Tony Robbins - Personal Power Day 11

[Music] thank you the power of goal setting that's we're going to study here on day 11 of our personal power program you know any success program that I've ever had the Good Fortune to go through whether it be a good book a good set of tapes a good seminar almost every single one talks about the power of goal setting why because it's a fundamental key to all lifelong success plans you could possibly imagine the challenge of course is we hear it so often we tend to take it just a little bit for granted don't we

I mean get yourself on the point where you've heard it so often you go please don't talk about goal setting you know I know all about it yes I should make sure my goals are stated in the positive yes I should write them down yeah I know all that stuff come on but you know what you got to be careful not to get caught in that trap called the law familiarity you know where you get so used to it you begin to take it just a little bit for granted because fundamentals have to be practiced

daily hey think about the greatest coaches that you can think of in sports history names that come up for me are names like Vincent already for example or John Wooden what were they known most for teaching fundamentals to people that were already the best at what they do I mean think about it John Wooden would take a basketball player a kid who's the best in the world at what he does virtually at least for his age group and he can make a shot from virtually anywhere and he go that's really cute kid get over here

and I want you to shoot 400 free throws and kid says I can do that he said yeah well let's see you do it or come up here and I want to see you shoot 500 Bank shots from five feet well I can do that the kid would say goes yeah I know you can do it and you're going to do it every day this many times so that you do it in the key clutch moments you gotta practice fundamentals every day he won 11 consecutive national championships unlike any team in history That's The Power

of fundamentals so anytime I do a workshop anytime I try and do tapes usually I put a goal setting Workshop in there and some of them have some similarities so if you've done one with me before he has a chance to do it again and do it even more effectively and very terribly when I hear people say something like well teach me something new I know they aren't into Mastery because repetition again is the mother of skill you've heard me say that over and over again it's because if you want to master anything you've got

to do it over and over and over again and every time I do a goal setting Workshop myself I obviously make new distinctions I set up some new goals they change so don't take it for granted and say well these two tapes are on goals and they're short and they're simple and I can do that some other time I already know my goals don't get caught in that hook the bottom line is do the exercise as if you're setting goals brand new and fresh and for most people they don't have a clearly defined set of

goals anyway again you know I'm now taking Taekwondo and I have a good fortune of training with the Grand Master of Taekwondo in the United States his name is Grandmaster June re an interesting thing about junry as a master is he taught me something he taught me to go from the frame of mastering simple things over and over again everything he teaches to become a black belt breaks down to seven simple moves isn't that interesting now what's interesting is he says that most people never make it to Black Belt because they keep coming in and

say show me something new he said no no you have to master the fundamentals and if you do those and you do them over and over again you'll be a black belt easily and consistently so don't get caught in those traps break through the bonds of your past and look at the world in a whole new way where you understand fundamentals must be practiced daily and you'll do whatever it takes you're not bored by fundamentals you get excited about doing the daily things that create the ongoing level of happiness and joy you want for a

lifetime now let's take a quick look what is the power of goals why do we talk about them so much why do we need to use them why are they important answer with goals we create the future in advance we create our destiny we shape Our Lives hey we all have goals whether we know it or not the problem is some people have really lousy goals and whatever your goals are they're affecting you maybe your goals are to get through this day maybe the goals are how to pay the lousy bills the problem with goals

like that is they don't exactly inspire you and get you to jump out of bed early in the morning say I can't wait to go out today and pay my lousy bills rarely does that really create emotion and drive inside of you goals can create the power to make us grow and expand and develop our success but we've got to have something out there that's compelling enough to draw us forth done properly and specifically they transform our lives one of my best and favorite examples is a study that was done in 1953 at Yale University

what they did there was an intensive study where they interviewed the graduating class just before they left school and they asked them a whole series of questions but the one that was most interesting for me was they asked them how many of you have a clear specific set of goals with a written plan for their achievement well interestingly enough as you might guess less than three percent had a set of written goals with a plan 20 years later in 1973 they went back and interviewed the surviving class members of the class of 53 and they

