Take Back CONTROL of Your LIFE in UNCERTAIN TIMES w/TONY ROBBINS

Gratitude destroys the two emotions that wipe out most people's quality of life fear and anger think about it what messes up your relationship what messes up your body what messes up your business and anger so if you're in a situation where you're grateful you can't be grateful and angry simultaneously it's gone and instead of being grateful for some phony thing You're remembering a real moment you're reliving it in your body so it activates your nervous system not just your mind and that's a big difference welcome back to the show everybody i'm so excited about today

um i was thinking about introducing him i you know there's really not a lot of words to introduce this man i i was thinking about it driving out here for the interview today i i've been on the earth 50 years and i believe this one human being that i'm Going to introduce to you in a minute has positively affected and changed more people's lives in those 50 years than any other human being on the spinning earth and that's a pretty big statement to make i believe he's affected more lives than any other human being the

last 50 years that i've been alive and one thing all the guests on my show have in common we've all been influenced by this man ourselves and he's an icon and i'm proud To call him a friend of mine too so tony robbins welcome to the show again brother thank you ed but that introduction waiting for jesus to walk counselors might be a little hyperbole there about me being the most powerful influential but i am really grateful to you ed because you and i we both are driven to find answers right in the middle of

people's uncertainties and fears it's one things i respect about you and i Love seeing how much your podcast has grown congratulations thank you brother thank you and speaking of that i want to go right to it if i'm going to get you on the show i want to really help as many people i know and serve as many people as you do and you've gone right to it we're in this time where there's so much uncertainty externally in people's lives you know what's happening on with the pandemic Masks no masks all the political discourse all

this stuff this noise this uncertainty and i think there's so much angst and anxiety in our culture right now so many people listening to this are watching it right now what would you say to them that are experiencing those emotions right now what advice would you give them they got to turn off the news i know that sounds overly simplistic but you gotta at least turn it off a little bit So you can get a breath because unfortunately today it's hard to turn it off since it follows you i mean most people have seen the

social dilemma they understand that literally you are being tracked in every single thing you speak say do and everything you're going to see and it's different if you type in global warming and you're one person you're going to complete different set of answers than if you type in global person warming and you're another person So we're living in a world where it's hard to find truth and so the first place you got to realize is you can't control out the outside world you can influence it but we can control the inside world and if you

get yourself overwhelmed it's because all this is coming at you you got to slow it down stop it and say now what am i going to create out of this insanity because that's the great thing that happens i know it sounds you know optimistic or And i think you know me well enough i'm not one of those positive thinkers i've never been i believe in intelligence i believe in seeing things as they are but not worse than it is so you don't try but then you got to see it better than it is or you

can't make it better and then you got to go to work and get the right strategies to make it happen so for me it's really slow it down and everyone needs a compelling future what do i mean by that anybody can deal with A tough today if they have a compelling tomorrow but what's happened is there are a large number of people that after the first run of 2020 we were coming into january and i remember that and people are like all right now it's a new world it's a new life it's going to go

great and then you know all of a sudden more people died in 2021 with with vaccines and with all these details that we have and so people are uncertain and now we got omnicron and people are Making it like the great plague when if you actually look at the science the vast majority are showing it's more like a cold or a really gentle flu but it doesn't matter we're tracking everything now if you imagine if we were tracking the flu constantly where it was we just we don't test everybody so we don't freak out all

the time so what are you going to do to create a compelling future for yourself what do you really want this year to be about regardless of What's going on the outside world you might say well that's easy to say but they're controlling my business or they're shutting me down here you can move you know you can make new choices i know they're not easy ones but you got to get to the point we say i won't settle for less than i can really do be share create and give in my life for my family

for myself for what i want to want for my life there's a point we got to say Enough is enough and you got to start to take control how do you do that one of the things that you say that i love is fear is physical and what i learned from you so many years ago that transformed my life is to begin to learn to change my state with my physiology yes everything in my life starts with my physiology from my fitness but also when i'm feeling something i don't want to feel i try to

Shift my physiology and i just heard you recently say this so i'd like you to speak to it that fear is also a physical thing i want you to elaborate a little bit about that well first of all if you're concerned about covid according to cdc and i have this in my new book the number one you know issue besides age obviously the number one piece is being overweight right or obese that is number one and just this week cnn new york times for the first time two years Later coming and saying you can reduce

your risk if you take care of your body right do you know what number two is according to the cdc fear because when you get fearful it changes your breathing your body temperature your tension in your body all these things can create a trigger of reactions hormones in your body that make you crazy so when i say fear is physical here's what i mean you fear physical by The way so is courage emotions are physical if you're really scared have you ever been that point where you're like freaked out about something and you can't quite

fully swallow or you got that feeling in your gut certainly but courage is also physical that's what you're talking about like it's like i trained myself from a very young age that the number one thing i had to do so i would follow through on the things we're talking about here is i had to Have a mind and body that were strong together that every day i was going to do something to strengthen my body even if it was just 10 minutes or 15 minutes something was gonna shift me physiologically to do that and so

i you know i get scared i get frustrated i go on a run i go on a sprint and i wasn't in shape didn't matter i pushed myself beyond what i was comfortable with i go lift weights and i pushed beyond what i was comfortable with and when you do That everything in your nervous system changes because all of a sudden when you face something and you push beyond the comfort zone you get stronger and stronger even a little bit each day changes things something about a courage that's not you're not afraid because there'd be

no need for courage urges you're scared list but you do it anyway yeah and so training your body and you and i both do this right we train Intensely because we know this is the resource through which my mind's gonna try to make decisions and then the second thing is every day you got to feed your brain your mind because if you don't crap is going in there automatically we all know that right yeah i mean today it's chasing you because we all know the news knows they're not bad people they're good people they're just

doing their job their job is Make sure they make as much money for their shareholders and they know one formula works and it's pretty obvious these last two years more than ever if it bleeds it leads if it produces fear more people watch it's because we all have a two million year old brain that's always looking for what's wrong what kind of hurt us but your two million year old brain is not going to make you happy right you have to take control of that 2 million Year old brain and start to direct consciously what

you want your life to be so changing your body radically by a workout by a run by push by whatever you're gonna do shifting by feeding your brain every single day and then making sure every day you're taking some form of action towards a compelling future like what am i gonna make better if you have nothing to look forward to you're going to be pissed off you're going to be frustrated You're going to be depressed you're going to be overwhelmed and in those emotional states even though you're a smart person and you know lots of

