Self as context (flexible self - video #3)

so uh it just really seems out of control right now um you know the baby's three months old now there's a lot of demands there um you know it's like my band still wants me to be playing with them we're supposed to be recording this new record and now it's like whoa i'm a dad yeah um i can't be doing that and uh work it's just i feel like i'm being pulled in these all these different directions and i feel like i'm not the same person like i have to play these different roles and in

each one of them it's really hard i feel like split up right now a little bit like a like my hand here with the fingers i go in all directions like you have for each finger you have a different role daddy yeah you know band member yeah where's me in all this you know you know these different people but all the fingers are part of the same hand right i mean yeah the fingers are yeah what about the roles in your life are they part of the same thing too it doesn't feel that way like

this feels separate from this and like i don't feel like like you like them to have them like together yeah so that i can feel just one you really yeah so i can kind of feel like i'm being honest with myself i see it's just imagine that uh all your your fingers like like my hand here that imagine that they were all attached together like you cannot move them like that they're just like one big flat finger right what do you think you could do and not do if your hand was like that like literally

with your hand other things you could not do tie your shoe yeah probably not um pick up a cup yeah might be able to are there things that hold your baby of your baby writing maybe yeah writing would be hard yeah are there things that you could do better if your fingers were all attached like that like just one big flat finger something could do better if they were like that slap people maybe well you could actually if you all you have to do is to put your fingers together right now yeah like even if

you can move them you can also put them together right you could swim better too but you can do that also if you put it in like that right excuse me yeah i don't know what else um yeah i guess swim what are the what are the things that um that you could not do if you had different roles like imagine that in your life you were this one big flat finger that just won you would you be able to be a father to be a musician in your band to be a husband no if

i brought daddy to the band stand or the bandstand to the house that wouldn't work that wouldn't work at all that's part of the problem is it i feel so fake like i'm that i'm these different people yeah it feels like you are each of this finger but not at the same time right yeah what if you were the the hand not the fingers but the hand and that these swarms were part of the hand part of you not you but part of you what difference would that make well i mean i guess that that

would i've never thought of it that way i guess that uh i would just feel a little bit more like i don't know like a tool like it's like i'm doing these things on purpose or something yeah like a tool like you can grab things you can point to things you can do things with each finger but there's always this part and then you can always remember that all these different roles are in fact parts of a bigger you right right i've never thought about it that way