[Music] thank you welcome to day six or day eight depending upon how you've chosen to go through this program if you've been going for five straight days and then you did two days subliminals but obviously today is day eight for you and I'm going to assume that's true for this program but welcome back again I want to congratulate you for your continuing commitment to do whatever it takes to consistently feed your mind and challenge yourself to make those simple daily additional changes additional distinctions that can change the quality of your life right away and let's
get right to it today's whole program is based on the power of focus we if you recall in our last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and emotion we said that everything that we really want in our lives no matter what it is whether it be family or friends or relationship or money or business success or acknowledge them all those things the only reason we want them is what we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain level of feeling within ourselves we also found
out on our last tape that all emotions every feeling we have is the result of how we use our body that emotions literally are nothing but physiological storms in our brains if you will and that we learned that by using our bodies in certain ways by using our voice our gestures our breathing our facial expressions we could radically change our states and we also talked about the idea if you recall of measuring our states where are we on a scale from zero to Ten Ten being absolutely empowered Unstoppable passionate zero being dead and noticing are
we at the appropriate level for what we want to accomplish and that for most cases not all in life but most wouldn't it be nice to live at level 8 9 or 10 or above on a consistent basis how much more juice would you have and so you developed some exercises in discovering how to move your body not like me not like somebody else but like you do when you really are feeling absolutely excellent today what we want to do is take on the second way we can manage our states and the second way to
change your state at any moment in time as quickly as you can think it is to control and direct the focus of your mind what do I mean by that well think about this the only experience that you have of Life comes in two forms what you're physically feeling because of the condition and use of your body at that moment in other words if you've got physical pain that's obviously going to affect your state there's some kind of tension for example or if you haven't had any sleep that's certainly going to affect your state as
well or if you've eaten something that's blown your blood sugar Sky High then obviously that's going to affect your emotional states as well the only other thing that really controls your state is what are you paying attention to right now at this moment I mean let's take an example have you ever had a headache maybe even a massive headache that you thought there's no way you would ever go away you were in really deep pain now what do you do well most people go get an aspirin What If instead have you ever had it happen
where somebody asked you a question or something needed to be done or something required your total focus somewhere else outside of yourself and lamo immediately the pain disappeared in fact you forgot about it and later on when you thought about it you noticed your head was gone haven't you had that happen at least once or twice in your life now how did you do that see my whole life has been studying what makes people successful if someone's able to do something if they're able to get rapport with somebody else if they're able to create the
results they want physically in their life that is lose weight feel energized if they're able to create the relationships that they really desire if they're able to feel as good as they ever wanted to feel I want to know how do they do that and so I began to study how could somebody get rid of a headache that quickly so we wouldn't be dependent on some drug like aspirin or Tylenol or anything else and I began to realize that what it was is we changed our mental focus and that whatever experiencing in our body really
comes from what we're paying attention to that's what really determines how you feel and of course how you feel determines usually how you're going to behave doesn't that make sense and when you're feeling really lousy you don't usually do really well and I know there are exceptions but those exceptions are because you control your focus you don't focus on feeling lousy you focus on what's got to be done there is tremendous power in controlling the focus of your mind now what do I mean by this specifically well there are two things we can control in
terms of focus we can control what we're focusing on that is what we're picturing in our mind what we're saying to ourselves what we're paying attention to in our physical body or we can control how we're focusing how we're focusing means let's say the dimension of the pictures in our mind the brightness of the colors in our head the volume of our sounds if we change how we're paying attention to things not just what it radically changes our state as well let me give an example pretend for a moment that your brain is a camera
and you go to a party how are you going to feel at that party well the only thing you're going to have feelings about are the things you focus on I mean in that room literally they're almost unlimited number of activities and probably emotions and conversations and things that are going on but your experience of that party is based on what that camera focuses on now if it focuses on two people that are fighting and that's what it focuses on for the entire party you would leave that party saying oh that party was really intense
I mean people are really upset with each other if your focus was on two people in love who were maybe guessing passionately you'd say wow that party was really moving I mean those people are really connected if your focus was on some people that were really boring or bored you'd say oh nobody really enjoyed that party here's the problem the problem is your camera that is the focus that you have does not usually take in everything simultaneously your conscious mind can't there are only so many things you can consciously focus on I mean think about
how many things right now you are not paying attention to that are happening at this moment there's the blood pulsating through your right ear you may not even pay attention to it I mention it now you might focus on it there's the beat of your heart were you even noticing that until I mentioned it there's the feel of maybe some air coming from an air conditioning maybe if you're nearby or there's the heat on your skin or there's the blinking of your eyes there are unlimited number of things that are happening right now but see
