how to HEAL from your emotional trauma | move on from the past and level up

you see this this I hate this is what you see when you go onto Google and you type in how to heal from emotional trauma and almost every single article has the same vapid information no logical advice like have a self-care day have patience oh you want me to be patient girl I'm out here suffering it just frustrates me so much because I know what it's like to experience hurting a hurt that's so deep that you can't talk to other people and no one else is going to understand it so you think you know the

internet with all of its resources would offer some good advice and then it just lets you down and I have experienced this over years of my life and that is exactly why I choose to make these how-to videos and why I want to pack so much detail and information into it so then it becomes your ultimate guide to overcoming that problem so I'm not gonna sit here today and tell you to lean on your loved ones and talk about it and just get through it consider this your ultimate guide on how to heal from your

emotional trauma here feel not be distracted through self-care days but actually rebuild your life and move on one beginning the healing process and this has to start with understanding a little bit about what trauma actually is now trauma isn't just about the event that happens to you but it's equally just as much about the response that you have to that event for example let's say that your trauma is that you were in a toxic relationship and you survived narcissistic abuse from that relationship this is my personal experience and I'll be referencing this example throughout the

video so you think your trauma is the fact that you are in a very deeply painful relationship but your trauma is actually also the aftermath of it the way that you keep criticizing yourself why did I stay so numb I can't believe I fell for somebody like that you're constantly judging yourself and now you also have to experience the pain of coming to terms with yourself after losing yourself in certain ways because you experience that trauma and for that reason it is important to note before you watch this video healing starts with discomfort it is

at the root of it the only way to heal is to actually face your pain head on and when you try to suppress your feelings ignore them or run away from them you're also running away from yourself healing is a journey it's not an event okay it's about progress over Perfection and a lot of the times we think that we've healed and one day we're doing great and the next we feel like we're back to square one and we're a failure we don't know how to heal and we didn't overcome things no that doesn't mean

that you're doing healing wrong that means that you were brave enough in the first place to embark on this journey it takes time and it has its ups and downs but you have to embrace them because they won't last forever all of the Downs you are about to have in this journey will teach you just as much as the Ops so everyone says there are five stages to processing grief or trauma these are denial anger bargaining depression and finally acceptance but I disagree with this I've made up my own nine stages of starting the healing

process through my own experiences with it so let's get into it more often than not we actually try to avoid our trauma and we start the process of self-blame oh but I shouldn't have put myself into that situation well I shouldn't have been so sensitive or other people have it worse I should just get over it no you did not deserve what happened to you and it's okay to be affected and hurt by it you can only start to heal once you finally accept that you're not completely okay and from that point on you need

to start to learn about your trauma after I left that relationship I ignored it I just assumed oh it was just one of those toxic bad relationships that everyone goes through but it was so much more than that it wasn't until I finally Googled the traits of a narcissistic person and relationship learned about this disorder learn about the effects it can have on a person the way that it can literally cause brain damage in the victims of narcissistic abuse and fully understanding it and why it happens only then after all of that research could I

fully understand what happened to me and then finally come to terms with it step number two super simple acknowledge harm over help and this is where you need to start holding yourself accountable for all of the areas in which you are engaging in self-sabotage for example allowing yourself to reach out to people from your past just because you think it will make you feel better in the moment when really what you're doing is you're longing out your entire healing process and you keep going back to square one not having boundaries being too nice putting other

people first suppressing your emotions living a low vibrational lifestyle not standing up for yourself and having a victim mindset so let's say that you have a parental wound so like mother issues or father issues your help over harm is to start re-parenting yourself rather than re-traumatizing Yourself by constantly going over the issue consistently having grudges and blaming and not focusing your attention on what you can actually control which is your behavior and your life I'm going to teach you how to re-parent yourself later on in the video step number three embrace the suffering you are

