one of my mother's classic things like if anything ever bothered me or hurt my feelings is her Mantra was tough up Zena things are tough all over at least I don't beat you like my mother did she believed that by not beating me she was actually indulging me but in fact she was neglecting me and the strange thing which I didn't understand when I was growing up was in a sense she was Raising me as a single mother but I was not aware of that because I did not know that my parents were not married
they lied to me about that