YOU HAVE TO SUFFER

happy or sad sad I've been suffering all my life I'm sorry it's not enough you can't go back once you started this damn Journey you can only go forward the only way you're ever going to get to the other side of this journey you have to suffer to grow embrace the pain is what I say pain is good for you it's great for you you have to make that a tattoo on your brain so when that hard time comes again you don't forget it look at your hand first soap Was Made From the Ashes of

Heroes like the first monkey shot into space without pain without sacrifice you would have nothing you know what it's like to be poor and you know what it's like to work hard now you're going to learn what it's like to sweep floors and bust your ass and accomplish twice as much as all the kids around you and I won't mean anything because they will still look down on you I had two options to either be that 300 lb guy who's prayed for cockroaches and made $1,000 a month and at 24 years old knowing when I'm

50 [ __ ] years old I can reflect on this and think about what guy I never became I'll give you a winter prediction it's going to be cold it's going to be gray and it's going to last you for the rest of your life or I can totally just sack it up and fail and fail and fail and I succeed listen to me pain is temporary it may last for a minute or an hour or a day or even a year but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place if I

quit however it will last forever you have the advantage of everybody else versus my God they're so above me that came from a great family Mom and Dad love them they didn't have a learn they didn't start they didn't Struggle No Man your struggle is what made you who you are now unchosen suffering is going to happen in life your parents are going to pass away loved ones are going to die your relationships are going to break down your body is going to fail you you're going to become ill or sick or destitute things are

going to happen that you have no control over MH and the only way that you can prepare yourself for unchosen suffering is with chosen suffering right I can't catch a break guys get them the away from me I can't I can't be around those guys I don't want to hear that I don't want to hear that I don't buy it cuz everybody has bad breaks I've had a [ __ ] ton of bad breaks but you know what I did I I stayed up and I thought through it and I and I figured out what

the [ __ ] I did wrong and then I went back it's like I [ __ ] up everything I've ever done a 100 times there's no way other there's no other way to do it and I've had a bunch of shitty breaks everybody has but you got to realize when you have those shitty breaks what that is it's an opportunity for you to reassess reboot get better figure out another way find another way through it's just just little challenges judge yourself by your actions not by your thoughts I became significantly less disappointed in myself

when I started judging myself only on the actions I took not the thoughts I had and for people that see someone who's a beast who's done great things you just assume that they're different than you but then you hear about your insecurities and your pitfalls and all the things that went wrong with you and you realize well God damn it those are the same things that go wrong with me like maybe I have that inside of me and I've just never summoned it you can elect to put yourself into a position to become a stronger

alloy of whatever the metal is that you're made of and by purposefully choosing difficult things you will armor yourself against that situation it's still going to suck pick up your damn suffering and bear it and try to be a good person so you don't make it work well that's a truth you know I read a lot about the terrible things that people have done to each other you just cannot even imagine it so awful so you don't want to be someone like that now do you have a reason to be yes you have a lots

of reasons to be everything worthwhile is uphill and today's word is uphill you see every dream that you've ever had it's it's all uphill if you have a great relationship with somebody you you had to work on it it it's uphill if you've if you've built a wonderful business guess what it was uphill if if you've made the right decisions they're they're not easy are they it it's uphill and the only way that you can go uphill is to be intentional nobody ever accidentally went uphill you've never talked to a successful person and said how

did you get to the top of the mountain and then look at you and say I have no idea if they're at the top of the mountain they know how they got there because they had to have effort it took energy it took time everything worthwhile everything worthwhile is up here the struggle is real it never gets any easier you got to get harder I was out yesterday getting after it I one of the best runs I've had in a long time PR that [ __ ] so no one cares what you did yesterday you

only mat is doing today those who take me literally so I'm a cheerleader for those who want to be better not for those who want to stay the same stay hard that pain that resistance is good for you and the idea that you want to sweep your sweeten the pot and or shortcut or get something you know like a sugar high you're already you're already on Dangerous Ground yeah we're built to walk uphill and when you reach the Pinnacle of the Hill you want to stop and appreciate the vision but the next thing you want