interviewed these people to find out what were their lives like well the interesting thing was the three percent that had written goals that specifically had a plan for their attainment appeared to be happier more well-adjusted more excited about their life as a whole but see those things are subjective the one thing that's very measurable is this the group of people who had written goals were worth more in financial terms than the entire other 97 percent that didn't have goals combined think about that that's the power of goal setting I can tell you in my own

life it has transformed me that you can know all the techniques of how to condition yourself to succeed but if you don't know why you're doing it if you don't know what it is you're moving towards then it's rare that you're going to get the most out of yourself years ago I had the unique Good Fortune as I began to study some of these Technologies for Optimum performance I was invited to go to Russia and I spent over there approximately two weeks during that time I got a chance to explore many aspects of Russia I

got to go to the universities I got the chance to meet with some of the people who were involved in Optimum performance Technologies and in the process of doing that I found myself on one stretch where I was on the Trans-Siberian Railway or I was going literally from Moscow all the way to Siberia and then back to liningrad again we're talking about a large stretch of land and a lot of time to just think during that time I was just starting to develop some of my personal power I really hadn't created my life the way

I wanted it but I felt like there were some possibilities out there for me I was still living in my 400 square foot bachelor apartment I was still overweight I was still in a position where I really didn't have my life where I wanted it in terms of my relationships but on that trip for two and a half days all I did was set goals and then for another two or three days all I did was design plans on how I was going to achieve them and I set goals that were well beyond my present

ability or skill I had no idea how I was going to make them happen and that's important but I operated from a principal that's talked about in every religion known to man so regardless of what you believe religiously or spiritually it's a common law and that is the power of Absolute Total belief and faith I operated from the frame that if I could get inspired enough if I found a goal that was exciting enough for me I would figure out how to make it happen even though right now it might seem impossible I would pull

it off and I laid out goals for my life in virtually every area personally emotionally socially spiritually physically financially and I chunk down what do I want in my life ultimately and what do I want right now and a lot of areas I thought well I can make it happen I figured I can get control of my emotions and so I set goals about how I wanted to be how I wanted to communicate how much joy I wanted to have how much passion how I want to live every single day the kind of person I

wanted to be as a human being I describe my relationships I describe the woman of my dreams in detail I took six pages to describe exactly the kind of person mentally emotionally socially and spiritually I want in my life and physically described her in detail in addition and describe how I wanted my kids to be I described everything now you might say well gosh you know you're really creating a lot of limitations I set goals and I look at them and then I review them and see if they still make sense to me but I

did it in detail I also did it in the area of finances and I set some pretty absurd goals I decided I want to make a quarter of a million dollars a year in personal income at the time I was making less than three thousand dollars a month three thousand was a good month guess what happened I came back I laid out this plan in fact I did the plan on the back of a map that I bought in Russia I have it to this day where I broke down the whole thing I show it

oftentimes to people in my seminars so they get an idea where I was and what I actually created just by designing the road maps necessary for success I came back and began to implement it a lot of my plans I have to tell you did not work out but I achieved over 80 percent of my goals in less than 12 months I mean massive change I went well beyond anything I dreamed of I changed myself physically I lost all the weight I changed myself emotionally and developed the confidence that was necessary I changed myself and

then my relationships massively I attracted to one of my dreams I married her about a year after that I had decided I wanted to have four kids I got three instantly what a deal I was on a roll I took myself from totally broke financially to over a million dollar net worth and less than 12 months you talk about massive change my life changed in every level I mean I can tell you how much my confidence change but you know you might go oh big deal but it did my level of confidence my level of

faith my ability to create Rapport change radically I mean I also set thing goals besides my personal development goals because I had felt confident that I could probably accomplish some of the development within myself but I felt like I can control that I can't control the outside world or my economics or the ability to get things that was my hang up at the time I set goals for things like I was going to have a limousine a stretch limousine I mean how absurd I had a car that was breaking down continuously I had a stretch

