7 years ago I'm dating this girl we're 12 years old but my teacher sneaks up behind us we like sitting outside the classroom and comes up to remind us and says that we have footy day tomorrow so we get to wear our fooie colors and then my girl asks me what are you going to be wearing tomorrow and I say like a like a jersey maybe some footy socks and some face paint and then she says or at least your face won't go red tomorrow and I'm like what did did you just say to me
I thought we were meant to be ride and die you were never meant to judge me so that's my first ever insecurity and that's my red face so next time Jack whenever your face goes red just put your head down so nobody sees you I think we like break up a couple of days after that event I don't know if that was the main thing but it definitely played a role and then I go to high school my first day and I get called a wagget with an F because my socks were too hot so
that's insecurity too added and then I think a few hours later I was in a class with like a bunch of guys and I was like the only one sitting like a female which I found very insecure not saying there's anything wrong with that it's just you know high school that's what it's like so I had at least seven or eight insecurities within the first week of school 2 years later start of year eight I had hundreds of insecurities but they weren't mine there were other peoples leeched on to me so that first insecurity I
had with my red face my main one which always is haunted me was never mind it was my girls which she had gotten from somebody else which was their insecurity and it goes on and on and on and on it wasn't actually else and that's the first thing to stop giving a and that is realizing that insecurities are not yours they are other people's leeched on to you like in school there's a bunch of rules you need to play by and if you break one of these rules you labeled the weird kid or the cringe
kid and I break many many of those rules so if you can somewhat relate to me give me literally 2 or 3 minutes and I will try my best to help you go from giving lots of to giving not many after understanding this it got a whole lot better for me AOW we made a recall in a mold like this with a bunch of people I'm still nervous I'm not perfect I'm getting there first thing that's important is listing out all your insecurities or at least identifying them in your mind and get to the root
of them all so with the red face one for example that's the root of that was my girl in year six when I was 12 years old that's where it came from so I don't even I don't care if you have 100 write them all down list them out and get to the root cause of them and then the second thing I know it sounds very counterintuitive to what all these confidence coaches say but get out at the max five of your insecurities that you genuinely care about so let's say with the skin right one
of my biggest insecurities was my skin I'm going to choose to be insecure about that but I'm not going to I'm not going to choose to be insecure about a bunch of things that don't matter right how I walk if I walk a little bit funny if I speak a little bit funny I'm not really going to care about these insecurities I'm only going to care about the ones that actually matter so pick five that actually matter and do your best make sure you can control them and do your best to I guess fix them
if that's the right word to use so you're something like your height you can't do much about that that's something you wouldn't give much value to and just focus on these just focus on them don't overthink about the rest just focus on the main ones and the last step that really helped me and this was the most most important thing and this went this allowed me to go from like I guess average to confident I can confidently say that I am confident after understanding this and that is cleansing yourself I don't mean your body I
don't mean some spiritual top I mean cleansing your mind I think that's the most important thing so get these insecurities that are holding you back from being your most confident self and stop judging other people for them and you'll start to see that you aren't so anxious within yourself about them like let's say you see someone with really bad skin instead of judging this person sympathize with this person they might not be able to to afford Whole Foods they might come from a poor household and they can't control that something like you see a 5
foot forward dud down the street instead of mentally judging him for his height understand that you can't control that that's something you can't control that's something he cannot control so there's no point in judging other people for it and you'll start to see once you cleanse your minds you won't be as insecure in yourself that is the most important thing stop judging other people for what you find insecure it's not going to fix your problems overnight but it's definitely going to help let me just get the thumbnail real quick in a pretty busy area inspired
by Tyler Jones yo what's up you want to be in you want to be in a video bro you be in a video yo what's up can we get a photo yeah 100% yeah what's your what's your like best advice for someone who's like a bit anxious right a bit anxious about the regret have confidence and don't listen to others n that's 100% good I was saying like do something that like makes you happy stuff that like like get you like happy in life you know like do something that like yeah feel good 100% right
that's it that's it right that's it wait good meeting you boys yeah 100% hey n that's awesome I've ran into like five people today it's good as like I should really get a haircut it's getting way too long it's like way too messy but um my bro or sister if you're watching this doesn't matter it all starts within people see you as they see themselves and it's exactly the same for you so I'm head off I'm going to head home and you have an amazing day