not a robot girl why are you beating yourself up for crying why are you telling yourself that you're too sensitive I feel like there's this misconception that to be emotionally strong you can't be affected by others but that is far from the truth I fully believe in Detachment but also negative emotions are part of the human experience you are a vulnerable loving caring person who loved and lost and that takes a lot of Courage the best first step is to acknowledge that you opened yourself up to another person you offered up your loving cat and

yeah it didn't work out but you shouldn't beat yourself up for that step number four sometimes closure is needed this is not for everyone and this is not an excuse for you to go back to your ex however if you have been suffering or something for years and you cannot get your head around it and you really feel like you need that last conversation sometimes it helps I had an absent father all throughout my life and it wasn't until last year after 10 years of not seeing him I reached out to him and I started

talking to him again just to finally see him in person face to face have those conversations and I went through my entire teenage years with this father wound affecting me every single day since last year having a couple of conversations and then cutting him off for good this situation doesn't bother me at all I feel like that one step finally fully healed me same with traumatic relationships in the past I reached out to my ex one whole year after the breakup just to have one last conversation I realized he hadn't changed I realized it was

completely in his character the way that he was I realized it was never going to work out and it put me off him for good sometimes you just need to have it out with people so you don't spend the rest of your life wondering what if step number five take responsibility for your life you have to quit the whole I am the way I am because this happened to me I react like this because of the way my childhood was yeah but that triggered me because of what my mum and dad did to me when

you say phrases like these you are giving your past all of the power to run the rest of your life so now you need to start shifting your speech and thought patterns so instead you'll say oh okay well I reacted like that because I was triggered from an event that I'm still working through that way you're making it a habit to remember this is only temporary you won't be this way forever and your trauma won't affect you forever and it's a constant reminder to yourself that you will heal and it's a process that you're going

to get to the end of Step number six like go off expectations and shift your focus I have dealt with parental trauma and it took me years to get over it and stop hurting about it on a daily basis and the uncomfortable truth I learn is that we have the power to change our stories no matter what happens to us the narratives we tell ourselves can limit us and keep us stuck in our past so you need to hold yourself accountable for the stories you continue to tell yourself about different situations for example if you

constantly tell yourself things like oh I'm in lovable or they did this to me because I don't deserve that treatment or I'll never be safe because this event happened to me I blamed my parents so much throughout my life and I felt so unlovable but then I shifted my mindset and I realized I had to stop expecting treatment from people who were not capable of giving that to me and instead realize I can create my own safety I can give myself love and affection I am strong and independent and brave and I can create a

beautiful fulfilling life for myself my worth and the beauty of my life is not dependent over how this one or how these two people treat me step number seven release the memory do a thought don't record yourself on camera and just speak about it for as long as you want to journaling and Scribbler all out rip the pages write down swear words whatever it's going to do to make sure that you've gotten all of that emotion out of your body this is so you're no longer harboring any of that resentment or negative energy and therefore

you can't give more of your emotional energy to your trauma because you've let it go this is a really important practice of emotional and physical release because you're putting words under paper you're releasing all of your thoughts from your brain and all of the emotions out of your body as you're writing it down or as you're speaking about it step number eight rewire your nervous system your nervous system has a very large role in your stress response to your trauma after a traumatic event your nervous system picks up more cues than ever in response to

your environment around you which is why you start to feel triggered by normal everyday things you start to feel more stressed and you start to see more danger in everything around you and you become more hyper Vigilant it can cause many physical and mental symptoms so a few ways to kind of rewire a mental system and calm down that stress response for example practicing meditation is a very big one in order to heal from your trauma or start the process of doing so you have to disconnect from your ego and from the thoughts in your

brain this links into that narrative that we constantly tell ourselves which just keeps re-victimizing ourselves and making sure that we live in our trauma for a longer period of time breathing sitting still doing yoga eating even just taking a cold shower grounds you and calms the stress response in your body cold exposure exercise and taking deep breaths are the best ways to fix your nerves and begin the process of emotional regulation and lastly step number nine you must accept the event it's as simple as saying to yourself I went through XYZ event and this person

