How to Make Friends in 2025

[Music] feeling chronic loneliness had the same Health implications as smokers have wow my God one in two Americans report feeling lonely we now have this cultural shift towards I can do badle by myself yes and baby you're lonely what I wanted to share was this idea of how we then create Community remember that the idea is it's not to impress it's to connect you have to be the person that says hello and that commits to the vulnerable action of surrendering to community when you want something you put the effort in share the power of hello

if you don't got friends after this you don't want them okay you want to make more money you are in the right place welcome to the hello 7 podcast that's seven as in seven figures I'm your host Rachel Rogers hello hello and welcome back to the hello 7 podcast today to I going to teach you how to make some friends okay and in order to help you do that I brought along my nearest and dearest friends Susan hayatt and Robert Harwell well hello there hi gorgeous we're gonna have a good time y'all okay so let's

talk about why this is the topic of the day because apparently adults don't know how to make friends not anymore that part yeah um and there's a loneliness epidemic happening in the US and in other places in the world too but it is more serious in the US and I actually uh we read a stat earlier that one in two Americans report feeling lonely like more often than not they are feeling they are feeling lonely so that means right like they don't have Community they don't have deep friendships and this is critical to our happiness

so and our health correct exactly um and in fact yes you looked up a stat yeah the stat said that feeling chronic loneliness had the same Health implications as smokers have wow my God yes so it's like you being lonely all the time is as bad as if you were smoking your whole life like that's how dangerous it is to your health and your lifespan like this is serious business so tell me like why do you think that is robt what do you think I think one of the first things is our cultural shift towards

individualism right like there's this idea that in Collective cultures and for those of youall that don't know I'm a double Libra okay so we're about balance and Harmony right but we now have this cultural shift towards I can do badle by myself yes and baby you're lonely you are lonely like your life is sad but we're here to help you today but I really do think that everyone is like I need to be in this thing for myself and we see it even in how we create home right this individual idea of I'm going to

live in a studio by myself versus Collective cultures people are living intergen intergenerationally and here we're just siloed with ourselves and with our own little groups and I think that's one thing that makes the three of our Rel like us very special is we have three different age groups yeah we're single we're married you're you've got kids at home you and Scott are empty nesters I'm at Heartwell house with me and me um you know but it is this whole thing of I need to be by myself and I need to do this thing for

me and we are so committed to ourselves that we are losing I think the magic and the glue of life which is our community correct I completely agree and I think that we've lost the balance of like knowing how to like go after your goals go after like what you want to accomplish for yourself but you can take people along with you right like you don't have to be so focused on yourself that there's no room for anybody else and it's easier with other people like like period there are so many things that I and

I say this with my full chest that I would not have journeyed through and got to the Finish Line in my life if I didn't have the two of you if I didn't have the groups of friends that I make a consistent effort to show up for you can't do this by yourself right I agree and it's it's much faster and much more enjoyable with with your homies okay that part what's the other reason that you think people like there's this loneliness epidemic going on if you enjoyed what you heard in this episode then you

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immediate action you also get access to a community of people who have also joined to get these free lessons so all you have to do is go to hell. co/ lons to download them now well there's an increase in a lack of face to-face interaction so with the rise of Technology social media which we all love and I know many of you watching will say but that helps me stay connected to people and for those of you who are in our neuros spicy communities and want to push back on this when I suggest that you

put your phone down that you take a break from social media yes and I understand that for many people it is a lifesaver and I use it every single day in fact of the three of us I think I'm probably the most addicted to social media agreed and and also I understand that the lack of face-to-face interaction remote working um and the rise of technology has isolated us and that leads to piling on to the rise in individualism too as a Taurus I am the queen of I can do it myself yes and all by

myself m I'm gonna push this boulder up a hill and don't y'all worry yeah I'm gonna get it done she a muscle momy and right and because I am a muscle momy but right the gym is a place for Community for me even though people in my gym will watch this and say uhuh she don't talk to nobody okay she puts those headphones on and glares at everybody get get off my bench but but in in all reality right we need places to go places where we can go to church or go to the gym