things you won't use anything you know to me the leverage to changing somebody's life is always starting with the human body if i started to speak to you and i spoke more at uh This tempo and i said yeah i had i really think people should get their act together and make this their best year ever i feel terrible my body now i'm not saying everybody needs to talk fast or loud like me that's my own physiology but it's kind of trained but everyone has different gears and when you're low gears like you can be

in a great relationship somebody you totally love and you're both in a great Physical state emotional state everything's great you both get a little low from taking the kids to 20 soccer practices and casual problems in the business and all that stuff and all sudden same love doesn't feel like the same love you still love each other but it doesn't come across maybe you're both stressed out then it creates problems in the relationship so the most important factor in your life is the ability to Manage your mental emotional state is the one thing you have

complete control of once you learn how then it becomes just the daily discipline and after it's not even discipline it just becomes habit to say i'm not going to live in this lousy pace i'm not going to put up with it i know what to do let me do it let me move forward but that's why you know i do programs and events where i immerse people yeah because you know you and i can talk about this humanist Kind of nod your head but if i put you in an experience correct i always tell people

a belief is a poor substitute for an experience you can have a belief about china i take you to china you're going to have an experience it's very different so i think human beings need to put themselves more in experiences a lot of us today especially with kovid being stuck at home and doing business from home a lot of people are stuck in their Head i tell you get in your head you're dead you'll just go in circles get in your head you got to get that body and that energy moving and then your head

will start to work as well okay so you've all been listening now for say 10 minutes just two things already number one do you have this compelling future if someone asked you right now what's that vision for your future second thing is what are you doing in your body to Create a change to anchor things to change your state the third thing was tony talked about his events and i just i want to get this out on the table right away one of the most incredible things is you've done events for literally millions of people

from every continent every country on the planet and i mean what i said i'm not saying that because we're friends i i just i think you've possibly affected more lives than any person that i'm aware of That's just true and i the fact that you now are offering a free event it's just bananas to me i mean it's it's incredible to me so i think it starts on january 25th but i want people to know about this because this could be that catalyst to help you know create that compelling future and maybe transcend your environment

so tell us just a little bit about that event i think what i did i did it you know after 2020 about halfway through the year people are just So depressed you saw people gaining weight people had no clear idea what they're gonna do so i said okay i'm gonna do an event for the whole world let's just let's use youtube let's use all the different tools that we can let's bring them all together and we had 400 000 people and i was like let me do one for three hours but i'm not really capable

of that so i was like two days two days for 90 minutes and then i made It five days yeah and the reason i do this not because i like to talk it's because you need a certain amount of immersion it's like learning a language if you only learn a little bit at a time you don't remember it two years later but if i put you in rome day and night for a month you're gonna come out speaking italian so that's my theory so what i did was i did five days we had 400 000

people join us and every day we took a part of their their body Their emotions their relationships and the goal is get them a new perspective because it's hard to do that when you're at home but not when you're in this audience literally of almost half a million people but last year we did it again we had 860 000 people to join me for five days right so i'm doing one final one cause i'm praying this is the last of covid yeah but i really want to help people here at the beginning of the year

because you see so many people now Are caught up in what i call learned helplessness when you've been disappointed oh you get a gut check but most people pick themselves back up but if you get disappointed enough times there's a point when your brain goes the problem is permanent it's just or it's pervasive because i can't turn my business around my whole life is over which is not true or it's personal there's something wrong with me and so i want to break those Patterns and give people a direct experience so if you want to join

me guys there's zero cost and you don't have to travel so it kind of handles the rejections most people have and it's as you said it's coming up on january 25th through the 29th five days in a row about 90 minutes each day it's probably going to be more like two hours but it's totally interactive it's not you just sitting passively and we're going to cover your body your emotions Relationship your life and get you to have a plan for 2022 here where you really can start to have a compelling future and again no cost

to it you just go to what is it breakthrough 2022.com okay it's really the breakthrough challenge i want you to break through your changes in your relationship your business your finance your life so breakthrough 2022.com and there's no cost go guys i i you got to take advantage of something like this i'm so Excited for that and i want to i want to ask you hard stuff like stuff maybe you don't get asked all the time stuff that i get asked that i struggle with sometimes and so i get you know obviously that their compelling

future got to change their physiology in their state i believe the more i've been you know working with people the last 30 years you know winning is as much happiness success Sometimes to me is as much environmental as it is mental and i get asked often and i know you probably do too hey i'm i'm in a relationship where i live with someone who's not as driven as i am it doesn't share my ambition might even be antagonistic towards some of my visionary thinking or even i come back from an event where i'm transformed but

they weren't In that same environment so i'm in an environment or i work somewhere where it's negative do you have any advice for someone in transcending a not supportive or negative environment the first thing is what you know i've already said so i don't want to i'm not going to be repetitive but i got to be repetitive you've got to be in the strongest physical state where your mind's not going to work there and then secondly you've got to feed that mind Those two things are prerequisite because it doesn't matter what the external environment is

if the internal environment is re-engineered i mean think of it this way you can try and take a general car and try and do a sahara desert run or you know one of these crazy races that would go for seven days right you're like you're to die you're going to be crushed in the first you know two hours but they've engineered those cars So that those trucks so they can take the hit so they can go through the desert so they can go through the rain so they can make all those things we are in

the middle of winter and we need to re-engineer ourselves we can't just sit around and say i can't wait till it gets better it doesn't work that way you got to re-engineer you so that winter is your season so that you're not freezing to death you're learning to snowboard or ski or build this new version of your Business or be with your family i mean literally there is an advantage and i know it sounds unbelievably overly optimistic positive thinking you know me well enough that's not where i come from it's just smart intelligence shows everything

will provide an opportunity you know i have a nine-year-old daughter as a result of kobe because we tried for years i was like i've never been home this long i said okay if i can be home And serve 10 times many people which i've been doing i've you know i've had seminars that used to be 10 15 000 people a stadium and now i've got seminars 800 000 people right it's like i can reach more people come home to my daughter be with my wife but there was advantages there was you know i lost 100

million dollars in the first six months of this area and i knew i could handle the business thing but it's like in my mission screw the economics how do i Turn this around but then you find a way to turn around find a way to serve people now i get to see whole families because they a lot of my seminars people do now digitally yeah not just this free one but my regular ones i built this giant stadium and now i can see in their living room i see them with their kids who they didn't

