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After my sister got pregnant she expected me to house her and her boyfriend now she's living in his car am I the [ __ ] for refusing to help original post my family and I grew up very poor from when I was old enough to legally work I 19f have had to take on multiple jobs while balancing school to help with my family and my younger sister growing up I never had a lot and whatever money I earned I would spend on My sister 16f and family when I was 18 and had just been accepted

into college my dad's business that he'd worked on for the past couple of years finally took off this also meant that my sister could now have a normal high school experience without worrying about money while I was in college I wasn't in contact with my sister that much since I was so busy with school work however from our calls in her social media I could tell she had changed completely And was involved with some bad people she would post videos on her Snapchat of her getting drunk smoking weed jeweling driving while most likely drunk High

Etc I tried reaching out to her but she would mostly deny the claims and told me to mind my own business at some point she Justified her actions using the argument this is what the cool kids do now not everyone was a nerd like you in high school one of my high school friends who also has a brother in the Same grade reached out to me and said that she heard that my sister was seeing a sketchy guy from another school apparently he sells drugs and was expelled from my sister's High School I asked my

sister about this and she denied it last week I got a phone call from my mom who was sobbing she she tells me that my sister is pregnant I was so shocked that I could not speak then I was angry when I was her age and even younger I gave her everything and So did my parents so she could have all the opportunities her peers had since my dad's business became lucrative they've given her every opportunity to succeed any extracurricular sport she wants academic tutoring school activities Etc I never got any of those things it

angered me so much that she took all of this for granted and [ __ ] up her life the father her delinquent boyfriend who got expelled and sells drugs she blows up my phone but I don't respond she then Sends me a series of long text messages asking if she can crash at my place she also asked me if I could make her an appointment to see a doctor lastly she asked if it would be okay if her boyfriend comes and stays over sometimes I shut her down I told her that you dug this hole

for yourself if you allow yourself to become pregnant then you should be able to deal with the consequences also I'm currently sharing a small apartment with two roommates she Begged some more and I denied her in the past few days she's been texting me and calling me non-stop saying that she has nowhere to go and has been living in her boyfriend's car I haven't responded to a single message of hers but I feel my resolve wavering a bit I fully don't support her but maybe I'm being an [ __ ] edit to clarify I would

still never house her in my apartment that would be extremely disrespectful towards my roommates and would get me kicked out Due to the lease agreement I meant I was considering giving in and sending her some money edit two my parents have disowned her not kicked her out they are refusing to acknowledge that she is their daughter but she is still welcome to live in their house she chose not to since my parents are absolutely fuming and probably will yell at her and criticize her which she honestly needs relevant comments John CE I have a feeling

if you gave in you'd just be Taken advantage of by your sister and her deadbeat BF NTA if she is old enough to be a mommy she needs to learn to care for yourself and grow up you also have to consider your roommates I'm sure they'd love to have two more and eventually three people living there oop absolutely I would never put this on my roommates to clarify I meant my resolve was wavering and that I might end up sending her some money not offering to house her that's still an absolute [ __ ] no

Marlin fishy NTA she still has an option for a roof over her head and she chooses to stick it out with her loser boyfriend in his car but your parents should not dis know their daughter for this it will only push her closer to her loser boyfriend you should also be there for her as emotional support don't let her stay with you if you get in trouble with roommate SL landlord but let her know it will be okay she made a mistake as an example And someone she can lean on oop yes absolutely I've sent

her a ton of advice including links forums and general information she has chosen to ignore that advice and instead continue to ask me to live at my place not sure what I'll do but I don't think I'm going to to get more involved than that like you said she has somewhere to go back to she's just choosing not to because she can't take the criticism update post two it's been a Little bit more than 2 weeks since my first post and I guess it's safe to say now that the situation has been resolved in probably

the best way possible in my last post I stated that my sister was still living in the car of her delinquent boyfriend who sells drugs and refusing to come home because my parents had disowned her at this point I would like to clarify that my family and I are Chinese and it is common in Chinese culture to disown your kids when they do Something that largely disappoints or embarrasses you however this is not a permanent disownment like many of you have brought up as long as my sister apologizes sincerely and they can see that she

is actively trying to fix her mistake and become better they will take her back as their daughter another clarification would be for those people who assume that my dad kept us poor since he was stubborn and wanted to work on his business and not get a real job His business was a passion project on the side my dad was working 50 hours a week at two jobs all righty on to what ultimately happened with my sister despite the chain of advice I sent her she ignored me still I regularly checked in with her over the

next week to see how she was and she gave me one-word replies until they ultimately stopped I was growing concerned after she didn't pick up her cell but then I received a call from my parents according to my mom My sister had returned home crying and begging for forgiveness she had a serious talk with my parents where she apologized for her behavior and promised to make amends my mom was very tearful as well they scheduled a doctor's appointment for her immediately and I believe she went in the next day I had no idea what made

her finally break and return home so I texted her first I told her I was proud of her for taking action and being mature and asked if anything Happened between her and her boyfriend at first she was pretty stubborn and kept insisting that she was just over living in a car but after a while she finally admitted that her boyfriend had requested that she start selling for him if she wanted to keep living in his car and eating his food that he was sneaking her LM AO what a [ __ ] [ __ ] glad

my sister finally returned to her senses she told me she broke it off with him and I sincerely hope that's the truth This past Monday she got the pills to successfully terminate her pregnancy according to my mom she was begging that they do at ASAP which was really a breath of relief for all of us because we were worried she might want to keep it the future seems pretty bright right now for her my parents decided to pull her out of the public school and send her to a progressive private school that some of my

close friends also went to it's a fantastic school and I think it Would be great for her she's officially starting next Monday I'm going to visit her and my family this weekend and see how she's doing edit forgot to add that the new school also has a wonderful counseling department I urged my parents to speak to the Head psychologist there and they did and she will be having mandatory weekly meetings with her and another therapist at the school after my pregnant sill ignored my Son's severe allergy and brought peanut based snacks into our home I

threw them out am I the [ __ ] hello this is a throwaway account and a repost and update of sorts because my post got taken down from the other am I the [ __ ] sub my brother and his wife Laura who is seven months pregnant are staying with us for a week or so since he's interviewing for jobs in the city my family and I are in my kids love having their aunt and uncle around and Everything's been great yesterday Laura went out and came back with groceries I thanked her but told her

that we don't expect them to do this the kitchen is stocked and that we're just enjoying having them she said that she wanted to and that most were Cravings she's been having I started helping her unload the bags and noticed that a lot of snacks were with peanuts cookies crackers PB even some sort of cake Fusion it all made me uneasy because she knows my Oldest son 8m is extremely allergic I don't keep anything of the kind in our home because we've had an incident when he was younger where we almost lost him I didn't

want to be rude but I told her that I'm not comfortable with having the stuff in the house she told me that she would be careful that she wouldn't eat it around him or his sibling and that she'd clean up after herself that she was having intense cravings and needed them look I've had four kids and kind of Get where she's coming from although I never had to have something but every woman is different I made sure my son knew not to touch any of it and to leave her alone when she's eating them that

was that today I woke up early to make breakfast and open the fridge only to be greeted by Strawberries dipped in PB left out without a container to chill the PB jar wasn't sealed properly next to them and there were sandwiches on a plate because she likes the bread cold And Soggy I was pissed I've read enough about Airborne contamination to know that you can't really determine it but I wasn't risking it I grabbed a bag and started throwing everything in it our groceries hers I didn't care I was going to take the bag drive

to a shelter and let them know the situation Laura woke up while I was on my Rampage came down and asked all upset what I was doing I was snippy with her and didn't try to hide it we got in an argument with her Defensively saying that I can't do this that the baby needs it and that it's cruel to put a pregnant woman through un satisfied Cravings I told her bluntly that I don't give a single [ __ ] if she can't keep to her word then I won't either and that she'll live without

her craving my son can't say the same with his allergy she went back upstairs packed her bag and came back down grabbed the bag of food and left in a huff my brother was at his interview and Called me half an hour later to ask me what happened he was upset with his wife but also with me because nothing happened and at the end of the day my son is fine I told my husband when he came back from work and he's completely on my side A8 mini update like some people had predicted in the

comments on the other sub Laura did go straight to my family and started complaining she hadn't Twisted anything told them the full honest story and my mother was Livid she called me panting like she ran a marathon after she berated Laura to make sure my son is okay so I can only imagine the riot act she read to her apparently even my stepdad gave Laura one of his disapproving frowns my brother came back in the evening to get his stuff since Laura had only packed hers for some reason he apologized for what she did and

said that he'll have a chat with her once she's calmed down she's been inconsolable he told me that She's been crying since she left my mom's house and that she now feels unwelcome and unloved in our family and he blames me for it my husband buted in and told him that it's enough that whatever she's feeling doesn't cover half of what we felt and that she needs to get over herself that I've been scrubbing the house from top to bottom for hours because of her actions I did get panicky and went on to deep clean

the whole house especially the kitchen But anyway my brother left after he said that there's no leveling with us when we're being this stubborn now that I've had time to get out of the state I was in I do feel bad that she's distressed and feels unwelcome in our family that was never my goal I've been debating sending her an apology not for my actions because I stand by them but for the way I went about it I shouldn't have allowed the stuff in our house in the first place and could have been calmer About

it after I opened the fridge update a lot of people asked me to update so here it is warning this is a long one and if I wasn't an ah before I sure am now so after my mom berated Laura and my brother yelled at my husband and I I took the advice I was given and sent them a long text which ended up being a bit of a ramble about everything how [ __ ] the situation is how we're disgusted by their stance and how we'll Be going LC until we feel ready to be

around them again that was the day after my brother packed his bags and left I was left to read and I thought that was that until a few days ago when I got a call from Laura I thought about not answering it but curiosity got the better of me when I picked up Laura tried to make awkward small talk but I think she sensed I wasn't in the mood and got right to it she apologized about her behavior said she had no excuse Other than her hormones and we ended up having a long chat about

everything by the end of it I actually felt better and like we could get past it and work on our relationship she also mentioned that she would still like for my family and I to come to her birthday dinner it wasn't going to happen in a restaurant anymore I guess the hotel stay ended up costing them a lot as some of you predicted and that it was going to be at their house instead I told her that I'll talk with My husband and get back to her I also got a text from my brother apologizing

and saying he was just trying to protect and stand by his wife it was too soon to start mending things as my husband pointed out but he left the choice up to me and I honestly believed her apology because she had never acted like that before and she seemed actually ashamed of herself anyway my sister who was also apologized to BC she also tore her a new one and parents also got an apology We're also invited but my sister's kids wanted a cousin sleepover instead of going with us so after talking it over with my

sister we agreed for them to have one at my house my babysitters for a year are my Nextdoor neighbors they're sweet and responsible 16 yo twins who live with their single mom they usually team up and Tackle my kids on date nights there's a reason I'm mentioning this with my sisters added two kids to the mix I asked their mom if she was Free to join their Duo and she agreed so I called Laura and told her that Richard and I are coming when we got to their house Laura greeted my husband and I at

the door we handed her the gift and went in but she seemed puzzled that we didn't have a trail of kids with us so I reminded her that it's just us adults tonight same thing happened when my sister and her husband walked in dinner was awkward no matter how we tried to lighten up the mood and the conversation Was stilted at best but I thought it was at least a step forward Laura asked this time about why the kids were not with us that she had made special food for them I never mentioned the kids

when I got back to her just my husband and I but I felt like it was my fault that I didn't clarify and so I apologized for it and thanked her for thinking of them my sister chimed in that her kids and mine were having a cousin sleepover tonight and how she was excited about our soon Tobe nephew to join them when he's here and older Laura looked at her with a smile and said yeah I'm sure he'll be best friends with his cousins as in my kids and his stepcousins as in my sisters this

pissed me off because we don't step anything with the kids but I bit my tongue for context my sister is technically my steps sister I know I use stepdad in my first post I usually call him by his first name I consider him a parental figure since he raised me since I was 10 but I had a dad and the title will always be his my sister gave her a hurt look but it was my brother who nudged his wife with a what are you doing look a few minutes went by again with eating and

light convo before Laura asked again about our kids mainly who was watching them since all four parents are here I told her that my neighbor and her daughters are babysitting to which she laughed at and joked about how incompetent the girls and their mom must Be to need all three of them to Wrangle the kids also for context I have four kids kids I'm biased and like to think they're well behaved but there's sometimes too much for one person to handle even me and I'm the one that brought them into this world add my sister's

two kids and it's a lot for two teenage girl to handle even for just a few hours we left at 7:00 it said we'll be back at 11: it has absolutely nothing to do with the girls whom my kids adore Or their mom who is as kind as they come before I could retort anything my mom stepped in with one of her smiles and told Laura that it's so kind of her to offer her own competence and watch the kids next time that shut her up real fast after that dinner was even more Awkward until

we cleared the table and Laura brought out dessert while my brother got the cake from the fridge here's where I lost the last of my remaining brain cells I went to the Bathroom and when I came out I saw my husband carrying my bag and trying to Usher me out of the front door to leave he looked pissed and I was beyond confused and obviously resisted because yes the dinner is a train wreck but let me at least say goodbye and give a lame excuse for our departure when my husband tried to literally Carry Me

out I knew something was wrong and after a couple of tries I darted past him back to the dining room Laura's now ready dessert Table consisted of PB cake pops PB pie PB cookies PB brownies and top it all off a PB birthday cake that my brother brought in and was sniffing at with a horrified look Laura then gave me a big smile and said loudly to my family I thought I should at least get to have my Cravings on my birthday get your fill before she throws these out too I honestly thought for a

second that my sister was going to tackle her and I wasn't that far behind her because all I Could think about was the fact that she thought my kids were coming and she planned this accordingly I felt so guilty for allowing the stuff in our house the last time and if my sister's kids hadn't wanted the sleepover I was going to walk my son into danger a second time I lost my [ __ ] without thinking about my actions I grabbed Laura's head forced her to talk towards my brother who I think was too shocked

to react and slammed her head straight Into the cake I held it down as long as I could while she flailed and told her I hope she chokes on her Cravings before I let her go I honestly wanted to go for the pie too but I had embarrassed myself enough by acting like that in the first place so I told my brother that I'm done with both him and his wife and if they try to contact me or my family again I'm filing for a protective order then I let my husband lead me out my

sister was cackling as she followed us with her Husband but our parents stayed back I heard Laura screaming profanities after us but my stepdad raised his voice which shut her up I got a lot of jokes about his frown on my first post but the man is as stoic as they come him showing any emotion is a big deal I remember that his frown alone growing up was enough to literally stop my sister and I in our tracks because we knew if he gave us one that we messed up I haven't asked my mom what

happened After we left because I can't handle any more heartache from my brother or his actions I don't think this was the update anyone wanted least of all me but I'm completely done with both of them even though my brother looked like he had no idea the stuff was in his house happening under his damn roof I'm sad I won't be in my nephew's life and my kids won't get to know the new cousin they've been waiting for but I'd rather cry over that than over my son's life I don't Expect anyone to be kind

in the comments I'm 32 I shouldn't have been so naive and I know I shouldn't have reacted like that and I'm going to be dealing with that with my therapist along with the guilt I'm feeling but please take it easy on me I'm still shaken up I'm also looking into family therapy for my kids so they can better process not having their uncle and Aunt around after them having been a close presence in their lives am I the [ __ ] for calling my Friend a creepy weirdo after she posted a Tik Tok about my

husband original post I 28f am friends with this girl let's call her June also 28f in fact my husband 32m and I often hang out with June and her boyfriend I.E go on double dates have weekend trips Etc we've known each other for over two years I would say that we four were pretty tight as a group up until this weekend my husband is an orthodontist one of his patients is jun's half sister rehea 12f June Often is the one accompanying rehea to her dental appointments June is also a small time for online influencers she's

always recording and vlogging and stuff though my husband and I have made it clear to her that we're absolutely not okay with our faces in her Vlogs online and she seemed to respect that boundary we don't use social media apart from Reddit and we trusted her word when she said she's not going to post Us online cut to last weekend my brother sent me This Tik Tok link with the message dude you got to watch this I opened the link and it directed me to jun's Tik Tok account she doesn't have much much followers less

than 10K but the particular video he sent me had like half a million views or likes I'm not sure which lo and behold it was a video compilation of my husband with the title God I see what you've done for others the video was honestly the creepiest thing I've ever seen she had recorded my Husband during various of our double dates together and it was clear he wasn't even aware he's being recorded in some of the clips she would start with her face and then Pan the camera towards my husband with a cutesy expression and

mouthing words like oh my God the worst one was where he was working on her half sister rehea wearing scrubs and she'd recorded even that she didn't even bother to blur out the kids face while she was lying on the dental chair I Showed the video to my husband and he was horrified he said it made him so uncomfortable and violated knowing that someone had been secretly recording him he was angry that she'd recorded him working on a patient he texted her asking to take down the video and delete every video she has of him

first she feigned ignorance then she said that she meant no harm and that it was all for online engagement since I quote Tik Tok with hot guys go viral very fast and That she'd gained a lot of followers after posting that this was also weird but my husband and I got our families and friends to report the video and thankfully it's being taken down now this pissed off June and she sent me a long ass text saying how I was jealous of her online success and that I couldn't stand seeing her succeed blah blah blah