or go to a grill out and I think the lack of face to-face interaction has created a rise in loneliness in all of us correct and I think we we love home um and we work so many of us work remotely now but like we over like I love home too I love sitting on my couch and chilling but also after I do that for two days I'm like I'm bored you know like if I do that Friday and Saturday by Sunday I'm like where are we going like we need something to do you know

and for and I'm not bored like I could hermit listen yes she can I will instacart GrubHub everybody bring my services to me I don't I don't need nothing outside this home but I do yeah I mean because I'll get in a mood I'm like I need to talk to people yes for real one of the other reasons that um they said is the cause of our loneliness epidemic is um Urban isolation and having more transient lifestyle so we can live in cities with millions of people and not know any of them not be able

to go deep with any of them so like you don't actually you're like in your apartment surrounded by people but actually don't have anyone around you that is like a good friend like you don't know your neighbors right so like you can't just like knock on their door for eggs or be like oh come over for wine right like you can but we're not doing that and then the other thing is transient Lifestyles and I know a thing of two about that cuz I have lived all over yes you have oh my gosh you've lived

in more places than anybody I know you've been moving baby okay I have lived in California Arizona South Dakota New York New Jersey um probably some other places right like I have North Carolina like Puerto Rico yes and even when I've lived in one city I've moved and even when you move in a city you can move 15 minutes away and it completely changes the dynamic of like who you have as community and how easy it is to get together with them and so I what I have noticed is the lack I used to think

like oh I need to move to a place where my people are and I would like move to find my people right and then I'd move there and still didn't find my people and then I realized like oh you actually have to park somewhere and commit to a place and then actually put effort into like finding people like when every time I've moved like now I've moved enough that I know it takes two years to build community yeah um to build the beginnings of your community where you're like okay I found my people right like

I've got my different pockets of friends locally and now we're getting together and stuff they still might not be like a deep close friend yet right but at least I know some people that takes 2 years okay I've done this enough that I know it takes two years okay so and that's I have kids right so like kids help you build community because they're going to build community automatically right like they're going to have their friends at school they're going to have their friends at the extracurriculars they're going to meet friends at the playground and

they're just like instantly friends and then the people that they become friends with their parents um like you up messaging them and being like setting up playes and all of that and that creates community so like that becomes people that you have something in common with you have children of the same age or whatever you know or not listen I be like you that's a nice little boy you play with him but I'm not hanging out with her and sometimes they're not your people they're not but but kids do help because they force you to

talk to people exactly exactly so so these are some of the reasons why you you might be experiencing loneliness right and you know I think everyone experiences loneliness sometimes absolutely but like finding like local community is really important having a community having close friendships is like literally important to your health I remember the Blue Zone documentary came out on Netflix I loved it too and that was the thing that was in common like that was the biggest thing all of them had in common was that you had a squad of people like five people wasn't

it four or five people don't have to be family members correct that you know well that like know you well that you could rely on and it was like seen again and again in all these different locations in Japan I mean they were like 80 and 90s years old and they had their squad okay corre these cute little elderly women right and like they were living their best lives right they were getting together dancing together having fun CU they're deciding yes right they're like deciding I'm not going to be a lonely I'm I'm not going

to be a lonely person like I'm going to show up right exactly I love them me too so and uh part of the reason why you know obviously I asked my friends to come here to talk about this is because the reactions that people have to us wherever we go yeah like literally we could just be walking down the street and people will be commenting like on us being together and being like whatever y'all are smoking I want some of that just so you're aware we do not do drugs okay we're high off friendship okay

literally okay right and online people are always commenting on like wow my goals for this year right now everyone's talking about New Year's resolutions my goal is to develop a friendship like the three of you have yes and it's genuine and it's a decade or more old I don't know how long yeah we're not we this is not a fake friendship mhm and I think I've talked about this before but like there are lot some of the people that y'all follow online that like have like their squad they're fake I'm not going to name names