want to leave before to go or their husband who walks by going what is this within a day he's like this is Incredible you know so there's there's an opportunity that has to be found but you got to build your first base within you so that it isn't the environment now does the environment play a role of course if you're a great sprinter and you try to run in mud you're not going to maximize your capacity and that's why it's critical to choose have a chosen family so to speak you know i have my family

who i adore and love and i even i have a friend i talked to the Other day that i've known gosh since my first son was born so you know 40 years right a little less than 40. and he's a good guy and he's doing better now but years and years ago he was always just not growing everybody around complained about him he's taking advantage of my name he's doing the crazy stuff so i stayed friends with him but i literally at one point said i'm gonna be a friend forever But i said we're not

going to hang unless something shifts it was one of the toughest things i ever did but it was a really smart thing and now you know 40 years later he's made a shift we have a nice relationship he's grown but you got to choose who you're going to surround yourself with now you can't do that sometimes family or whatever the case may be your husband or wife isn't it blind then you've got to find how to get that alignment and that's your job Your job in a relationship is not to go get something your job

in a relationship is to bring something to the table which means you got to know what do they want what do they need what are they desire what are their wounds i mean relationship's the easiest thing in the world they gotta decide what do i really want in detail and then you decide what does this person really want need desire and then i gotta get addicted to meeting those needs because if i meet their Needs and i love doing it in the beginning a relationship most people get so excited light up their partner after a

few years is like you know would you take out the trash you know what they lose the joy there's the passion right so it's a long answer to you to say i don't believe environment is the most important thing in fact i know it's not the inner environment is the most important thing i can take you personally after a person in the worst Environment who found a way to thrive still and so if you buy it's the environment you're gonna you're gonna end up being a victim even though that's not your mentality it's just where

it goes now can i enhance my environment can i choose people to bring into my environment people i wanna learn from i wanna get coached by people i wanna help yes and that's critical for your long-term success I just uh i just think about so many things that you do not just that you say there's a lesson in there that most people would miss but because we were talking a little bit when it happened covet happens and you you run a business a particular way it's about you i mean you've got other businesses but your

most you've got lots of them right but the one you're most well known for in the public is your your outreach the date with destinies The life masteries these upws these events and it was very expensive you get this gigantic team you can't put events on they're not happening but yet you then took a risk you you you made a calculated risk by building a studio and making an investment where you had no idea whether people it was like you built it and hopefully they would come right and so that was a real ballsy move

gutsy move at that time That no one else was making other than you in the space everyone was a little bit frozen and you did you stepped forward and led and i admired that so much and i think right now there's a lot of people that are sort of they're holding back a little bit they're a little bit you know gun shy right now and i'm wondering if you think that's appropriate right now or what advice you give somebody says you know i'm just going to wait this out to see where the Cards fall yeah

that would certainly not be my recommendation or i doubt yours right right because momentum is everything right the hardest part in life is creating momentum so when that all happened you know i had built something of momentum over you know 40 years literally at that point around the world and you know what do you do all of a sudden when you know suddenly they say you can't do an event With more than 10 people and you've got 15 000 people scheduled to take over the stadium and you know you know what i did i went

we're going to vegas they're never going to shut down vegas right but then they shut down vegas i was like i know i'm going to rent a church a mega church from a buddy of mine in houston 15 000 people they're not going to keep costco open and shut down the church they kept costco up and shut down the church so i Got to the point where it's like what do you do and when you think there's nothing you can do that's when you can do something when you think i don't know what to do

that's when you know what to do if you just push yourself and so i was like i pulled my team together i saw a guy do like a webinar with 252 inch screens and i said i'll kill myself first i said i got to create an experience for people they need it desperately wherever they are in the World so literally i pulled out a tape recorder's like okay here's what we're going to do we're going to do 20 foot high led screens 50 feet wide highest resolution in the world 0.67 150 you know 50 degree

180 degrees around me around the back i'm going to call my buddy eric yawn i'm going to see if zoomed we can expand in from the little thousand to 20 000 or 30 000. i'm going to hire a firm to create an app so they can shake it so it sends a signal and You can hear reality of people clapping because the more shake it the louder it gets and i just started creating the whole thing an hour there someone was done my my cfo says uh tony um you know after he saw all the

numbers he was over 20 million bucks by the time we're done he's like tony should we rent some of this first and i said to him i said listen of all first of all you can't i said go do your best not what i'm looking for i said Second of all this is going to be this way for a while yeah and we're going to use this to help more people and that you know when things go back to normal we get to go do that too and i just did a date with destiny where

i had you know uh 10 000 people from 97 countries and then i had 500 people in front of me because i built the studio so that there's 40 foot high ceilings so i could literally lift the 20-foot screen and so now i have a Hybrid event people don't want to come personally i'm there people that want to be in the middle of the night in some other country are able to participate but all that comes from just taking action and momentum yeah if you build momentum you can accomplish anything you've seen it in sports

you see a team that's dominating and then somebody steals the ball and the momentum changes yeah your job right now is to create momentum and that's why i'm building This challenge is basically to say to you let's do a breakthrough for you right now so you know it's real let's get you get a real result let's get you to shift yourself physically and mentally emotionally so you can build that momentum because it takes so much energy to rock it out of the atmosphere it takes very little to get out of the solar system so that

momentum i think is critical yeah do you think we're going back tony to normal he's going back to Normal ever or do you believe we're going to be in some sort of hybrid economy going did this just accelerate what was inevitable by a decade because of the pandemic and we were heading here anyway i'm really curious as to your you know you talk to the best minds in the world including your own where do you think we're going in terms of the economy i think i think there's uh there are Major challenges ahead we're in

winter right now but we have not seen our more challenging winter and i don't say that out of being derogatory or anybody could be right by being negative right but you know every year i fully prepare for a financial program i do where i bring in six or seven billionaires and i bring experts in the field like a michael saylor on crypto i bring in ray dalio on finance i mean literally um the who's who of the financial world is who I get and i interview them seven days and nights well to prepare for that

i have to see where things are going so you know this is a book by the way if you don't already have you should get ray dalio's newest book it's called the changing world order and it kind of answers your question by studying 500 years of history and showing you where we are right now we have some major challenges Ahead i think in the short term we're going to do fine we're going to make nice moves i'm sure we'll figure things out but over the long term we have to be prepared because there's a cycle