is a higher Hill in the distance because it's the uphill climb that it's it's from the uphill climb that we derive our value and I mean this technically so almost all the positive emotion we feel especially the the the the emotion that fills us with enthusiasm and that's to be filled with the spirit of God by the way because that's what enthusiasm means that's experienced in relationship to a goal and so in some sense and this is part of the religious Enterprise you want a goal that you can never attain right so you can always

move closer to the goal that recedes as you move towards it you think well that's frustrating it's like sifus pushing the rock uphill you have these tools you have these tools your life was basically the perfect the perfect grounds for training for where you need to go in your life all the beatings all the all the bullying all the you know you going through uh learn disabilities all the struggles it was the absolute perfect training ground for you to go to where you need to go but through that struggle I will now have a better

day and I better [ __ ] do it again tomorrow or do something else because if I just think well tomorrow I'm just going to coast and eat Twinkies and watch TV oh hello sadness my old friend hello depression because when you're not doing anything you feel like [ __ ] and that's just part of being a human being what was really your work ethic like and for how long did you stay disciplined um well I mean I mean every day I mean since you know for 20 years it was an everyday process and trying

to figure out shrimps and weaknesses for example jumping ability man my vertical was a 40 wasn't a 46 or 40 45 um my hands are big but they're not massive right so you got to figure out ways to strengthen them so your hands are strong enough to be able to Palm a ball and do the things that you need to do uh quickness I was quick but not insanely quick I was fast but not ridiculously fast right so I had to rely on skill a lot more I had to rely on angles a lot more

I had to study the game a lot more and uh but I enjoyed it though so like from the time I was I can remember when I started watching the game I studied the game and it has never changed but somewhere in their life there was a point where they had a decision to make they can go left to right on this path left was the easy route right was the hard route a lot of people take the easy route and they had a good life that way but the better life was going to the

right side and you may have 20 years of pain and suffering to get past it but a lot of us died never truly starting our journey and I would tell this young person you got to start your journey it may suck it's hard to be comfortable with yourself so it's very hard to be comfortable with other people that's why I always stress with people like you've got to accept yourself for what you've done wrong do your best and also find some difficult [ __ ] to do because that gets away a lot of the anxiety

that you carry around in your body a lot of like difficult things make regular life less difficult and that sounds so simplistic but particularly physically diff ult things because when you do things that are physically difficult the strain of making yourself do those things it's very valuable can think about who's about who's in that hard period or in that start period is that it won't get harder like this is the hardest part and so if you can just make it through this everything else is downhill it's not that the things that you're the dragons are

going to slay aren't going to get bigger they are but you become so much more equipped to slay them back and you have so many more allies you have people on the stands cheering for you you have the audience you have all of these other things that are behind you but in the beginning it's just you with a stick against a bear that's the real message the real message is we all started from no I mean we all had [ __ ] jobs we all felt like losers but through time and effort you build a

stronger human you build a stronger body you build a stronger mind you build accomplishments and will and momentum and then you look back and you go hey man I'm not washing tables anymore you know I'm not uh I'm not washing dishes I'm not cutting Lawns I'm not digging ditches you know I'm I'm a different person now but I used to be you want to know if you're a you're talking about young men that might not have any direction right now go go do something that's hard go try and accomplish something that's hard you may win

you may lose you may succeed you may fail I'll tell you what you'll be better if you avoid those things that are hard if you don't accept that challenge if you don't step up and step into that cold water and you sit on your couch and eat Doritos I I I can tell you this is not a good move this is not a good move don't do that don't do that just get up move towards that challenge whatever that challenge is move towards that challenge and go attack it and you may be successful and you

