exist I don't care how much you don't like it it has the right to exist how do you know it's there reality wins if it is Manifest especially your past it had the right to Happen didn't it it happened and so you relax your way through it and then you serve the moments that are unfolding in front of you I

had somebody the other day ask me I still don't get it what does it mean to let go and we're going to close on this so I gave her an example she said it helped a lot okay you're standing in an elevator there's six people in the elevator it's not terribly big elevator there's somebody at the front of the elevator inside the Elevator and he keeps holding the door button every time somebody else comes up and you're very uncomfortable you have to be the kind of person that's kind of claustrophobic and you're not real comfortable

having all these people packed in the elevator there Perfect Situation there's really nothing wrong like the elevator's rated for enough people don't worry about it it's basically just a personal preference that you have it's just some stuff Whoever knows how it got there where you're just not comfortable in a crowd believe me it's past Impressions so you're there here it goes you have the following choices one manifest your discomfort stop it what's the matter with you there's too many people in there stop pushing that button stop pushing that button in other words I can't handle

it so you don't do it if it's making me uncomfortable it's wrong that person's wrong to be doing this how Do you know I can feel it best you can so that's one way you can deal with it is Manifest it externally and attempt to manipulate the environment outside of you that is you are not accepting you not surrendering you are controlling fair enough when you do so that's taking on karma in other words if you are taking this garbage that's inside of you that's uncomfortable and you are manifesting outside of you you laying a

trip on other people's heads and it will Leave Impressions out there you'll go for a job someday it just happens that way you'll go for a job someday and the person that was pushing the open button is your boss who you're interviewing with you go Jesus got got my mouth shut I just things happen don't they all right now here's a second way you can deal with it little higher but it's still not letting go that is I no I'm not supposed to express it shut up bite your tongue don't say anything in other Words

suppress it if I can't express it I'm going to have to suppress it at least you're not taking on the external Karma you bit your tongue you didn't do that stuff but I think we're all mature enough to understand and that's not going to be healthy down there you're going to blow a gasket at some point and go out there and do something right because it'll come back up because you stored all this garbage inside of you so that's the Second level not terribly spiritual but more so than dumping your stuff you're polluting your environment

with your garbage all right it's just like a factory dumping all the leftover chemicals into the river you're taking the junk that's left over inside of you and dumping it out to the world people do that don't they all right so you at least don't do that so you come back a level all right Next Level Next Level you become conscious enough strong Enough to where you start doing what people call accepting okay listen to the difference now it's okay this is just my stuff it's my stuff I can handle it it's not a problem

and they're welcome to come into the elevator it's nice to let other people come in the elevator why should it have to be my way in other words you start accepting the reality of the situation and of course you're taught that acceptance is a very high thing it is High compared to suppressing and expressing you're garbage you're rationalizing it you're finding a way to live with it and so on but the part of you that made you so Disturbed that caused the whole problem did not go away because you accepted the situation you avoided suppressing

you avoided creating more disturbance inside and you avoided creating disturbance outside okay you did good not taking it away from you but that's not what Surrender is surrender is I am conscious enough to notice that some garbage is coming up inside of me about the number of people that are in the elev elator or how close they stand to me I don't want to make it past this moment and think I'm okay I don't want this inside of me I want to use this moment to go to God I want to use this moment to

grow spiritually I want to use this moment not to accept that some people think there are enough people in the elevator You that's new age doobie stuff I want to use this moment to do real stuff I want to let go I want to let go of the part of me that is causing this disturbance that's letting go I don't usually teach it that deep you see the difference each of the tear it is only when you do the last one that the real spiritual growth takes place now you will make a nice world doing

the middle one believe me no I wish everybody could accept you're at Least not causing trouble outside or inside you rationalized it you made it fit you good I feel good about it right but I'm telling you the stuff's going to come up again if not in the elevator somewhere else you know you left that part of you allowed to exist you just learn to live with it you learn to be more comfortable with it I'm telling you the highest growth and the one that really leads to deep spirituality is I'm the witness I'm noticing

he's standing On the planet Earth inside of an elevator freaking out about the door opening I don't think so it's not a matter of accepting that some people look at differently it's a matter of no no no no I ain't keeping this stuff inside of me I'm not giving myself the right that's the difference somebody asked me the other day I had write a little answer something the difference mean acceptance and surrender and he said aren't they the same exactly in Acceptance I gave myself the right to not like it but I accepted other people

look at it different ways I kept the right that I didn't like it this way but I accepted that this was reality that this is how other people wanted it it's sounds very nice doesn't it notice I kept the right to see it my way right no no no no you must die to be rebor you got to be want to let go of yourself at the deepest root level and so you just take one look and you say This is causing disturbance inside of me it's out it's gone how do I how do I

get it gone it's really there it's there but you're not it you're the one who's noticing it that's why you meditate that's why you do Mantra to maintain a center of stability that is so strong that anything that goes on inside of you can't pull you into it it's a disturbance you're seeing and if you will relax you in there not make it relax you relax just relax oh my God Relax yes right I'm telling you you will not want to do it it's real growth you relax and it starts pulling relax it can't touch

you it's just something that's stuck inside that's trying to purify that's trying to release if you will grow at that level I am assuring you your days will start to get lighter and lighter because you're let him go at a very deep level and you just do that with everything every chance you get let go of the part of you that wants To resist that's deeper than not resisting and if you will do this underneath that stuff you're letting go of is the shock is real spirit and if you give it enough room it starts

FL and it flows up and you start feeling it course through your whole being every second of your life from the moment you wake up in the morning there's ecstasy it's going on all that's where I want you I'm just telling it to you because That's what's going on inside of you right now but you've closed the blinds with this garbage and nobody will be honest enough to tell you you got to let go of yourself except Christ see I like Christ a lot so a Jewish Yogi that loves Christ why he said it you

must die to be reborn you have to let go of yourself and what did the Buddhist say all life is suffering the cause of suffering is you you built this preference system inside of you to end suffering Let It Go To end suffering and desire right just let go of the part of you that is separate in the world into like and dislike and everything will change and I'm telling you every one of you are capable of it it's not some Buddhist off somewhere all right but it's better that you're doing it in your life

in your marriage in with your children in business why because it's hitting your stuff if you're going off to live in the cave somewhere and leave everything What's going to hit your stuff it's perfectly reasonable that you go about your everyday life it's the life you attracted around yourself so it's going to be the one that hit your stuff and when it does let it go so if you're a soccer mom instead of complaining I got to go pick up the kids soccer just there let go let go of that let go of that well

but no no Buton let go let go anybody hearing me I know it's scary you can mouth dry a little bit all right let Go you do not want to keep the part of you that's not okay you want to be the part that is okay therefore you have to let go of the part that's not okay not plate it not try to manipulate a world that makes it be okay it doesn't know how to be okay it's never been okay your whole life let it go let it go that's the Deep spiritual growth so

we're coming to the end of the year you take a circle around the Sun remember that you just you just Flo on a spaceship and out Of space causing trouble for yourself okay come on wake up let go it's very good you work with these things [Music] JRA you've been listening to the Michael Singer podcast produced by sounds true in partnership with Shanti Publications sounds true is the co-publisher of Michael singer's newest book living untethered beyond the human predicament We've also joined with him to produce an extraordinary eight-part video course it's called living from a

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