limousine within six months I mean I'm talking about massive massive change I mean you can't imagine the kind of Miracles that happen I know this sounds fluffy and bizarre but it really works I I remember when the first time I went to Fiji I mean it's my favorite place in the world I thought you know I've been everywhere I've been a most major countries in the world this is the most beautiful amazing land I've ever been to you know I gotta own a piece of property on this specific Island and you know I I never

would have thought in a million years that two years later after setting that goal I'd own an island you know or that owned a resort in the Mali and it's one of the top three resorts in Fiji now and I go there four times a year with 20 of my best friends and we all have a blast and we set our goals there we look at our lives and balance it and have fun I mean it's amazing but there's just if you were to try to tell me that two years earlier I would have said

you were absolutely insane you're nuts there's just no way I mean you know get real and I'm here to tell you don't get real get intelligent because what's real to you today is based on your past based on your past experiences and if you limit your future based on your passion you're not going to go anywhere you got to get the goals that are big enough to drive you to excite you so don't stop and go how do I do it that's not the first step the first step is get it down and if you

do that you can create your Island your Paradise whether that be something emotional inside of you you want to create like a character change or or a behavior or a habit or whether that's a business you want to start or whether that's some kind of money you want to turn or something you want to do for your children and I'm telling you it can happen the magic that you've heard about and dreamed about is real and it starts with a simplistic process of taking these generalized impulses of desire and starting to Define them with more

Precision this is the power of goal setting and we don't understand totally how it works there's something Beyond just what we understand of writing something down something happens you become a Creator when you write down goals and you get clear as to absolutely while you make them happen and by the way that's the key that we're going to touch on here in detail we've got to make sure that you not only set goals but you get absolutely clear why you want them because there's a fundamental key to goal setting that changed my life and that

is this purpose is stronger than outcome what do I mean well I think that the purpose of goals is not so you get things the purpose of any goal the real reason to set goals is what they will make of you as a person hey look at the end of your life all the things that you accumulate are not going to make you happy at the end of your life all you're going to have is who you've become as a person the moment you've created in your life that you'll never forget so some people in

life they go out and set goals and they do it blindly they say these are all things I want to have in my life and they focus let's say on things and there's nothing wrong with focusing on things I want you to have as many things as you want that's part of life too that's part of the manifestation process of creating results but if all you do is focus on getting things it may cost you some people in their desire to get things have given up their own Integrity of who they want to be of

what they want to create in their life and you got to be careful of that you got to make sure when you set a goal you know why you're doing it hey you might work real hard for example to do something thing oriented let's say you want to make a million dollars but see a million dollars only motivates you so much becoming the kind of person who is able to manifest total abundance financially and physically for themselves and the people around them that's rather exciting having the freedom that you think the money will give you

or having the ability to give or having the ability to do things that you think that money will give you or having more time that will motivate you a lot more than just the money does that make sense the problem with setting goals is one most people take them for granted they don't do it seriously and they don't do it consistently they do it once a year and they do it at New Year's they run into the New Year's syndrome they set a goal and they don't even look at it until a year later and

they go oops I kind of screwed up and I said a new one so they have no power secondly they don't realize the power of goals they take it lightly you know they go well you know yeah I got these goals but they don't make sure that they get it inside their head where it's absolutely real for them they don't realize that when they set a goal they're now creating something in life and finally the biggest challenge I think is that these people don't know why they're going for their goals so the object the goal

itself yeah they get enthusiastic for a while and then it dies out again why is different for everyone but you got to find out the reasons I believe this reasons come first answers come second if you get a big enough reasons to do something to accomplish something you can figure out how to do it but if all you do is set up a goal and say oh gosh how am I going to know about it you're not going to be inspired enough it's not going to be compelling enough for you to really create long-term results