change that's happening and you need to understand these types of things um i'd recommend a book to anybody who's uncertain about their life right now to give it perspective there's a book called the fourth turning i read in 1997 still one of my favorite books in terms Of importance not favorite to read i'll be honest with you the writing but the insights and what it basically shows you know bill clinton gave me a book called generations written by the same authors william strauss and neil howe okay and it's like 700 pages and it's 500 years

of american history you know anglo-american history and it shows that these patterns that we go through in history they're just like seasons There's a winter there's a spring there's a summer there's a fall and they're documentable he did a thousand years of roman history and shared it so this book on the fourth turning helped me understand that you got to know what season you're in because think about this ed like if you and i want to make a difference for somebody or our children or grandchildren There's three skills you got to master if you're going

to be in a world where right now depending on who's you read oxford studies they say you know by 2040 which is you're going to blink your eyes and you're there that's you know 19 18 years yeah you're going to see 45 of all current jobs will be gone right they're going to be replaced by robotics and replaced by algorithms it's going to replace by artificial intelligence so how do i take my nine-month-old daughter Or my grandchildren and prepare them three skills will make you successful no matter how long you live no matter what changes

in society skill number one it's the ability to recognize patterns you're really good at it you do it in finance you do it in business you're not just blowing your smoke that's why you're successful because when you recognize patterns it allows you to go the second step which is use them if you recognize financial patterns you Can do great things you recognize patterns in business you can turn around in your business you know that's what i've been doing i have 105 companies now we do seven billion dollars in business and i have no business background

but i recognized the patterns and i studied the billionaires that started with nothing and said what did they do how did they do it how'd they turn it around so if you can recognize patterns and if you can use them You've got a great advantage but then gradually over time like you know if you're going to play the piano you usually play other people's music initially and then there's a point where you come through now you start creating patterns and we start creating patterns that's when you become a dominant force in business and life in

the marketplace and with your children or anywhere else and So for me those are the three most important kind of skill sets that anybody's going to have to have and for me i'm looking around saying okay how do i help my friends see the patterns that are coming financially how do i help see the patterns are coming physiologically you know there's new breakthroughs happening right now in health that are kind of just blow your mind because Everything that's become digitized all of a sudden has this growth of doubling in you know capacity and having in

cost we all know what's happened over decades well that's happening to our health now we're made up of dna we're made up of code i just spent three years writing this book called life force really proud of it it's not out yet comes you can pre-order it they'll pre-order it But what i can tell you is it's all regenerative medicine it's things like i'll give a simplistic example a fireman falls into the fire it burns his face off traditionally up until two years ago the way in which they help him to try to heal and

his face will be disfigured is they put cadavers on there that's how cadaver skin is how they've done it most people don't know that it's horrific it scars you Now they have a spray gun at seven hospitals here in the united states they can take your stem cells and spray your stem cells on right and i've gotten booked you should see the pictures like seven days later it looks like this person wasn't burned oh my god it's mind-boggling you know uh uh christian ronaldo or a better example would be um jack nicklaus jack nicklaus was

in so much pain he couldn't stand for 10 minutes at a time now he's playing golf Again right with just some of these simple tools that are available and there's things happen right now and they're things they're coming over the next 24 to 36 months so you want to know what the patterns are so you can play so you can make the most out of your life so you can deal with the challenges quickly and you can find the way to succeed at the highest level but if you're going to be If you're going to

have an extraordinary life you have to remember losers react winners anticipate leaders anticipate your job is to anticipate so how do you anticipate you read you listen to podcasts you find people to the best in the world and figure out what they have to say not everybody's got an opinion but you know if i talk to ray dalio he's the most successful you know hedge fund guy in history he's brought more money Back than anybody in history and he's done it in good times and bad since the 1970s they got to talk to him right

so i'm fortunate enough to have those people be my friends because what i did i went wrote those financial books and how they do it i said let me interview the 50 smartest financial people in the world that started with nothing what do they have in common how do they Go about it and then i made those distinctions and then i teach them to people i'm doing that now with regenerative medicine for health and vitality energy as well i cannot wait for that because you know it's like my jam right now it's the i know

it is and the third thing that you said there is one of my favorite things of all the things you said prior since i've known you is that third step of creating patterns man like that's Everyone that i should go back and replay that again if you have children like go hear that again because i was thinking about patterns i was thinking about you've studied these you know these financially successful top 50 of all time then you've done it in the regenerative you're doing it in the medicine world the preventive and regenerative matters are the

future of anti-aging all that space but the other thing that you've had a front row seat To is helping people achieve success but more importantly fulfillment there's these things that always run through my mind that are like your isms you know success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure quality of your life the quality of your life is the quality of your emotions and i repeat these things and i teach these things and i have my spin on them But you know i'm wondering the commonality of the fulfilled people is there something that they have in

common if you took the group of the fulfilled ones yeah patterns behaviors something about them that if i wanted fulfillment in my life that you see they all have in common yes um they you got to separate two skills out i think most people in life think success is getting what you want and fulfillment Is living what you're made for you know and so getting what you want is not that complex right the human brain you can train your brain to become this servo mechanism that'll go figure out how to solve something a lot of

people without a goal or desire or they got so obsessed they couldn't stop thinking about it they didn't even have a plan and they met somebody and then something else happened it came together right now if they also had consciousness and effort And discipline and it's like a lot easier to achieve those things but frankly with enough focus and enough massive action and enough consistency and modeling what already works you can pretty much achieve anything um you know because when it comes to science we're talking about the science of achievement your body's a science you

might be biochemically slightly different but there's certain rules that if you violate them you're Gonna have problems in pain if you align with him you have high energy money is the same way it's a film that's different because what fulfills people is completely different it's like you want to know what the universe or god loves go to a forest what do you see everything's different every leaf every little snowflake there's similarities but there's all these differences and so people have got to find what makes them Really fulfilled but i can give you there's not laws

like there are for success but there are principles and the two principles i can tell you to answer your question who's most fulfilled it's people that are growing and people they're giving we are made to grow if we don't grow it doesn't matter how much money you make doesn't how many people gave you academy awards stars on your chart i mean i get the phone calls from all these people Who you would think have the greatest life in the world and then they're calling me because it's not so great because they haven't mastered the inner

