disciplined people execute no matter what because the outcome of what they're doing is more important than how they feel that morning it's cold it's hot I didn't sleep well uh I had a nightmare I I I don't feel like it it's going to hurt who gives a crap right the disciplined person takes action no matter what the self-developed person takes action no matter what you're a man you are a man stand up and be a man make the hard decisions make the sacrifices make the popular decisions and become comfortable in your own skin just shut
up and let me enjoy this pain everything changed for me when I realized that we're not meant to feel excited and perfect all the time I started accepting that where I am right now is where I'm genuinely meant to be tough days are all a part of the process lean into them bad days are also part of a very good and meaningful life so on my toughest days I think about getting through one more day one more workout one more rep I'd rather die I would rather die than be that loser guy do you want
to walk out that door a damn loser or do you want to walk out the door a winter they you know I I'll I'll fight to the death it sounds crazy but you got to give it that much if you want results otherwise you'll be like everybody else the majority of the population they think they're praying hard lazy people do a little work and think they should be winning but winners work as hard as possible and still worry if they're being lazy you still got work to do stay on that basketball court stay on that
football field it's grind season homie this game is a very very hard game this is not an easy game yeah man I mean it's you have to be built for that you really really do need to be built for it if you were telling me yeah sometimes I get up sometimes I don't sometimes I work late sometimes I don't I'm not don't work out every day you know sometimes I feel groggy if you were telling me that kind of thing I'd say okay pick a time and start waking up at that time every day doesn't
have to be 4:40 could be 8:00 could be 7:00 it doesn't matter could be 11:00 but try and go to bed around the same time and try and wake up around the same time and that's going to be a great foundation for everything that you're doing nothing is going to be worthwhile that doesn't come with an Associated amount of discomfort therefore when you start to feel friends around you and the people that you used to be able to speak a Common Language with start to push back and start to make the quips of oh not
drinking tonight yeah oh you must be too cool for us now I know it hurts I know it hurts that is the lead indicator not even the lagging indicator that is the lead indicator that you are doing the right thing you have to build a person that can withstand the pressures of whatever they're going to be dealing with in life and we don't do that I'm not trying to send a message of run 200 miles but be tough you better have a part about you that's tough a part about you that can break down situations
and get better and break down situations very quickly within some trauma in your life some Devastation in your life cuz it's going to come the devastation the trauma is going to come and you can't allow that to become a jersey barrier it can't be a jersey bear it has to be something that you can maneuver through very quickly and move forward that takes a toughness I'd say one of the strongest mental frames that has gotten me through my hardest times is thinking this will be the story that I will one day tell and that means
the harder it is the bigger the dragon the more epic the story and by Consequence the more epic the hero and if you think about the difference between winners and losers winners Define themselves by what they made happen and losers Define themselves by what happened to them and the difficult part of the Lonely chapter is that the rocky cut scene lasts 90 seconds in the movie and lasts 5 years in reality and at the end of the day when you're old and have grandkids and chy in your life you're the culmination of everything you've accomplished
but also how you accomplished it and how you reacted to it what's a big picture what do you want to become life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact and that is everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you I love this game I live this game there's a thousand other guys waiting in the wings who are obsessed with this game obsession is going to be Talent every time you got all the talent in the world but are you obsessed is it all
you ever think about let's face it it's you against you out there your biggest enemy is you people don't understand is you against you the only person that get in your way is you nobody else it's you Sun don't stop for nobody man Sun going to be up in the morning regardless that Sun is going to be up in the morning regardless of how I feel and how depressed I am the Sun is going to shine in the morning and at night time the moon going to be there and you going to look up these
days going to keep going by so do you let the days go by and look up and you done waste of the Year doing what what do you just pick it up all right got to figure it out made some mistakes life goes on let me figure out life from this point what if a lot of times I'll be in a 200 mile run or something like that and I'm all jacked up bodies broken mind's broken spirit's broken I started to say what if I can pull this off when I first walked into the Navy
SEAL recruiter's office he looked at me and said there's only been 35 African-Americans in 70 years make it through you know I said to myself what if I can be the 36th it's the what if I can pull off a miracle what if I can become someone that no one thinks I can be and just that just me talking about that I have the hair gr up on my arms cuz it makes me just like what if well You' got your own back in life you're not relying on somebody else hoping they come through for