every great success I know has figured out the why behind their goals and that's their power so in our process on the next tape tomorrow when we do the goal setting Workshop itself we're going to spend a good deal of time focusing on why do we want these goals after we've identified them and secondly how we're going to go about making it happen but that's secondly we're going to start from the frame that we can achieve anything as soon as we think of it somebody once pointed out to me a long time ago the desire

in its Latin form means of the father desire I thought that's interesting in other words anything that I desire that thought process has been given to me and with the ability to have a goal I believe instantly comes the ability to achieve it that ability is built within us or we wouldn't have the desire in the first place so come from that place and watch what you can do to create a new reality of success in your life now I got a question for you do you know why goals really work well there are lots

of theories but I'll tell you what a few of mine are number one I believe that thoughts are things that whatever we focus on consistently we experience in our life you and I know that's true from what we've talked about earlier in this tape that if I pay attention to one area in my life and I focus on it that's what's going to be real for me that's what I'm going to feel I also believe that whenever we focus on consistently that our thoughts are things that as you think so you create so you manifest

so part of goal setting is just by having that focus and again having a consistent Focus you can't just set goals one time and then ever look at them again and really expect long-term results although hey that's better than not having any Target at all at least your subconscious mind knows the general direction to move in but the power is doing it consistently reviewing them but Point number one is I really believe that if you focus on something you'll experience it secondly when you set a goal there's an interesting Dynamic that happens and that is

when you set a goal basically you're acknowledging to both your conscious and subconscious Minds that where you are right now is not where you want to be which is you begin to notice the distinctions between where you want to be and where you are and as you feel that distinction your brain becomes dissatisfied and part of what motivates Human Action is a sense of dissatisfaction I mean hey when you're totally comfortable and relaxed feeling pleasure you're not super motivated to do whatever it takes to make things happen generally as a generalization however when we get

dissatisfied that's when we got some real power in fact I tell most people in life one of the biggest traps that most people fall into is called success for a lot of people success is a trap because what happens is when they get successful oftentimes they tend to party when they fail they tend to ponder you know that pondering sometimes they make some new distinctions dissatisfaction is a power that you want to take advantage of not something for you to try and hide yourself out from there is real power in finding some things you want

to move away from because look pressure is what creates human behavior pressure and tension are primary drivers of our actions I mean think about it on a ridiculously simple level what makes you want to eat is it not a certain level of pressure or tension what is that makes you want to eliminate during the day pressure or tension in your body that makes you want to get up and take that action what makes you want to make love and be with somebody there's a certain amount of pressure that creates that feeling learning to manage pressure

and tension in your life is probably one of the basic fundamental lessons we all must Master if we really want to have a balanced life where we really feel happy and successful but learning to use pressure and goal setting is absolutely Critical with literally no pressure to go for it we have no motivation and so a certain amount of pressure is generated when you clearly Define what it is you want and you see that you aren't there it creates a Gestalt where your brain says Hey I want that I'm not satisfied where I am and

you begin to have that drive don't hide out from it welcome it look at it every single day pressure isn't necessarily negative it can be very positive again if you look at it as a tool for influencing yourself to take consistent action towards your success you all know the metaphor don't you I mean pressure is how diamonds are created they're just rocks that got under intense pressure and now they're turned into a gem you need to use that same metaphor for yourself and use goals as a way of pressuring yourself because see I know a

lot of people when they think about goal setting they say well you know I don't want to like commit to somebody else about this thing because then I'll feel all this pressure that's great that is fabulous that means you're not going to back out I mean hey when I decided a year ago I was going to work out every single day I was going to exercise I realized the best way to make sure I kept that commitment was number one understand why I was doing it not just say I'm an exercise to exercise and I