world they're good at the outer world but this one this one hasn't been given enough time or energy they've been so focused out here and they've done so well out here not so well in here this is the one you want to do well on you well here you can master the outside world too you can handle anything so for Me it really comes down to looking at it and saying okay if you and i are going to have an extraordinary level of fulfillment what's going to make me grow because that's what's going to make

me proud and to grow you've got to face challenges and i think the biggest problem most people have is the biggest problem they have is they think they shouldn't have problems you know It's like problems are a sign of life problems are what make you grow now you know i'd rather call it a challenge i'd rather look as a challenge and take it on as a challenge but you and i both know i mean i have grown so much in the last 24 months taking 105 companies some of which were literally shut down for you

know 12 months keeping them alive not letting go on my employees figure a way to turn around Figuring out adapt i mean i've developed more skill and ability to help other people because i had to manage my own state unbelievably so i help other people manage their state so without the challenge would i grow so much probably not and then out of growing you have something to give and you know you think about it ed and i know you're this way but i think we're all this way if you have an experience of something that's

really amazing Something you love what's the first thing you want to do share it share it's somebody you care about right why because if you just have it in yourself you only feel so much but sharing it magnifies it so the people i see that they're they're just growing and giving but they also are really good at this pattern recognition so let me give you one more note about pattern recognition because i want to complete the thought For your listeners and viewers think of it this way there's power when you recognize the pattern and you

can use it there's even greater power sometimes when you can create a pattern so think of it from the standpoint of humanity for thousands of years we were wandering through the environment trying to survive moving from place to place being you know gatherers and hunters of That nature and then when did humanity change we made one pattern recognition seasons see when we understood seasons for the first time we understood if you plant in the winter it doesn't matter how hard you try you're going to get nothing yeah you have to plant in the spring you

got to push through the hot summer and then you get to have the fall where You reap and then guess what the winter's coming again and some winters are long some are short you know some happen sooner some later but you can't break the sequence and so there's a pattern that pattern changed humanity so i'll tell you the pattern it'll change anybody else realizing there's a pattern to your own life yeah there's a pattern zero to twenty is for most people springtime It's where it's the easiest to grow you're being taken care of if you're

lucky some of us maybe not and some of that take care of others at a young age but regardless overall 0 19 20 21 you get to gather and learn information and be taken in to some extent depending upon your life then what happens 21 to 41. go test that and decide what you believe like they told me how to be this way screw that i want to try this you know You go to college you go try something you start a business you get a relationship and you have all this testing procedure and so

now you go through the hot summer of figuring it all out yeah and then if you've really done a good job planting in the spring and building through that summer you'll hit the autumn where you get to reap where if you've done really well 41 to 61 is a reaping time right if now if you Didn't plant in the spring you know jim rohn you should talk about you'll be weeping in the fall if you don't do it right right so if you don't do your job you're going to have problems but that pattern is

in people's lives and then 61 to 81 and if you're lucky one to 102 that's the extended next season of winter but winter could be the best season your life you have a great time with your family you're close you're mentoring people you have a different Experience you have plenty of business you can do whatever you want to do or not want to do so those are seasons but then there's one more pattern okay and this is the one i hope i'll reach your listeners or viewers with there's a pattern of history you know it's

often it said history doesn't repeat itself but it rhymes okay you know any lesson we don't learn from history tends to repeat itself Because as the older people die who know how about history like let's say the world war ii generation then the lessons are lost so think about this just for a second imagine for a second you want to understand how generations are built here's my simple math for it so imagine this for your viewership right now awesome think of yourself imagine you're born in 1910 So you're going to come of age 19 2021

in 1929. now you're gonna have a very different experience because what happened world war ended it looked really good and then the roaring 20s happened well you're 10 12 14 years old people are getting cars and radios and people are dead this is the greatest time in my life and right when you come to that stage you thought you're going to get a car red light jumping out of buildings the economy is Going through the floor we got the dust bowl i mean that generation wow from 21 to 41 what happened when they turned 29

well think they were born in 1910 that means 1939 so they made it through the depression that generation to go to a war that most people don't even know what is it about it was a war that if you were alive at that time it looked like hitler was going to win like it was taking over the entire world Like the nazis it looked like we were going to lose it did not look good so all of a sudden this generation goes to fight this war for survival and guess what they come back in 1945

and they win and now think about they were born in 1910 right so here they are 35 years old and they come back to being a hero veterans administration suburbia they can have a home they can finance it and These heroes came back and they took care of our they were the next springtime think of what it was like 30s and 40s versus the 50s and 60s say the 50s to early 63 before kennedy was killed it was a high time for a lot of people now not if you're african-american right not if you're a

woman in some cases i would just think in that reversal yeah but just give you a historic component but think about what happened after kennedy was killed And then robert kennedy and then martin luther king the 60s a completely different generational race if you were born at that time you have a different perspective on life if you came in the age in the 60s you have a different perspective and someone who came of age in 1929 you're going to look at life differently they're going to respond differently and then what happens in the 80s to

the 2000s where would this fall where you Could give anybody anything and they give you a house right where the stock market goes up no matter what but then you get past early 2000s 2008 and now where we've been since 2008 we're in winter right and the good news about winter is in the beginning it separates people in the end when there's a real pressure like i remember talking to the president clinton one time and i'm i was 32 years old i'm walking with him at camp david And the snowing and this little this little

deer went by it was like a surreal moment he's telling me all these things and all these challenges and i'm thinking this guy is the president united states and he's stressed out this concerns me you know i remember looking at the time thinking these are such easy problems compared to an earlier generation so here's why i tell you that the generation that we call the great Generation that fought world war ii that made it through the depression that came back and turned things around that generation was not respected in the beginning they were seen as

flappers early on they're seeing as weak they responded because the environment got tough that's why my response to about the environment doesn't matter the environment the most challenging environment is the best environment if you don't give up Because it'll bring out things inside of you that nothing else will and that generation went on so i think right now you see a constellation of generations you got the z generation right you've got you know you've got them arguing about the part in their hair between them and the millennials yeah but at the same time these are

people that are tech savvy yes we're being prepared to be the next heroes i think the next group of heroes is this constellation of Generations and we're not facing it right now because we're running off on the corner imagine if you were an american you know one of the pilgrims coming over a one and three to one and two chance you wouldn't last a year they give up their life for freedom and we're sitting around going you know how many more mass should i put on and how many more shots can i get and who

can i avoid even getting near I mean it's it's embarrassing but i think it has its limits and i think there are a lot of people hitting their threshold right now and saying you know what i'm tired of living in fear and i'm going to take my life back i don't know how yet but i'm going to find the people who got those answers i'm going to get the answers and i'll make it happen and so i'm one of those people you're one of those people there's lots more and i think people have to decide