but they're fake but it's not us okay it's not us okay this is actually genuine like we spent Thanksgiving together you know um at Robert's house at Hartwell house and like we go we vacation together they were on my boat exactly they came to Kentucky Lake and if that's not friendship you know that's love these black people in Kentucky I mean listen and y'all had a good time correct we stand corrected we stand corrected friends we hear you we see you it's not like Como but I know but you know what it'll do it did

the job okay it did the job now I'm going to tell you right now my digestive track was so runt after that trip let me fried chicken barbecue biscuits didn't do you right honey uhuh Miss Patty's M High dessert do you right that mess of food listen the the just the serving size was was interesting you know just fascinating we we go all in okay no no half ass nothing correct and I mean I can't tell you the amount of times that we literally have all flown around the country for each other and the world

yes the world literally but that's how it started yes yes right like that's really oh my God yes I was just saying to Susan a couple of nights ago when we were sitting having dinner together the first time that the three of us hung out I was on the national tour of mtown yes and we were in Nashville and it was this moment where I mean we had only been friends for weeks at this point really you knowre and you had the idea of oh I'm going to come and obviously you had two very young

children well I'm going to tell you what happened was what had happened was cuz I was about to correct him as well basically what I met Rob first of all I met Susan first Pam slim connected us cuz she was looking for a lawyer mhm because somebody trk attorney yes cuz somebody was trying to tell her something about her trademarks and she was like uh-uh mm-m mhm she was like I need a law I mean literally Susan clapback Hyatt she invented the clapback okay truly I remember every time I saw her online she was barking

at somebody okay letting them know she is not the one nor the two part not today not any day correct so then I we got introduced through Pam slim and then I did your trademarks and then you had a retreat to Ireland and I was like I want to go and you were like no you should go to Italy yeah and I was like you know what bet so I went to her Italy Retreat and then we just became friends from there right and then I met Robert through like a Facebook ad basically literally like

he signed up for small business bodyguard we were on a bonus call and he's like am I talking to Rachel Rogers and I said yes and he's like struck he's like screaming anyway the whole coaching call I I spent like 45 minutes just talking to him and I was like oh my God I got to pay attention to some of these other but I told my boyfriend at the time I said she's going to be my best friend isn't that crazy like that's why I always say to people be intentional with your words right and

be intentional who you're in community with because I you know so many times people will go and do this coach and that coach and it's like no no be intentional with your community now you just heard all about how to make friends in 2025 so you can enjoy your life more well let me tell you where you need to go to go make those friends you need need to come to Roi the millionaire Summit it's happening January 15th through the 17th 2025 that's right in just a week or so we are getting together 500 amazing

people like-minded sharing the same values entrepreneurs who are looking to grow their businesses grow their friendships grow their money grow the quality of their life and we're going to talk about all of it we have some incredible keynote speakers amazing breakouts that are going to teach you the best ways to make money this year your business whether it's marketing your offers how to manage your money your money mindset we're going to work on all of that together so meet me there at Roi the millionaire Summit it's happening in Huntington Beach California that's in Orange County

be there or be square go to hell 7. co/ Roi to get all the details and I will see you there yeah but like I just knew it and then well this one I will tell you so what happened next was then Robert invited me he had like tickets to Al Alvin Al cuz you know he knows all of the performers in New York City basically and he had tickets and he's like do you want to go cuz he knew that my daughter was taking classes at Al Alvin at the time so I went and

but I brought um one of my team members with me because I was like what if he's crazy you know what I mean I was like I don't know this man I don't know this man okay sorry to this man so so I brought I brought a buffer just in case he was a little C co uh but he was actually delightful I look at me I mean you met him you've met him so anyway so we had a great time and then after that it was like we were just texting and connecting from there

then so he's on tour and he's like oh my Show's going to Nashville and then like y'all got connected he slid into my DMs because you were at a weekend Mastermind with her oh yes yes and this is like back in the time of Facebook where we're putting things on Facebook like as it's happening and I was like who is she like I okay I love a put together woman okay you give me a put together woman and I'm like I'm in heaven and just so you know in this scenario he's not talking about me