I replied saying you're delusional and unhinged you're not successful and you'll never be stay away From us you creepy weirdo now she's all weepy and depressed and has been telling our common friends how mean I was to her she's also been posting about Mental Health on her socials and about how mean some women are with their words LOL aa aa has no consensus bot o was n relevant comments commenter NTA you and your husband had set clear boundaries and she violated those boundaries this shows that she doesn't respect you at all I recommend cutting her

off entirely as Anyone who disturbs your piece is not worth your time o yes we're cutting her off entirely I don't know if her boyfriend is aware of this or not but I guess he'll have to be collateral damage because I don't want her to weasel her way back into our lives commenter 2 NTA people who think online engagement is more important than basic human decency are sadly not at all uncommon and they are as you say delusional and unhinged their success is not real and Except in a very few cases it never will be

op it's psychotic honestly my husband is so freaked out about this I feel so bad for him commenter three he might need to drop the half-sister as a patient Andor tell the parents that she June is not allowed to accompany her anymore I agree that is a creepy weirdo if she can't get followers or likes without lying and getting consent for people to be recorded then she needs to find a new career op yes he's in the Process of informing her parents I don't think he's going to drop her as a patient as her treatment

is almost done and it's going to be a hassle for her to find a new orthodontist commenter four he needs to ban her sister your former friend RL from the room while he is treating the patient he needs to have a female staff member assist him and act as chaperon should your friend try to make baseless accusations oop there's a rule in his practice that a female Dental assistant has to present whenever they the male doctors are working on female patients as most of the patients are young kids teens and they might be more comfortable

with a woman around even in the video she posted there is a woman assisting my husband he's reached out to the kids parents they're being given two choices either they chaperone their daughter or they need to find a different orthodontist I really hope it doesn't come to baseless accusations Though update I don't want to make another post for the same thing and I doubt I'm going to be updating again my husband's practice reached out to Rhea's parents and informed them about the situation via an email as they wanted everything documented like I mentioned in the

comments the parents have responded they are shocked and very very apologetic they have agreed to chaperone rehea on her appointments instead of June they wanted to meet my husband Personally to apologize but he informed them that that won't be necessary June's Tik Tok video is still in the process of being taken down no new updates on that I guess she contested the reports or something I'm not entirely sure my husband and I have blocked her my brother is keeping an eye on her account though just in case she posts something else about us we'll see

what to do if when it happens we're going to be Consulting a lawyer if she bothers us Again in the future my my husband is kind of shaken up/ upset SL annoyed about this whole thing he's taken some days off from work and so have I we'll plan a trip somewhere maybe to take his mind off of these things right now I need to be there for him I won't be posting anything for now we haven't contacted her boyfriend yet my husband is not in the right headp space right now and I feel it'll be

better if we focus on ourselves for the time being we Don't want the added headache of how the boyfriend will react if he's in on this or whatever we'll inform him after some time I know this is selfish but I think it's for the best thank you all for the responses new update we thought the drama was done but nope we filled jun's boyfriend in on everything and he was shocked hurt and Confused turns out June managed his social media and he had no clue what she was posting he thanked us and we thought that

was it but then he Asked to meet up saying he needed to discuss something to be honest we were extremely hesitant to meet with him we were so done with the drama and didn't want to get sucked back in but he seemed genuinely concerned and willing to listen so we agreed at the meeting he revealed he'd confronted June she broke down professed her love and claimed her obsession with my husband was for social media clout apparently his total package made for great content when he asked to See her phone she refused so he checked her

laptop and found hundreds of sneaky photos and videos of my husband and for Laughs she had pics of me looking my absolute worst mouth open while eating weird faces the works I think I'm pretty good-look but these photos were the opposite it's like she wanted to prove a point about my husband's ugly wife jun's boyfriend dumped her but honestly we're even more freaked out now the scale of her obsession is terrifying hundreds of Photos and videos that's not just a crush that's fixation the thought of her escalating to something more is keeping us up at

night as a small consolation jun's boyfriend made her delete the videos from her social media and laptop but God knows how many more copies she has despite June not reaching out after all this went down we're still on high alert her radio silence is kind of unnerving and we're bracing ourselves for whatever might come next hopefully It is in fact just for social media Cloud not some weird baby reindeer type obsession with my husband it's kind of unsettling how she was friends with me for over 2 years we hung out often we've gone on weekend

trips with her and her boyfriend we have so many mutual friends and yet no one knew she doing this behind our backs either I'm bad at reading people or she's very good at being sneaky and deceptive I'm also mentally kicking myself for not Realizing that someone was taking pictures of me I feel my husband and I both need to be less dumb and more aware of our surroundings LOL on a brighter note Rhea's parents are super thankful to my husband for still treating Rya after everything that's it for now hopefully this is really the end

relevant comments commenter one just be careful op Jane sounds unhinged o o we are it's kind of scary though because she knows where we live SL where We usually hang out SL where I work SL where my husband works commenter to man this is some serious soap opera level drama like you said though better to stay aware no one likes being caught off guard hopefully it ends soon and you can move on at least the parenting situation seems good o Reay is parents are wonderful they were the ones who used to initially accompany rehea to

her appointments they said June told them that she wants to spend more time with Rehea and she's otherwise busy so she could be the one chaperoning her they had agreed because rheya was excited about spending time with her sister it's really shitty that June was using rehea as a ruse to get near my husband NGL commenter three wow just wow I would take all the evidence and a statement from the ex to a lawyer and get some type of restraining order requiring her to stay away and remove all social media of you to she seems

unhinged and needs To stay away this makes me think of a stalker movie and you guys need to change stuff before the movie has a bad ending o we're going to be talking to a lawyer to see what options we have our apartment has 24-hour security so I doubt she can do anything there I'm more worried about our workplaces TBH new update I really didn't want to update this situation but things have taken a seriously dark turn when I posted about June's thing for my husband a month ago I thought it was just some weird

Crush now it's flat out terrifying the day after my last post my husband got a super creepy message from a random number you have got it all wrong please meet me I'll make you understand we freaked lawyers and cops are on it trying to get a restraining order both our workplaces have ramped up security and we've warned friends and family to keep an eye out this whole thing is destroying my husband's mental health He's anxious 24/7 wondering if he's being followed he stopped going to work because the feeling of being watched is overwhelming we're trying

to prioritize his safety and honestly it's breaking my heart the other night he broke down in tears I've never seen him cry before it was shattering he's been talking to a therapist online trying to cope with the Stress and Anxiety but even that's not easing his mind he's consumed by fear for my safety constantly worrying that June will harm me to get to him we're covering our bases security cams dash cams the whole works and I've scoured our home twice for any hidden devices thank God all clear if things get worse we're prepared to get

up and move honestly it's better to have a life in a different state than to be dead here it's heartbreaking to think about leaving our friends family and everything behind but we'll do what it takes to stay safe some of the advice on Here was really helpful and I've done most of what was suggested if someone anyone has any more insights please share I'm desperate at this point TB my entitled mom tried to take my house for my pregnant sister claiming she deserves it more than I do I am a boy who is 31 years

old and I have a sister who is 28 years old he has always been my mother's favorite child but he has never been my father's favorite child in the years that I was a teenager My parents divorced because my mother had an affair with a former boyfriend from high school unfortunately my sister was her little mini me and she has always been domineering manipulative and narcissistic she has always presented herself in this manner additionally it appeared as though our mother believed that she had complete control over me when she snapped her fingers she would give

me orders like a dog she would do this consistently despite the fact that It was humiliating my sister never stopped supporting her it should come as no surprise that following the divorce of our parents I moved in with my father on a full-time basis while my sister continued to reside with my mother unless it was about money the two of them were very similar to one another and they did not communicate with my father very often in spite of the fact that I am more like my father he was was more business-oriented and started Teaching

me how to handle his field of work when I was 16 years old for the first time I became fairly skilled at it and after working for my father for a period of 12 years I was promoted to the position of partner in his company a terrible event occurred approximately 8 months ago and everything were going swimmingly up until that point my father's immune system had been compromised for a significant portion of his life due to his heavy smoking habit And he passed away at the age of 60 after Contracting c19 a few years before

his death after my father's burial which was held in a socially distant location I finally got to meet my mother and sister for the first time in years through a video call it was my father's decision to be cremated and he was buried at a nearby Cemetery hence there was neither a body nor a casket there despite the fact that my sister seemed to be in mourning my mother remained Nonchalant during the entire process which surprised me when she last saw my father she yelled at him that he owed her more money and threatened to

sue him to which he left she then threatened to start lawsuit against him in terms of alimony and child support he had simply paid the minimum amount that was mandated by the law he even made a contribution of $330,000 to the education fund for my sister however a judge's order meant that he was no Longer legally had to provide my mother money 10 years after the divorce This legal obligation had been lifted not even close to being broke she has been working at the same job for about 30 years she is the owner of the

old family home that we used to share and she routinely leases out two of the rooms in the house to uses Airbnb rentals she does not have any problems with her finances the reading of my father's will took place after the funeral apparently He was under the impression that if his habit of smoking excessively would not end his life then something else would and he even laughed about it on a video that had been recording beforehand to a large extent he left everything to me including his home all of his assets and the majority of

the income from his business in addition to around $10,000 in cash he left my sister an Nissan Altima from the year 2015 in addition to a few other Goods that she had claimed To be hers since the divorce my mother was only given a sum of $1,000 additionally I was given the remaining portion of it and my girlfriend is currently residing with me in the house that my father had bequeathed to me following the completion of two years of Community College my sister moved in with her boyfriend and began working online part-time for a number

of years a heartbreaking miscarriage occurred at The time period despite the fact that she became pregnant due to the fact that we had almost little communication with one another and no one informed me of this I did not become aware of it until after the funeral when lockdown occurred her boyfriend's job began to gradually downsize and soon he was only able to work part-time this brought about a negative impact on both of their finances to the point where he finally informed her that she needed to look for Better employment as well because he was looking

for a second job after then she fell pregnant once more despite the fact that she and her partner have taken precautions others continue to refer to her child as a miraculous baby a knock on my door came as a complete surprise to me one evening as soon as I responded both my mother and my sister greeted me with a frigid reception both of them entered without anyone asking them too and they immediately made themselves at Home in my living room a look of bewilderment was exchanged between my girlfriend and I and I questioned as to

the reason why they had brought themselves to visit it appeared as though my sister was giving herself a tour of my home as she was laughing and looking around opening doors and opening doors the request for a refh freshing bottle of water was made by my mother who had just sat down on my sofa and reached out with her fingers after my Girlfriend had gotten the water for her I questioned as to the reason that they were in this location it appeared as though my sister was overjoyed but she chose to ignore me and proceed

with her investigation of my home a short while later I was able to hear her exclaim Mommy it's perfect from the opposite end of the corridor yes she continues to refer to her as Mommy my mother ultimately stood out and said well I I think it's time you did your brotherly Duty to which I reacted what I was surprised by her statement my mother continued by saying now that your father has passed away this house ought to have been given to me because I was his only spouse however you are still able to make the

necessary repairs at this time it is possible for you to get a brand new home because you generate a lot of money this one is particularly significant for your sister because she is the one who is actually carrying the Baby that is on the way on the other hand if you are adamant about remaining you you could just live in a single room and pay for all of the expenses until you make the decision to leave after reading a sufficient amount of Reddit my girlfriend and I were able to determine where this was headed and

what would occur if I allowed it to continue I suppose you could say that we were mentally prepared for what was to come I inhaled deeply and exhaled slowly before Uttering out loud that is not effing happening especially in my own home you do not have the authority to boss me around and yeah I do make a lot of money but just like my father I'm going to put it away until I really need it even though you don't seem to care about it stop my mother yelled as she began to lash out at me

with her fingers just like she had done in the past it is me your mother because I am the one who brought you into this world and because I am the one who holds Authority here you will do as I say God is what I am to you in other words when I say jump you respond by asking how high in all actuality this house belongs to me and your sister will be living here the following is an official notice of eviction on the other hand because I am a good person I will give you

two weeks to start packing your belongings and transferring the deed to me I have a thought that goes something like this This can't possibly be true then however I reached for my mobile phone and started making calls suddenly my mother jumped up and asked what are you doing while she was standing there I answered by saying I'm going to do what I should have done as soon as this started I'm calling the cops to get you out of my house my phone was eventually knocked out of my hands as she started swiping back and forth

toward me after that she made an attempt to walk on it but I was Able to grasp it before she could do so that's it if you don't leave I'll force you out my mother gave me a slap across the cheek and I returned the favor by hitting her back with a backhand blow that was twice as powerful causing her to fall back down onto the couch she yelled how dare you while placing her hand over her face which was rening and covered with makeup she was completely taken aback by the situation I went back

to dialing my phone and informed her That I would call the author authorities to remove her from the premises if she did not cooperate with my request to leave I was in the middle of a conversation with my sister when she suddenly jumped in between us stretched out her arms and told me to do the right thing for once in my life and be a good big brother I lost my temper and yelled out oh so you think I'm a terrible sibling I have been required to work for a living ever since I was a

very young Teenager I was responsible for all of the housekeeping while you spent the entire day sitting on your butts either playing video games on your computer or chatting with your circle of friends and you would take the money that I had worked so hard to get in order to go shopping after you had already spent all of your allowance you are nothing but a thief and a piece of a leech absolutely nothing is owed to you I want both of you to leave this place as soon as Possible before I dial the final number

for the first time my sister started crying like a baby and said mommy please make him stop after that my mother started giving her a death gaze after which she began hugging her and caressing her cheeks after that she mentioned you know if you do call the cops I can just tell them you hit me it appeared as though she had become more intelligent in addition who knows maybe I'll let everyone know that you wanted To do something far worse to a pregnant woman who was in need of assistance it is not something that I

believe would be beneficial for you to do it was with a raised hand that I was able to interrupt her and say just stop during the entire time my girlfriend has been recording in case you haven't noticed previously this indicates that we have video evidence of you assaulting me first and then publicly declaring that you would lie to the police during the incident I don't Believe that would be beneficial to your reputation at work or for your Airbnb business which is relatively tiny in the event that appearances could kill my mother would have blown me

up like a tactical nuclear weapon nevertheless she quickly regained her composure and started pulling my sister into the room by the arm my younger sister who was behaving like a complete and utter child managed to escape our mother's grasp and immediately plopped down on my front Step while throwing a fit are you able to see now I question questioned my mother after giving her a quick glance the result of the spoiled upbringing she had from you is this after she had finished staring at me I watched as my mother attempted to remove my sister from

the front steps of my house on the other hand my sister grabbed to the handrail of the porch and cried out you promised me over and over again as I stood by the door I laughed and yelled Out to each of them never come back at that moment my mother reprimanded me and returned to the task of getting my sister off the porch despite the fact that it took her a few minutes she was ultimately successful in persuading my sister to get up and leave with her she referred to me as a cruel and heartless

jerk who will go to hell for this I chuckled once again and responded there's also a special place in hell for liars and narcissists who try to Manipulate others to get their way I simply put up my smartphone once more with the recording and said the clock is ticking mom this caused my mother to tighten her fists and was ready to yell something more when I did so get off my property after that my mother accompanied my sister to the car gave me one more look that was condescending and then disappeared into the distance I

had the impression that that was the Final Chapter but my mother never let things Go for good a few days later I started receiving messages from people I knew and family members who were using the internet a good number of them were furious with Me While others merely had inquiries about what was being placed due to the fact that both my sister and my mother had blocked me on social media I was unable to view what they were saying on my Facebook account or see what they were saying my girlfriend on the other hand was

able to view Everything because they had their profiles open the entire incident was captured on screen and some of it was printed out both of their profiles contained entries that referred to me as a self-centered and cruel jerk who stole the house that was meant to be my sister's inheritance right in front of her eyes by paying off the attorney who handled dad's estate this is a total and utter lie and both of them are aware of it I called my attorney who was also my Father's attorney and a trusted family friend and gave him

copies of all the screenshots from Facebook as well as the video that my girlfriend had filmed on the day that my mother ordered that I move out of my house my intention was to take it a step further so he wrote them a letter instead of sending a simple cease and desist letter he wanted to write a letter I advised him to send it by express mail that required a signature in order to determine whether Or not they had got it it was on the same day that the letter arrived that my mother called me

in an angry State I warned her that if she and my sister did not remove all of the false social media posts they made about me and reveal the truth I would send an email email to her entire family her boss and upload the videos we captured of her online in addition I would sue her on top of everything else that I had done about the situation she accused me of being Crazy by claiming that she had only done what she did for the sake of my sister she then proceeded to give a full-fledged lecture

during which she reiterated her belief that my sister still required my house more than I did I made it abundantly apparent that I did not care what she believed and I warned her that her career would be ended if she did not remove everything and reveal the truth it was with reluctance that she responded fine you win after hanging Up the phone he commented you should keep the stupid house at that very moment every single dishonest post that had been made on their profiles disappeared I was unblocked and my mother presented me and everyone else

with a half-hearted apology explaining that she had hurried what she said because she believed that my sister required my house more than I did due to the fact that she is pregnant and broke on the other hand she admitted that the House was legally mine according to the will that my father had left behind and she was aware of this fact before he passed away therefore she had no right to attempt to claim it in addition my sister expressed her regret but she virtually reiterated everything that our mother had said she stated that she had

just agreed with her beliefs and then blamed what she had done on our mother and the pregnant emotions that she was experiencing the answers came in on both My mother's and sister's Pages for a period of time and a significant number of people were depressed by the fact that they attempted to seize my house I received a lot of sorries and my bads from people who had previously believed her but all it did was show me who was more on her side in the first place because they were also willing to swallow her nonsense I

could not believe it regardless the majority of them were members of her family's side of the Family she was not believed by anyone on my father's family and they were vocal about their lack of belief in the end my sister and her boyfriend decided to move in with our mother in order to save money nevertheless she kept them in the basement in order to maintain the operation of her Airbnb due to the fact that my mother barely wrote anything due of the trick she had played earlier my sister started sobbing on social media about how

she is unable to live upstairs I am very certain that the two of them are arguing because all my sister did after that was complain online having made it this far you are only getting started with what is ahead the second part is very hot and wilder than the first it is going to be the very next video that is uploaded so if you haven't already done so subscribe to YouTube with notifications turned on so that you don't miss it and give it a thumbs up as a backup when the sister and mother came At

the op apartment the first peculiar thing that stuck out to me as being too obvious to look away from was the fact that they were there based on my understanding of the circumstances the brother believed that the mother had just told her it's a done deal you're getting this house and the sister had believed it for some reason this is the only interpretation I can come up with it is either the case that the sister is so naive that she believes that the Mother has the authority to take the property away from the owner and

give it to her regardless of who owns the house or that the mother simply lied and made up some kind of reasoning as to why why the house was rightfully hers I thought the mother's notion was a terrible one she essentially told him it's time to do your brotherly Duty and she believed that he would just hand up the house by that point the father spent the most of his life working on this house in order To ensure that it would be a generational heirloom once he was able to hand it down to his son