took advantage of me a lot of the times we can't heal because the energy from our trauma won't leave our body because we're not accepting it you have to face the truth yes it might be embarrassing oh I got with that person for the sixth time or I trusted this person and they hurt me again or I put myself in a vulnerable situation and I was taken advantage of or I was made a fool but I fell in love with an abuser you are avoiding the pain because you're letting your ego run the show and

that is what is keeping you stuck so instead you need to confront it quite the mind and the ego and literally say to yourself these are the events that happened this is what that person did to me this is exactly how it affected me and this is exactly how I'm feeling now no it's not I'm okay I'll get over it I'll be okay in a few days and I'll stop crying you need to say exactly what happened once you do this the Energy starts to leave your body because you're acknowledging it it's not constantly pent

up and eventually you will get to a place where you accept your trauma and why it had to happen to you and this stage is where you stop giving so much power to the event because you're like this taught me a lesson this made me stronger I learned from that event I survived that event and now it's going to change the trajectory of my life for the better because I've learned that wisdom because I won't get myself in that situation again because it's put me on this here journey to become a better person I am

at a point in my life right now but I am grateful for every single traumatic experience that's happened to me because I'm finally happy and healed and in a place in my life where I want to be and I truly I know that I wouldn't be here if I didn't have to experience so many adversities on to chapter two this is all about the shadow work technique there are a few different ways to practice Shadow work I'm the first and my favorite one is going into a memory to comfort yourself this particular technique saved me

a few years ago because a problem that I kept having that was cropping up was identifying as my past self like I was grown I was 19 20 years old I'd had a glow up I had leveled up my life a little bit and yeah I kept viewing myself as my 14 15 year old self who you know was lonely and quiet wasn't popular was extremely insecure although I changed outwardly and I changed my personality a lot my self-image hadn't caught up to that and as a result I was still experiencing a lot of self-image

issues about an insecurity and confidence issues you can apply this to any situation but I'm going to talk about it with my example so I close my eyes and I imagine my current self walking up to my younger self so I imagine my 14 15 15 year olds off sitting in a classroom in school feeling lonely feeling awkward not talking to anyone being shy then I imagine my current self in her early 20s confident beautiful smart strutting up to her and having a conversation with her and telling her this is who you are this is

who you end up being and you just have to imagine how would you have gone about your life five six years ago if you knew where you were going to be now if you knew you were going to have a glow up and you were going to get the job and you were going to make money and you were going to be beautiful and get into a relationship and find other friends and everything you end up doing you knew that and if you had that surgery years ago you would have gone about your daily life

when you were younger much more confident you would have strutted around because you knew everything was going to be okay and you knew all of that power was inside of you the whole time so really when you're doing the shadow work exercise you're kind of telling your younger self that so then your self-image can catch up and you're not still harboring all of that past negativity and insecurity into your presence day the second Shadow work technique is inner child healing this is a lot about speaking to the child version of yourself telling them that you

love them and looking after them and being affectionate towards them reassuring them keeping a lot of compassion for them there are a lot of ways to do this so you can close your eyes and imagine yourself going into a memory where you were hurting as a child and then going in and comforting them and giving them the treatment that you wish you received but you didn't and now your current self is going to go and do that as you step into this memory or you can have a picture of your younger self when I was

going through a lot of confidence issues and I was also suffering from imposter syndrome I went through a phase where for about two to three months I kept an image of my four-year-old self on my mirror so every day when I got ready I was acknowledging she is still inside me that is who I am still and she deserves respect and compassion and kindness so every single day I shouldn't be critiquing myself and judging myself and telling myself I'm not doing enough because she doesn't deserve that another way to do it is to write a