may not be successful but you will be better that life is one big psychological warfare that you play on yourself you play on yourself man the most important conversation I ever had with is is with myself and the [ __ ] I was telling myself was so [ __ ] up it was so wrong it was so misguided and other people start to write that dialogue for you also and start to be what you say yourself every single day and I started creating a whole another Warfare a whole another battle started becoming I was like

oh hang on a second cins you have these tools you have these tools your life was basically the perfect the perfect grounds for training for where you need to go in your life all the beatings all the all the bullying all the you know you going through uh learning disabilities all the struggles it was the absolute perfect training ground for you to go to where you need to go there's two sides of pain that I don't think a lot of people really understand right there's there's one side of pain that's the suffering and the discomfort

side of pain that's why everybody raised their hands when I first asked do you have anybody ever been through pain because that hurts you remember what that felt like but then there's another side of pain that's called effort it's called Glory it's called if you can find a way to push through pain there's something greater on the other side of it is that people R to a position an elevated position based on a certain quality that they have that makes them stand out let's say for Chris Williamson it's your pleasing ability your your your bonom

me your your sympotic or whatever the language you want to use makes you but a point is reached where the times change things are different cuz life is always changing and that thing that you relied on that strength that you have is no longer so in demand it's not so interesting the culture has moved on but you don't know how to move on because you're addicted to the same way of doing things I will never quit because if you quit you're done you may still be alive walking around on this Earth you're done I will

never quit I will persevere and I will thrive on adversity my team expects me to be physically harder and mentally stronger than our opponents I hold myself to that standard I will be physically harder and mentally stronger than anything that comes against me my family my business my brothers my sisters my team I will be the one that is physically harder and mentally stronger and I will work to maintain that position my wife told me this great expression to get something you never had you have to do something you never did BL Brown's a motivational

speaker he made an analogy about this he says imagine you're on your deathbed and standing around your deathbed are the ghosts representing your unfulfilled potential the ghost of the ideas you never acted on the ghost of the talents you didn't use and they're standing around your bed angry disappointed and and upset they say we we came to you because you could have brought us to life they say and now we have to go to the Grave together so I ask you today how many ghosts are going to be around your bed when your time comes

because failure is a wonderful teaching it's the only way to learn you have to fail failure is a part of the process to becoming successful I tell people this all the time Michael Jordan the greatest basketball player the world he took 946 game-winning shots 946 times since he was in high school the ball has been in his hand to take the game-winning shot with no time on the clock he has only made 146 of those he has missed over 700 times but he has made 146 you know what they write about when he make it

they write about when you make it so guess what when you get through failing failing failing failing all you got to do is make one behind every fear is the person you want to be fear is self-imposed meaning it doesn't exist you create it you can destroy it too it's an intangible if you face your fears guys you will realize it's not that big and once you face it you got my God man I spent all this time running from it it was so small if I just faced it my God not only did I

face it I beat it back energy is never lost transferred that negative energy that fear it's destroyed it comes back in his confidence you're like what else am I what else am I capable of what else am I hold my back from that I'm capable of more what am I running from I don't need to what else can I overcome you face your fears you become the person you want to be I'm just a I'm just a realist I know how to separate false reality from real reality and real reality is no matter how much

emotion and feeling you may have or how much hurt you may have life has to go on life doesn't stop anybody so if you don't process that and understand that you're stuck in whatever time period you got hurt forever forever yes sir yes sir yes so grudges and anger and negativity I don't have time for it because I'm living to do so much positive things got so much such positive outlook on everything else is coming in the future I can't I can't stand in the past and bathe in what was wrong listen to the pain

it's both history teacher and fortune teller pain teaches us who we are we sometimes it's so bad we feel like we're dying supposed to be hard if it wasn't hard everyone would do it the hard is what makes it great it's pretty easy sometimes to to feel beaten when you're faced with all those issues and all those problems and they all hit you at the same time but let me tell you that that doesn't mean give up in fact it means the opposite it means it's time for you to fight harder to dig in means