on the other hand the situation in which the daughter only receives the automobile and the son the op receives everything else is one that I could imagine being somewhat irritating that may be a source of frustration I am able to acquire that but it does not alter the fact that certain individuals are given what that Viewpoint cannot be rationalized in any Manner at least not in the way that they look to be doing here this recurring Motif can be seen throughout the entirety of part two although part two is rather lengthy you can still observe

parts of that line of reasoning in that section as well in light of the fact that the girlfriend was filming the entire event in which they struck each other I have a sneaking suspicion that the op's girlfriend was not recording their interaction at all it is possible That she merely yes anded the scenario participating in the situation in an improvised Manner and saying yeah it was recording the whole time there was not an excessive amount of defensiveness displayed by the op and his girlfriend when the mother and sister came to put it simply they were

perplexed in conclusion the mother's exact statement which was by far the most peculiar component of the entire incident was as follows I am God in other words when I Say jump you define the height at which you want to jump this house is rightful mine you are attempting to convince someone to give you something that you believe you deserve for some reason because you were this person's previous spouse despite the fact that you divorced 10 years ago it is weird that you're referring to yourself as God in the middle of an argument Karen demands VIP

table claiming to know the owner but I'm the Owner and she was left crying with a $4,000 bill after my revenge Karen storms into the restaurant screaming that she knows the owner and that we must give her in her group of Pals the VIP table reserved for celebrities the trouble is I own the restaurant and have no idea who this lady is but I decided to play along and see what happened during the dinner one of the girls asked me whether I thought my life was meaningless because I worked as a Waiter that's when I

realized all bets were out and I was going to exact my retribution this is what I did this occurred around Christmas and New Year's my grandparents immigrated to Canada from Italy in the 1970s and established a restaurant when they died my parents took over the restaurant which they grew and enlarged throughout the decades I've been working at the restaurant since I was 15 as my parents became older they retired and became snowbirds spending The winners in Florida they sold the restaurant to me a few years ago but they kept a tiny percentage of the stock

as a supplementary source of income in addition to their savings as soon as I took possession I modernized the old place I rebuilt the restaurant altered the logo and contacted local and National newspapers to place advertisements I invited food critics bloggers and vlog bloggers it was slow at first and I began to fear that the Loan I took out to undertake all of this was the worst mistake I'd ever made that I had ruined three generations of a family company but soon it began to work a local semi- YouTuber included us in one of his

videos which prompted more people to visit and review us even on a Monday we were quickly seeing 5 to 10 times the regular volume of activity we became a destination for large events and it was not uncommon for a celebrity to stop up on certain evenings I even Invited certain high-profile clients to visit and cook for our guests this cost a fortune so we were completely filled for the holidays people had to make reservations in July to get a table in December it took years to get to this point when things become busy I don't

simply sit in the back office I'm on the floor doing whatever needs to be done whether it's greeting customers busing tables or mopping the floors on nights with high-profile guests or events I Wear a jacket and take charge one night Six Women walked in in five of them appeared to be in their early 20s with the leader looking to be in her mid-20s my best assumption was that she was an elder sister of one of the females or an older sorority sister to incoming college students I was greeting them at the entrance and as they

approached Queen B Karen was telling the baby Karens how fantastic this restaurant is how delicious the cuisine is and how There might even be celebrities there when she approached me she explained that she required a table for six I responded of course can I get the name on the reservation she stared at me she responded oh I didn't make one but it's okay the owner is a personal friend of mine he said he always keeps one or two tables open for special guests and we can have one of those tonight this is true for many

high-profile restaurants and I've been doing it recently as well But I had no idea who this woman was and she had never discussed any of this with me I understood she was attempting to get in without a reservation but she had chosen the worst person to try this with I told her I am sorry but we cannot seat anyone without without a reservation as you can see we do not have any seats available I didn't want to go all out and say I'm the owner and we have never spoken before so I Never Promised You

anything but I didn't want to embarrass Her in front of the other girls she was with at the time she then instructed one of the other girls to take a picture of me she announced that she would speak with the owner and ensure that I was either scrubbing toilets or fired by the end of the week the other girls behind her joined in saying things like yeah kiss your minimum wage job goodbye I wasn't sure if they were in on it with her or if they truly belied she knew the owner queen be Karen then

said look you Can either give us a table or I can make your life very difficult this is not worth losing your job she kept pointing trying to belittle me and then saying things like obviously you aren't anyone here because if you were you would know who I am and never try to tell me anything other than yes or of course she was constantly attempting to put me down and take that table at this time it had been a hard day for me and from my perspective I had had three options Number one I could

inform her that I am the owner and call her out on all of this number two I could simply hand her the table and let things go or third I could teach Queen B Karen and her minions a lesson I selected option three I smiled at her and said of course ma'am please follow me I handed her one of the three tables we leave free in case a celebrity walks in which occurs occasionally I told her I apologize for everything and you right it would be Simpler just to give you the table I also assured

her that the first three rounds of drinks would be free I seated them down and personally served them as they sat I told them we need one of your credit cards and IDs just to keep on file and we'll return them to you before you leave Queen Karen handed me her card and informed the baby Karen minions tonight is on me I took their orders gave them their free Beverages and informed them that due to how busy we Were tonight the meal may be delayed the females only worried about the free drinks they ordered three

rounds and still hadn't received any food they eventually called and asked me to check on it all while giving me the worst attitude since they arrived I told them I will look into it but also asked if they wanted additional drinks they ordered two more rounds they were sosed by the time the appetizers arrived having done nothing but drink on an Empty stomach for the majority of the night and just eating salads as more food arrived more beverages were ordered what these girls didn't realize was that they were at our VIP table which normally costs

a few thousand doll to sit at Karen demands VIP table claiming to know the owner but I'm the owner and she was left crying with a $4,000 bill after my revenge Karen storms into the restaurant screaming that she knows the owner and that we must give her and her Group of Pals the VIP table reserved for celebrities the trouble is I own the restaurant and have no idea who this lady is but I decided to play along and see what happened during the dinner one of the girls asked me whether I thought my life was

meaningless because I worked as a waiter that's when I realized all bets were out and I was going to exact my retribution this is what I did this occurred around Christmas and New Year's my grandparents immigrated to Canada From Italy in the 1970s and established a restaurant when they died my parents took over the restaurant which they grew and enlarged throughout the decades I've been working at the restaurant since I was 15 as my parents became older they retired and became snowbirds spending the winters in Florida they sold the restaurant to me a few years

ago but they kept a tiny percentage of the stock as a supplement source of income in addition to their savings as soon as I Took possession I modernized the old place I rebuilt the restaurant altered the logo and contacted local and National newspapers to place advertisements I invited food critics bloggers and vloggers it was slow at first and I began to fear that the loan I took out to undertake all of this was the worst mistake I'd ever made that I had ruined three generations of a family company but soon it began to work a

local semi YouTuber included us in one Of of his videos which prompted more people to visit and review us even on a Monday we were quickly seeing 5 to 10 times the regular volume of activity we became a destination for large events and it was not uncommon for a celebrity to stop up on certain evenings I even invited certain high-profile clients to visit and cook for our guests this cost a fortune so we were completely filled for the holidays people had to make reservations in July to get a table in December it took years to

get to this point when things become busy I don't simply sit in the back office I'm on the floor doing whatever needs to be done whether it's greeting customers busing tables or mopping the floors on nights with high-profile guests or events I wear a jacket and take charge one night Six Women walked in five of them appeared to be in their early 20s with the leader looking to be in her mid-20s my best assumption was that she was an Elder sister of one of the females or an older sorority sister to incoming college students I

was greeting them at the entrance and as they approached Queen B Karen was telling the baby Karens how fantastic this restaurant is how delicious the cuisine is and how there might even be celebrities there when she approached me she explained that she required a table for six I responded of course can I get the name on the reservation she stared at me she Responded oh I didn't make one but it's okay the owner is a personal friend of mine he said he always keeps one or two tables open for special guests and we can have

one of those tonight this is true for many high-profile restaurants and I've been doing it recently as well but I had no idea who this woman was and she had never discussed any of this with me I understood she was attempting to get in without a reservation but she had chosen the worst person to try this with I told her I am sorry but we cannot seat anyone without a reservation as you can see we do not have any seats available I didn't want to go all out and say I'm the owner and we have

never spoken before so I Never Promised You anything but I didn't want to embarrass her in front of the other girls she was with at the time she then instructed one of the other girls to take a picture of me she announced that she would speak with the owner and ensure that I was either Scrubbing toilets or fired by the end of the week the other girls behind her joined in saying things like yeah kiss your minimum wage job goodbye I wasn't sure if they were in on it with her or if they truly believe

she knew the owner queen be Karen then said look you can either give us a table or I can make your life very difficult this is not worth losing your job she kept pointing trying to belittle me and then saying things like like obviously you aren't Anyone here because if you were you would know who I am and never try to tell me anything other than yes or of course she was constantly attempting to put me down and take that table at this time it had been a hard day for me and from my perspective

I had three options number one I could inform her that I am the owner and call her out on all of this number two I could simply hand her the table and let things go or third I could teach Queen be Karen and her Minions a lesson I selected option three I smiled at her and said of course ma'am please follow me I handed her one of the three tables we leave free in case a celebrity walks in which occurs occasionally I told her I apologize for everything and you right it would be simpler just

to give you the table I also assured her that the first three rounds of drinks would be free I seated them down and personally served them as they sat I told them we need one of your Credit cards and IDs just to keep on file and we'll return them to you before you leave Queen Karen handed me her card and informed the baby Karen minions tonight is on me I took their orders gave them their free Beverages and informed them that due to how busy we were tonight the meal may be delayed the females only

worried about the free drinks they ordered three rounds and still hadn't received any food they eventually called and asked me to check On it all while giving me the worst attitude since they arrived I told them I will look into it but also asked if they wanted additional drinks they ordered two more rounds they were sosed by the time the appetite iers arrived having done nothing but drink on an empty stomach for the majority of the night and just eating salads as more food arrived more beverages were ordered what these girls didn't realize was that

they were at our VIP table which Normally costs a few thousand doar to sit at but I didn't charge them for it except for the first three rounds I charged them for all of the extremely costly cocktails they had throughout the evening furthermore the table they were sitting at as previously stated was VIP thus the menus were different prices are not displayed on these menus this is a restaurant industry trade secret they also offered higher-end menu items such as white truffle black caviar meals and Specially imported west coast oysters among others at one point during

the night I honestly began to question what I was doing I worried I was going too far with these poor girls they might not know any better but certain things encouraged me throughout the night such as when one of the baby carens questioned whether I thought my life was pointless because all I ever became was a server also one of the other staff told me that they were planning how to Mess with me believing that they could do so whenever they wanted and that I would always give them a table I overheard them say he's

cute but I wouldn't date a waiter like that he is such a pushover there were other comments like that throughout the night so I continued with their life lesson by the end of the night each female had built up a bill ranging from $500 to $600 I handed Queen Karen the bill for $423 23 which included tax and tip I've Never seen somebody sober up this soon she went from smiling and giggling with her buddies to my new landlord enters without permission removes my curtains and even calls me sweetie what should I do new landlord

hates privacy I recently found myself needing a month-to-month lease for between 6 months to 14 months in Baltimore which I was unfamiliar with the apartment I found is a small efficiency in an older building they agreed to a standard lease for the first 6 months followed by month-to-month lease I was to be the first tenant when I T it 6 weeks ago workers were painting the rooms the landlord's son is living upstairs and this is my landlord's first time renting the lease was obviously pulled from a form and seem standard there is a clause in

the lease which states that I can't install curtains rods or hooks this seemed standard as well I had something similar at my old apartment I assumed there would be some Sort of curtain provided and this was in regards to additional curtains I moved in on Sunday and found the landlord had not installed curtains at all at this point I assumed the issue with curtains was the potential to damage the wall so I bought tension rods that require no hardware and used them to hang curtains Monday afternoon I got a text from my landlord saying I

needed to remove the curtains the building is on a street corner with a fair amount of foot Traffic between the four Windows you can see all of my apartment with the exception of the portion of the bathroom with the toilet and tub not only does this mean I have no privacy but the neighborhood is slightly sketchy after dark the nearby buildings have bars on their windows anyone passing by not only can see my possessions but whether or not I am home I expressed this to the landlord in my reply over text he replied to reread

my lease I left them Up overnight I had orientation this morning and came back to find the curtains removed and nowhere in the apartment I discovered this before entering the building as two guys were outside one of my windows and looking in my apartment they left when I entered the building I messaged the landlord saying he didn't have the right to enter the apartment and asked for the curtains back he again said to check my lease and then commented that I needed to finish Unpacking as it looked messy in my apartment I had to head

to a work event so I couldn't follow through more but I moved my electronics to one corner and used a bookshelf to block one of the windows so they weren't visible while at the event I got a text from the landlord with a picture of the blocked window captioned what's this what can I do to prevent my landlord from entering the apartment unannounced and to compel him to allow some form of curtain Alternatively how do I break my least 3 days into it this is too crazy for week one of update privacy hating landlord it

looks like I'm staying but I took control of the situation not long after posting it became apparent at work that the length of time I would be needed on this project is significantly lower than outside estimates originally said finding new Arrangements seemed impossible I mentioned what was going on at dinner and included at the table was The company's lawyer who I know who offered to review the lease on an unofficial basis Wednesday morning I called the police about the stolen curtains because I wanted a paper trail they gave me a police report but were uninterested

in speaking to my landlord I reported the theft to my insurance gave them the info on who stole them text from the landlord and they said they would be contacting someone in the city it's only $200 but that's the point Of the thing I next bought room dividers which in no way shape or form can be considered curtains blinds Etc but block the windows while still letting in light they were only $40 each at the same time I searched the whole apartment vents lights Etc and can't find any cameras as someone suggested by that time

my friend who is a lawyer called me she did a little review of the lease and the local laws she said Baltimore has really shaky laws on when a landlord can come in but Pointed out that in my lease there is a clause that says the landlord will notify 48 hours prior to entrance and we'll call prior to entering in case of emergency she drafted me a letter to send to my landlord her name won't appear anywhere but said it can be on my company's letterhead the letter details some of my rights as a tenant

quotes the lease and reminds him he is bound by these rules as well I signed and sent it immediately I had mentioned wanting a Security camera and my company is arranging to have a camera sent that will automatically upload video offsite work for an hour battery life if the electricity is out and operate on cellular so it doesn't need Wi-Fi it will be here tomorrow I also made the decision to send my PS4 and my cameras back to my home my personal and business laptops I will just keep with me while I am out of

the apartment this leaves the only real valuables as my TV and the Security camera itself everything else is books clothes and kitchen things I ordered a sign outside that says the property is monitored by security cameras and got a jam for the door that holds it closed while I'm inside I'm prepared for the landlord to make my life hell but if he breaks the lease my plan is to ask the company to move me into an extended stay hotel for the duration of my trip it will be more expensive for them but that's company Policy

for trips less than 4 months at the moment I feel as safe as I can in this situation update landlord texted me sweetie I didn't think you'd be like this responded I'm not you sweetie I'm your tenant my name is NE please use it I discovered my wife's affair during her writing Workshop hired a P1 gathered evidence and vanished Without a Trace before she returned home though my friends call me AB never Andy I go by Andrew Baker every now and then there's A nasty drunk or uneducated man trying to act too familiar and calls

me Andy so Andy what's your job they probe I reply I made this neat little tool for cops to check drunk individuals from 40 ft away they have even begun to link them to Radars throughout town that typically shuts them down that Gadget isn't real though should you still not know it yet I obviously have not much tolerance for stupidity lie to me and things go bad I'm a straightforward guy not Complicated at all I am content in my career and lead a simple life I am an engineer employed by a large National Corporation with

offices scattered over the nation I have Pals and although I'm not a heavy drinker I do have a sporadic beer though that's my struggle honestly I tend more toward nachos I try to keep myself in reasonable form for my age since if I let it spiral out of hand I will gain weight every chance I had I used to go sailing now having a wife and Two small girls takes up a lot of time I sold the yacht at last that was only one of the concessions I have voluntarily given over the years in order

to spend quality time with the IND individuals truly important to me for 25 years Karen and I have been contentedly married her level of education is high school teacher right now our two girls are at College while her younger sister Denise is in Boston University Claire is a student at Brown University in Rhode Island I most certainly couldn't afford those pricey universities but fortunately the girls are committed students with outstanding scholarships our house is in North Carolina more precisely the Research Triangle it revolves on some outstanding Raleigh institutions is flanked by First Rate high-tech businesses

one may live and work here quite nicely though it would just make me hungry I could tell you about Carolina BBQ when the daughters Chose institutions up north I was a little let down but I know they had to venture beyond their comfort zone and that is eventually a good thing our daughters are wonderful smart humorous lovely young women with strong moral principles though I am daily concerned about their safety I have faith in their judgment seeing children mature and start their path towards independence meant that my wife and I could at last have some

alone time once more for some Time I had been excited about this stage I pictured going home every evening to a loving wife who would concentrate on me and vice versa with both girls away at College I saw us picking back up our relationship and having Happy Days it resembled almost exactly being newlyweds once more we could have dinners out go to movies and plays and at last ReDiscover each other the way I had always wanted but reality turned out very differently than I had imagined to Be honest thinking back on that first year of

an empty nest I saw Karen changing her Hobbies seemed to be changing although the change was slow in time it became increasingly clear at first I saw these as her means of blossoming now our girls were no longer living with us but finally I came to see that her priorities and values were undergoing a major change English teacher Karen specializes in creative writing she is fairly speaking a Frustrated writer as well she never really had the opportunity to write as she desired being a teacher and young mother Karen writes during the summer and whenever she

could spare an hour or two but so far not much has come out of it she liked to compile rejection letters after sending her essays and short Tales to literary Publications her ideal magnificent Masterwork was never realized though as a writer she has never ventured Beyond predictable and Perhaps two theatrical Tales I will admit I enjoy reading her she has a romanticized view of what a writer should be and covertly I believe she is more drawn to the concept than the actual work still I happy too if she is happy Karen has belonged to several

writing clubs most of our marriage aiming to help each other's writing these are meetings of people who come together to offer comments ideas and conversations about their work while Some of these organizations seem to be more like clubs of mutual adoration others seem really useful to me her last group the one she belonged to when everything broke down contained components of both they alternated visiting each other's houses and during their encounters here I would try to give them privacy I tried once but stopped since Karen and a few others objected there are about 10 people

in Karen's present writing group Men as Well as women while some of them I could live without others I enjoy when you meet them half of them really are relatively average and the other half really stand out for example the lady Reggie is rather passionate in creating biographies and history she still manages to Captivate readers despite doing scholarly oriented book writing and serious research I have loved reading all of her Works Betty likes to write fantasy she tends more toward the Talking Unicorn type than I would have her as the next JK rolling she's nice

and her writing seems to be mostly for her own enjoyment who can dispute that bill takes on the groups know it all function apart from that he appears all good A bit of that goes a long way then Frank comes in the first time I saw him I felt scared ever since those alarms have kept ringing in my head it was very evident when I met Frank that I was being introduced to him rather than the Other way round examining me he asked so Andy what's your profession I looked at my wife she shook her

head and somewhat frowned I said simply I'm an engineer Frank gave no smile more of a smirk in reply though not precisely out of earshot I said I had given up trying to interact with their group and preferred to keep rather hidden and quiet until they forget I usually find myself in the Next Room silently working or on the rear porch with a window open so I could Hear their talk Frank seems to share private jokes and a connection that makes me uneasy when he talks to Karen early on I found he occasionally makes her

ego stronger and other times seems as though he understands her inner thoughts in a way I value less he mentions past talks that seem to be only between them and I get the sense that the rest of the group doesn't recall those times although it's only a feeling I have informed her I find it unpleasant She dismisses my worries and I know not to press the topic she knows my feelings the rest is up to her during its sessions the group performs a set ritual there session ends with some wine and relaxation it was during

this period that I came to see some of them were just acting it took place in the midst of the spring semester close to early March when the subject turned to the way actual writers lived oh you know all the eminent writers were alcoholics that's Right they drank in the afternoons and evenings and penned in the mornings it awakens the mind to Fresh Concepts and helps one to relax their creative ideas then start to flow in the mornings and they start writing actually the really great writers all went through love relationships that's the real inspiration

for them Frank was saying just that thanks for providing Frank I'm beginning to get your perspective Karen's words then really hit me like a Gut punch indeed exactly the real inspiration is found in the intensity and the thrill of the unknown that is in keeping it all secret from everyone else I persuaded myself it was only a joke as some of them laughed and others didn't still I listened in on their chat all through the evening maybe we should all have a wild night of passion sometime and then each write the Next Great American novel