letter for yourself Journal about it like writing a letter saying all of the things that your inner child really needed to hear my favorite way of practicing inner child healing is whenever I'm kind of going through or I feel hurt or I'm crying I close my eyes and I picture my five six year olds off running into my arms and then me my current 22 year olds off just holding her so tightly in my arms and comforting her and creating a safe space for her and letting her also be sad and crying arms and like

look after her and kind of be her parent figure in a way and the last way to practice inner child healing is to recreate your favorite childhood activities so you need to spend a day or just schedule an hour once a week to make time to do all of the things you loved as a child you can be silly and goofy and you just need to be your full authentic self and go back to your roots like what brought you an immense sense of Joy when you were younger that after a while you stopped doing

because you had to get realistic or you had to grow up and be cool like no okay if you want to go outside and run around your garden do that you want to paint a picture and be super messy with it do that you one thing I really do is I watch all of the movies and TV shows I watched as a child like if you know you know about the Bratz movie like even the Bratz cartoon show brought me so much joy when I was a kid I still watch reruns of it to this

day because I feel like it brings me back to her a little bit and connects me with that past version of myself similarly the next strategy for shadow work is something called chord cutting this is really useful at cutting ties with past people we do not condone going back to the people that hurt us allowing them back into our lives or allowing that energy to consistently play a part in our daily routine instead we focus on removing our energy from that person to get them out of our head and move on with our lives we're

cutting that energetic cord from us still having a connection because that bond is over it's done once again you can close your eyes and you're going to visualize going up to this person and having it out with them saying everything you want to say an alternative to this is kind of like writing a letter to your ex your pirate whoever's hurt you and writing down everything you want to get off your chest so it's all out of your head and your body when you're visualizing having it out with them having that final conversation you're going

to get all of your chest and then you're going to turn around and you're going to walk away and then you're going to visualize as you're walking away all of that negativity all of that past trauma and those painful experiences being left with them as you are walking away from them with your back turn towards them as you're walking away from them you're gonna imagine you see a line drawn on the floor and you're going to step over the line when you step over the line that symbolizes you stepping into the new version of yourself

and a new era of your life that you do not bring them into they are still behind the line and they're staying there okay now there's like this energetic force field where the line is you now can't return back to where that person's standing when you're visualizing this in your imagination you need to act like you literally can't step through like this invisible glass while you've let that person behind with all of the emotions and the trauma left with them then you're kind of signaling to your brain that now there's a separation between you and

that person and you and that event and as you're walking away once the chord has been cut you can feel your energy and all of yourself get bigger and brighter and happier and more hopeful and that process right there is what is happening to you in your life right now now that they're no longer in your life you are in a new phase that you didn't bring them into this is full of opportunity for you you haven't brought them into this new phase so if you keep going back then that means you can't keep moving

forward the next Shadow work strategy is called the Q a technique this is where you keep questioning your limiting beliefs over and over again so that you can get to the root of your trauma and stop giving it so much belief and logic a really great way to do this is with a journal so at the top of your page you'll write your limiting belief let's say it's I feel really undesirable why do you feel undesirable because I've been single for a really long time why is being single for every long time an issue because

I feel like that means I'm unattractive and I'll never find anybody again okay and then when you write that down you're like that doesn't make sense like how do those two things even link and then you're also realizing the story and the narrative you're feeding to yourself every single day and you can kind of nip it in the butt next up the easiest way to practice Shadow work is through journaling prompts you can Google there search on Pinterest type it in on Tick Tock people will post questions all the time and then all you have

to do is answer these questions in your Journal questions like what am I most ashamed about of myself who hurt me the most and how can I forgive them what are my toxic traits and how do I self-sabotage my experiences who am I now and who do I want to become what am I most afraid of others finding out about myself and the final Shadow work strategy is re-parenting yourself as I mentioned before this is where you start to give yourself the power control and authority of a parent you allow yourself to step into that