here's the thing about human beings since we can't focus on everything and consciously perceive it all what most of us do is we become what I call deletion creatures what do I mean I mean that most of the time most of us delete that as we fail to pay attention to or we ignore most of what's going on around us at any moment in time so what's the price of all this deletion well the price is we walk around believing or hallucinating might be a better word that our experience with the world is real now
would you think that if you were looking through a camera that was focused on one little portion of the party that that was truly the party that wouldn't be very intelligent would it in fact you know what else is a problem that camera may even create close-ups where it makes things bigger than they actually are where they look bigger and brighter or worse than they were is that possible too do you think your brain does that as well you better believe it does so the key is if you want your life to be a party
that you're happy with and not a part of it you're upset with you got to realize that at any moment in time there's enough going on in the party of your life that you could find something to be upset about all you got to do is focus on it all you got to do is now look around that party find out areas that don't match your expectations make them big and bright and close and you'll be upset and you know what most people are good at this they've done it over and over and over again
the other thing that's equally true is that virtually any party at any moment in time there's somebody having a good time and if you were to focus on some area of your life at that moment in time you can make yourself feel absolutely great or you could take some little thing something that's just kind of nice but make it bigger and brighter and immediately you can feel better about it as well so here's my point my point is if you want to look at the quality of your life and know what it is it's the
quality of the states that you live in day to day I mean isn't that really true isn't it how you feel day to day that determines how you treat yourself how you treat other people and how great you feel or how poor you feel about your life what determines it one how you use your body so you want to develop some new habits and two what and how you focus on things now that's the only way we can explain how people have come from unbelievably painful experiences and turn them around W Mitchell's secret is he
has controlled his physical body specifically the way he uses his face this man has learned with what's left of his body to smile and move his face in ways that makes him feel incredible and the second thing is he focuses continuously on what he wants what he's got what he's grateful for and as a result he feels incredible now nobody would blame him for looking around and saying he has no legs and he has no fingers he's got their toes there instead and he's in a situation where he's in physical pain a lot of the
time nobody would blame him for feeling sorry for himself but see he doesn't focus on that he loves life because he focuses on the part of the party that's the best part for him don't you deserve to give yourself the same gift now take a look at John Belushi example we used earlier also how could a guy like Belushi more Presley or take somebody like Elizabeth Taylor here's a lady that would have everything going forward by most people's standards she's an incredibly intelligent woman she's absolutely beautiful she's a great actress she has thousands and thousands
probably millions of fans to be more accurate who absolutely love her she has as much money as most people could ever imagine needing or wanting she has a lifestyle that's absolutely phenomenal she has family and friends that care about her and do anything for her and yet what happens with this lady she has not learned to manage her stay and she pays the price as great as she is great on the stage but in her personal life over and over again she has to turn to food order drugs to try and take care of the
challenges within herself see how could someone have it all and still be unhappy because no matter how good it is you can always focus on something that isn't perfect or doesn't match your expectations and that is called ultimate failure in life you want to know what I believe success is success is creating consistent pleasure in your life and causing yourself to grow failure is being able to find pain no matter how good it is that's failure the bottom line is you have that power and you can change it right now by understanding that you make
decisions about what to focus on now it may be true that you've got some bad habits it may be true that right now you look at what's worse or you look at what's wrong or you see what's not working your life and it's habituals you don't think about it consciously but you still make the decisions you can turn off the automatic pilot and take control and when you do you can instantly change the quality of your life the lady I married my wife Becky one things I love about her more than anything in the world
the reason I married her probably more than anything else is is this woman is so incredible in her ability at any moment in time to focus on what is great in a situation what is beautiful the most little things she and I share that power where we can be in the middle of anything in the middle of turmoil and upsets and frustrations and in a heartbeat we can stop and we say hey look notice that flower notice that sunset or look in each other's eyes and say how did I get so lucky to get you
we have that ability and we share we reinforce it in each other and it gives power to our relationship and to our lives you have that control all you have to do is exercise it so in time so the first thing questions do is they change our focus and therefore our state immediately the second thing that questions do is they change what we're deleting now remember in order to feel unhappy you have to focus on the things that would make you unhappy and you have to delete all the great things that are happening in your
life isn't that true in other words every one of us right now could get depressed piece of cake all we have to do is focus on all the tragedy that's happening in the world right now even little pieces of it children that are dying right now of starvation we can make pictures in our head of those bloated stomachs hearing the cries of babies just as they pass off into death seeing flies eating their flesh how's that for graphic at the same time every one of us could be an absolute total pleasure interrupt that pattern of