Bill had that I wasn't sure if he meant it humoristic or not Not great writing comes from Character defects features like Humanity empathy and facing the riddles of the unknown really helped to create great stories I said before that Betty appealed to me memorable Tales are about conquering obstacles aiming for excellence in spite of all the odds and leaving the planet in a better condition than it was in before well perhaps if you conjure the right enchantment we can avoid all that hassle again that was that jackass Frank To their shame some in the group

seemed to find that humorous I had a hunch Reggie didn't either and I'm not quite sure Betty did they were debating writer drinking practices and Affairs and I kept listening without offering anything then I overheard a fascinating bit of their chat is anyone else planning to apply for the Illinois writer Workshop this Summer Frank was now speaking once more oh I turned in my application already keeping my fingers crossed will Help them to accept me six weeks of just writing and talking with other authors could truly change things for me this was Karen I had

never heard of her before Frank caught it up straight immediately I am sure they will welcome you your work has improved really dramatically this past year I think you will get admitted I've also applied I'm not as sure I'll be in though my own feeling of internal radar for stupidity was off Target Frank really when did you Start to get so modest though at this point I still loved and trusted usted my wife I didn't like what I was hearing trust is basic when you have been married for the length of time we have you

ask not is she up to no good not even Cross Your Head the idea your mate is your other half marriage is a partnership she has proved her dedication year after year all you really want is for her to discover the success and happiness she so deserves or At least that is what you think later on though everything falls apart when you find your confidence has been betrayed update one I let myself IGN the overheard exchange from that evening over time as I said I trusted my wife entirely some younger males might not understand it

but trust becomes a way of life rather than only a decision after being married for more than 20 years late April found me finishing some outside gardening when I decided to call It a day and head indoors reaching for the kitchen door I discovered my wife on the phone exclaiming I can't wait six whole weeks without any responsibilities no commitments and no one waiting for me to get back at the last bit I started to per I stopped in front of her and listened absolutely those 6 weeks will be the most self-indulgent of my life

I owe it to myself you two owe it to yourself not one of these appealed to me I walked Through the kitchen opening the door Karen appeared shocked well I have to Sprint AB is here and I have to start cooking dinner she grabbed fast I said who was that on the phone oh just Regina we were discussing the shortly closing of schools like heck it was I said I wanted to probe her about some of her remarks particularly one about no one waiting for me to come home but I realized that tonight the truth

might be in scarce Supply though I tried to hide It for the moment my attitude worsened dinner later that evening the other shoe dropped AB the amazing news I got today will not surprise you recall that Illinois writer workshop for which you applied come on you hardly pay attention to me to be honest I had heard about the workshop before but that was only because I had overheard her talking about it over a month ago I don't remember you stressing it sure I did I applied for a six-week workshop for Authors at the University of

Illinois it falls mid June through Late July their lecturers give lectures they also bring in eminent authors for seminars and debate forums we then get rather busy writing I was accepted and this is an amazing chance that sounds excellent honey we could certainly handle it financially perhaps I might join you and take a little time off from work I would really enjoy eny listening to those authors speak her response appeared odd Well we can think about it I won't have much free time to spend with you over the very demanding 6 weeks my gut was

tingling once more well you know I'm not exacting I could be the group's coffee guy she gave a really tense smile that may be lovely darling let us monitor things such deflections have come from both sides I knew what they meant she was making sure I wouldn't wind up traveling to Illinois with her I I get the sense you would rather I didn't go With you oh no it is not like that I merely worry you might find it boring you're into computers and circuits and this is basically writers discussing major Concepts I kept that

to myself back off I thought when I was being excluded I knew I said ending the discussion I'm sure you'll Excel after Karen retired to bed later that evening I checked our phone records online ad& provides that capability all incoming and outgoing calls as well as text Messaging are logged when I looked over the phone log the call I had cut off wasn't with Reggie or if it was Frank's phone started it when you find your wife lying and learning she has plans to exclude you it's amazing how quickly trust can fall apart after a

quarter Century of marriage weeks went by and she appeared fixated on the workshop's talks she rejected the idea every time I tried several times to talk about maybe visiting at some time or going with her She next moved from rationalizing to manipulating AB I have some interesting news late June saw me get you and Jake two passes to a fishing camp in Northern Canada you can take Jake and both of you will love fishing for those large brown fish you constantly mention although it was very costly I wanted to show thanks for your understanding of

the writer's workshop and I felt a little bad since you wouldn't be having fun hence I want You to go and have a fantastic time we may then discuss our experiences when I get back something didn't seem right thanks sweetheart that shows consideration of you to be honest I I would enjoy your company more AB we have seen this simply said it makes no sense I will be working all through I would feel guilty ignoring you in such a manner I looked at her face and eyes momentarily trying to make sense of it was it

contempt thanks honey Canada Seems entertaining my voice was devoid of energy I was mentally organizing my choices a surprise trip to Illinois took the front stage well you could at least say it while grinning those tickets cost a lot of money so you should be glad sure sounds fantastic to Tinker for the evening I descended to the basement our ancient house had one of those floor grates in the corridor originally the first floor was heated by it allowing warm air to pass from the furnace room I First made a point not to step on it

inadvertently but with time I grew used to it and forgot about its existence there is also the phone in the hall I was quietly working in the basement thinking about what to do when I heard Karen on a call yes I handed him the p asses he remains unsure I keep telling him he won't love it I'm not sure exactly no I cannot merely advise him against showing up I want it too but I also want to stay married later on I Simply need him to allow me some time to enjoy myself over a few

weeks I have earned it I am due I do want those weeks with you as well all fine let us wait a while I believe he will show up all right darling I miss you too for me tonight write something outstanding she cut off the call with that I got a lump in my throat I'm not naive I hear cheating and know it's not good Karen either was thinking about or in an affair anything less and she would still Have a lot of work to do explaining it took me 20 minutes to collect my ideas

but I decided that for now I had to start acting like the kind of liar I've always hated at least for the moment I had to hide my goals until I had a strategy in a very loving voice I said Karen I'm heading over to see Jake and give him the good news as I phoned up upstairs oh that's fantastic darling enjoy she said and I was out the basement door exactly like that I Required distance seeing Jake was only a pretext thinking about it I knew I needed someone to confide in and Jake had

been my closest buddy from early life you're kidding me Jake responded not dodging around the issue no way I won't buy it she would never turn on UAB well she's certainly working hard to keep me away from that workshop and she's calling someone baby and it's it's definitely not me we merely sat there silent most men want from a friend Simply sitting with them and sharing the suffering you have to talk to her about this AB assuming the worst without knowledge of the truth will not help you through the next few months and what is

she likely to say when I review the phone records tonight how much would you want to wager that Frank was not the one she spoke with Frank she called baby and Frank she's plotting with wasn't Frank I am not laying that bet what then is your intended course of action I'm going Going to grab a seat and have a Frank conversation after 25 years of marriage that's what you do I'll tell her I love her let her know I'm offended she doesn't want me to travel with her and I'll ask her straightforwardly what she's up

to that she doesn't want me there do you suppose she would tell you the truth no but I'll tell her the truth even if some of it isn't what she wants to hear she'll know how much I love her she will understand that cheating on me Will destroy our relationship she will then most likely try to persuade me that I should simply go fishing since I seeing things I stopped just for a moment by the way one ticket is for you I have two for a fishing camp in Northern Canada in late June nice Jake

said catching himself I mean friend here I am to help you I laughed a little bit I have always known exactly where his Allegiance resides before I left for home we spoke exchanged ideas and drank A few beers for 3 hours I opened up about practically everything after dinner asking Karen to come sit with me in the living room I pushed back a few things sweetheart I have some quite major worries about the writer's Workshop I don't think youve been quite open with me you mentioned it to me only once you had already scheduled a

trip even though I overheard you talking about it with your writer group back in March I have to admit I Didn't find it funny when you mentioned how common Affairs are among brilliant authors Frank and you have been talking about your vacation but when I ask you lie and say it's someone else you know how I feel about that guy then when you told me you were accepted you seemed deliberately aloof and discouraged me from participating though I am not here I wanted to partake in this fascinating trip with you rather than thinking about it

you set plans for me to be somewhere Else without even talking to me just committing on my behalf you seem to be attempting to make sure I won't be around when you're in Illinois you haven't been quite honest with me hence I'm beginning to wonder if you have been entirely loyal AB I would never be dishonest with you and I have never treated you that way what has drawn you in being your husband all I want is for you to have fun that you could believe something like that about me truly hurts I have no

control over my emotions or what sets things off you know I love you since our first meeting I have loved you nevertheless I cannot just ignore the concept of treachery are you hoping for that Karen is this writer's Workshop your Haven from our marriage update 2 our dialogue came to an end with that not more loving or sympathetic conversation she started screaming and spent the remainder of the evening either shouting or silently and for the Next week it was silent she was trying to get me to turn back down by applying the silence treatment thereby

punishing me it did not work though actually it reinforced my belief solely but I knew I wasn't moving in this direction and finally I let her think she had achieved success not much I could do to stop her from cheating if she intended to do so the phone call I listened in on even hinted she might have done it already I finally thanked her for the vacation to Canada but my attitude stayed dark until the trip was finished she changed her attitude fast and behaved like a devoted wife to support the behavior she wanted from

me once she had what she wanted she seemed to flick a switch which just made me more suspicious when I am the recipient of manipulation I know it is happening I asked a colleague who he consulted when he suspected his wife of cheating the Illinois Writers Workshop was just 500 M away and I knew none There I took his advice and the person he suggested was Illinois based I contacted them asking for help the fact that the session occurred on a State University campus made its location favorable although they couldn't take part in the program

the Pi's agents could roam the campus and monitor the rooms as needed the participants would eat in the University cafeterias go to nearby clubs and share a big dorm with other students this gave room for covert Monitoring with modern tools some of these kids would actually be working for me our daughters decided to stay in their colleges for the summer to work in research Labs under their professors as the school year was drawing to a conclusion we were still empty nesters then I deliberately tried to invite her to dinners made at home and show her

around she appeared to be enjoying everything hence I began to think I was improving but every time I told her I Loved her I felt her dismissive I know attitude the fragments of the puzzle came together gradually she had merely taken me for granted not sto loving me I knew her safety net was consistent and familiar she knew she could go away find Thrills break off our marriage and I would would be waiting when she got back this Insight brought my ideas into line I knew I couldn't leave things unanswered the day she left her

shuttle for the airport came as we stood close To the door I begged and said please don't do anything that could ruin us tightly gripping her she flashed me an annoyed glance in answer and retorted I'm tired of you not trusting me we will have a major discussion about this when I get back she snatched her luggage kissed me quickly on the cheek and hurried for the shuttle she left without ever looking back at me I sensed then that my marriage was about to end after 25 years and our two grown kids it Seemed our

relationship was going away with little notice the private investigator did his work really well he said they were in an unfamiliar area so they didn't bother covering their axe Karen has to have taken off her wedding bands on the plane since they vanished off her finger when she arrived at the studio she claimed freely to be newly divorced and Frank and my wife started to be Inseparable right away they were together all the time kissing holding Hands and behaving as passionate high school students would have my Pi cleverly set a tiny video camera in their

dorm hallway Karen and Frank only used one of their designated rooms although each had one sometimes her chamber sometimes his but always they stayed late together although I knew what was happening in those shared dorm rooms my pi and his crew went to considerable measures to verify my suspicions Frank and my wife left early One evening before it was dark two agents looking like normal college students sat against the corridor wall and surreptitiously slipped a tiny fisheye camera under the door Frank was seen in action for 20 minutes using this gadget the video quality was

shockingly clear and he clearly hadn't used protection when he finished that for me was the last straw I was clearly done with this marriage anything else the team found served only as more proof to Support my position regular updates from my private investigator kept me informed but after that first week her future was obvious and my decision was taken beginning the early days of her Workshop I spent time implementing my plan I wanted to be virtually invisible almost ghostly I would have vanished and there would be no turning back no falsehoods no ultimatums no protracted

negotiations explanations justifications or attempts at reconciliation when she got back the Sole outcome would be divorce my marriage was about to fall apart though it does not fade fast what is love without trust an Unfaithful wife cannot Define a future some could contend that my answer was weak they could advise she deserves horrible humiliation physical punishment and total poverty ultimately though the law would forbid me from pursuing any of that and I had no intention of ruining the rest of my life by seeking such cruel revenge on my Adulterous Wife and Her Lover eliminating the

one thing she always depended on the consistent presence that comforted encouraged uplifted and inspired her would be my payback I was walking away from myself Frank lacked suitability for a catch long term he was unable to meet her needs where would a 50-year-old divorced mother find emotional stability and love I not give a damn she no longer would be of interest to me my private Investigator would bring me more images recordings and proof of treachery by the person who promised me Allegiance Above All Else every few days the pictures and videos and the reports were

very upsetting to view the reports themselves were challenging to read especially when they covered me the audio recordings were the toughest to handle he is always emailing me about the fish he is catching and how incredible it is up there nearly every day he thanks me she Laughs Frank joined in the Laughing HEK clueless you escape from his irritation by keeping him in the dark and treating him like a mushroom he could as well have fun right now I'll face that geek about his charges when I get back how dare he continually charge me of

cheating but you momentarily straying from our marriage correct beautiful alternatively is another woman sleeping next night on my bed she laughed at that really well I won't put up with that Even if he may be on to something damn it I'm a writer his circuits and computer lingo are holding me back with their millimeters and micro thingamajigs about huge ideas what does he know update three as long as my existence stayed linked to hers none of the several ways I considered for Retribution would really satisfy me one decision remained and I started the process of

separating from her I explained everything honestly to my Supervisor having gone through something like this personally not so long ago he could appreciate it he set up a transfer for me to show up at Portland Maine our corporate office I thought the concept was interesting I knew the folks there were professional competent and I like their company I found attractions in the town and the state as well to get half of the furniture and all of my personal stuff up north I booked movers I checked that my automobile was in good condition For the trip

then spoke with a lawyer to start the divorce process regarding money problems Karen had a retirement account and her own insurance I made my daughters the beneficiaries and deleted her name from every one of my possessions for no alimony I signed a quit claim deed turning the house over to her she would keep her automobile but have to deal with her own insurance keeping my plans understated I intended to handle credit cards and bank accounts Closer to the Finish from that point ahead I concentrated on strengthening my will I meant to call her to show

my love and to find out how the workshop was going hearing her lies would help me to get more convinced that my behavior was justified she didn't let down anyone she reacted with fervor said her love and went out to dinner in less than 2 minutes later on my private investigator told me Frank was right next to her mocking gestures and knowing glances Which just confirmed my choice she clearly saw the matter as a joke which validated my direction in life later on I decided to text her instead of calling since I wasn't sure I

could control my feelings over the phone though in reality I sent Jake and his wife on such vacations I would tell her about great fishing excursions they enjoyed themselves thoroughly regarding his marriage Jake made a smart decision they promised to see me and I did pay them a Farewell visit before I left her six- week Workshop was ending and I finished my last assignments I put a for sale sign from a buddy who works as a real estate agent in the front yard she was ignorant of that aspect but I couldn't really sell the house

without her permission especially since I had already transferred ownership to her her first sight Upon returning home would be the sign to help the house seem less like a house I changed the locks I Created a copy of the Pi's report and chose specific pictures from her trip including graphic stills from the video shot taken under Frank's door to let her know she had been found out I left all of this on the dining room table the movers had already relocated most of my stuff they would keep it until I needed it I packed just