role and therefore have way more control and power over your own life in order to do this you have to start being self-compassionate so when you speak to yourself all of the judgment and criticisms you give yourself imagine you were saying that to your own child would you treat them that way no you wouldn't so you have to also start treating yourself as if you're you are your own child no scolding yourself no judging yourself no insulting yourself give yourself love and affection treat yourself validate yourself and your experiences and your feelings look after yourself

on a daily basis okay I cannot tell you how much I have reconnected with my inner child since moving into my own apartment like I feed myself I make sure that I have the most nutritious healthy meals because I want to give myself and my inner child the best shot at Living a long healthy happy fulfilling life I drag myself to the gym okay you have to also have that discipline and take responsibility for your life chapter three the technique we're going to be talking about here is the emotional regulation routine and creating a new

life for yourself this for me personally has been the biggest help in helping me heal over all of my trauma my current happiness is honestly just down to this one technique this is where you rewrite your story you ask yourself where is the love and light and joy in my life how can I find it and how can I create it so the first and most beautiful way to do this is to wish others well this is a daily practice and you need to make this a new habit within your new life and new routine

so every single day when you're walking around on the street and you just see strangers out and about send them a blessing send them a prayer wish them well I hope you know you don't have to say out loud you just say it in your head I hope that person has a great rest of their day I hope that person had a really good day at work I hope that person gets everything they're manifesting at this moment in time when you're doing this you're living every day through a really optimistic lens and it allows you

to start seeing the best in other people so like if you see a couple together instead now you're going to be at the lens of oh they're so cute together I love that for them instead of operating from your trauma and all of your triggers and thinking oh she's probably gonna get her heart broken or I bet that guy is trash and it links back to what I was saying about your nervous system you start seeing danger in everything you know when I was going through it I used to see the worst in people all

the time I was scared I was I couldn't trust anyone I used to see guys out and about and I was just nervous to be in their presence but once I started my healing journey I shifted my perspective and I started seeing so much joy happiness and kindness in other people what you look for is what you will find it's like that old saying if you start trying to look for a yellow car all day throughout that day all you will see is yellow cars you have to open up your heart so then your world

view changes and then as a result your life does too you know why because your life is merely reflections of your thoughts and perspective if you think that everyone's out to get you no one wants to be trusted everyone's putting evil eye on you and all of that stuff that's all you're going to receive from people and then you'll just keep re-traumatizing yourself because you have such a Negative world view the next step in this brand new routine of yours is to find something to pour love into which isn't another person something that is all

yours it doesn't need to be a job or a passion or your purpose it doesn't need to be perfect or monetized all it has to do is fulfill you so for example example for me it's really important for me to have a creative Outlet because I'm such a creative person creating videos online has always been that for me I just got lucky and it also turned into my job but before it did I have been creating videos on a regular basis I'm talking every single week since I was 12 years old but now especially creating

this community online and pouring my love into all of you through the advice I share and how we all help each other online has healed me so much because I don't have time to think about negativity or to Harbor resentment to people who have wronged me in the past because I'm so focused happy and fulfilled with everything I'm creating right now and how I'm taking control over my life it's about taking your attention away from the past and bringing it to the present because you're bringing so much abundance into your present life you literally don't

even have the capacity or emotional energy to give to all of that past negativity and because of this for the past few years whenever I've gone through a breakup or I've lost friends or I've been rejected yes it's sad and yes I have hurt because you do you need to go through the suffering for a little bit however my entire world hasn't crumbled down because I'm like okay yeah this hurts and I'm gonna think about it and I'm gonna Journal it and get it out but my life isn't ruined because I always have other things

to go back to things that I can't lose because they're not other people that being said the next part of your routine is to not isolate yourself it is your responsibility to seek out the joy in life again you have to find it shifting my perspective and being able to see all of the possibilities and New Beginnings that could be in store for me helped me get through to the other side of my healing Journey because I knew there was another side to get to so a great way of doing this is like Vision boarding

