Cousin Falsely Accused Me Of S*xual Ass*ult, Family Cut Me Off. Now She's Dying.... - Reddit Family

cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault family cut me off now she's dying admitted the truth but they still want me to stay silent let's call her Jade my cousin wrongfully accused me of sa sexual assault when I was 18 sadly my family thought her narrative true four years older than me Jade and I were close growing up but finally we drifted away she is the daughter of my uncle who was a single father younger brother of Mom after his ex-wife became pregnant my uncle married young unfortunately she cheated on him and their marriage broke

up a few years later she tried to keep in touch with Jade for a few years but finally moved away with her new partner and they never got back in touch respectable man my uncle always battled obstacles on his own and refused assistance after his divorce he never sought another major relationship he devoted his life to Parenting Jade he even built a college fund for Jade but after she turned 18 he told her that although he had done all in his ability to help her she was now on her own finan as he had to

consider his retirement although Jade disagreed I thought that was reasonable if she wanted to keep on her studies she should pay for them herself many arguments between her and her father resulted from her believing he should support her studies for as long as she desired Jade thus visited my family a lot of times she would come over to rant to my mom following every disagreement with her father although I personally felt my uncle was reasonable I kept my thoughts to myself as Jade would visit to speak with my mother and not me as she usually

did Jade came up to our house one day without warning I was the only one in the house my parents were away expecting her to go I told Jade that my mother decided to stay in the living room since she needed some time away from her father following another dispute to be honest I wasn't interested in hearing it again as she used to vent quite loudly to my mother and I had heard enough about her battles with her father Jade began venting to me since my mother was not here though I had rather different ideas

on the topic I could see she expected me to be as empathetic as my mother I cut her off when she once more started grumbling about her father although my mother might have agreed with her points of view I felt my uncle was acting rather sensibly he had spent his whole life raising her to be a competent and capable independent lady I told her now it was her chance to show him right if she truly wanted to pursue a master's degree or perhaps a doctorate she would have to do what everyone else does and pay

for it herself she majored in stem hence I knew that whatever job she finally landed would be sufficient to cover her expenses she had just to at least try she insisted though that she couldn't work and study at the same time and that she would find it too much to manage I advised her maybe she should give up on further study if she already decided it was difficult for her to work while she was still in school it was unjust to demand her father keep paying for everything especially after he had already done so much

for her and she was treating him like the villain instead of being appreciative I said she quite obviously hadn't anticipated that reality check she started screaming at me and calling me a vile human being as soon as I said all of this she said I was a Pampered brat who didn't deserve the support I received hence I would never be able to relate what she was experiencing though I stayed quiet to be honest I felt she was more of a Pampered brat than I was she screamed at me for a few minutes then fled the

house sobbing I avoided her since as I mentioned I had no interest in hearing her grievances over and over again the sequence of events surprised me as well my whole life collapsed the next day when she accused me of essay one accusation turned everything around after three years of quiet from my family folks are at last learning she had lied my parents woke me early the day after Jade and I argued stating that my uncle and Jade were here to visit me and it was reportedly rather vital I had no idea what was going on

but when I got downstairs Jade started shouting accusing me of sa the night before and acting as though she was breaking down my parents were equally startled and my uncle seemed really worried Jade was acting as though she were not even in a state fit for communication most of the speaking came from my uncle he said that following her confrontation with him Jade had been inconsolable when she had returned home the day before she eventually informed him I had lured her in and carried out the conduct she was now accusing me of when my parents

were not home not even my uncle could look at me and my parents avoided eye contact as well none listened when I tried to object and assert my innocence it was appalling people already treated me like a criminal even though I had done nothing my parents begged my uncle for pardon right in front of me asking him not to publicly disclose the allegation or report me they claimed they will do all necessary to resolve the matter whether I cried out or not my uncle and Dad totally turned away from me it was so annoying that

I grabbed a vase and tossed it against the wall in an attempt to get their eye that backfired regrettably my dad lost his cool grabbed my arm and hauled me to my room closing me within there was no way I could let Jade get away with this hence I kept hammering against the door until my hands and arms started hurting telling such a big lie may have destroyed my reputation sadly my dad allowed me out of the room only when my uncle and Jade left I started crying right away as he opened the door and

tried to explain to them he hadn't done anything but they informed me they had seen security footage from the cameras outside our house Jade had come over the previous evening they noted and had left the house crying a few minutes later they decided to trust her based on her tear filled fleeing they told me they were embarrassed of the kind of sun Jade had produced and that she had no reason to lie about what had transpired while my mother was crying and unable to even talk my dad assured me that with great persuasion they had

persuaded my uncle and Jade not to file lawsuits they were obliged to pledge something in return though to spare her from seeing me and revisiting the horrific event Jade and my uncle insisted that I'd be taken far away after much debate my Dad decided to send me to live with my great uncle somewhere far from the family with his bad attitude and anger problems this great uncle was the least-liked family member though he said it was the only fix my dad knew I hated him not only Not only was I being sent away but they