two pieces of luggage a briefcase a laptop and a guitar I absolutely had to have my guitar something so valuable could not be Trusted to anybody else Frank could be engaged with my wife but I loved my guitar very much knowing she wouldn't be back until late that evening my first thought was to leave the next morning I would be long gone when she showed up but the evening before I changed my mind she could only wait and worry I wanted her to feel the suffering right away along with the words divorce you I divorce

you I divorce you I emailed her three well selected pictures of her with Frank I chose one picture when they were almost close on the Dance Floor obviously revealing she wasn't sporting her engagement in wedding Rings the second picture caught them holding hands as they entered his dorm room the third was a crisp face clear screenshot from the dorm room footage she would see these pictures and I hoped it would ruin her last beautiful night with Frank as they furiously looked for cameras that had already been taken down then I Turned off my phone leaving

the house our family had lived in for many years was a mix of grief uncertainty and newly acquired Independence all at once it seemed like the most difficult uncertain and freeing event of my life my wife basically disappeared for my life though I hadn't personally caused it it seemed as though she had died not knowing the when or the why the woman looking like my wife was someone I knew nothing about and I wanted no contact with I was Starting over and had no idea where I might be headed among the great loss there was

an unusual sense of emancipation if only momentarily the weight of dishonesty treachery and belittlement was offloaded from my shoulders the sole expense was half of my life now unreachable late but my mind was racing so I drove almost 100 miles down the peaceful Highway lost in contemplation till I came to a hotel for the evening I was hoping for a real Local breakfast restaurant not for a chain Motel I searched for something real I eventually found it and enjoyed what might be my final dish of grits for some time my perspective changed and I started

to rethink my path to Maine as I ate those grits this signaled the beginning of my new life and I had a long journey ahead I had a two-e window before employment began so even if I could speed up my trip to Maine fleeing my troubles why accelerate I needed time To gather my ideas process her treachery and let the past go I decided to go gradually enjoying the landscape on my northward drive and interacting with every state and its people as I passed through my old life would give way to my new one this

week to be ready for a fresh start and clear myself of the ugly and blunders of my past I meant to nurture my senses including my taste buds wandering about Williamsburg among the summer throngs the rest of the day Was lost I investigated the ilities of talented Craftsmen and artists I found somewhere to stay even though I had no reservation my thoughts returned to my failing marriage only after a small dinner and settling in for the evening she was probably going home about that time seeing the for sale sign on the front yard and knowing

her keys wouldn't open the door I wondered how she would respond I traveled North along the winding roads toward Annapolis Maryland's capital the following day along Virginia's ancestral Rivers the York rapan and pomac which go into the Chesapeake Bay I passed through little Villages and old Estates ahead there was one road stretch headed toward my destiny I would follow that Meandering road which led me from betrayal to a new chapter in my life update four at last turned on my cell phone I sat in my hotel room in downtown Annapolis it was predictably full with

many missed calls Emails and text messages a few came from Friends most of them came from Karen despite it being difficult I read and listened to every one of them that was a step that was was absolutely vital indeed Karen was trying to persuade me that things were not as they seemed At first she sent those texts from Illinois before going back home then saw the remainder of the pictures and perused the Pi's report my pals were letting me know meanwhile that Karen was trying to Find me by contacting everyone she was looking in all

the wrong places little knowing it although Jake and his wife knew I decided to deliberately keep the rest in the dark once I had been established I would let them know I knew immediately that I could not spend eternity ghostly two calls from my girls started to worry me Karen had gotten in touch with them trying to track me as I wanted to do it in person I had deliberately not notified them about my Choice to leave their mother I gently explained the matter to my daughters though since I cannot let them worry their mother

could do such a thing which infuriated them and made it difficult for them to believe for this reason I emailed them The Identical images I had shown Karen the evening I left home together with the Pi's report they promised then not to tell their mother about my activities one more missed call my attorney told me Karen had been Formally served with divorce papers she knew now that I intended business Frank's wife had also got a whole set of pictures films and audio recordings from his six-week program for Frank that was a Karma dosage driving over

northern Maryland on the third day of my trip I eventually arrived at New Jersey well not exactly with much enthusiasm I entered New Jersey but stopped just before I arrived in Connecticut once in Connecticut I spent several hours Investigating some Coastal historic towns though I had no particular objective the architecture was so different from what I was accustomed to in North Carolina that I felt a strong sensation of being in a new place both physically and emotionally and avoided telling the authorities but I spent an hour in grot and looking for as many submarines as

I could those black fish are quite stealth looking along the coast I was reminded that those nuclear Submarines cut a hole in the hall to refuel the reactor and subsequently weld the hall back together was that another way to describe my circumstances could the first step in rejuvenating my life be Karen's treachery which ripped a hole in my heart once I started down A New Path could I heal myself the next day when I got up I knew it would be the toughest day thus far following a filling breakfast of eggs bacon bread and a

robust cup of black coffee I Prepared myself for a challenging chat with my eldest daughter Claire at Brown the drive there took little time and I was at her dorm about late morning we agreed to postpone our talk a little so she could act happy for an hour or two she showed me around the university then brought me to the cafeteria where she met her friends these were exactly the kind of young men and women I had hoped she would surround herself with friendly attentive and apparently supportive I Pulled cla's roommate aside on our way

out and told her Clare had a difficult day she was supposed to watch my daughter of sure Mr Baker she said she shared it with us last night here Among Us are all her supporters yes my daughter had made sensible friend choices Claire and I stayed in her dorm room talking for hours I showed her pictures and played audio recordings I never would have imagined to expose to one of my kids her feelings swung from Grief to rage mom would do that is beyond unbelievable is she the same person who raised us at all she

has become what kind of nasty person though I could relate to her at that moment I had to step in Claire is your mother whatever she does and keep in mind that I not you she has betrayed sorry Dad but she broke my sole family I am definitely affected by this I couldn't contradict that we kept talking all afternoon and I showed her my ideas I urged her to get Her friends together and we had dinner at the greatest restaurant in town or at least the one within my means everyone seems to have delighted in

a departure from the standard dining hall Cuisine I related Tales of my own College eating experiences and I believe it helped them to see their own circumstances in a fresh Light that night I remained at a nearby Hotel the next morning I had breakfast with Clare hugged her tearfully and then traveled North to Repeat the procedure Clare has to have told Denise as her response was far more under control than that of her older sister though less astonished there remained dissatisfaction and resentment she asked to view the supporting materials I showed her her mother called

coincidentally as we were chatting and I sent her the universal sign for no I'm not here I shook my head waved wildly and copied a throat cutting action she knew Denise was always the family's more Level-headed member she then accomplished something I had never seen before she said Dad phoned yesterday night did he not is it true you have evolved into a lady who lies about cheating on her husband and engages in multiple partner involvement I stunned myself though at the same time I couldn't dispute the truth in her remarks I wanted to chastise her

for talking to her mother like that you heard mom you stayed 6 weeks helping Someone else while Dad was alone at home mom was it well worth it was it worth going without your spouse really my daughter uses words rather brilliantly note to self stay off her negative side not much more ground to cover Denise told me that although her mother was primarily in tears and trying to provide apologies my daughter was not buying any of it not far from the University I later brought Denise and her companions to a Thai restaurant named The Elephant

Walk like her sister Denise had selected her friends deliberately and dinner was a nice Gathering one of her friends stated Mr Baker Denise told us about what you're going through on our way back to campus last night she was rather agitated we helped her perhaps you could come back here and we will treat you to the cafeteria that made the group giggle I mean really maybe we can find a better place than that this set off more Chuckles and we laughed all the way back to her dorm after finding a place to rest for the

evening I had breakfast with my daughter in the morning and on the seventh day of my trip I kept on going northward I left Boston and arrived barely 2 hours south of Portland my priorities now were my girls rather than my soon to be ex-wife I couldn't be prouder of them they were becoming strong moral young women I came to see they would negotiate the approaching Divorce more skillfully than I had imagined leaving these two incredible Jewels behind with no idea of when I will see them again presented a struggle on this day as it

happens my concerns were unfounded not ready to face the realities of beginning my new life just yet so when I arrived at Portsmouth New Hampshire I turned West and headed for the presidential range and the White Mountains I arrived in the white mountains and ascended Mount Washington Via the Cog Railway feeling the chilly Arctic winds that seemed out of place in the early days of August I finally sensed a rebirth inside myself as I stood there gazing across the breath to the Lesser peaks of the White Mountains and surveyed the Lush pine trees below though

alone at least I was tall I had changed shedding the obligations and regrets of my previous existence I was then ready to welcome the fresh chapter and all its possibilities standing on Higher Ground I was ready to start a different trip everything I could have wanted was ahead I placed a real maple syrup topped pancake order the next morning right now I was in maple syrup country years to come would find me in the same surroundings restless and ready I got back into my car and headed for Portland arriving in the middle of the afternoon

I chose to follow up with my new manager to let them know I'd arrived about half of the office Personnel knew Me already so I was greeted warmly it was comforting those were the first happy straightforward faces I had seen in a week Henry my new manager got the staff assembled for introductions I took a brief tour of the company but not before everyone decided where we would all eat dinner I thought it would be a downtown restaurant but to my astonishment we found ourselves grilling steaks in Henry's place with all the accompaniments though I

should have Savored lobster in Maine there was no hurry for it this was more about getting back into society and savoring some really delicious steaks and quite exceptional local beer they asked about my story what was a guy from the south doing uprooting his life and moving to Maine at this point I thereafter told my story I left off the graphic elements but gave enough for them to grasp I might get a bit short-tempered in the next few weeks I Said at closing though I have a lot to process it is not my usual attitude

if I act out perhaps you would call me out and advise me to chill off now and then I could use some mild push back every man put his arm around my shoulder Every Woman present unexpectedly gave me a peck on the cheek all they said AB was we're here for you all they need needed to say later that evening I turned on my cell phone once more after getting inside my hotel room one of each of my Daughters had sent encouraging notes I had gotten perhaps eight or 10 extra texts from the young men

and women who love the dinner and wanted me to know they would be there for my girls so they must have shared my number with their friends those young people are really amazing many friends kept reaching out so I decided to get in touch with all of them and explain the circumstances so they can stop worrying I kept my whereabouts secret that would come later I just explained why I had left though at first they were reluctant to believe it I sent them the same three pictures I had sent Karen and told them I had

even more damning evidence should they require more proof I considered it but really I couldn't think of one way to keep her from making her own decisions let the truth out in due course I had tried and it had not worked every one of them sent me loving notes and encouragement I told them I would keep In touch my ideas of becoming a ghost were clearly wishful thinking too many people cared about me and that is undoubtedly a good thing I listened to the missed calls while reading over Karen's last text messages she came clean

eventually and admitted although her confession was laced with odd outbursts of Wrath she found me one way or another responsible for her behavior and for all that had happened that is simply ludicrous I texted her saying I Would call her about noon the next day it has to happen sooner or later let's say the talk was not at all fulfilling she moved from denal to remorse to blame she apologized over her Frank had great influence her suffocating me was a result I worked too much hence I was at fault she even dared to assert that

between them they were merely playing about nothing major happened when she tried to persuade me she was merely looking for her creative inspiration I Almost started laughing she even accused me of turning our girls against her as if her own behavior hadn't achieved that without my help when she finally stopped talking I laid it out for her quite simply she had plotted with Frank to turn on me fought my attempts to mend our relationship carried out the Betrayal and now she was dealing with Fallout the wise lost importance to me now she was still begging

her case and sobbing when I hung up I was finished With her not turning back I Knew Too Much conveniently near the office I found a basic but Pleasant two-bedroom apartment in an older building originally considering it as a temporary situation I believed I could utilize the walking exercise but soon changed my viewpoint living simply in town avoiding the added chores that come with owning a house and having a little Coastal cottage for weekends sounded like a wonderful idea then I considered why I Should stop at a cottage my Seaside Escape may be a yacht

I purchase kept parked in the harbor early October arrived by the time I worked through all of this though I had intended to live alone it has not turned out that way actually I spend more time with my daughters right now than I did in Raleigh every month they arrange a weekend trip usually accompanied by friends my apartment is alive during those 36 hours and I generally treat Them to dinner though I miss them right way I do yearn for the silence once they are gone a handful of my friends have visited and the others

intend to visit when the weather is better surprisingly though I live alone I am not lonely along with all my travels I have acquired new Pals at work the Sailing Community is vibrant and welcoming I have met interesting women I will however keep polite and well-mannered until the divorce is official Karen Still gets in touch with me even if the divorce will be formal soon she would rather minimize the circumstances and never really Stone she says simply everyone does it it has no significance at all it does though the intimacy has weight hence the dishonesty

and manipulation are much more important though people evolve and I no longer see the use in conveying this to her to be honest my life is not quite apart from hers complete Dissociation is not likely given two daughters and numerous Mutual connections still I no longer live with the everyday suffering of rejection and betrayal 600 mil separating us up until I was no longer living in hers she was the focal point of my life I am now building my own future and walking my own Road a number of favorable results came from the circumstance to

start with I actually adore living up here though it's a bit of a shock I'm experiencing My first main winner if others can do it so can I early darkness in this area actually makes indoor events seem Cozier and more brilliant I'm excited about spring when I can work on splicing lines and applying varnish because I started looking for a boat and Came Upon a spot with Moorings not too far from town the people are real the micro breweries are excellent and the neighborhood restaurants are decent there is a range of Music dances to learn

like Contra Dancing and I'm still finding surprises after all I think life will go out for me is my heart at last healed not yet but I have hope for the better life that is ahead since time has a way of curing hurts oh and as a side note Frank's wife appears to be as traditional as I am she divorced him and kicked him out the house even worse is what is involved here Frank and Karen are still unpublished wife had an affair with my stepfather to steal the million dooll Mansion but little did she

know it was mine married 7 years to Kia 38f I am 38m with our share of ups and downs our relationship has been really normal the Downs largely resulted from my wife's belief I was overly close to my mother she did call me a mama's boy since my mother passed away 2 years ago I am not going to defend it now as she is no longer ER living I'm happy I could love her the way she deserved she had raised me alone and even Beyond her means given Me the finest of everything until she met

Andrew 10 years ago my mother was a single parent to me Andrew married my mother in early 50s having recently gone through divorce I'm not sure what Andrew's mother saw that caused her to wet him after two decades of single life Andrew vanished from me when Mom was still around twice a week I used to see her but my interactions with Andrew limited themselves to polite salutations and a smile though I never showed mom I Simply couldn't accept him as a father figure and don't know why she finding a friend in her last days of

Life made me glad Andrew vanished from my life and there was no doubt about his existence though he was still living at my mom's house I never even visited him following her funeral when I saw him seated with my wife his arm encircling hers I started to worry about him that was not an elderly or friendly hug their body language bothered me or more accurately Their chemistry our familial Dynamics made it strange as well like I indicated Chia was not near my stepdad and I was never close to him either for me then seeing such

ease between them was somewhat awkward I was driving while they were seated in a Roadside Cafe early that day I had left the office to meet an old buddy usually I avoid visiting the region where I saw them it is far from both my house and even my office I went to see a friend but I was Mostly preoccupied my friend persisted in asking whether something was bothering me but I simp said it was related to approaching work how could I share with him what I observed on my way when I got home I addressed

Tia straightforwardly telling her I saw her with Andrew without thinking she became pale and lost speech yeah I met him for lunch she remarked afterwards she claimed she bumped into him when I asked her why all of a sudden and then he Offered to have lunch with her she sensed from my staring at her that I had seen something I shouldn't have she responded your stepdad was quite offended over losing your mother I set out to come him Lonesome and without someone to chat to the poor elderly man held my hands hence he could communicate

his loss you see I left out telling her I watched him crutching her hands he was putting his arms around her and the way they were speaking didn't seem like he Was depressed or at a loss for my mother though they were not laughing their body language was flirty though I said nothing I bought her excuse before any more confrontation I chose to look into the problem personally Chia Works weekends and is off during weekdays since she is a nail artist in a beauty salon not a matter of concern between us until lately we used

to argue over Kia not allowing time for our relationship when she used to be overly consumed with Her profession she insisted that following the death of her mother I was acting needy she added that I used to visit my mom two times a week earlier hence she's absence didn't really disturb me but she was mistaken on weekends I used to see my mother although Chia had work on her off days I always made sure I got back home promptly to spend time with her she used to fight about me being a mama's boy but now

she was claiming I was hungry I Became even more enraged seeing her with my stepdad while all this was happening a few weeks later Thanksgiving arrived yes I am referring to last Thanksgiving that just passed and she demanded that we extend an invitation to Andrew her straight recommendation caught me off guard Andrew was living alone and had no one she stated hence as extended family we should welcome him she answered yeah because they had each other to celebrate with and now that poor old man is alone When I told her she never invited them when

my mom was alive in the end I gave in really I wanted to observe their behavior toward me though I now knew the truth I wouldn't say they behaved normally rather they did nothing odd I would not have noticed anything if I did not know the truth for much of it I was quiet I never liked him thus my suspicions made me even more resentful of his presence I felt he also realized I didn't enjoy it it was a strange Supper overall CIA tried to break the quiet with some pointless subjects only to elicit false

grins from both of us eating silently I decided to plot since it was getting hard for me to live with a heavy heart though it was locked I considered looking at her phone but decided against it I did not to alert her and ask her for the password I then developed still another strategy I informed cheer I would be working out of town for many Days I left early on the intended day and headed to my office as normal but before that I had fitted a GPS device in ch's car and was monitoring it from

distance she drove Andrew to his house just before lunchtime I wanted to catch her red-handed but I worried I would appear like an idiot if I showed up and they were just sitting and talking I approached My Pal Keith for assistance I urged him to see Andrew and shared my misgivings it was a safe strategy I Advised him to document any unusual findings the house lock was password encrypted hence I was expecting Andrew hadn't updated the pin I advised Keith to tell Andrew the front door was open and he was simply checking on him as

he was concerned Andrew could accuse him of sneaking in there was a little tunnel instead of the main door leading straight into the living room nobody would find him unlocking the door suspicious he agreed following a Persuasive argument he entered but searched the corridor for them nowhere then he peeped in the bedroom while running his phone camera on he had kept the phone in his shirt pocket with the camera sticking out to avoid suspicion the two were embracing each other without cloes he noted before one of them knew what had happened he swiftly started to

cry sorry and left the house following him Outdoors Andrew asked what he was doing there Keith said he was Only checking on him but it's good he would come later before any conflict with Andrew or kia he sat inside his car and headed off but my guy is really dumb he had the front camera open the entire time hence nothing was captured save Andrew and Shia screaming at Keith's unexpected presence still I received the required confirming evidence before leaving the house that day I had already packed two sets of clothes in my toiletries therefore I

headed to Keith's Place he urged me to stay with him until all this was settled since his wife was out of town at her parents place she is aware Keith would have shown me the truth she messaged me wondering when I would get home I responded not I did Ghost her yes thinking I'm out of town for work she has been bombb bashing my phone with countless texts and calls four days ago this took place since I never want to see her face ever again I have virtually contacted a lawyer I will Get her kicked

from my residence and serve her divorce paperwork update 1 the attorney sent the divorce paperwork 10 days later CIA wanted a talk and was simply not ready to sign them if at all possible my attorney advised we pursue an out-of Court settlement since it would drastically cut time and expenses see I work a consistent regular job as a salesperson I only have so much leave to go to court hearings and a limited budget for lawyers I agreed to meet in The presence of the lawyer cha persisted in a private talk with me though even as