writing down your goals planning out your life and like visualizing what your ideal days would be because I was doing that and I was giving myself something to work towards that's what kept me waking up every single day to fight another day even when for a long time I didn't want to wake up in the morning and the last strategy in your brand new emotional regulation routine is to educate yourself and turn it into wisdom for example if you come from a dysfunctional family you have to learn about it buy the books about living in

a narcissistic family dysfunctional family having a mother wound or a father wound and then put yourself in their shoes because that is all you can do you can't control somebody else's Behavior you can't make them treat you right but you can try to understand them to Grant your own peace of mind if you don't and you keep feeling sorry for yourself and putting blame on everybody else constantly even if it is their fault you still shouldn't do this because then you're constantly stuck in a victim mentality for the rest of your life educating yourself about

the problem or about the person so you can understand it means that you can make your peace with it and then move on knowing it was never personal and therefore makes you less vulnerable to that problem which lessens your trauma over time so one instance where this really stands out was I was in a relationship with someone who was extremely emotionally unavailable and like really played with my feelings and it took me six to seven months where I was just so heartbroken I was thinking about this person every single day I couldn't stop thinking about

them it really impacted my self-esteem until I Googled emotionally unavailable people emotionally unavailable relationships and I realized what happens in their brain to make them act in that way and then I realized he didn't just treat me like this he's going to continue to treat everybody in his life like this because he can't help the way he is and his treatment of me does not define how much love and affection and respect I'm worthy of because I learned all of this and I turned that education into wisdom about that particular person that problem I could

finally have peace and rest and stop living out this constant stress response you have to make sense of the situation and create a safety net for yourself where you know you won't fall into that situation ever again and finally this new life a new routine links into self-love which you must be practicing every single day and that is the last technique we're going to talk about in this video Chapter Four self-love and healing the relationship you have with yourself the most important aspect of this that is very overlooked is to to honor your dark side

and your insecurities become one with them and love and appreciate them just as much as you do with your strengths for example other people made me feel shame and as a result I felt shame about the way that I kind of put myself out there the way that I spoke the way that I dressed carried myself but I stopped labeling that as a weakness and I used it as my strength instead I now strut out in the most extravagant outfits I turn up to every event extremely overdressed because that's my style that's what makes me

feel confident and that's beautiful yeah I talk fast and I talk loud and I'm very energetic and chaotic and out there but there are some people in the world who are going to love that about me and even if they don't I love that about myself because I show up to every conversation with so much energy and I'm bubbly and I show other people the excitement I feel and I'm so expressive of my emotions and that's a beautiful thing about myself I'm gonna tell myself that narrative as opposed to you're too loud and it's annoying

you need to quiet down and be more ladylike and blah blah blah another part of my dark side was that I constantly had so much self-doubt thinking I wouldn't achieve anything I really really suffered with imposter syndrome too so I started having more self-compassion like I said before looking at the picture of my younger self and realizing that's me and I deserve patience and love and I deserve Second Chances I'm gonna mess up and make mistakes and that's okay that doesn't make me any less smart that doesn't make me any less lovable realizing that you

are enough without having to do anything or earn anything or get anything you don't need to perfect life okay even if you've skipped the gym for a whole month you're still lovable and you're still doing great even if you had an off day you deserve respect and admiration because look at you waking up every day trying to give it your best shot the next step into healing your relationship with yourself is to shift your focus and fall in love with yourself okay self-love is Gonna Save you every single time every day we find a million

new things that are wrong with us okay every single day there's a new insecurity that comes out something we need to fix about ourselves something we need to hide and I'm sick of it oh my body's not perfect sure oh my God I had another breakout oh my God I can't believe I did that that was so embarrassing oh my God I can't believe I said that in that conversation and why haven't I achieved my goals yet first of all trust the timing of your life because you will get the job you will graduate you