also told Jade that to keep things quiet they were going to take my college fund and give it to her I tried to complain but there was no communication with them finally I gave up as I no longer saw the need not even my own folks trusted me since her own father would never accept financial help from anyone including his own family I understood that Jade had most likely accused me unjustly only to control my parents and extract money out of them after that episode a few days later I was ready to go and packed

neither my parents bothered to say goodbye or give me a hug they kept me under house arrest by posing as I wasn't even at home for the following few days my phone was taken away and I was not let said farewell to any of my friends they cautioned me that they would destroy my life personally should I fail to get off the grid and vanish from everyone's lives a falsehood Jade had uttered drove me to distance from everything I knew and cut relationships with everyone from my past my great uncle showed in a few days

following that to pick me up and I was sent off to live with him in what felt like an exile not one person from my past has contacted me since then not even my friends or family I had to totally start again in my life it was quite challenging to fit in with my great uncle when I initially moved in throughout the day he taunted me non-stop even though he had no idea why I had been sent out though he had no idea why I had been sent out he would harass me non-stop during the

day he would hold it against me and tease me about it based just on my being kicked out I had to walk on eggshells around him as he had a bad attitude and rage problems as I've noted though I knew my parents were paying him money every month he still acted as though he was doing me a great favor by allowing me to stay with him after the first few weeks I understood there was no use to weep over lost milk I knew I couldn't live with him indefinitely my parents had cut me off and

forbade me from interacting with anybody from my former life I resolved to start looking for work as all I could do was maximize the circumstances not even could I go to college I had been L into the College of my choice but I lacked the resources to pay for attendance following several weeks of moping about and a few interviews I at last landed a job as a warehouse worker although the work paid little and was physically demanding at least with my first pay I could leave the house owned by my great uncle I had the

Good Fortune to have a few colleagues around my age who were likewise having financial difficulties the three of us decided to chip in and share an apartment and grew close friends I knew my great uncle would consider it a good riddens so I didn't even bother telling him when I moved out of his house never heard from any of my family members once I moved out I have been living with the same folks I found my first apartment with for the past 3 years every one of us has been quite fortunate after a few months

of working in the warehouse all three of us resolved to keep searching for better prospects as the work was quite physically demanding we all aspire to eventually go to college hence throughout the past 3 years we have switched jobs and worked to save some money I'm making a good salary currently working in sales I have been considering applying once more to universities my two buddies are doing great as well well we recently moved into a larger apartment in a far better area naturally my family believes it's the ideal time to attempt and come back into

my life now that things are beginning to show promise for me I was pretty taken aback when my dad contacted me by email a few days ago since as I indicated I hadn't spoken with them in 3 years since it was one of the rules my parents made when they kicked me out and I'd been anxious about them disseminating the truth and tarnishing my name I am not active on social media I so stayed to the guidelines though they never tried to get in touch with me my email address has not changed in 3 years

and I never banned them anywhere reading the email it was essentially an apology for all that had transpired over the preceding 3 years to enable his correct Outreach to me my dad required my address and contact details in case I wish to get in touch on my own time he also included his personal contact details Jade had at last chosen to disclose the truth about what actually transpired thus his apology and the abrupt attempt at reconciliation sprang from it she was was dying and I suppose had at last acquired a conscience or something she informed

her father the truth for whatever reason and he talked with my parents my parents chose to get back in touch with me once they knew the truth regarding Jade her pancreatic cancer diagnosis makes it quite improbable she will survive she has been suffering for the past 8 months her health is just getting worse even with continuous medication ironically she couldn't even make decent use of the money from my education fund she squatted all the money on bad life life decisions after screwing me off she chose to take a gap year with all that money and

tore the globe to expand her Horizons and find herself instead of working toward her master's degree wanting to live luxuriously she had already spent more than half of her savings when she returned roughly one and a half years earlier she came back with very little left and began pestering my parents for more if she stole any more money from my parents though my uncle threatened to cut her off she thus gave up on the concept of schooling since she lacked enough money left to afford a master's degree without working and since working was something she

refused to do she still had some money left but she kept her careless way of life instead of using it sensibly or trying to increase Capital she was already somewhat spoiled and lethargic from her year-long holiday despite not even seeking a job she ultimately wasted more money purchasing an apartment and living above her means she landed a job around a year ago but she had to quit shortly after learning she had cancer she now needs the money hence she has to sell her flat and all else she purchased although I don't want to come cross's

callous after learning what had happened to her I couldn't help but feel some gratification she was Her Own Worst Enemy so she had no enemies after I closed the email from my dad I had to consider whether or not I wanted to contact my parents again I decided to talk to my friends about it which also meant I at last had to tell them the truth about why my parents had kicked me out I had simply informed them that we argued up until then I had not disclose the actual cause email later I at last

opened it to my buddies I told them everything about Jade how she had lied and thrown me under the bus and how my parents had thought her over me they not only drove me to live with the worst relatives conceivable but also had me cut everyone from my past off and threaten to destroy my reputation should I go against them the truth I was imparting to my companions hardly seemed possible they urged me not to contact my parents after I was done they claimed they wouldn't pardon my parents either if they were in my place