the picture you're looking at and think of something that could create total pleasure and you know what they're a zillion things but to do that you have to stop focusing you have to delete all the negativity in the world and focus on things that make it feel great so you can focus on a relationship you have you could focus on how much you've already learned in the last six or seven or eight days you could focus on the people that love you you could focus on your ability as a human being to change your life
at any moment in time you could focus on what learning means to you you could focus on the sun you can focus on breathing fresh air you could focus on the fact you live in a free country you could focus on the fact that you have a connection with your creator you could focus on anything and feel incredible you could focus on new babies being born this moment that have a greater opportunity in life than any time in our history there's so much we could focus on and feel good about the challenge is this you
must control it through questions questions change what we delete we're always deleting human beings we're not going to stop deleting things as long as we're going to delete things why not delete things that disempower you and focus on the things that Empower you does that make sense the third thing that questions do is they help you to get access to resources within yourself I'm a big believer that anything you've ever wanted to accomplish you've already got the resources inside of you to make it happen that doesn't mean you shouldn't go out and learn from somebody
else or model the success of others I'm just saying the things you need to succeed are already in your core the resources are there you just need to get access to them by asking better questions I'll give you an example if I ask myself questions like gosh can I really do this that creates a feeling of Doubt do you hear how that does that and that feeling of Doubt will keep me in a state where I'm not going to get the most out of myself but if instead I ask myself a question like how can
I make this thing happen right now more powerfully than I ever dreamed of and have fun doing it if I keep asking that question my brain will get access to more of my ability because whatever I ask for my brain will give me but if you ask your brand can I really do this and you do it with a tone of voice of doubt you are going to get access to the resources called doubt does that make sense if you think about it the greatest communicators the greatest teachers of all time were not people that
so much taught us as they did ask us they shared things with us but they got us to use our own resources they asked questions all the great speakers have done this hey Martin Luther King asked questions about a dream John F Kennedy asks don't ask what your country can do for you ask what you can do for your country he wanted you to take the resources out of yourself and contribute and expand our country you must learn to ask habitual questions that Empower you I want you to know that I believe the success in
my life has all come down to one basic skill State Management on a consistent basis I've learned how to manage my state and therefore I've been able to get myself to break through and take action with very few people around me were able to do the same they were able to that's probably not the best description they weren't using their power because they didn't have access to all of it and I've done that by every day doing things that would increase my physical ability flexibility power energy by the way I'm moving the way I breathe
and also by consistently and daily conditioning myself to ask the kinds of questions to create the kinds of focus that moves me towards larger levels of contribution and joy and fun and success and passion instead of the things that would pull me down that would pull me to areas of frustration and anger and giving up listen there is no capability difference between you and someone you consider to be an ultimate role model of success the only difference is they've learned to use their mind and body with more power on a consistent basis they have learned
to manage their state they've learned to use their body effectively whether they know it or not consciously doesn't matter a lot of people do things without being aware of how they do it and they've learned to control their mental focus remember whatever we concentrate our focus on consistently and strive to learn from and make new distinctions about we will get great at I don't care what it is if you focus on it daily and you strive to be better you're going to make little distinctions that'll make you more and more effective every single day so
you better decide what you want to focus on in your life and what you want to experience on a daily basis because that's where your power is going to come from that's where your power is going to emit from that's the Genesis of your power I want you to know that many things that you think are impossible or difficult are only difficult or impossible because of the way you're focusing on things you're focusing on how it can't be done and you've got to remember whatever you focus on is what you get so if you focus
on how it can't be done you are absolutely right and no one's going to prove you wrong so why not focus on what's possible and create that I mean that's how I created things like the firewalk seminar all I did was hold a new level of possibility instead of focusing on how it couldn't be done or how it was a terrible thing or something like that I focused on hey this is an incredible example of possibility and if other people can do it my focus and my question is if they can do it then how
can we do it how can I share with other people how could it be used as an empowering experience it's a lot of fun I did the same thing with teach people wood braking you know I teach people how to break wood karate style not in two years but in about 20 minutes again not to make them this powerful person but to show them that by simply changing their mental focus by controlling their physical emotional state and by modeling someone's success that they can get results in 30 minutes that takes most people two years and
they have what we call a breakthrough literally I want you to know that you have every right at any moment in time to feel lousy to feel bad to feel sorry to feel hurt I am not saying by this tape program that you should never be disappointed or frustrated or angry or anything else because all of those emotions have their place in their proper proportion hey some of my greatest frustrations or angers or upsets are I would have driven some of my greatest successes because it's made me search for more but see what's interesting is
the pain drove me but what changed me from other people who just gave up is I ask better questions I found a way to say what can I learn from this how can I grow from this how can I expand from this what can I take from this experience that'll Empower me what can I learn from this so I never have to experience it again and by asking empowering questions how can I take advantage of this what's the actual benefit in the situation that I probably hadn't noticed I began to find benefits whereas other people