To put the plant their feet and say no more that's one of the best things i've heard i also just an explanation and definition of actually why to be optimistic actually why to be optimistic and it's i i need re i think people sometimes need reasons to be optimistic and i do i don't think i think about this young generation the z y generation one i think they've been exposed to everything they want to contribute they want to be A part of causes and missions they're not just all financially driven so many of them want

to be a part of something that makes a difference in the world and we got to unleash them it's about time we stop sitting on our hands and not unleash them the way you described it you are now trickling into the winter stage at your age and i'm curious if there's something this is like what was a friend but we'll let people listen in um Maybe you used to really believe firmly about life people that you no longer believe i think the smartest people every once in a while go you know i change my mind

i think i'm always kind of concerned about someone who never changes their mind you've got more information more experience and you think the exact same things you thought 25 years ago that Would concern me so i'm curious in your case if there's something profoundly that you you kind of were pretty sure you knew that you've shifted your beliefs on or maybe more than one that's just there's probably a lot more than one yeah just trying to think in a more current form i think there was a point in my life where i thought that i

had to i think my model the world was sacrifice And then you know about 15 years ago i remember i was on my home in fiji and i was looking up at all these crosses and i was so frustrated he's like wow i'm doing this to me i'm the one that's making it you know either or i'm the one that's saying i have to give up everything that matters in order to serve in a certain way i had had these stories in my head i'll tell you another small one that's a big one small simplistic

but big i remember telling my Wife i will not have a child after 50. i mean i've already got four kids i got five grandkids i'm not doing for 50 because i'm not showing up in my kids high school graduation at 70. and now i'm gonna be there at night at 81. awesome congratulations but that's also why i'm so glad i studied all the things i have now i gotta live a lot longer more i got the tools to do it yeah that's so wonderful brother is there a couple more things because i get I

get you here hard things to ask like i don't want to ask you things you always get asked so i get asked things and these are the ones that i have struggle with it's not is it okay to quit meaning is there a point where in in and how do you know if i'm on a path if it's just not working i'm in a business that's just not working or i'm in a relationship that's just not working i think we've created this Culture that quitting is this horrible thing if you ever quit that's failing and

i think some people create this bondage around them almost in a relationship or in in a business environment where pivoting even is like you know something a terrible thing to do i'm just curious what you would what you would say about that that's a great quality question it reminds me of one more thing that's changed within me because you know i Stayed in a relationship for 20 years where i was really not happy i made everybody else happy which was my whole sacrifice there and um and the reason i did it was because i grew

up with four fathers right i swore i'd never get a divorce so you know you build these ideals i remember there's certain things like i'd rather die than that or what a stupid thing to say but we develop these beliefs that once they become an ideal They kind of have they possess you and they take you over so you got to be able to question anything and so the answer your question is yes there's a time to move on there's a time to start something new there's a time to learn the lesson that this business

or this relationship or this experience has given you and make a move because otherwise the real test is are you growing like if you're in a relationship you know it's a great relationship if You're constantly wanting to be better for the person you love if you don't really give what they think that's not a good sign right right i mean it just means there's not the level of intimacy there's not the level of connection you might have been together forever but it's not where it needs to be so it's like telling yourself the truth i

think is the hardest thing for people and i think The ideals get in the way of that truth meaning the things you've you know and grandized in your mind to be absolute but i think when it comes to a business it's not an easy question when it comes to investment i don't in investments it's easy i don't move to a new investment until i found a better one i don't just get pulled by the next shiny thing i really look and make sure it's there when it comes to businesses I'm pretty crazy i've stayed in

business it's way too long i should have probably gotten out but i did it and then sold it and made a little money but just it was my whole thing that i don't quit so but i think there are times when you have to adapt the business to something new i mean if i was still doing what i was doing two years ago you know on the road doing what i was Doing i would do 115 cities on average um usually 12 to 16 countries i was on a train of plane helicopter every two to

three days and i don't know i don't even know and no one would have ever stopped me because they couldn't because there's so much momentum of what i'm doing what about doing that right now you know my 250 employees at that company would be all unemployed you know because all around the world they made it illegal to Do what i was doing so you have to be able to tell yourself the truth about where you are and also though not give up too easily by saying where's the season of this business okay where's the development

like if a business is really young it's a toddler business it's going to burn more cash than it's going to give you back if it's a you know if it's a business that's in that go-go phase that teenage phase you get overconfident grows like crazy and then You don't have the profits at some point when the sales slow down and you got real trouble is it a business that's aging but also i gotta look at what's the industry like i give an example i have a friend really good guy maybe 44 45 years old prime

of his life like you had really well put together i mean takes care of his body great mind great mindset without giving his personal life away he Owns a very large business in australia dominates an industry and the industry relates to big box office supplies okay so i had them at one of my business seminars and i'm walking him through these stages just like a human being goes through life stages so does a business just like history right yes and if you know what stage you're in you know you can do the right thing at

the wrong time and you don't get rewarded yes plant in the Winter you don't get rewarded right buy a house sounds good 2007 maybe not the best time right you know so it's like you got to take a look at where these things fit where is the where is the real decision decision-making here that makes this happen so anyway he's got this office by business and he's young and dynamic so in his life cycle he's in his prime Yeah his business is in its pride he's worked for years it's crushing it but where's the industry

is that a young business a growing business an aging business and there's no question it's an aging business and i said to him i said you got to separate these out because if you're using your brain intelligently you got to sell this business because even though you got a great business the multiple is going to go down every year Because the industry's going down yes you take those resources and reinvest so again it's looking at things by telling yourself the truth seeing what stage they're in and seeing what stage of the world's in because you

might have the best idea in the world but it's not going to work when everybody's shed in their homes perhaps depending on what the product or service is so you have to doubt i love it you uh To get clarity you had taught me a long time ago you know about my rituals and habits and my routines and i'm curious if there's anything new you're doing or what your morning routine just looks like for you is there anything new to it and take them through maybe just the the the big pillars of it the basic