we're talking about Susan I'm not the put together woman okay I'm the woman that has to be put together literally they styled me for this podcast episode they chose the dress and the earrings okay so they know what they're doing okay you don't even have to be stylish just have stylish friends see see the benefits of community just have you look and fly we raise you up y'all didn't know y'all got a little songy song today okay little seren but will we get Wicked choreography you're just going to have to wait till the end of

this episode you're going to have out stick around stick around um oh so yes so Susan slide into her DMS and I'm like you are fabulous and then she hears that you're going to Nashville right Susan lives close to Nashville right and so they thought they were going to go have a meet up without me and I'm like uh I don't think so okay I don't think so I'm coming okay meanwhile how far away did I live like nine hours yeah y'all got in the van I sure did I I was like I told my

husband I was like we're going to Nashville this weekend and he's like how long's the drive oh it's just 9 hours and you that's how you know that man loves me cuz he's like okay with all the kids we had a great time we went to see him on mol toown yes uh then we went to brunch we had backstage tour yes all the things then the next day we went out to eat but that night at dinner after the show y'all came to see the show we took pictures did the back Sage thing and

I remember sitting with you all and I was like oh this is what showing up looks like you know because I had never had at the time I was in my mid 20s I I didn't have friends in their 30s and their 40s that not only had the desire but also had the means to be able to say oh I desire to be in Nashville and meet this new person I can get myself there and the fact that you didn't only show up with yourselves which would have been more than enough you showed up with

your husband and you showed up with your husband and your kids had the whole the whole Squad I brought the teenager and the teenager's bestie so that they could babysit the little ones like literally and then remember the teenagers went to yes the Broadway Collective went to the Broadway Collective the next morning yes and they did the Nashville stop and they did the dance cor they were like oh they thought they were just coming to like a fun little dance class but they they forgot who they were dealing with okay the Debbie Allen of of

musical theater education but can we talk about that for a minute because that is effort like you drove 2 hours from your house right to meet two and 45 minutes 2 hours and 45 minutes from to meet somebody you don't know yeah and I had looks she sure dead I packed looks we already know you got looks you don't need to add that all right it was Valentino if I remember first of all how you remember what it was that that dress was iconic he said it was it was it was yeah I was like

I want to be her friend I can't even lie was yeah that's aspirational cuz I didn't have no Valentino then okay but exactly but you drove 2 hours and 45 minutes to meet somebody that you connected with online and that you were like I want to know more about this person and I want to go see the show I was like he's fabulous exactly and then I was like oh we're getting together is that what we're doing I'm coming I think our exact words were oh y'all aren't getting together without me hello I will not

be excluded I was so excited yes and so I drove 9 hours and like that didn't require a lot of money you know to get in the car it was like gas money and like two nights of Hotel um and we all packed into one hotel which my husband oh no I think we got two rooms actually we got two rooms um but it was not a fancy thing you know it was just like but when you want something you put the effort in yeah I think we expect things to just spontaneously happen by osmosis

and we don't realize like what's required so like if you want this kind of friendship what what do they need to do Susan what's our first tip well I think Robert modeled the first tip which is be willing to make the first move so right and it and it takes it takes vulnerability which is one of the reasons why the Epic of loneliness exists is that people are unwilling to be vulnerable enough to make the first move yes so making the first move means sending the text sliding into the DMS making the invitation yes he

invited me to Alvin Aly and I could have easily been like I don't hang out with my I don't typically I don't either you know I mean um but yeah you were willing to do that yeah and potentially be rejected correct right and so building up that bravery muscle to be willing to put yourself out there reminding yourself that the result is a beautiful friendship like this and you may get re rejected being willing to be rejected when you make that first move is imperative so it's developing a mindset that it's okay to be rejected

because you're just getting closer and closer to finding that friend that's going to reciprocate and also be the one to put in the effort yes so I think that that is imperative because most people just aren't willing to take that risk and if you're nervous about it some things that you can do is come up with some things that you might say to people like um oh I noticed you were performing in mtown like what's your favorite show you've ever done or come up with a way to connect with them about them and not making