it's time for you to go on the war path so you just proven Rock Bottom there's always a way out man no no you have to hit rock bottom that's the way up up mhm Rock Bottom is beautiful the struggle of the struggle of coming back is beautiful that struggle I you know it's hard it doesn't appear like it's beautiful while you're going through it but it's just being it's just being tested and without a test there's no testimony life tests you sometime life annihilates you but it's only up to you if you want to

take some more it's going to dish it out but eventually if you don't quit it'll be U merciful to you there's a verse in the Bible that says out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks right so when you see people talking and it's a reflection of what's inside right so the question is how do you change your heart how do you change your mind well it's the sources of information that you listen to the truth that you believe what you spend your time energy and attention focused on learning and leveling up and

discovering so focus on developing self and self will develop I get happier about the harder it is because I know that no one else will follow it's a selection effect and I think if you can if you can shift from this is hard to no one else will be able to do this then it it's it flips from being this thing that you're like oh poor me to oh poor everyone else who's going to have to [ __ ] try and I think that is so much more motivating as a frame for the exact same

circumstance you know very few people bet on the underdog M but if you would have you would have won big and that happened to be weak us we bet on on ourself as underdogs we I sold my Rolex chain and my my alenis and bought studio equipment you know what I'm saying and it was the best decision I made I shut down my spot I was hustling and I stopped hustling it went broke for a timeing uh was [ __ ] fire and he had this great Insight which was don't aim for mediocre 99% of

people in the world are convinced that they're incapable of achieving great things so they aim for the mediocre the level of competition is the fiercest for realistic goals paradoxically making them the most time and energy consuming if you are insecure guess what the rest of the world is too do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself you are better than you think even if it does go well and even if everyone else says it's great but I'll know and it'll then rob me of all of the joy of all of those moments in that experience

because because I'll know that I could have done better and the thing is is like to to quote myself from earlier like I've never regretted working harder ever not once and some people were like on your deathbed you're going like no cuz I lived every moment of my day doing what I wanted to do and no matter what happens I'm never going to be in this boat again and you get up and you go even it gets knocked down you just keep going keep going you a wild man and life has never been so sweet

that can happen at an early age it can happen at later age it's going to happen to somebody every you know no matter what it's going to happen to you and when it does happen to you thank your lucky stars that finally you're alive it's time to unwrap the potential you can be superior man it's within you it's within every single one of us and the people that have that have have risen to that level were no different than any one of us it's just they believed it and they're willing to work their [ __

] ass off to get it it wasn't about the potential it wasn't about the genetics it was about the perseverance and it was about being the hardest [ __ ] worker in the room that's what got him there and it didn't happen overnight they got knocked down more than they ever stood up but they kept going and kept going and kept going and kept going cuz what else is the alternative to be average again my journey started on a boat I spent a year in a refugee camp and somehow I ended up here on Hollywood's

biggest stage they say stories like this only happen in the movies I cannot believe it's happening to me this this is the American dream Adam said that give a man a purpose and the ability to achieve it and he will crawl over broken glass with a smile and I think that feeling capable and powerful and competent and respected and admired is something that will get a man so far mhm you give a man those things and he'll deal with suffering until the ends of the Earth We're designed to do that we're designed to suffer we're

designed to deal with that suffering but it needs to be in service of something yeah I think a lot of the confusion around the people who are wanting to work harder than they are or don't like that I work hard or that you work hard think that they they take this statement as a judgment or criticism on how they live their life and it's because on the other side of that free line you're like okay I'm now free I have a blank slate if I do something or you do something that they deem painful for

them now or something that they don't enjoy they then say you are suffering and that is bad and both of those things I reject wholeheartedly first you don't know that I'm suffering because you have no idea what's going on inside of me comma and also what does your judgment mean at all to me 2008 was brutal um yeah 2008 we had the third consecutive failure of the Falcon rocket for SpaceX um Tesla almost went bankrupt we we closed our financing around 6 p.m. Christmas Eve 2008 it was the last hour of the last day that

it was possible we would have gone bankrupt 2 days after Christ