I headed for the appointment appointment I objected but thus long as I didn't say or promise anything she demanded my attorney urged me to go for it he set rigorous rules no hugging no touching and no confessing her presence made me sick I shoved her away as she tried to hug me she claimed everything was a misinterpretation reading so many cheating stories on Reddit helped me to Know exactly what all cheaters say I answered yeah certainly you were really attempting to assist an elderly poor man from his loneliness right she said it was merely snuggling

and nothing else but she acknowledged whatever Keith saw was accurate and she wasn't trying to dispute anything of course hugging naked is quite natural but what she said next really made sense she claimed she acted to protect our future really how exactly she said your mother bequeathed all her Riches to Andrew should he wed someone else that woman would be entitled to it the property belonging to your family would go to someone else you slept with my stepdad I continued for this reason you may become my stepmother and inherit the fortune of My Mother Does

this family Dynamic show any complexity herbs made me light-headed hence I hurried out of the conference Hall my attorney asked for specifics of the conversation when I returned I gave him all I could though He cracked up momentarily he was actually curious about the inheritance my mother left mom had left behind a house her uncle had left behind Way Beyond my means it was a large mansion fascinatingly Chia always kept her eye on that Mansion she even insisted on us moving into the Mansion following our marriage though Chia wanted her mother to move out to

my apartment while we were occupying her Mansion I was glad she wanted to live with her I denied it She lived here why should she leave you're the only son of your mother thus that house would come to you Kia stated why not immediately move in there this caused many of our arguments I lied to her one day telling her mom had willed that house to Andrew and you see the cost I paid for my lie K pursued my stepdad in order to own the house Kia also lacked knowledge of one other bit of information

I neglected to name myself as the owner of the House when Mom passed away Andrew wanted to live there till he felt so otherwise transferring it to my name would be like he were residing on my land and I'm sure he wouldn't like that the name transfer is costly as well so I let it be as I was short on money at the time I'm also happy I didn't transfer it since CA would have been entitled to half of the house following our divorce alter L if such had been the case she might not have

slept with Andrew not known still In any context a cheater is always a cheater indeed she was unaware that my mother had willed the house to me sh urged me to rethink the divorce she claimed she could entice Andrew to offer her the house and should I not divorce her the Mansion would be ours laughing at her suggestion I answered no thank you for the offer luck with your Mansion smoking she continued you're losing a lot with this divorce great inning I answered I don't give a if asterisk CK I Don't know whether she was

truly that stupid or was trying to spare herself from the humiliation nevertheless it makes no difference except for the Savings in our joint account which we divided she understood I had no significant Fortune after the divorce was official I felt rather relieved Kia would never have split with me at any point if she had come clean about the mansion's ownership and I cannot pass on that wretch my mom's inheritance CIA Buried her own grave by revealing her motivation for dating Andrew and I was going to use that against her to send Andrew away from her

life during our divorce I watched Andrew picking her up from Court helping her with all legal issues I was just waiting for the divorce to pass in order to witness her reaction and break her bubble having done it I'm going to destroy Kia next update two I sent Andrew the specifics of Kia's confession once my divorce was Official you know that your mom will give you the Mansion right he answered yes I have her will I responded but Chia doesn't know she's going to ask you to give her the Mansion revealing the truth was not

doing him any favors all I wanted was to bust caya's bubble the underprivileged girl had been fantasizing of owning my mother's property Andrew informed me Cay had lately been subtly questioning him about his will and who would get his legacy But he never understood her intentions since he lacked any wealth to mention I stopped the conversation at that since I wanted know bro code with Andrew I finally got a call from Shia usually I would not have responded but this time I did since I understood OD what it was about from the other line she

was screaming why did you not tell me your mother wied the house to you UF asterisk King destroyed me instead I was practically guarding your property by Licking the ass of this old man her insults were coming from a place of hurt hence I was merely laughing at them I said thanks so much good luck with your gold digging approach I hung up the call and blocked her then she contacted me once more from an unidentified number a few days later perhaps from the phone of a friend or coworker Andrew had split from her she

told me he discovered she was with him only for inheritance somehow and he dumped her since the Truth surfaced he regarded her as avaricious Andrew turned against her even though she maintained she was helping him deal with loneliness her truth had already come out so I wonder why she was still trying to pass being a devout woman I answered cynically yes you have slept with everyone selflessly only for the sake of others you hardly have any underlying intentions at all she said she was dating Andrew for my benefit to get the mansion for me now

She said she was merely trying to support Andrew through grief and loneliness indeed she possessed a really clean soul she persisted there as well she made every effort to reach and attack me sometimes begging other times gaslighting me to get back together she showed up to my residence my workplace and even some frequent public venues I visited unbelievably she even tried to Corner me for a talk when she visited my gym though I disregarded her as though She were a stranger to me it was a hell of a nightmare technically she was a stranger since

our divorce was done update three though my history returned as soon as I moved the mansion's ownership to my name I felt this story was finished God knows what her house Obsession was about who wouldn't want a million-dollar residence to their name really I'm not sure though how long it would take her to come to terms with reality 6 months into my divorce I made The decision to change the name of the Mansion I hadn't done it before as I indicated earlier as I lacked the savings for the ownership change I could save for the

transfer in four to 5 months now that I was separated and my spending had dropped significantly I told Andrew about it before I applied for the transfer once I learned about his affair with Kia he was no longer residing in the house I asked him not to leave but he answered that he would Remove his last items from the house and he did he assigned me house administrative duties including Locking System maintenance the documentation did not arrive for a few months I had the house painted in the meantime I had those cleaned as the pool

and the grass hadn't been maintained for a long time I had no touch with cha and based on our most recent talk Andrew had also broken off with her her sh up to the estate during one of the cleaning days confused Me then when I missed there the housekeeping manager called to let me know a woman had descended and was prowling about the premises she told them she was my wife when they tried to stop her from entering so they laughed yes correct they thought she was a trespasser based on her sensations of the walls

and Interiors she was in fact I said I had no wife and and requested them to kick her out they followed orders and then confirmed by phone that She had left the house not a prize for guessing if she showed up at my house yes she did saying I had abandoned her when she did nothing wrong and that her motives were pure she was screaming and wailing I advised her to instead of showing up at my place get therapy and investigate a mental facility I refused her demand for me to let her inside to chat

I shut the door squarely in her path update four on my Mansion land I have also placed a restrain order Against hi she had not been violent hence her odds of sneaking into that location or damaging it were limited but yet I didn't trust her I had to act in order to protect the rights of the new house occupants I wisha not to cause needless disturbance for them until now it has been seamless I hope I will have to update this thread further chia's chapter should finish so I may continue with my life am I

the [ __ ] for wearing an Over-the-top outfit to my friend's birthday party and overshadowing the host original post before I begin English is not my first language so apologies for typos bad grammar and punctuation I'm also on mobile and using a throwaway just in case so last Friday night my 24m friend we'll call him Peter celebrated his 28th birthday his coworker that is what he refers to her as April offered to organize and host the party the dress code was as she put It your Gothic best Peter loves anything morbid in mab so it

would fit his taste perfectly now I prioritize Comfort over looks which leaves me dressing mostly in scrubs at work or sweats and hoodies when I'm out and about hence April decided to remind me multiple times in an increasingly condescending tone to follow the dress code so I did just that I wore a black velvet trouser and waist coat set with a white 18th Century men's shirt a pirate shirt if you will all of These items I made completely myself from drafting the patterns to sewing the shirt completely by hand and adding an embroidery moth across

the back of the waist cut now to the part itself I ended up arriving later than most people due to being held up at work longer than expected I warned both Peter and April about it Peter said it was no problem at all but I better show up and April left me on red so I arrived 40 minutes late greeted April congratulated Peter and Gave him his gift mocktails were drunk and pleasantries were exchanged over the course of the night I got a lot of compliments on my outfit and my craft skills were a topic

of conversation several times over the evening it also didn't really help that when someone asked me where I got the suit or shirt from Peter would loudly tell them all about how I made everything myself I remember being spun around a couple of times so people could look slouch the Embroidery in the back everyone had a good time or so I thought over the weekend April and her friends ended up bombarding my phone in any social media that they could find with absolutely nasty messages how I was an attention seeker how desperate I came across

how I absolutely ruined the party April had been planning for weeks how dare I steal attention away and overshadow Peter in April you get theide idea I feel like I'm going a bit insane overshadowing Anybody was never my intention especially my friend at his own party and I don't think that I did but all of these comments are making me rethink my choices so am I the [ __ ] here I really need some outside perspective relevant comments Peter is behind this I doubt that it's the case I have known the guy for 10 plus

years and he never had a problem with people overshadowing him he is not insecure and if he's got a problem with someone's actions he'll say It he wouldn't send his co-workers girlfriends to harass a person on his behalf commenter NTA April has a thing for Peter and sees you as a threat she's going to find ways to criticize you and tear you down no matter what you do oop I guess it also didn't help that Peter kept his hand on my back for most of the evening and when he got absolutely wasted put his face

in my hair commenter so maybe it's not just April's imagination that you're a threat to her Attempts to connect with Peter o I think the biggest threat is Peter being Arrow Ace and the way April behaves not me commenter could he possibly be demiromantic because Peter's behavior that you're describing present as a little bit more than platonic keeping his arm around you smelling your hair those are often actions though not exclusively o FC exhibited by people towards a Paramore or Crush of some degree and yes April is the problem oop According to him he is

Arrow Ace and he wasn't smelling my hair more like rubbing his face on the top of my head he says it's because he likes how my hair feels he plays with my hair often enough and when he gets a little too drunk he faces plants into it though he did it mostly back when we were in uni knowing him it could just be a texture thing the others liking the outfit at some point I ended up with like four very drunk people rubbing the moth's Body I made it from faux fur and by extension my

back with their fingers was a weird experience to say the least the outfit I had help when it came to drafting the suit from someone who actually knows what they are doing the shirt was made from a bunch of squares so no problems there the embroidery is all split stitches and faux fur for the body of the moth I really made it sound much more impressive than it is oop is voted NTA Update this morning showed Peter the post and all of the messages from April and Co never heard him be this angry said he'll

deal with them turns out April is a pathological liar and had been telling everyone in the office that Peter and her are in a relationship but are keeping it lowkey she also was taking pictures of him every time she walked by his office and showing them to her friends is proof so her friends thought that I was trying to steal her Man they aren't even co-workers she just greets clients at the front desk at the firm Peter works at Peter ripped her a new one their boss April's Uncle ripped her a new one the co-worker

she lied to ripped her a new one April ended up throwing a tantrum and the police were called the results April is currently on a 48 hour hold Peter is moving to work from home full-time I apologize to April's uncle mom and a few friends and co-workers my husband wanted an open Marriage but it backfired now I'm happier without him original post my husband Leo 34m and I 30f have been together for seven years married for four of them we don't have any kids and we don't intend to two years ago Leo asked me for

an open marriage I was devastated at the time I couldn't understand why he didn't just want me I couldn't even comprehend the idea of sharing him either he gave me the same song and dance a lot of men give their Spouses swore up and down that he loved me I just wasn't fulfilling his needs he needed more than what I could give it was just to spice up our life it was just sex etc etc I did ask if there was someone else he said no to this day I'm still not sure if I believed

him but at the time I was angry and hurt and said no he pestered me to change my mind for a week before giving me an ultimatum open marriage or divorce I chose the open marriage I just couldn't bear the Thought of him leaving me at the time we have rules we can't bring any Partners home we have to get tested for estd every 3 months one weekend out of the month must be left free for us time any money we spend on with our partners must come from our personal accounts I didn't partake in

the open marriage myself for the first 3 months Leo obviously did right away he seemed to be gone or out late almost all the time but he always acted so happy and loving towards me While I felt like I was dying inside it killed me to think he was sleeping with other women and I felt so lonely and unattractive and not good enough I told my sister Katie 26f and a few close friends everything Katie told me to just play his game and be part of the open marriage too if he can sleep around so

could I I honestly didn't have much confidence in myself at the time I'm a bit overweight and I've never considered myself conventionally pretty I was Afraid this would just humiliate me further Katie and my best friend Jesse 30f set up my online dating profiles for me I got so many matches that it was overwhelming when I told Leo he was surprised but told me to do whatever I thought was best Jesse helped me choose my first date and I actually had a great time he didn't pressure me for sex and took me out to drinks

and dinner we did have sex eventually but it was all just casual and we didn't see each other After a couple months of casual dating that first guy really made me feel more confident in myself so I kept going on dates with men a lot of them wanted to treat me so I didn't have to spend much of my own money not only that but some of the men have given me the best sex I've ever had in my life almost like the kind of sex you read in romance novels it's been amazing I am

currently seeing two different men alongside Leo one Mark 38m is more of a steady boyfriend I've Been with for about 6 months and the one Stephen 25m is very casual mostly just hanging out in sex they know about my open marriage other relationships and are fine with it my husband has not been so lucky in the beginning he definitely was he was always out and about and didn't seem to care even when I started dating too but now he just complains a lot and hasn't been going out much he whines about how he's usually the

one spending money a lot of the women he Tries to be with want an emotional connection before sex he often wants to be with younger women but they want younger men he's also been upset that I go out with random guys so often while he's at home alone all the time he hasn't asked to close the marriage yet but I feel like he will soon he keeps saying he misses us and wants to spend more time together he tried to initiate sex a lot more too he wants to go on dates and go on vacations

and all that Stuff more and more and he gets upset when I tell him I can't because I've already scheduled to do stuff with my partners mostly Mark honestly I don't think I love Leo anymore I care about him but I just don't love him I'm not saying I love Mark or Steven but I honestly feel closer to Mark nowadays than I do Leo Mark makes me feel comfortable in safe and I love spending time with him more than my own husband Steven is funny and sweet and really Good at sex Katie and Jesse have

been wanting me to divorce for a year now but I was afraid of hurting him and thought I still loved him but I think my love for him died when he asked for this open marriage in the first place seeing him get all pissy about it now just because he's not benefiting from it is also a turnoff for me too but I don't know if divorce is the best option I still care about him and I still don't want to hurt him maybe if he finally asked to close The marriage we can talk about it

then relevant comments comment one divorce you're happier without him he would only want to close the marriage because he can't get laid not that he only loves you op we've just been together for so long that the idea of him not being there feels weird which sounds stupid since I have two other partners so it's not like I'll be lonely but Leo was a part of my life for so long that for him to not be there just doesn't feel right But you're probably right op on her husband dismissing her feeling ings regarding the open

marriage op I really do think Leo does love me in his own way even when he was more active in the open marriage he still made time for me and still did a lot with him as for me but you're probably right on the divorce comment Too part of the issue is the main relationship is supposed to be the important one so the whole one weekend a month for us time wasn't enough op I Actually did argue that in the beginning but he insisted that he needed to keep his weekends free he did spend a

lot of time at home during the weekdays so in his mind that made up for it comment three what if he finds evidence of your open marriage and frames you as a cheater and then brings you to the cleaners at this point I wouldn't trust Leo what you're experiencing is normal C you're used to his presence in your life but how long are you going to live like This op Jesse had the same train of thought of you and actually took screenshots of his dating profiles during the beginning of the open marriage she also told

me to save screenshots of any texts we had about the open marriage I don't think Leo would do that but I also didn't think he'd ever ask for an open marriage so what do I know update one hi everyone I got so many comments and messages on my last post which got deleted for some Reason that I was a bit overwhelmed especially when a lot of you kept saying the same thing divorce divorce divorce but the thing is I think a part of me still loves my husband I know in my last post that I

didn't think I loved him anymore but I can't just forget about the things that I do love I love when he sings in the shower I love when he laughs so hard he snorts I love when he kisses my forehead when I've had a bad day I love when he holds my hand when he Watch TV together Leo has done a lot of shitty things but he really isn't the big [ __ ] people think maybe that was my fault but even if I do still love him I'm not in love with him anymore I

don't think I have been for a while I care about him a part of me does still love him but you all were right I should have just divorced him when he gave me that ultimatum in the first place this past Saturday we had the big talk I initiated it but he didn't seem too surprised I Just told him that I noticed he didn't seem to like me going out with Mark or Steven and asked if there was a problem he said there was but he didn't ask me to close the marriage he just asked

me if I still loved him I said something like not like I used to he broke down crying which made me cry I guess he had known for a while that I wasn't in love anymore but he had hoped he could win me back if he funneled all of his energy to me I was honest and told him that during Those first 3 months of our open marriage I think my love for him died and I just couldn't get it back I did tell him that I still cared about him and that I did love

him but it's not the same as it was he asked if I loved Mark or Steven and I said no I like being with them and I care about them a lot but I can't say I'm in love with either of them I also finally asked him why he wanted an open marriage in the first place a lot of you in the comments said He already had someone lined up and you were right he had someone at work he was interested in and she wanted him too the open marriage was just to get permission he

honestly never expected me to also get my own partners because of how unconfident I was but he didn't want to stop me either because he thought nothing would come of it he didn't really like me seeing other men but he knew it wouldn't have been fair to tell me no when I gave him permission first I Guess Mark and Steven made him insecure because I was spending so much time with them on a regular basis the open marriage was just sex on the side for him he only did hookups and they never lasted long he

genuinely always just loved me but he thought I was falling in love with my partners and he was losing me and wanted to win me back we cried a lot and talked a lot we've decided to get a divorce since the house is in his name I'm going to move out and live with Katie for a while he told me I didn't have to and I could stay until the divorce was finalized but I just can't it's too hard to even look at him sometimes I don't know how I feel to be honest I thought