it about you and then having um some of the other tips about having things to invite them to but exactly exactly and so that's our second tip like if you want to build friendships this is a another perfect example how we became friends is schedule time with them like you have to be intentional and put the actual effort into see your people otherwise those like any relationship dwindles if you don't put effort into it it's like not it's like a bank and you got to make deposits regularly you know and if you're too focused on

your individualism or too busy to be bothered with your friendships guess what those friends are going to be like okay you ain't got time for me so moving on and then you're going to see they they do correct and then you're going to see that they're like you know they're having the the fun trips and they're scheduling vacations and you seeing their photos and you're like wow I didn't get an invite and it's like yeah girl and I've been there when I was I was too busy and and you know and therefore I didn't have

the friendships that that I could have had at that time in my life so if you want those friendships you have to put effort in and I heard a story told recently um somebody was saying that like one of his mentors told him don't just schedule a lunch with your friends don't just schedule like once a month a 1 hour meet up or 1 hour lunch because you can't go deep with people like that right like if you want them to be that show up friend that you could tell them anything that they will always

be there for you that kind of friendship doesn't form from a one hour Meetup you know that's valuable you could start with that but you got to actually have overnights okay schedule slumber parties okay so that means like you need to like go on trips together or go like go visit them and stay at their house right cuz like when you like we all like woke up in the same place this morning and it's like Susan sced around for coffee as usual L like a little mouse grounding in the dark where coffe where the money

reside for real and then Robert refuses to get out of bed like it's like 15 minutes before we're supposed to walk out the door and and then he's like okay I think I'll get in the shower now and then Susan wants to murder him yes I'm actually perfect so I don't know what I could tell you about me I just wake up and I do what I'm supposed to do and she Wes up and she talks too much she wakes up and she's telling us everything instead of doing it get get dressed I am actually

pleading the fifth this podcast just got freaking rude okay it's true though I it's like I talk all the way to bedtime and then I start talking the moment I wake up it's just like you know this is why I was shushed a lot as a kid but you know what though here is what's magical about this is that there's healing in the small right in this small so last night uh Susan goes to bed first okay always it was late okay it was like I made it to 10 p.m. if she made it to

double digits she stayed up late okay we stayed up till midnight the other night I'm still recovering okay my eyes twitching girl get a banana okay if there was one y'all we hungry out here okay Rachel got us out here in the podcast streets honey listen we don't eat until we've done our job listen not bare methodology lunch is coming it's coming it's on the way but last night Susan went to sleep Rachel is twisting her hair doing her twist out for this morning that I should have done earlier in the day but forgot but

you did it exactly when you were supposed to because what you're talking about like the lunch thing right like there's a certain level that a conversation can go to yes but there was a healing conversation that we needed to have last night that only would have happened if we were a little sleepy yes and we were just sitting there and being able to support each other and see each other and that doesn't happen at lunch that doesn't happen at Coffee it happens in the hotel room when you got your afro picking one hand and your

miss Jess's in the other you know and it's like wow the rest of our year yes because of that like ah yes that release yes those deep conversations happen in the luminal moment you know what I'm saying like oh so now I got to stay up later this is what I'm hearing no but I'm also like yesterday we went for a walk we sat down at the coffee shop we had a good cry and a great deep beautiful conversation you know what I'm saying like it's those in between moments and so like you got to

plan those right like so plan trips with your friends even if it's going to each other's house is um just so that you can like wake up together go to sleep together like you're just spending full days together for a few days and there's so much magic that happens there like I think you should be scheduling at least two of those a year I prefer once a quar qu quar we get together more than that like we're we're always like like literally we have our dinner tonight and then we're we're going to part ways tomorrow

and tonight we'll be like okay when's the next time we see each other corre and we already know we already know it's going to be at Roi milon Sumit um so yes so like and then you know at Roi we'll be like okay when's our next get together and if there isn't one we'll plan one you know we'll be like oh let's meet up in New York or oh let's oh let's go to great barington or oh let's go see Susan in Indiana right like let's or let's go on Susan's got a retreat let's go