you no your place trailing Make A New Path self dependent self-reliant self-d dominating self- suuccess [Music] bet on yourself guys you never lose if you bet on yourself listen man I came to the United States I remember that I train 5 hours a day every day and I was managing a construction business and I was a brick layer and I went to college also and I took acting class class ES from 8:00 at night to 12:00 midnight all that in one day every day I did that I did not worry about it I knew that
had 24 hours and I didn't want to waste one single hour because I believe of what Ted Turner said who is one of the great entrepreneurs who started CNN and so on he said early to bed early to rise work like hell and advertise so that's what I believe just remember you can't climb that ladder of success with your hands in your pockets you must Rook your ass off it's that simple God damn it I know you're a good human I know there's a higher level human in you who deserves love who deserves connection who
deserves to be complimented who deserves to be respected however if you don't carry yourself as that person because you don't love yourself you don't connect with self you are addicted to Vices you are constantly watching television and social media scrolling all day and constantly sucking in negative information from the news or social media if your selfworth is so eroded and you're allowing it certainly other people are going to be like well it's okay to treat this piece person like a piece of [ __ ] and that's exactly what's happening the push back you are getting
is the indicator that you are doing the right thing because they're projecting the things that they know they should be doing that you are doing that they're not doing and you remind them of that so even though the mountain that you're climbing is actually a smaller one than the one that you ultimately want to climb you're actually at the top of their mountain and so they start tearing you down so like that's where the the Underdog Story that we said at the very beginning of this with the quote which is like on the way up
they root for you and then when you're at the top they try and tear you down because you remind them of the dreams that they couldn't accomplish right and so you quitting drinking or you staying in to work on your side hustle or your project or the business that you want to launch the podcast that might be you might be at the top of their mountain and so they are tearing you down because now you remind them that they haven't done it and it's purely a projection of them onto you and has nothing to do
with you I've reflected a lot over the years of how much of my mental peace I've had to sacrifice to accomplish what I've accomplished and it's just been a lot of like waking up at 5:00 a.m. going through the day wake up weigh myself weigh my food do my check-ins in the mirror like go to the gym work out how WR everything is like am I good enough am I being enough am I doing enough to win the Olympia right now it's all just compared to being Mr Olympia to that level of success and you
know people talk about what you sacrifice to be great at things and they nor like you don't get to go hang out with your friends you don't get to go party go go do these things but I think for me the biggest sacrifice has just been the my me my mental Peace So the goal this year has been trying to find that maintain it have the mental peace while also thriving at a high level and seeing how I can do that as as efficiently as possible and you know I'd like to be able to say
I did so successfully everybody that starts off has this huge amount of escape velocity that's needed to be accumulated starting from Total inertia lifting off where the gravity is strongest going past all of these the disbelief and the criticism and the lonely chapter and all of this stuff so they've had to go through all of these trenches and get over all of these hurdles and then they finally get to the stage where they're in a little bit more light altitude ude they're floating out there a little bit more and maybe their uh velocity gives them
or their their fuel gives them more returns in terms of their velocity and now people say I must be nice for you and you go dude [ __ ] you like if if you could have seen how much criticism and hard work and lonely nights and all of the stuff when nobody was watching and I was in was unsure of myself chronically miserable and I criticized and all my friends talk to piss out me and I did all of these things I had to go through all of that for you to now say must be
nice very few decisions are final even something like buying a house should I buy this house oh my gosh it seems if you buy a house and you decide it wasn't the house that you wanted you sell the house it's like now look could you get caught in a bad market and could yeah that can absolutely happen so you need to be smart about your decisions that you make but most things are not as final as they seem most things you're going to be able to and will you look you paid the realator so you
lost 3% there you paid the other realtor you lost 3% you had to pay the mortgage fees you're going to lose some money but it's not like you buy a million dollar house and then you decide you don't like it you don't lose a million dollars you lose 80 grand or whatever you know and it's okay 2 years 3 years you get it back what so people think of decisions as being permanent this world is so noisy we we all walk around these phones computers the world is so fast we're not able to think the
the most powerful weapon in the world we walk around with it it's our mind it's our brain you have to be able to go into a very dark place in your mind and figure who you are go back do what you want to do what's your purpose we can't figure our purpose out or why we're here or why we're even born or whatever cuz our it's so loud in our mind we don't have any quiet time with ourselves to sit back and say what do I really want there's so many different dialogues in our head