since these are my closest friends and at this time they're essentially the only ones I have I pay great attention attention to their advice it's not only that they advised me to let go and avoid running across my parents again they also advised me to talk about what happened to me though I did nothing illegal I have been living in anxiety for the past 3 years they are right my parents choose to believe someone lied about me hence I had to give up so much of my life I have to talk if I want to

take back my life I told my parents I intended to reveal the actual account of events before I went public people have a right to know the truth so it makes no difference whether Jade is lying on deathbed she destroyed my life today it is my chance to recover it I thus texted the number my dad had supplied me and informed him exactly what I was going to do the screenshots of the email my dad sent me already proved Jade had been lying I could thus post the truth on social media immediately forget about just

blogging I may at last have social media once more though I suppose he misinterpreted the circumstances I wasn't asking my dad for approval now he and my mother together with my uncle are blowing my phone and asking me not to do this they contend that Jade has already gone through a lot is suffering more than she has ever done and has gotten her karma they say I need not discipline her going forward they are requesting me not to reveal the facts in public since it will damage Jade's reputation without saying why I left in the

first place they seem to believe I can come back into their life and resume what I left behind in a sense they are correct no one will probably challenge it though I could I do not think I want to J stole a great portion of my life and even my friends find it quite reasonable for me to share the truth it is about people knowing what actually happened not about exacting revenge against her besides there are few logical reasons for missing three years from everyone's life and then showing up again without a word I'm happy

enough here so I don't even intend to return to the city yet I do miss some of my relatives and friends who treated me well they should at least be entitled to know the truth the only thing keeping me from posting is the constant calls and texts from my parents and uncle they almost have been begging me not to go public Jade seems to be in quite poor form what then would happen if I went ahead and revealed to my cousin even if she is on deathbed the truth of why I had to leave everything

behind for 3 years update one I finished it Lads I considered it for a long time repeatedly asked friends and they all advised the same thing though I hadn't done anything Jade and her family had taken away three years of my life that I could have spent properly and I had to live in fear because of them whether or not Jade is in condition it would be quite legitimate for me to exact retribution many of the responses on this reflected the same Viewpoint ultimately it was my choice at the Finish knowing most people would support

me help me to feel much better my first post was a week ago and last night I finally posted a narrative of everything that has transpired in my life together with an explanation for my three-year absence from the net friends relatives everyone who knew me have contracted out to let me know they are here for me and have sorely missed me I I trust them as I had several Communications from folks over the first few months after I vanished apparently my parents advised everyone not to search for me after that saying I wanted to be

left alone since I had gone through something horrific and needed time and space to recover people thus stopped trying to get in after the first few months believing they were honoring my choices my friends informed me they had repeatedly asked my parents where I was but my parents never told them so they couldn't get in touch with me even many of my family claimed to have waited patiently for me to come back seeing how ready everyone was to welcome me back and how none had forgotten me made me somewhat cry most importantly people have claimed

that they always regarded Jade to be Shady nonetheless what she did was low even by her standards my mom and Uncle haven't said anything thus far I hope they stay out of it as I truly don't want to talk to them regarding myself having all of this off my mind makes me feel a lot more free speaking up about what happened was wise I have no regrets about anything update 2 I posted it some few days ago and yesterday my folks got in touch with me having only asked one thing that I let sleeping dogs

lie they informed me they were quite let down in me they wanted me to come up with a reason for my three-year absence but not tell everyone the truth about what happened since they think Jade deserves peace and quiet in her present state after my post apparently Jade has lost almost all of her friends and even family members are no longer eager to talk to her they seem to be blaming me it's startling that they still provide more concern for what Jade is going through than for their own son's experiences I told them I no

longer bothered about their displeasure an apology will never be sufficient they let me down on several levels and today they have no right to demand anything from me I could say the same thing about myself if they believe Jade should have peace and quiet only because she is cancer ridden I was just 18 when they booted me out and forced me to live with my nasty great uncle they showed no pity or forgiveness for me I at least am speaking the truth Jade lies and she got away for 3 years I'm going to take back

my life now and I'm not going to let anyone attempt and cause me Shame about it I advise them not to get in touch with me ever again and that their only cause of disappointment should be themselves then I finally blocked them something I should have done long ago but I was confused and Afraid speaking up about what has occurred to me though has helped me to find closure and today I am not under pressure to deal with my parents for all I care they and their expectations can go for a hike update three hey

after three hard years this weekend I I finally chose to see my friends and relatives it turned out to be rather the finest choice I have ever taken along with me more for moral support than anything else were my housemates to be honest they have gotten so close that we are now like brothers and I wanted them to see my buddies too everyone has been getting along fantastic my buddies were happy to see me since they all were outraged when I mentioned I was planning to stay in a hotel I am actually living with one

of them right now though I'm returning in a few days my heart is simply so happy that cannot even put it into words we are spending our time of life living together in one of my friends residences among my roommates and old buddies I have also visited quite a few of my relatives who have informed me they have cut off my mom uncle and Jade they never intend to be involved with them ever once more at the end of the day people will always stand for what is Right which makes me rather glad having individuals

around who love me more than my parents ever did makes me happy as they did not forget me thank you for watching if you haven't subscribed yet please do so and hit the notification Bell to stay updated with more shocking real life stories happening around you