join her right Robert's hosting an event we're coming you know what I mean like we figure it out but we're going to be intentional and schedule that time you know and that's how people know that they're loved cuz you're willing to get on a plan for them you're carving out the time of your schedule everybody here's busy and got a lot of things to do but we're taking the time you know yeah that is what I wanted to share was this idea of how we then create Community yes because I will say you are an

expert at this like you are just naturally so good at building relationship you know um if you walk down any Street like I have literally been in Lake KO Italy where don't none of us live okay of us and I'm literally like lounging at the pool at this hotel in Lake Como and then somebody's like Robert I anywhere you go it does not matter it does not matter where in the world you are like any remote location and I guarantee you he got a friend there yeah but I think it it goes back to what

Susan said be vulnerable enough to do as I always say share the power of hello right like we are so afraid of that rejection which is real right but when you say hello you begin those new connections and you don't know what is on the other side of that hello we didn't know what was on the other side of when each of us said hey girl you know and like here we are a decade later you know but I think it then after that hello it's like create the community and speaking of Roi it's the

perfect place to do that and I think sometimes we think that the container is the magic place you are the magic maker you know because we are going to be with 500 other entrepreneurs however if you don't use that opportunity to create Community for yourself you will leave the same yes like just period because it it starts with you exactly you go to an event and if you're at an event you're with like-minded people like who they connect with the brand or they they're also entrepreneurs or whatever it is like they also whatever LED them

there right there something you have in common and then you go to lunch with like ask them to join you for lunch ask them to go to dinner ask them what are they working on right and like build those friendships because I've met a lot of people by going to events and you got to leave the house right like you're not going to make your closest friends on Zoom okay like get the hell out the house sometimes okay I do want to talk about though great Bearington so y'all probably already know that Robert has an

amazing TV show called breaking new ground on max and um he renovated this house moved to a town that he don't know nobody he literally was like flipping through a magazine was like that's my house went and bought it and then like literally how long have you lived there a year now February will be one year so only one year and he has community so remember earlier I was saying it takes two years to build community he's done it in one and I would say he did it even in an even shorter timeline than that

so I would like tell them what are some of the things that you did to build community in your new town the first be ready to LEAP before you feel you're ready to LEAP because I lived in New York City for 15 years I had my whole Community here I had my business here um and I didn't want to give up my place here yes but I knew that if I let it go I would have no safety blanket right and I would just have to figure that out you know and um so I let

the place go here and I said fully yes to being in great Bearington and when I got there one of my neighbors she's 75 years old she has a dog named Sirius Brown okay the dog's name is Sirius Brown the dog's name is Sirius Brown I love it okay and honestly at first you know you're new in a new environment and I just it was scary you know and I saw her at the grocery store one day and she said something I will never forget she said Robert you've got to be a neighbor o and

she just went on about her day and I mean I literally have chills right now I said Brown mom sirious Browns mom came through with bars that day she said be a neighbor don't like try and do no no no be it like actively be it and so I said all right there's evidence all around that people want to be my neighbor there had already been a couple of DMS there had been that had like dropped off notes and things at you know at my mailbox and so I just started replying to people you know

and then they would say oh come over for dinner or one of the I think one of the biggest shifts was there is a restaurant in great barington one of my favorite restaurants called Prairie whale I love that place we love the pr when y'all come to Great Bearington come meet me at Prairie whe um and I remember during the winter they had every Friday night a showing of RuPaul's Drag Race okay and I remember getting in my car and driving over there and like plopping down you know to this big table with nobody that

I knew and I said Robert what would you tell your client right now and I would say say hello yes like say hello and then be an active participant in the conversation and listen and then follow up right so I knew that one of the guys there um was an art teacher and I was like okay and he his students had an upcoming art show at the local college so I made a point to go to that art show right and did I love the art no not really you know what I mean but I

loved the feeling of showing up for him and showing him that like hey you mean something to me already and like building community mean something to me and that moment really Chang it it it shifted how I began to grow community and from him I started to meet other people you know to the point where this morning I've been away from home for a couple of days and I now have texts from Neighbors who are like hey we haven't seen your car you good now you got people looking out for you you're like I got