fundamentals i get up in the morning the first thing i do is i go on This freezing cold water and i do it as a discipline not only for the health of my body because it moves everything in your body it moves your lymph throughout your whole system but it's also kind of been my mental discipline for about seven or eight years it's like i don't negotiate there's never been a day where i wake up and go i can't wait to jump in this freezing water it's 55 degrees right but i just i don't say

oh in a moment or let me think about it or let Me do it later it's like now when i say go we go and i've trained my brain to do that while i also give a great physical benefit and then i do what i call priming which two-minute version of is it's just 10 minutes now sometimes i do longer because it feels good but i do it for 10 minutes because if i said do this for 20 or 30 people don't have time but if you don't have 10 minutes for yourself you don't have

a life so i do Three things really fast i change my body and i if people go to uh tony robbins forward slash priming there's a free video there they'll show you how to do it awesome but the essence of it is you change your breathing to awaken your body and then i do three things i spend three minutes where i focus on three things i'm truly grateful for which sounds so basic but i don't just think about it like seeing myself on a roller coaster over There i imagine being in the front seat of

the roller coaster going over the edge so that i feel it and the reason you use gratitude and you stack it every day is that gratitude destroys the two emotions that wipe out most people's quality of life fear and anger think about it what messes up your relationship what messes up your body what messes up your business and anger so if you're in a situation where you're Grateful you can't be grateful and angry simultaneously it's gone and instead of being grateful for some phony thing you're remembering a real moment and you're reliving it in your

body so it activates your nervous system not just your mind and that's a big difference so i do three of those and then i do three minutes of these types of health blessings so to speak myself my family And then i do three minutes on what i call three to thrive i think of three things i want to achieve and i don't wish for it to hope for it i see it as done i feel the celebration i acknowledge i give gratitude for it and i own it it sounds overly simplistic but in 10 minutes

i'm primed meaning my brain now is going to look and find the things i wanted to versus the old brain that we all have that's looking for what's wrong and so By doing that each day it makes it really simple then the last thing i tend to do is i try to make one text or phone call or i leave an audio message for somebody yeah to acknowledge somebody sincerely yeah and i don't just go you did great buddy or you're really hot you know i say you know i saw you tuesday when we were

with those kids and i noticed you're the only one that stood afterwards and spent the time with them And i just want to acknowledge you for that thank you for that type of thing and then the last thing i do is i do the most difficult thing of the day it's like i always try to start with the most difficult thing because when you conquer that everything else is easy so if there's something i'm not looking forward to do or there's a meeting i don't want that's the one i do don't you think that lastly

a difficult thing creates momentum too don't you once you It really does and also it makes you once again just like starting the morning with something difficult it's like change your brain there isn't anything that difficult right let's just go do this let's go handle it it puts you in a state of action as opposed to state of thinking okay so good all right two minutes i got two questions left there are so many things in my life that you've said to me as a friend and also just your work That's impacted me but there's

just this subtle thing you said one time i'm gonna like you said earlier i think the six the success part there's a science too right the fulfillment part is an art and you had an experience where you just said you know i just someone said i'm paraphrasing but being in a beautiful state yeah and i then asked myself i said ed like what percentage of the time i'm always ranking things you know Percentage of the time are you in a beautiful state you know and it kind of was a masculine dude you kind of like

it's a little bit weird but but how often am i just feeling in a beautiful state and i didn't like the answer it wasn't as much what was your answer back then well honestly i think i said to myself it was about one percent of the time oh and and this you know what's crazy is when you when you hear beautiful states Some people think like you said doesn't sound very masculine but let me give two seconds of background please elaborate on it go ahead yeah i mean um for most of my life like help

people achieve accomplish everything achieve make it happen and if you ask me i was fulfilled it's of course i was and i was i loved it but there's different levels of fulfillment right if you've never smelled a rose and someone's telling you what a rose is Like you think you know to experience it yeah so i had this experience in india i go about every two years and there's a friend of mine there's built this amazing facility and he had like a quarter million people showing up for his event they expected they would have you

know i think a hundred thousand people and a quarter million people showed up and then a million two by the next morning and the guy that was there is a really Smart guy and so i had a conversation with his son and he was thanking me for all this work i've done he goes tony of all the things you've taught me said i think maybe the most important thing is all the ways i can change my state i can get unstuck i can i can get myself to follow through he goes it is priceless and

he really thanked me and i said well i really appreciate it and more importantly i'm glad you're using it Right he goes but i just have one little thing i'd like to ask you because you know you talk about if you're in a peak state you get peak performance or if you're an energy rich state a high energy state you're going to produce differently than a low energy state or a lousy state i said yeah he goes well what if you call those high-energy states beautiful states i said that's great because it's not just happiness

a beautiful state could Be excitement it could be gratitude it could be love it could be kindness it could be warmth i mean there's a million beautiful states it's any high energy state where no one has to tell you what to do you'll do the right thing so he goes okay i said sylvia beautiful state's great and then he goes what if we took all those lousy states those low energy states those those types of states and what we call those suffering And then when he said that probably kind of like what you experienced it

like nod at me a little bit i was like suffering i don't like suffering i don't suffer but i do have times when i'm frustrated or stressed overwhelmed so i couldn't deny it so i was like okay yeah those would be suffering states i felt this little trap going on in me and i said why do you say this yes he goes tony because i think it's the most important distinction you've made but i like to Use some other words around it you guys because i've set a spiritual vision for myself i said what's that

he said my goal is to live in a beautiful state every day no matter what he goes to me that would be the most gorgeous life because you know people have everything and they're miserable they're pissed off they're frustrated and so forth because you deal with them all the time I said that is brilliant but i changed it slightly for me i'd say life is too short to suffer to me that's where it starts life's too short to suffer how could i possibly suffer when i've been able to live this magnificent life it's just the

mind if you don't direct this thing it directs you it's like you use the mind or uses you you use stress or stress uses you yeah and so i said you know okay so how am i going to do that because there's One thing to say it yeah if you want to develop the habits yeah right and when i found myself like getting on a plane and you know i have my own plane now obviously but the time i used to go to australia four times a year and i'd fly on qantas and when i

moved to florida it became 20 hours each way like a 40 hour trip for one little visit yeah and i remember getting on the plane and being so stressed and i thought to myself tony How could you be stressed you're flying in a plane you can fall asleep you can you know it's not my size bed obviously but i'm first class and i'm very lucky it's like come on what are you what are you whining about in your head and i realized what it was was that they had no internet so now i'm flying for

