are you sick and tired of people disrespecting you go away wondering why people are always looking down on you and not understanding your value your potential your worth then you found the perfect video the way people treat you changes today it starts with knowing specific things that you are doing today that are driving this disrespect here are the 7 most devastating habits that you most likely do on a daily basis that are causing people to disrespect you you need to learn all of these habits and begin immediately to remove them from your life so that you finally get the respect you deserve and pay attention to No. 6 the mother of all bad traits you need to fix now let's get into it No. 1 you hold no mystery you reveal too much about your life to others do you think that sharing everything you're doing and what you are pursuing is helping you in some way no it's not you need to stop being an open book for everyone to read if you become too predictable and you hold no mystery to others then they don't give you much respect what people know fully they control and they do not fear what they fully understand it is important to maintain a certain amount of mystery about you to others keep others guessing when it comes to your life your pursuits and just plainly who you are feed them with information very intentionally give them only what they need to know so that it works for you once you become a closed book others will think of you more wondering what's written in those pages the lack of clarity will turn you into a larger than life character in their minds and they will know you to be someone who is more careful with their personal life and not so generous with their information this draws respect and keeps disrespect at bay No.
2 you speak too much aside from revealing too much the amount of words you say and the amount of time you take up speaking matters a lot when it comes to how others perceive you in general the more words you use to say something the less impactful the message will be how you communicate tells others a lot about your thought process and they will judge you immediately which often leads to disrespect because most people just vomit what they are thinking if you don't have any filter in your brain that catches your thoughts processes the information synthesizes it into something concise and clear then what you end up saying will seem like a stream of words that dance around the idea and have a hard time delivering the essential point what's especially disrespected is when you repeat things in what you say if the listener senses that you are restating things and that you are figuring out the message as you speak the listener's brain shuts off and immediately judgment is placed which leads to an a cruel of disrespect when you really need to speak something it's best to give yourself time be comfortable with the silence to process in your mind what you would like to convey and prepare a concise and clear message then speak it the fewer words delivered will have much more weight will make the listeners lean over to listen very intently and once you deliver it they will think about it more seriously and you will be considered as a very thoughtful smart and intentional person not to be messed with not to be disrespected and the last point on speaking too much is that you don't listen enough the act of listening intently and absorbing the information and insights deliver to you in full is noticed by those you are speaking with and they see that as an act of an enlightened person listening is the lost art of conversation it drives people to really appreciate your time and appreciate your presence prioritizing the gathering of information versus the giving of information grants you more respect and you become a part of the very few that exercise this secret and gain respect for it in return number three you gossip there is an old saying the highest level of people talk about ideas the average people talk about events and the lowest people talk about other people so basically if you gossip about others you are showing people that you are on the bottom tier spewing gossip lowers your image to others instantaneously it may seem fun and interesting to gossip about others but that's purely short term stimulus and long term disrespect what you speak about reveals where you place your priorities and it also shows your world view if the lens that you see the world with is focused on other people then that speaks to a mind that is getting distracted by the meaningless happenings of others and missing out on the exploration of impactful topics solutions to problems perspective upgrading discussions even if others are discussing gossip and sharing their opinions about others just say to them oh interesting and then change the subject don't fall victim to the trap of contributing to gossip just let it go in one ear and out the other it's a waste of your time and you are better than that in the short term people may be a bit taken aback that you are not joining in on their discussion of others but over time they will respect you for it they will realize that you have more important things in mind and you are not so easily pulled into the muck of gossiping about others number four you are too negative most ideas are bad ideas and having some conservative view is smart but if you are vocally negative all the time and are addicted to pointing out why things are going to go bad then people are going to not want to be around you and they will eventually look down on you there's a lot of risk with everything yes but true wisdom is embracing that risk represents opportunity and taking measured actions on those risks and learning from failure is the only way to move forward being negative means that you are sensitive to the risks this can be a very good thing as long as you don't let it engulf you if you understand the risks but then propose a path forward that takes those risks into calculation then people are drawn to you for your wisdom and action oriented approach rather than pushed away for your negativity and being close minded in a way it is leveraging negativity in a forward moving way it's redirecting a bad thing in a way that it becomes a good thing all it takes is a tweak of perspective No. 5 you have no pursuit why are we here on this planet no one truly knows the answer to that but in general having something in life that you pursue will get people to respect you and look up to you if it seems that you're not working towards anything then people tend to disrespect you having some pursuit in life is connected to value and the pursuit can be about anything from growing vegetables to building companies it is purely about the energy that you put into something the dream you have the action you take on that dream pick a passion you have a goal and take the steps now to start towards that goal one great habit to develop that pursuit is to learn from experts by reading relevant books tons of insights inside the right books that can help you stand on the shoulders of giants to see farther and accelerate towards your goals I've recently been introduced to a great tool that I highly recommend to you to help you gain those valuable insights from books while saving you plenty of time the tool is called Short Form and it creates these very clear and concise insight summaries for the powerful nonfiction books out there that would be what you need to help you in your pursuits they also take the key points of the books and create interactive exercises so that you learn the insights at a deeper level so in a way it can be better than reading the book itself the catalogue of books it has is ever expanding and currently houses all of the most relevant books on categories such as studying and productivity health and relationships wealth and growth what I like to do is read all the insights of books I'm interested in through short form then when I land on a book that really connects with my interests I get the book and read it in full this way it saves me from having to read every single book in full which usually ends up saving me 90% of the time I would spend reading books the old way short form has also provided the Feel Real Good community with a free trial and 20% off on their services try it out at shortform com forward slash feel real good or check out the affiliate link in the video description below No. 6 you don't follow through here it is the habit that drives the most disrespect it's you not following through with your word if you decide to do something you must do it if you tell someone that you will be somewhere by a certain time you have to be there at that time if you say that you will finish something you should commit with every cell in your body to finish that thing and finish it well when people don't follow through on their decisions or words this drives the most disrespect and that's because this shows that you take your word very lightly and that you lose the internal battle with yourself to act and follow through on your word even if you don't fix any of the other traits mentioned in this video if you fix this one and follow through on your word you will still earn a decent amount of respect people will say well at least he does what he says or well her word is still valuable your word is bond it reveals how much people can trust you it is how much you can trust yourself end this bad habit today and never ever lose your word it is the most important thing to drive more respect from others and respect from yourself No.