homies okay I have homies and it's like but you have to be the person that says hello and that commits to the vulnerable action of surrendering to community yes you know because it's there for you when you least expect it you know because I'm single and I I go out to dinner a lot by myself and so there are people that then just come up and they're like it's so good to see you you know and so I meet friends and people in that way as well and I think because going back to what we

were talking about earlier this idea of being an individual it begins with us if we begin normalizing saying hello to strangers and just being what we like to call humans you know I think our lives our families our businesses will be the better for it I completely agree I so agree and the other thing too Susan you've always um talked about how like you moved to a small town in the midwest you're from the south that's not like that was not your hometown right um and you were like my people aren't here for the longest

oh I mean I sang that sad song I mean for years I was like we have to move and I would spend all my time researching places like you were saying where I could go where my people were right and the moment I decided I was like okay we're not leaving right um so I'm going to decide that instead of this isn't my city this is my city right and my people will show themselves and one by one I started like my friend Stacy who was a yoga instructor saw an ad that I had taken

out in V living and she reached out to me and I'm like oh here's somebody likeminded and then from there I started to build a community of people who were like-minded and who were awesome and and if I wanted to I could have even more friends locally um because there are amazing people everywhere and I think if you have the attitude that these aren't my people or this town stinks or nobody wants to get going to get that's what you're going to get and trust me there's somebody else out there who also thinks that town

stinks and that could be your friend exactly and then y could just be the honory ladies together like we hate it here this place is stupid and the thing I want to say too about creating community and creating places for people to gather is to remember that the idea is it's not to impress it's to connect yes right and so you can have a book casual book club you could have like let's go to yoga and then afterwards go to sweaty brunch you know right like doesn't have to be this fancy produced thing for you

to make friends it could be super cash exactly and I I love that you're always doing Gatherings like every year you're always doing your like uh gallentine brunch at your house and then you do a vision board party at the end of the year yes and like exactly like you've hosted events for your clients in Evansville Indiana and it's like yeah find your way here I know you never heard of it figure out where it is it's a regional airport and guess what once you get there I'm going to show you every fabulous spot there

there's only a handful but she going to show them to you I'm going to show them to you and you're going to have a good time to the point that people are like I don't know why you say negative things this is a delightful town I'm like you've seen everything good including my house okay come back though I love it listen it's so good so I I feel like we've taught y'all how to not be lonely y'all don't have that excuse no more okay that part yes so our tips for you are one being vulnerable

you got to be willing to like put some effort in and just the power of hello use the power of hello you know notice something on somebody and be like oh I love those earrings those are so cute where'd you get those right and like from there you could spark a whole conversation do you have other openers that you use you know wait before we go to openers I just have one little thing to say because I love what you're talking about Susan and I keep thinking about Roi right like this container we're all getting

ready to go be at and I want everyone I want to invite you to not be thirsty right to not be thirsty thirsty to trust that you are enough and to trust that you are going you're going to attract and get everything that you are supposed to get and I think sometimes when we go to those business events it's like I got to get my business card out to every put your business card away right no one cares they want to actually connect with you as a human a right you know and so a a

way to do that is you know we're all on the app before we get there start friending people and start seeing like oh who's doing what track and who's excited for what you know and then you have something to look forward to and I think energetically that's going to be such a magnet for who you're supposed to meet and what you're supposed to get versus like this scarce mindset that I have to walk away with X Y and Z it's so true I will say too like the moment you go into fan girl right like

Susan I think you've experienced this many times too like as soon as you act like a like a fan girl or fan person MH you take yourself out of the Runnings for a friendship because it's hard to be friends with someone who's just in awe of you that's beautiful thing and it's like we have gratitude for that right but like as soon as you put yourself like so I've literally been preparing for the day that I meet Beyonce for years and I'll be like hey girl right like I I'm not going to be like that