40 hours and what's happening all my slacks all my emails all my texts all it's all growing fortunately i got this resolved in my Head before i got like i'm lucky enough to have my own plane and i remember when i got worked out i got on a plane i flew from here to l.a i've gone on plane la and then you know the captain comes on it goes uh this is captain stubblebine it's gonna be a beautiful flight to sydney and then he said something i never heard before he said today i have a

special announcement and it's this we have for the first time in history of qantas international life Really people stood up on the plane and cheered and i want to stand up to everybody see me right so i stayed there so we all open up our ipads our phones are everything we got right we're all typing doing our stuff in social media and nine minutes later what do you think happened it breaks down it crashes and when you think it turns on again and the thing that struck me out and it's changed my life is i

looked around me And people were angry they were cursing what the hell is wrong with this airline they can't get this [ __ ] right i looked around i was like this is amazing nine minutes ago this was a miracle now it's already an expectation and then i realized all the unhappiness comes from all those expectations you can't help to have the mind expect but you can direct it and when you expect something that's not Met you get upset yeah and it's like what if the only time i'm happy is when everybody meets my expectations

i got 105 companies i got 3 800 employees on four continents what are the chance of someone screwing up right now meaning doing something different than i think they should 100 so it's like i need to make it so that other people don't have to behave a certain way for me to be happy I have my preferences of what i wish they do but i'm not going to live my life in reaction to whether things work out the way i expect or not and so i said i'm committed to it so i have a 30-second

rule 90-second rule sometimes yeah it's like within 90 seconds ideally 30 i catch myself feeling that stress and i let it go and the way i let it go is i find something to be grateful for okay because you can't stay stressed if You're grateful and there's always something you can appreciate or love or respect or be thankful for and the minute you do that it changes your biochemistry your entire biochemistry change like a different person and so now it's become a habit for me so i wouldn't say that i never stressed or never do

that but if mine was you know i probably was more liberal with myself said i was in a beautiful state maybe 20 of the time Yeah i would say it's more like 85 percent of the time now it takes a lot to grab it because it just becomes a new habit it's not that you're better it's just you built muscle yes now the same stuff used to upset you you put in a different perspective i i freaking love it and the one thing that you helped me do with that as i identified my pattern like

what put me into the state and for me it was a little bit of the reverse i'll ask you one last question mine was More like if i'm not meeting everybody else's expectations i need to suffer and this standard of what i thought their expectations were was just something i made up in my mind it was something wired into me as a little boy if i can meet my dad's expectations i can meet my mom if i can meet my coaches then i won't suffer then i'll allow myself to live in a beautiful state and

once i acknowledge that pattern understood it it lost its power Over me and i've created a new one so thank you for that and that was just awesome i'm so glad you i gotta tell you honestly till i was 50 i still like on my birthday when i was 40 when i was 35 i haven't done it if i have tens of millions of people it was never enough because i had that same thing you had and then i have to sacrifice to make that happen but i can honestly say at this stage of my

life you know it's like i wake up and i know I've accomplished plenty yeah i've helped millions of people it doesn't make me any less hungry to want to help but it's just i'm no longer there's no longer whole i'm i'm trying to fulfill or fill up with this piece it's more like i just want to help it's like you said these giant mission statements oh i'm gonna transform this and that you don't have huge goals and feed a billion people i got some good stuff but it's like my whole thing is just how Can

i help yeah to me that makes life so much more enjoyable because when i help somebody i feel phenomenal inside the fact that i've got something to help means i grew someplace to be able to do that in the first place well you did it today here and thank you for this last hour i mean i i know that i'm already i can feel it i can feel the people sharing this with people that they love and care about so last question you are a new dad again And i did introduce you as jesus when

we started so i might as well answer this question so clearly not when she gets and i we both know that but when when she gets to of an age and this may be kind of corny but i don't feel like it is because i i would love to know your answer to this and it'll probably change but if she asked you daddy what is what is life all about what's the meaning of life i mean this Is a man everybody who's just affected so many lives and met people from every single walk of life

from people that have had the most terrible things done to them in their life to the most successful people to world leaders presidents united states top athletes entertainers the best business minds in the world and and yet you walk amongst everybody at all of your events and she asks you it's sometime when she really wants to Know daddy what is life all about what's the purpose of this thing what would you say it's about growing and giving i mean that's overly simplistic but that's what i want for her it's like you know it's about laughing

loving growing giving you know and giving passionately and generously and graciously it doesn't i don't mean just money i mean of your presence you know it's very easy to say hello and Not be there it's very easy to say i love you and you know it's just a habit you know about you know depending on which studies you read about 47 to 52 of things we do are just habit the cool thing about habit is it allows you other things like you know trying to drive a stick shift car in the beginning is way it's

overwhelming now it's one thing i can do 20 other things right but the problem with it is technology has made us become more and More habitual and less and less connected and so for my daughter i wanted her to experience love that's what life is to me and when you are loving you have to grow to keep loving and you when you're growing and you're loving you're going to give and to me if that's all she does if she learns that life is not what you're here to get it's what you're going to give that

you're being called to find what you're Called for and i don't know what you should be called for she you know may she might sing she might draw art she might just be a mom it's not just one of the most important things in life she might i don't know what she'll do and i have no frame of reference about how she's going to do it i have only one frame of reference she's going to be a person that's earned it and she's going to be a person who's proud of herself because The urn part

to me is where the pride comes it's like i have this amazing life you could take away all the toys and things that i have you couldn't change who i've become as a man yeah and and also because i never had those things and i earned those things there's there's the stories and the examples and you know what it's like right to conquer all the challenges to get there i want my daughter to have all those experiences but to me life is love and Life is growing and giving it's really that's what the whole game

is about as far as i'm concerned what a beautiful answer thank you for today brother thank you so much i love you ed you're a great man i love you good luck continue can't get here yeah i see your podcast is crushing it and i hope to see you in person sometime soon i know man when you get together in person and everybody hey january 25th event we'll put the link to the event in The show notes and you can pre-order life force right now too so that you're getting that book the minute that it

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