I would be relieved or sad but I'm just tired I I wish I could have been like you all wanted me to be clapping back or being sarcastic and snarky or rubbing it in his face but I don't feel like I've won anything I just feel lost relevant comments comment one I'm wondering if maybe The Other Woman ended it so now he was back to what he was comfortable with his wife he went and had his fun and when that died out he was not left with a wife waiting for him at home op he

and his coworker were only sleeping together for maybe a month she fulfilled his Kinks that I never liked indulging in that's why he was with most of his partners because I wasn't interested in his Kinks comment to he stepped out of this marriage first And tried to have his cake and eat it too the thing with open marriages is that you can never count on how emotions will change sex is a very intimate action and many people will develop emotional connections those connections come at a price he placed a bet and he lost at least

he's mad enough to acknowledge it and own up to it there is no easy answer op I wish you healing op thank you Leo just thought the open marriage would be a way for him to get All of his Kinks he couldn't do with me because I wasn't into it he knew how unconfident I was which wasn't because of him a lot of people seem to think that he eroded my self-esteem but he didn't we can thank my mother for that but that's a whole other can of worms so he never expected me to partake

in the open marriage either comment three so he never expected me to partake in the open marriage either so basically while he asked for a mutually open marriage he Expected it to be only his side open and then got hurt that real it didn't meet his expectations oop Leo admitted that he did only expect his side to be open he was never going to stop me from opening my side but like I said he didn't think I would TBH I don't think I would have either if it wasn't for Jesse and Katie pushing me and

making profiles for me update 2 hey it's been a while it feels like both a lot and nothing has happened I still have a lot of feelings But I'm also just really tired Leo and I are still in the middle of our divorce it's been as amicable as a divorce can be since we mutually agreed to it and we had a prenup it's been pretty easy splitting everything else 50/50s my lawyer says I should be divorced by the end of the year Leo is insistent on giving me alimony but I'm not really interested thanks to

a lot of people making me think about Leo's explanation for the open marriage I did approach him About it again and asked him to be 100% honest with me about that girl from work he admitted there was more to it than he admitted this is what he explained to me and I have decided to believe him even if he's lying it doesn't really matter anymore since we're getting divorced I also just have little energy to care about the details at this point according to him this is the timeline he was posting on Reddit about his

Kings for advice and such which I Did know about beforehand he was getting messages from this one user and they just kept talking back and forth he mentions my name to the user in a conversation which he let me read during his lunch break his coworker I'll call her Mary approaches him and asks if he uses Reddit and asks about his handle he confirms and then Mary tells her he's the user he's been talking to they start talking more and more in real life as friends and eventually start talking Through IG he also showed me

these conversations the conversations were mostly just memes and jokes with occasional flirts mentioning of Kinks at one point she says it's too bad he's not single this is when he decided to demand the open marriage because Mary was clearly into him and into the same Kinks and she could sexually satisfy him since I was unable able to that's how he basically said it anyway truth be told we did have some bad difficulties before The open marriage was brought up I'm very vanilla and he discovered his Kinks after we were married I tried them all for

him but I just couldn't get into it and he didn't like seeing me struggle so he didn't try to bring them into the bedroom again after it was obvious I didn't like it so we did have sexual compatibility issues maybe we were doomed to fail even without the open marriage ultimatum our families outside of my sister were shocked when we told Everyone we were getting a divorce they always thought we were so happy and in love my mom blames me which I expected but it still hurts they don't know about the open marriage and Leo

and I plan to keep it that way I think he is ashamed to tell them I am too if I'm being honest I really thought Leo was the love of my life he was my first for almost everything I said we were together for seven years but we were friends since College I've known him for nearly 12 Years and we're about to become strangers soon I still mourn my marriage even though Katie and Jesse keep telling me this is for the best they're both definitely thrilled they don't hide it but they also know this has

been a weird time for me I just don't know how to feel I thought I would feel free or relieved or heartbroken or something but I just feel weird like I lost a part of myself and I don't know how to get it back I'm still Living with Katie but I'll be moving out soon I found a one-bedroom apartment that's near Jesse so I won't be completely alone offered to let me move in with him but I declined honestly we're kind of on standby he knows I'm having a hard time processing my feelings about my

husband and the end of my marriage I think he wants us to be official but I don't know I really do like Mark and I don't want to lose him but I feel like I need to figure myself Out first as for Steven we ended our relationship at the beginning of August he got a job offer in another state and took it even though it was casual I did cry a little Steven is a great guy whenever ever he does decide to settle down into something serious the woman who gets him will be a lucky

one we've been texting here and there but it's mostly just sending each other Tik toks and polite hope you're doing well messages some people asked me if I Wanted to go back to monogamy even after experimenting and clearly getting into this poly relationship I had going on and the answer is yes I do even though Mark and Steven were great and I met plenty of great guys during my open marriage I don't know if I've really been happy with myself or my choices I also think I felt felt guilty a lot too like I was

somehow cheating on Leo Mark and Steven even though it was all consensual polyamory and open Relationships may work for some people but it's really just not for me Jesse says I need to get a therapist I have tried looking but finding a therapist that's both available and seems like a good fit is a pain hopefully I can find one by the time the divorce is settled I also want to figure out what to do about Mark on my own I don't want to lead him on and give him false hope maybe we should take a

break or maybe I should tell him to just break up with me He should find his own happiness without worrying about me relevant comments commenter you're numb it happens when you lose your partner and you're grieving and under a great deal of stress I think Reddit as a whole takes divorce really blly but I read once that divorce is one of the most stressful life events right after death of a loved one and I'm slightly curious you say your family is shocked that you're divorcing because you seem so in love But the fact that your

friends are delighted you're leaving your husband tells me that they've witnessed some not so great relationship Dynamics op Katie and Jesse were the only ones I told about the open marriage so they're glad it finally ended in divorce none of my other friends or family members know commenter I've read all of your posts and I don't know why you're still protecting your ex by not telling people what he bullied you into Doing he had the girl all picked out and wanted your approval so he could cheat tell the damn world I would you have nothing

to be ashamed about don't let your mother put the blame on you you need a therapist who will will help you build your self-esteem op I just feel embarrassed I'll let it get to this point I guess I probably should have just gone with the divorce when the ultimatum was first issued commenter I'm glad you are healing it sounds like Mark Wants more than you can give him right now focus on healing and finding out who you are outside of this marriage it's sad that your stbx ruined a loving marriage for King sex I'm glad

you are divorcing you deserve better definitely get therapy it will help you navigate the next part of your life after 14 years I discovered my son wasn't mine my wife left for his Rich biological dad but in court my son revealed a shocking truth about them it Never occurred to me that I would be authoring a piece like this my entire world has been turned upside down and I am having a hard time making sense of all that has happened my guess is that I ought to begin at the very beginning before yesterday I was

under the impression that my life was going very well I am a man who is 35 years old my wife Rebecca and I have been married for 14 years and we have a son named Adam who is also 14 years old when Rebecca Got the news that she was expecting we decided to be married although I had no intention of becoming a father I was delighted to take on the role I have loved Adam with every single fiber of my being ever since the minute he was born I witnessed his first steps his first words

and every other significant moment that has occurred since then for the purpose of ensuring that we had sufficient funds to provide him with a pleasant life I worked two jobs Although it was not always simple I never once grumbled about it isn't that what fathers are supposed to do I made it a point to constantly strive to be the best possible father I could be in addition to attending all of Adam's soccer games I assisted him with his homework and gave him instruction on how to ride a bike every year throughout the summer my kid

and I would go on camping excursions together just the two of us in my entire life those were some of the Most memorable moments despite the fact that I was not flawless I always prioritized my family I went to Great Lengths to ensure that Adam had everything he required for school even if it meant there were occasions when I had to skip lunch at work for his birthday the previous year I put up money for months in order to purchase him the most recent gaming machine when he opened it the expression on his face was

worth every extra shift that I Worked over and over again just like any other relationship Rebecca and I had our share of highs and lows but I always assumed that we were content in the month prior we celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary by having a delicious meal at our house even a card was designed for us by Adam our refrigerator still has it or at least it did before yesterday began in the same manner as any other day first thing in the morning I went to my first job and Then in the afternoon I did

my second job I was looking forward to making it home and eating dinner with my family when I finally arrived nevertheless I saw that something was odd when I stepped through the door the house had an excessively low volume the majority of the time Rebecca would be in the kitchen while Adam would be either watching television or playing video games on the other hand there was nothing there were no sounds and there Were no smells just quiet although I yelled out for them there was no response to my appeal I went to adamk room thinking

that perhaps he was doing so because he was wearing headphones and couldn't hear me but his room was completely vacant it was missing a few of his favorite books and some of his favorite outfits as I made my way to our bedroom my heart began to beat really fast after that I noticed the note that was sitting on the bedside table Rebecca's handwriting was clear and legible it was difficult for me to pick it up and begin reading since my hands were shaking during the time that has passed the contents of the note have been

playing over and over again in my head Rebecca informed me in writing that she and Adam were going to leave me that however was not even the most terrible aspect the fact that I am not Adam's biological father was disclosed by her it was just before we started dating That Rebecca had a brief relationship with another man as stated in the note when she discovered that she was pregnant she took it for granted that it was my child according to her she was able to persuade herself that it was genuine because she desired for it

to be true however suddenly after a period of 14 years Adam's biological father had returned to the conversation as Rebecca wrote he expressed his want to be a part of their life and she had made the Decision to provide him with the opportunity to do so Adam she added deserve to know who his biological father was it seemed as if I was unable to take a breath this place was whirling around I made my way to the bed and sat down attempting to make sense of what I had just read what the heck might be

going on here what could Rebecca possibly have done to me to us as I continued to read the note I hop to find some explanation that would make sense Of everything that was going on Rebecca expressed her regret in writing that she had lied for all of these years in spite of the fact that she was aware that it was unethical she stated that she was afraid of losing me and of being a single mother in her statement she asserted that Adam's biological father was prosperous and had the ability to provide them with a better

life in her letter she mentioned that Adam was looking forward to meeting his Biological father and beginning a new life it was that particular region that caused the most pain for the past 14 hours I have been attempting to make sense of everything that has happened I've experienced every feeling that can possibly Be Imagined including shock anger Despair and betrayal over the course of the past day I have shed more tears than I have in my whole life every time I think about Adam I am reminded of all the times we have spent together Such

as when I taught him how to tie his shoelaces when I stayed up all night to cheer him on during his soccer games and when I stayed up all night when he had the flu were all of those memories of fabrication I can't help but wonder whether Adam ever had any suspicions about anything did he ever get the impression that I wasn't his true father did Rebecca ever make a passing reference to it it seemed like we had a wonderful relationship but now I'm Having second thoughts about everything I have attempted to contact Rebecca and

Adam by calling and messaging them but both of their phones are currently turned off I went so far as to drive by Rebecca's parents house just in case they were there but there was no indication that they were there I have the impression that my entire life has been a lie having been a husband and a father for the past 14 years I have devoted my entire existence to these Roles I've put in a lot of effort to make sure that my family is taken care of and now in the blink of an eye everything

that I've paid for is gone I have no idea what to do at this point without them the house has a certain emptiness about it due to the fact that I'm unable to concentrate on anything I have taken a few days off from work all the while I keep praying that this is all just a nightmare and that when I wake up I will find them here for my Family there is a part of me that wants to fight even though Adam is not my biological son I have been his parent for the past 14

years isn't that something that should be considered however when I consider the fact that Rebecca has betrayed me I find myself wondering if I will ever be able to trust her again the idea of employing a lawyer has crossed my mind but I have no idea how to get started with the process as Adam's non-biological father do I Have any rights or responsibilities do you think Rebecca could just take him away like this it is so overwhelming and I feel so lost I have also contemplated making an effort to locate them but I am unsure

whether or not this is the appropriate course of action do I have the authority to interfere with Adam's desire to be with his biological iCal father if he is truly interested in doing so not only does the idea of never seeing him again make me feel sick to my Stomach but I also want him to be content Rebecca has been dishonest with me for all of these years and I am furious with her her sudden departure in such a manner without even providing me with the opportunity to discuss the matter has left me feeling upset

on the other hand I am primarily devastated by Adam be damned by biology he is my actual son for the past 14 years I have loved him and reared him is it possible to simply delete that despite the fact That I am humiliated and ashamed I have considered making contact with Rebecca's family or others who are acquaintances with us both because I have been ignorant of the truth for all of these years I feel like an idiot what if they were all aware of it but chose to conceal it from me considering everything else that

is going on I don't think I would be able to accept that treachery there is a portion of me that feel resentment at Adam's biological Father as well where has he been for the past 14 years it is clear why he chose to return at this time had he been aware of Adam from the beginning there is no way for me to acquire answers to the many questions that I have like you I'm worried about Adam he is abandoning all he is familiar with including his home his friends and his school is this really the

direction that he should go in in addition what about this man who is his biological father describe the Kind of guy he is does he have the same love and concern for Adam that I have without them the house has a certain emptiness about it it no matter how hard I try I just can't seem to force myself to enter Adam's room his dirty clothing is still in the hamper and his soccer trophies are still sitting on the shelf for him to admire they appear to have hurriedly fled abandoning a significant portion of their lives

in the process as a result of my lack of knowledge of Other options I am creating this post does anyone else have any experience with something similar to this how are you able to deal with it what are the chances that I will be able to develop a romantic connection with Adam in the years to come I appreciate you taking the time to read this simply letting everything out even if it's to complete strangers on the internet can be a little bit of a relief I never imagined that I would find myself in this Predicament

yet here I am it's possible that life might change in a moment and you never know what's going to happen update since it has been a few months since my last article I felt it was important to bring you all up to speed on what has transpired first and foremost I would like to express my gratitude to everyone for their support throughout what has been the most difficult period of my life kind comments and sound counsel meant more to Me than you could possibly know I received divorce papers from Rebecca not long after I made

my original post it came as a surprise to me when I saw it in black and white despite the fact that I had anticipated it at that moment everything seemed so conclusive and so true after the initial numbness subsided I came to the realization that it was necessary for me to actively defend my rights as Adam's father without putting up a fight I couldn't just stand by and Let let them keep him I chose to call a lawyer financially it was difficult especially with Rebecca and Adam gone but I knew I had to do it

I Came Upon a respectable attorney ready to handle the payments with me given that I'm not Adam's biological father he cautioned me from the beginning that it would be an uphill fight but I was resolved to try the court system was cruel far more than I had anticipated the biological father of Rebecca and Adam David seemed to have Endless means given David's reportedly great riches things got even more challenging for me hiring a strong Council it soon became evident they would be playing dirty in court Rebecca and David presented me as a lazy parent unable

to support Adam they brought up my two jobs and twisted it to suggest I was never around they discussed how David might provide Adam with a better life with private schools and luxury trips friends of theirs even said they Had witnessed me ignore Adam or treat him angrily I thought I could be in a dream all I had done out of love for my family was being turned against me turning two jobs into report for them became neglect the camping trips Adam and I enjoyed were written off as cheap holidays their response appeared to cover

everything and I was beginning to lose hope though my attorney gave his all we were outgunned everywhere David's money seemed to change everything expert Witnesses speaking on the value of biological ties were present child psychologists testified about how Adam might be better off in a more steady Financial environment they seem to have covered everything I got ready for the worst maybe losing Adam permanently it was nearly intolerable to consider never seeing him again of someone else raising him and being called Dad there were evenings when I couldn't sleep I would lie awake and consider all

the events I Would miss then though something unanticipated occurred the court decided Adam himself wanted to be heard I trembled and if Rebecca and David had turned him against me suppose he expressed wanting to live with them hearing Adam declare he wanted me no more made me wonder whether I could manage I hardly could breathe when Adam stood up but What followed turned everything around Adam added I want to live with my dad my real dad the one who Raised me straight ahead toward the judge what I was hearing defied belief Adam continued by saying

that he loved our camping vacations that I was a wonderful parent and how I always made time to assist him with his homework even though I was exhausted from work he spoke of how I taught him to ride a bike how I never missed a soccer game and how I always made him feel loved and supported Adam then let forth a bombshell he told the court David's Mother and dad had been attempting to guide him on what to say late at night he claimed he overheard them strategizing how to make me appear worse they had

advised him to say I was often Furious and exhausted that I didn't give his schooling any thought and that I was negligent Adam declared he couldn't carry on with it he knew it was untrue and couldn't lie about the guy who had been at his side all of his life he even brought up particular exchanges he had Heard Rebecca and David talking about how to falsify the facts and testimonial proof against me the courtroom went still on Rebecca and David's faces I could sense shock attentively listening the judge asked Adam several questions to help him

to Define what he had heard and experienced Adam told the judge about a conversation he had overheard in which David proposed they bribe some of my colleagues to testify I regularly Complained about Adam or seemed uninterested in his life Rebecca had been initially reluctant he added but David persuaded her it was essential to guarantee they would win he also recalled over hearing them talk about coaching Adam's teachers to say I never showed up for parent teacher conferences which was untrue though it meant missing business I had always made time for those Adam said he missed

me in our life together and felt afraid and perplexed By all of this the hearing's whole tone changed following Adam's testimony the judge directed Rebecca and David to look into their activities including efforts at manipulation of a Minor's testimony their attorney seemed uncomfortable and I could see Rebecca and David furiously speaking to one another reviewing all the evidence and Adam's testimony the court spent several days among the longest days I have ever lived were those after hearing Adam I was Encouraged however I also felt afraid to allow myself hope things would turn around at last

the day arrived for the judge to render his ruling as we gathered in the courtroom I was a frightened wreck the judge began by noting that he had given great thought to all the data offered as well as Adam's testimony while Financial stability is crucial he noted a child's best interests are determined by other factors as well he noted that even Though it meant working two jobs I had regularly met Adam's needs he noted that I had always made time for What mattered most in Adam's life and complemented my commitment to his schooling and extracurricular

activities regarding Rebecca and David's attempts to control the case and guide Adam's evidence the court also expressed great worry this he claimed indicated a disrespect for Adam's emotional health and begged questions about their parenting Competency the judge decided at last to award me complete custody of Adam he added that Adam's wishes and well-being came first and that it was obvious I had been a caring and committed father he said years of love care and dedication Define the link between a parent and their child more than just biology with regard to the divorce it was approved