will find the relationship okay and in the process of getting to all of those goals you have to make a commitment to be kinder to yourself self-love is always going to be my biggest priority and the thing I preach about most because when we're kinder to ourselves and we show up for ourselves and we know we'll always have our own backs no matter what life becomes a lot easier and healing becomes a lot easier because you're gonna have tough days and you're gonna hurt over things that have happened in the past but when you can

cry on your own shoulder and when you can be your own therapist and give yourself a hug Everything feels lighter you become your own support system and it makes the entire process just that little bit smoother self-love links so much into that create a new emotional regulation routine because it becomes this habit that you have to carry into every single day it's self-love is a lifestyle I can honestly put so much of my healing down to the fact that I just really like myself now so what do I have to judge criticize or beat myself

up about okay I made some bad decisions or I used to criticize myself if it being too sensitive again myself into these tricky situations that ended up traumatizing me but I'm here now and I got through it and other challenges gonna come and I'm still struggling with things here or there but I'm gonna get through again because I have so much trust in myself and my capabilities and I'm gonna hold my hand and walk myself through it because I am my own best friend and living life with myself is amazing I don't worry about going

back to people from my past or dwelling on past situations because I'm so content with who I am and who I've grown to be and like and like becoming Tunnel Vision on that mission to keep growing myself and seeing how far and how great of a person I can become and how much of a fulfilling life that I can create for me personally that has been the center of my healing journey and the Final Chapter number five the homework and affirmations chapter as always I'm gonna give you guys a few homework tasks to make sure

that you're actually implementing all of the advice you learned from this video in a practical way so you can start your healing journey and then we're gonna finish off the video with five affirmations so you can start today homework task Number One You're Gonna script out your pain and confront it in the most vulnerable way so that you can begin to understand it I want you to forgive yourself in the process and just write it all out in a journal task number two is to lead this with the Q a shadow work method so when

you're writing everything in your Journal getting it all out of your system and doing that emotional release you're going to start questioning everything you've wrote and the narrative that you've been telling yourself to get to the root of your trauma so that you can understand it and work back from it homework task number three I want you to find a picture of your younger self either on your phone or like an actual picture stick it on your mirror set it as your wallpaper look at it a couple of times this week and speak kind words

to yourself visualize your younger self show them some compassion and affection homework task number four go on to Google type in Shadow work Journal prompts pick out some questions that align with you and what you're struggling with at the moment and answer the questions in the journal task number six you can go to the link in the description and join our Discord if you didn't already know I have a Discord Channel where so many of us I think we're on one thousand two thousand members come together and we have a channel called Deep chats and

healing and everybody kind of comes together and events to each other other you guys give each other such great advice it's such a wholesome loving space I read through it quite a bit and it's such a supportive Network for people homework task number six you're gonna watch the following videos on my channel if you haven't already my boundaries video my self-validation video and if you're struggling with relationship trauma you must watch my how to heal your attachment Style video and the last homework task is to get into your reading okay if you know me you

know I love some good self-help books so if you're on your healing Journey then I would recommend you read the following healing is the new high by Vex King Good Vibes Good Life by Vex King what happened to you by Oprah and the mountain is You by Brianna west that is my personal favorite and now we're gonna finish the video off by you going away from this and saying the following five affirmations let's go I am not my trauma it does not define my character or the trajectory of my life things can only get better

for me I am strong and capable to create a bountiful life for myself moving forward I am loved and cherished exactly as I am I release all negative thought patterns and beliefs from my past wounds and embrace the happiness of this moment and the hopefulness of the future and lastly I see abundance all around me and life gets better every single day and that brings us to the end of this video I hope you guys enjoyed it and learn something new if you did please comment down below and let me know so then I can

learn from you guys and continue to make these videos better and better if you're not already make sure you're following me on Instagram so we can be besties and check out my jewelry brand did you know I read a jewelry brand and then we can be twinning I'm wishing you the best on your healing Journeys I'm so proud of you for putting in the work to learn about how you start you've got this I appreciate you I'll see you in the next video bye [Music] foreign [Music]