[Music] hello everyone today I'm here to share my opinion that parents shall listen to kids first I will tell you a story of a monkey prison experiment scientists cut a monkey from the wild and put it into a cage made of barbed wire which is really strong in the beginning the monkey tried to escape but this hurt every time when it bumped into the edge of the frame finally the monkey stayed in the middle and didn't try to escape anymore and the scientists changed a barbed wire cage into an easy broken cage with a similar
appearance but the monkey still stays in the middle and never tried to break the frame anymore sometimes I feel just like this monkey now I will share a story of mine it's Christmas Christmas I finished all my homework and want to go out to play with my friends I asked my mom mom can I please go out she said no I want to please her so I washed dishes and I made breakfast I asked again but they disagreed so then I fed my cat I clean my room I even slept before but then no with
the response so finally I had to agree to do extra homework as they wish I spent three hours of dark time until 6 p.m. it's time for dinner my dad said let's go out to eat after dinner I my friend so much I just wanted to sit on the couch and wechat my friends but my parents had different plans they took me to see a show about science which I'm not very interested in after all of that it's bedtime and it's the end of my day after all of that I feel like all my ideas
will be rejected my my day was room my parents this is a typical kind of parents who always say no and the always no parents will make kids passive the passive kids let their parents do everything for them because they think that their parents will not let them do anything they want and will try very badly just to let their parents agree with one simple thing but actually execute a function yeah for sure is the right way to learn EF is an important concept in child psychology it's the way to achieve goals include to let
kids plan by themselves make decisions by themselves use knowledge well and remove unwanted thoughts feelings and actions then shift from one task to another parents should encourage kids to program executed functioning it's the only way how kids learn for example parents should like kids were from their own failures when the parent tell the kid the opening the fire is dangerous even if the kid says yes I understand they don't kids will still try and get hurt until then they know what the parents mean so even if the parents tell kids that doing this or that
is wrong the kid will still need to learn from their own failures yours those who don't let their kids learn from their own failures who clear obstacles and make sure there's only one hat for their kids the way to success are called snowplows parents do you know what a snow plow is a snow plow is a huge machine that goes out and remove snow this information is from American College Health Association this study is about two hundred ninety seven college students who have snow plows parents snow plows parents are parents who fix kids problems when
they are small but actually they create bigger problems when the kids grow let's see the result of their parenting eighty four point three percent of students so overwhelmed sixty point five percent felt very sad fifty seven percent felt very lonely 51.3% experienced anxiety at a percent even attempted suicide here's my suggestion for the future parents if you can discuss your suggestion with us not just to disagree it will be a lot better as a kid we should discuss with our parents our own opinions about why we want to do this and how we will achieve
our goals parents we need you when we're feeling down what we feel and when we're in trouble we want your encouragement to help us conquer difficulties by ourselves please trust us if you do something more than just to suggest your idea our life will be a lot difficult because your decision might not be the same as us sometimes being different is an advantage and having a strong personality he is not a bad thing kids have their own life why not just give us a chance to God the giant moon through one use our high Satine
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