I'm going to pass out and then we're never going to be friends that's just the truth of the matter I that I rebuke that in the name of beon Carter you know I just know that about myself however um and I met someone this year that I'm a fan of their work and I was like I'm gonna play cool I'm going to go in Friendship Vibes y'all the way that I did not do that the way I was a total nerdy fan girl I mean I'm like embarrassed for how I behave and like I rehearsed

it in my mind while I was online to meet them and then I get there I had a friend who was who know who knew both parties who literally gave me like the oneup right like gave me like the intro and I still fumbled the ball so don't feel bad don't feel bad if you can't help yourself like some people we're just fans of and we're not going to be able to be friends it's all right it's okay it's okay we got the same thing going too but if you approach yourself as a peer then

you're going to be treated like a peer right if you approach yourself as like well it dehumanizes the person that's what it is it's not that we don't like you yeah it's dehumanizing to be put on a pedestal in a way that feels um it doesn't feel good yes it doesn't feel like a genuine connection like somebody loves your work and that's amazing but you are not your work yeah right so like you want your work to be appreciated but also you just want to be a human right um and so like right when you're

put on a pedestal it's kind of like oh now I'm like it takes you out of Being Human and now you're like okay now I need to I need to be this image that they have of me so that like I don't ruin it for them you know what I mean I remember an example that comes to mine is back in the day I was um at an event charged with being Martha Beck's Handler and this was a huge event where she was a keynote speaker and I was just her wing woman and one of

the my jobs was to protect her energy and her from and I had to escort her to the restroom and stand in front of the stall because there were women trying to talk to her under the door while she was trying to go to the restroom and I just stood there in that moment and I was like this this this ain't it like she not signing your book now get let the woman pee I was like everybody out I mean I I got to be the bad cop right but I just think it's like really

if you want to connect with someone you have to think of them as a human being right and treat them like a human treat them like an actual friend right so like if they're eating say your hello but let them eat you know what I mean like they're like listen I'd love to talk to you but this salad is calling me cuz I'm hungry right now so like which is actual fact actual facts it's so true it's so true so your approach matters and one of the other things that I will will say too about

Roi that I love that I think differentiates it from other events is that we have something called brain dates so we actually turn every attendee into a possible host right so like you get to practice being a host and potentially meet other people so like if you're like really interested in collecting art you could be like art new art collectors Meetup right and like y'all could you could invite people right in the app people will come to your Meetup um and then we provide a space and you get to like host a group and just

have a conversation with them about anything you know so I I remember there was like meetups around new moms there was meetups around people who are grieving right like there's meetups around so many different scenarios not just your business that's the other thing don't become a business automaton where like you only talk business and nothing else it's exhausting it's a lot it's like people want to connect with your Humanity first then they'll get interested in your work but like they need to connect with you as a human first you know so I mean there you

have it okay if you don't got friends after this you don't want them okay what's it healing point to where you feel healed I won't answer enough from you okay go get you some friends go get you some friends in 2025 okay because I tell you what like they just make life so much more enjoyable okay literally every single day none of us live in the same place but we're on Vox every day and if somebody's not on Vox we're like we need proof of Life yeah p p yeah I I don't care what you

up to I need you to reply to this outfit yeah exactly and it's like reply to this outfit something terrible happened oh no no no you're not going to go in your corner and cry you going to tell us about it so we can be there for you okay like nobody no no friend left behind yeah and that's what's special about going deep versus wide right it's like you then earn that ability and that trust to be like no I have room for this and you know you're safe and supported here exactly and you can

share your most vulnerable most Emar I mean we've had some horrifically embarrassing moments oh God that no lentils in 2025 first of all I can have lentils I we are not supposed to be talking about this see he's a he's violated now I have to rethink my boundaries with you now yes we there's been some robe incidents over the years I think we should be wrapping this episode up now okay cuz I want to keep it clean there's been some things so you when you can share your lowest moments your most embarrassing moments your biggest

fumbles and biggest mistakes it takes you out of Shame when you can be like I screwed this up and and you have friends who can be like yeah girl you did but that's okay we still love you and you going to be all right you know what I mean like it it just it's it's a game changer it's a life Cher so go get you some friends in 2025 that's what we want for you okay out your friend okay we'll see y'all soon we'll see y'all soon hey do you enjoy money I do if you

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