I had no want to stay married to Rebecca after all that had happened given their attempts to control the case the judge Additionally mandated Rebecca and David pay my legal fees the comfort and happiness I experienced upon the judge's judgment is difficult to articulate I started crying as Adam hurried to embrace me it was as though a wait had been offloaded from my shoulders I felt as though I could breathe once more first in months the last few weeks have been spent learning about our new normal Adam and I share an ancient house financially it's

challenging but we're Making it work I have to cut back on some things but Adam knows he even volunteered to contribute by working a part-time job but I advised him to concentrate on school and growing up Adam has been quite remarkable over all of this he's in therapy to help him sort through all that's happened I find great pride in his maturity and fortitude we have had some lengthy conversations on Family Faith and what it means to be a parent though it hasn't always been Simple I believe our experience is helping us both grow Rebecca

and David have visiting rights Adam has made it plain he does not want to see them right now I'm letting him lead on that I wouldn't want to put him in any scenario he finds uncomfortable forced upon him when Adam feels ready the therapist has advised we go slowly and perhaps begin with supervised visits personally I'm in therapy trying to sort out the stress of the past few months and the Betrayal Though it's not simple I'm going day by day I'm beginning to believe once more that even in the worst of circumstances good things can

happen I had to adjust somewhat at work my managers have been understanding when I presented the circumstances I have cut back on some hours to be home more with Adam though monetarily tighter being there for Adam is well worth it we are gradually coming to our new Rhythm most evenings today Adam and I make dinner together though We're both really bad at it we're learning and having a lot of fun throughout starting a weekly movie night we are working through all the classic movies I liked growing up I want to thank everyone who helped and

advised me on my first post sometimes the only thing keeping me going was your nice comments to anybody else experiencing something like this keep on the truth finds a way to surface I am looking forward to the future as is Adam just The two of us enjoy Old Times hence this summer we are going camping it excites both of both of us as an opportunity to reconnect and create fresh memories still difficult are the times ahead I know there will be difficult days when the hurt and resentment return Adam and I can however also conquer

anything together we shall always have each other no matter what I appreciate it all once more it implies more than you're aware of here Mark's Fresh Starts and the Family we will pick Mom abandoned us leaving me to raise my brother now she's dying and needs my kidney my brother plead for me to save her what should I do I 29f need some outside ideas since I'm in a terribly mess up State saying no will cause our family balance to be destroyed and I'm under pressure to give a kidney to my aranged mother 52f we

learned my mother's kidneys are failing last month she must start dialysis which is not Ideal longterm according to the experts she needs a transplant right away out of the two children of my mother I am a perfect match and Ezra my brother is inom able they tested me and my brother there is really crazy pressure to donate saying it's a chance to heal our family and atone for Mom Ezra is asking me to do it he doesn't understand that I am not the one who left I am not interested in healing anything it was not

me that decided on drugs instead of family it Feels like a smack in the face when he asks me to save the mother he hardly knew at the price of the sister who reared him though my dad 54m is not directly pressing me I can see optimism in his eyes though he claims he will help whatever I decide it is clear he wants me to do it it makes me ill since he is dreaming of having his lovely family returned mom hasn't straight up asked me for the kidney but every time I see her I

can sense the question Hovering about part of me wants to scream at her and find out where this worry originated throughout my 13-year raising of her child knowing her life is in my control another element seems strangely strong here's a little background since although you might assume I'm vengeful I am not my mother disappeared from my life 16 years ago along with my brother he was 5 years old and I was 13 she was hooked on drugs and one day she simply disappeared leaving Our dad Dad made every effort but he had to work insane

hours to have food on the table and a roof over our heads dad always worked hence I essentially had to raise Ezra at 13 years old I was helping him with homework making sure he ate and trying to explain mom's absence From The Scene It sucked massive scale I was so busy playing mom so I missed out on childhood growing up I was furious with everyone mad at mom for leaving mad at dad for not being there enough mad at Ezra for needing me so much and mad at myself for not being able to make

everything right while I was figuring out how to split a package of mac and cheese into two meals I saw other children lead typical lives Ezra found it easier I confirmed this though it meant I could not I wanted him to have as normal a life as possible I concealed my own tears so I could clean his lied to him about why we cannot afford things acted as though everything was fine when Dad and I were hysterical about finances and so on it was abundantly evident As We Grew Older how different our early years were

Ezra went Sports and hung out with friends I was too busy becoming a mini adult to engage in any of that this widened our Gulf greatly and got more pronounced with time dad was doing his best I understand now but back then it felt as though both of my parents had dropped me though it still stung I know Dad had to decide between being here Physically and ensuring we wouldn't go without food during my teens and early 20s I was messy I drove people away made poor mistakes and partied too excessively starting to handle all

this baggage required years of therapy things improved when I met my 31m hubby though he has been quite patient and sympathetic my prior problem surfaced even with him I panicked out when he initially discussed starting a family Being in charge of a child brought back all these ancient anxieties we worked for 2 years to reach a point where I felt okay about trying for a baby six months of trying have gone by now this is now when my mother came back she simply showed up on my dad's doorway brilliantly and early like an abandoned child

at an orphanage not wasting any time my father allowed her in and summoned Ezra and me in for a family meeting my mother struck me as a Stranger she wanted to write things and said she was clean though Ezra was all for it I was dubious as heck it was simpler for him to forgive her as he cannot recall the worst of times she spent doing drugs I saw it my mother was my personal hell still my dad urged us to give her some time which infuriated me though I stayed away for their family reunion

I could tell he was eager to see the lady he used to love before I left I hardly spoke a word to my mother living With my dad once more during the last few months my mother has been working to mend connections with us she kept her cleanliness found employment and expressed regret for her actions but for me it is too little too late I have been polite but I cannot regard her as my mother anymore that dumb fool Ezra wholeheartedly accepted her return he always talks about the fun they spend together and how wonderful

it is to have a mother once more it triggers my desire To yell like he has forgotten all I did for him all we went through boom my mother was diagnosed so I tried to pay attention to my life and not worry Ezra was crying my father was crying and I wished I could have been anywhere else but that hospital room indeed Ezra was Keen to be a donor when the doctor discussed the complications of dial is and the large transplant list my mother would have to join I agreed with his choice but he hauled

me along too when He was checked for compatibility and I turned out to be the ideal fit not signing the organ donation form I hurried out of the hospital right away why ought I to sign it right now my father and brother claim I have an unforgiving attitude and a stone heart instead they are rallying around my mother and neglecting me although my husband swears he will support me no matter what I can see he is anxious he has been excellent through through all This he worries about the surgical hazards and how they might interfere

with our intended baby bearing plans he also notes how hard I have worked in therapy and doesn't want anything to reverse all that Improvement to add to the craziness my aunt mom's sister 50F just called tonight she told me what was a bombshell of sorts she hasn't forgiven my mother for leaving everyone either turns out mom had been cheating on dad with a married man and had been pregnant Thus leaving us was not only due in part to drugs she departed to have the kid in a fresh life bailing on us once and permanently blaming

drug addiction as justification though I really don't know how that worked out or why she came back learning this has opened all the old scars mom departed when she had a decision to stay as well as when she abandoned us I might never run upon a half sibling out there wherever I'm still trying to make sense of it I Haven't yet told anyone else in the family about this knowing this secret together with all the renal pressure is making me crazy thinking about my terrible upbringing and wondering whether I missed some indicators I stayed up

all night I'm wondering every sacrifice I made every part of my youth I gave up and how it compares to what I now know about Mom's actual leaving motivation Ezra is clueless on any of this fresh material he keeps urging me To donate the kidney discussing family responsibility and how this could fix everything but all I can think of is how he got to have a childhood while I was busy parenting him dad likewise doesn't know he seems all soft about Mom once more and it makes me want to shake him and remind him of

all the misery she caused I am rather conflicted it almost seems too much to consider having major surgery and forfeiting an organ for someone who decided to drop me I Consider the hazards and how they might skew my odds of becoming pregnant already I have given up so much for this family my youth my opportunity to be a normal child my sense of security giving up a bit of my body seems excessive the villain is me right now what then readd it is the outcome am I the asterisk asterisk hole for turning down to donate

my estranged mother my kidney is my attachment to the Past excessive I am the only one who recalls how Terrible Things actually were and the only one who paid mom the whole cost for her decisions this is drowning me with decisions every decision seems bad in some capacity how can I manage this unworkable scenario without totally losing my sanity help me right here on Reddit update one hi Reddit I expected no one would interact with this post hence I intended to delete it 24 hours later the volume of up votes and comments this is getting

as ridiculous Though I would like to first thank everyone for their opinions on my circumstances reading through all of it has given me something to consider though I have to be honest some of the comments urging me to forgive and forget really irritate me I value those who took the time to grasp my viewpoint I understand Ephesians 4:32 be kind and compassionate to one another forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you though a great concept you know what Sometimes forgiveness is more complicated than a Bible chapter not only did my mother's actions

affect one day or one week they molded my whole life I lost my childhood my sense of safety and my faith in the people meant to be watching out for me you cannot just wipe that with a hug and some kind words and to all those arguing but she's your mother biology does not always Inspire love or respect sure my mother delivered me but I am the one who had to Grow up too quickly and had to be a mother to my younger brother when she cannot be bothered when she was out high and leaving

her children to fend for themselves where was all this family is everything conversation look I'm not aiming to be resentful or nasty despite all she has put me through I am attempting to safeguard the life I have created a few of you have mentioned complete family therapy when she returned first we tried that it did not Miraculously make everything right although my mother said all the right things and shed tears it did not undo years of struggle and desertion many of you have brought out the dangers of kidney donation and I value that it goes

beyond the procedure itself to include long-term consequences suppose I have issues that compromise my capacity for childbearing what happens if I need kidneys later in life for someone who didn't give second thought to Sacrificing me am I meant to give my health and maybe my future my hubby has heard me discuss all of this he reminded me that I had nothing to owe anyone not even my mother so it's acceptable to give my own well-being top priority the thought of compromising that for someone who has been more of a stranger than a mother is simply

too much we are still trying for a baby my family's pressure hasn't let up Ezra has been text blowing my phone with messages ranging from Extreme Rage to guilt tripping he even ventured to remark that I would be no better than mom was when she left us if I let her die that one hurts I cannot lie dad has been more subdued but every time we speak he sounds disappointed they seem to have all forgotten what I went through what we went through and then there is my mother at last she plucked The Bravery to

give me a straight call I let it drop off to voicemail her Message was difficult to hear she was crying and telling me she is afraid of dying even though she knows she does not deserve my support though a large part of me remembered all the times I was terrified and alone due to her choices part of me wanted to reassure her regarding what my aunt revealed regarding Mom's Affair and the baby she turned over I still haven't told anyone every time I consider bringing it up I picture dad's expression how it would Destroy Ezra's

recently discovered relationship with Mom but hiding this is eating me inside carrying the weight of her mistakes it feels like I am shielding her all over once more this update most likely makes me sound frigid and merciless maybe I am I am exhausted yet as well weary of having to be the one who must be strong and sacrifice bearing I want to put myself first for once without feeling bad about it that's where I am right now still conflicted Still aching still unsure about the correct course of action though it means playing the villain in

everyone else's life life I am striving to Stand My Ground and give my own health and happiness top priority I appreciate it still thank you for listening read it though I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet knowing there are individuals out there that understand even just a small bit helps more than you could possibly imagine update two sure Reddit though I Realize it has only been 2 days I am here with another update and things have become even more disorganized recall how Ezra stated had been blowing my phone he realized though messaging was

insufficient yesterday he showed up to my residence without warning while I was at work my spouse was home finishing some job related duties my husband claims Ezra broke into our house yelling about Mom's worsening illness and how the doctors said time was running short Saying he would pull me to the hospital personally should he have to he insisted on knowing where I was bless him my husband attempted to cool Ezra down Ezra wasn't having it but I was at work and this wasn't the way to handle things he charged my spouse of poisoning me against

mom of turning me against my family things grew hot and Ezra actually swung at my husband fortunately my husband avoided it but he had to physically restrain Ezra to prevent him From rucking the apartment in search of me it grew so nasty that one of our neighbors phoned the police I arrived home exactly as the cops were leaving our living room looked like a tornado had hit my husband had a bruise on his jaw where Ezra had landed a blow though Ezra departed when the police arrived the harm was done I was startled I raised

a younger brother here this was not the child I would have sacrificed all for it was like viewing the output Of a stranger and a violent one at that I hoped to gently talk some sense into Ezra when I called him I raised him not expecting him to be behaving this way great error he grabbed her and began yelling at me every name in the book he called me accusing me of being self-serving and of not thinking about family then he said something I will never forget I'll never forgive you if mom dies because of

you you will be dead to me exactly as you were allowing her To die I hung there I was not able to breathe it seemed as though all of my darkest concerns were realized choosing mom above me the brother I reared the one I thought would always have my back was doing I disintegrated full on ugly crying unable to catch my breath my husband carried me through it but I sensed he was also Disturbed we are being pulled apart in general from this to aggravate things my dad phoned this morning Ezra reportedly told him a

Distorted account of events in our residence dad now believes I set my husband on Ezra that I am the one generating all this conflict he really had the arrogance to claim that none of this would be happening if I just quit being obstinate and gave the kidney I vanished I shared with him all about Mom's infidelity about the baby she turned over about her decision to leave us how it was not only the narcotics I told him how I had been holding this Secret shielding mom even now after everything I told him it was also

his fault and that I'd been Furious all my life on the other side of the line for what seemed like eternity there was quiet I then listened to a sob I had only seen my dad break down perhaps twice in my lifetime he continued to apologize stating he didn't know he should have been there more I felt terrible I would have hurt him all over once again in trying to defend myself But somewhere else I felt relieved as well At Last someone else was dragging the weight I had carried all my life Ezra sent me

many texts once we hung up dad had contacted him and shared everything right now Ezra's song has totally changed apologizing he said he didn't understand and beg me to Pardon him I'm not sure though whether I can I cannot simply ignore the things he said or the way he behaved mom has been blowing my phone too dad ought to have Confronted her about the affair back then as well as the child her messages combined calls to understanding with apologies she is stating she changed and was young and Afraid young indeed dad and brother are still

adjusting looking after her daily all I can think is where was this empathy when I was young and terrified I feel as though I am drowning mom's health is declining dad's messy and me I am merely trying to maintain above water not sure what to do going Forward some of me wants to flee to vanish as mom did all those years ago that is not the solution but I know I have too long been Gathering the fragments of her errors I'll create different ones instead I'm now off from work for some time to help us

to clear our brains my husband and I are considering a little trip except for Dad's I have blocked every number I need room to consider what I want and what I need I'm not sure whether I will ever Offer that kidney even if I wanted to the way things are currently makes me not sure I could manage to be in the same room as my family long enough to accomplish it that brings us to the present situation the state of my family is disorganized I'm left wondering if there's any way to sort this mess or

if it's even worth trying because my brother has exposed a side of himself I never knew existed I appreciate you paying attention Reddit about if I Should update once more I'm unsure I might even pull the original post right now though I simply have to concentrate on healing not only for my mother but also for me final update all right Reddit my last update was some time ago hence a lot has changed 3 months following the surgery I'm writing from home you did really read correctly my mom received my kidney donation given how fervent I

was about not doing it before I know many of you would find This shocking I am still processing it personally believe me one thing should be clear though I chose this nobody put pressure on me not my mom not even my dad not Ezra my spouse and I spent some time away following my last update and discussed it we leased a cabin in the mountains no cell service no internet just us nature and lots of time to reflect although I kept having nightmares and knew I would never forgive myself if I did not at least

try To help being away from the turmoil helped clear my thoughts the idea of my mother dying and of having that on my conscience was intolerable I came to see that I was furious at the world at the unfairness of it all not just at my mother and clinging to that rage was causing more damage than anyone else could have I told my spouse my choice when we returned though concerned he was also encouraging we visited with the doctors gathered all the data and began The process I will not lie it was not simple the

operation was difficult and the healing was more so you know what though I have not come to regret it not because it instantly corrected everything rather I feel at peace with myself for the first time in years I ran across my mother before they wheeled Us in on the day of the procedure she was weeping and repeatedly thanking me I told her the truth that I was acting for me as much as for her I could not forget I'd just forgiven her I hoped she would recover but I saw no future in which we would

live near together though she understood that wasn't what she wanted to hear though some things are better left unknown I wanted to question her about my sister we hugged a true hug not the uncomfortable ones we had exchanged since she returned in several respects It Felt Like A Farewell I am rebuilding our friendship with Ezra he sincerely apologies for his actions though Sluggish it's an improvement nonetheless he is beginning to see the sacrifices I made and recognizing that his Recollections of our child Ood don't tell the complete picture parents dad dad has been right by

everyone's side during all of this he is also juggling his own shame and Regrets We Now find ourselves getting closer in a manner not seen in years he shares with me his pride In Me Not only for the gift but also for the person I have grown to be Despite all she has been amazing from the choice until the rehabilitation he was there at every stage we have a closer relationship than ever regarding myself I am healing in several different ways though the physical rehabilitation has not been simple the emotional weight I have carried for

years seems less not foolish enough to believe everything is wonderful right now my gloomy days and my periods of uncertainty still exist still I'm glad of myself for choosing to Be true to who I am not someone else wanted me to be to each of you who helped me along this road thank you your comments and your understanding meant more than you could possibly know remember forgiveness is personal and healing is not straightforward Reddit