realize in order to accomplish the level of goals that I have in my life I need an abundance of physical energy vibrancy so I have something to communicate with so I have something that can drive me without that I end up running out of emotional gas while I'm continually driving up this mountain called success so I didn't want to float down running out of fuel and I decided I'm going to keep that up every day and being physically vibrant requires a certain level of exercise so I understood why and I linked it to having better

relationships I linked it to having more energy for my kids I linked it to how I would feel emotionally I linked it to my level of physical vibrancy I linked it to my business success I linked it to my ability to contribute to others but we had a lot of motivation going on there but in addition what I also did is I used pressure and I went around and on several of my programs specifically on one I do for business people especially called the power to influence one for sales people on that program I made

it really clear that the only way to succeed was demand more from yourself than other people would expect and that I had decided and would absolutely exercise every day of this year I might reevaluate in the future but I do it this year and I've kept it and and I'm telling it to you dudes I have to commit even more I don't have a way to turn back do you follow me use pressure to your advantage use committing to certain people to your advantage people that will not let you off the hook that's part of

the why sometimes you don't feel like doing anymore and the only why is hey because I don't want to not keep my word that's okay whatever it takes to get you to follow through and create results so this tape today is designed for primarily only one purpose and that is to get you clear on the power of goal setting what it can do to change you and the critical element to success and goals and that is creating a strong enough why and enough pressure to follow through one of the ways we can create a strong

enough Why by the way is not just to write down the positive y's in other words gosh I want this goal because it'll give me this and this in my life or I'll be able to contribute this and that but in addition I've learned to create some of the quote unquote negative wise something I never would have done years ago I'd say God that's being a negative person but what I mean specifically is when I set goals now I not only write down why I'm absolutely committed to making that goal a reality but I also

now write down why am I going to get this and I do it from the frame of if I don't achieve this what would it cost me and I get a list of whys of prices I'd have to pay not to have the goal because see what we want to do to get ourselves to succeed is link pleasure to getting the goal and pain to not getting the goal that way our brain will be driven to use all of our resources to make it happen does that make sense to you so I know for some

of you it may sound negative to say well what would it cost me if it didn't happen but I think if you understand how the human brain works we want to use the carrot and the stick hey we're in charge we can do this with anything with ourselves and if we don't like our goals we can change them at any time part of the power of goal setting is flexibility not just getting stuck because years ago you set a goal reevaluating and saying based on where I am and now in my life is that still

the right goal for me is that the right direction I encourage people to set goals no less than twice a year and I have them review their goals in detail at least once a month and review their top goals daily it is that kind of consistent review that'll keep you on track and produce those results that you're committed to so right now the purpose again today is to get you clear at how to unleash this power and part of that power is the power of why why do you want things on the positive and the

power of being dissatisfied so here's your exercise for today and then tomorrow we're gonna actually unleash you into a goal setting workshop and you might want to review and listen this tape again so you're inspired when you go to do that exercise because I want you to really come to life and know you're about to create Real Results when you start that Workshop today though pull out your success journal and here's your assignment what I'd like you to do is I want you to write down two things number one what are some of the areas

of your life you are dissatisfied with now I don't want you to feel bad real negative about it but just be honest with yourself what are some of the areas of your life that are not enough it's not good enough it's not where you deserve it to be it's not where you're committed having it be take a look at yourself physically emotionally spiritually intellectually financially in your relationships so the question I want you to ask yourself is what's not good in my life what am I not satisfied with and get inspired as you write it

down because whatever you write down you're going to be able to change and that's number one make a good list of things you're dissatisfied with that'll create some pressure inside of you to create some powerful new goals and number two write down what kind of beliefs would I have to have what are a couple of additional beliefs since we've talked about that earlier what are two or three other beliefs that I would probably need to have in order to really set goals and Achieve them what are two or three new beliefs I'd need to live

by in order to really start achieving my goals that's your simple assignment for today just leave today with a focus on getting big enough wise the power of why is the power to achieve your dreams I'll see you tomorrow remember live with passion foreign [Music]