that we can't think so my biggest thing is you have to be alone in a very dark place in your mind to think about what is important to you every single person who wants to do something with their life and has done something with their life has gone through the exact chapter that you're going through and it's the lonely chapter it's the chapter where you you're you don't fit in with your own friends but you don't have the outcomes yet to fit into a new group of friends and you're doing this thing you're consuming content
on the internet you're you're doing these free tutorials online to try and figure out how to set up a podcast and where do I host this thing and and and and you're going through this and you're like am I is this even worth it because you have no signs of success right but if there's anything that you can take away from what we're saying right now is that the sign of success is the hate that you get along the way and what you can't do is bend the knee to their hate and fit back into
the Conformity because it's comfortable and it's warm when you're trying to build confidence with something you're afraid of being exposed to the fear helps you overcome that but actively choosing to take that feon head on is actually What It Takes I can't throw a spider at you you're not afraid of spider but you choosing in your own mind to actively go to that Spider by yourself makes you actually grow from it so you choosing motivation is great but if you can't fit [ __ ] in your brain because it's all [ __ ] cluttered with
[ __ ] there's no discipline you may have it sometimes when it fits in that crowded garage of your mind but you don't have the consistency that you need to have that discipline this was a time of year where we hit a lull a couple times you know and we can't let let that happen no matter what's going on man me and 91 me and Yan say it to each other every every day nobody cares you know at the end of the day nobody cares what we're going through how your body feels nobody cares we
got to we got to do our job and uh we we emphasize that to each other again today you know hey I got your back you got mine nobody cares man we got to go and before practice during practice after practice you know we're we're always just trying to push whoever's listening that is it fair no um because I want to have emotions about things I want to think about things as a human being these weird insults that we have to ourselves on a daily basis that that no one is ever going to give you
any Applause for so um you get caught up in traffic in a way that wasn't your fault and then when you get there the person that you're dealing with something goes wrong with that and something else goes wrong with this and something else goes wrong the whole day all the way down and no one of these is impressive or grand or magn magificent in any way and you managed to sort of weave your way through the day keeping your cool and you don't lose it and you managed to kind of make the best of that
whole day and you get to the end of it there's no one applauding you for having got through that and yet you look back at the day and you go holy [ __ ] like I'm really proud of myself that life's hard and sometimes we don't need men's mental health awareness month is that what they call it we need men's grow set month we need men stop whining month now I know things are hard for some of you I know things are extremely difficult for some of you things have been hard for me around here
I don't get on here and post it not going to now but we all go through it and that's the reason I'm talking to you tonight sometimes you look at people on the screen and you think that's distant and they're separated and they're not going through what you're going through listen man we all go through it how did you get that mentality of just being like I need to get over this like I need to get over myself you know trial and error you know you grow up and you make game-winning shots and it's awesome
you come back the next day and miss a game-winning shot and misery and then the next day comes and you're back playing again and you understand that life has this cyclical nature where it's you know what you do on Monday it's fantastic but then Tuesday is a bad day but guess what there's Wednesday so are we just supposed to live our lives like this the whole time you know versus just staying like this and understanding that it's really just a journey of evolution every day it's just constant Improvement constant curiosity constantly getting better the results
don't really matter uh it's the figuring out that matters start working on yourself heal from your trauma overcome the past forgive I'm not saying forget but forgive the people that have wronged you because you're just holding yourself hostage if you haven't forgiven them yet right and I'm telling you if you heal through your [ __ ] you all of a sudden realize like all the limits that you had placed on yourself and this false story that you had told yourself of who you are and and how unlucky you are and how [ __ ] up
life is and how you're not worthy and you're not lovable and you self sabotage all these things go away like I have something I love about is something I love about being put back against the corner like knowing that there's a lot of work I have to do feeling like I can't accomplish my goal and you're going to have to do it there's something so like simple and beautiful in the meaning of just doing something that difficult under that level of pressure that you're choosing to do you know people say you find meaning in suffering
and I think if you put yourself into like a meaningless suffering it's kind of just it's dumb there's no point you're just hurting yourself for no reason but if you can find your meaning and just doing hard things that are as close as possible to suffering that you're still benefiting from and you still enjoy I think it's beautiful