said why did this happen to me why does this always happen to me why did you do this to me Lord how come I'm not smart enough to pull this off why do I keep self-sabotaging see that's the difference between success and failure so I want you to know I'm not saying you can't feel bad I'm just saying when you're done feeling bad here's how to change and you may not want to spend quite so much time feeling bad in the future because feeling bad is based on Focus if you change your focus you can
feel good instantly right now at this moment now so let me ask you a few questions and what I'd like you to do for your homework is design some questions every morning in my life I wake up and I ask myself questions now the truth is you already do this too the only problem is you're not doing it consciously think about it when you're shaving are you thinking and talking to yourself know that the process of thinking is nothing but asking and answering questions you're doing it constantly that's where your thoughts come from think about
it now you might say well no that's not true or yes it is true if you said no it's true or yes it is it's because you asked yourself the question is that true or something like it see some of the questions you ask are subconscious your brain is deciding all the time if I get in this car if I turn here what's going to happen is that car coming too close or too far you're asking questions constantly subconsciously but you're also doing it consciously when you're shaving or putting on your makeup or shampooing you're
asking questions but it might be questions like God why do I always have to do this why do I have to go to work today think about the kind of states that those questions create and what would be some more empowering questions like what could I do today that will make today more fun than ever before what could I do today that would create a breakthrough in my business what could I do today to connect more with my family members I wonder what's going to happen today that'll make me feel total pleasure for no reason
I wonder what I'll see today that I haven't seen before see those kinds of questions will Empower you if you're bored it's because you ask lousy questions probably ask questions like why do I have to do this why do we do this all the time why do we always do these things versus looking around saying God what can I notice today that I haven't noticed before see what can I see today they haven't seen before what can I smell today I haven't smelled before see it's called directing your computer so here's some questions you might
want to answer right now in your own mind and notice how they make you feel question one what are you really most happy about in your life right now what's one of the things you're most happy about in your life right now to answer that question in your own head what are you most happy about in your life right now or if your brain goes nothing what could you be happy about if you wanted to be if you ever ask a question yourself and somebody says well I don't feel that way or I don't think
that way say I know you don't but if you did or if you could what could you feel happy about right now think about it have you thought of something well good let me ask you a question what about that makes you happy third question how does that make you feel really allow yourself to feel it don't just go well it makes me feel happy feel the feelings what else are you really happy about in your life right now think of a second thing what else are you really happy about in your life right now
what about that makes you feel happy how does that make you feel here's the second question for you what are you really excited about in your life right now what are you really excited about in your life right now answer the question in your mind think about it or what could you be excited about if you wanted to be excited about something think about it oh come on you got more things to be excited about think what about that makes you excited why does that make you excited how does it make you feel what else
are you excited about your life right now come on what else what else are you really excited about in your life right now or could you be excited about if you wanted to how does that make you feel here's a third question for you what are you really grateful for in your life right now what are you really grateful for in your life right now what are some of the things you're grateful for or what could you be grateful for if you wanted to be answer the question honestly how does that make you feel I
want you to notice do you feel State changes you answer these questions from where you were a few moments before that's it so you can change your state instantly and you can make yourself feel great there's so much to feel grateful for hey if you want my formula for wealth it's real simple live every day in an attitude of gratitude see the more you feel like you have the more you'll experience in your life and the more you'll be willing to give see make sure that you're always trying to give more than you take back
and feel grateful for everything you have and you will be wealthy beyond your wildest dreams but you got to control your focus let me ask you another one what are you really proud of in your life right now what are you really proud about in your life right now or what could you be proud about in your life so far what are some of the things what about those things makes you feel proud how does that make you feel what else are you really proud of in your life right now how does that make you
feel and here's a final question for you who do you really love most in your life and who loves you think about it and don't just go all my mom my dad my brother my sister get some feeling step into those experiences and feel what it feels like think about who loves you and how that makes you feel Who Do You Love and how's that make you feel to love that person so much I got a question for you what if every morning you started out asking yourself a series of questions that put you in
this kind of state there's some real power because see the state you're in affects the way you look at your whole world doesn't it it affects the way you breathe the way you feel the way you treat other people and your level of success see a lot of people teach in life do a bunch of affirmations go I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy and then your brain goes BS right now if you do affirmations long enough they may work because your brain may get bored and say well why am I happy at which
time it'll search your brain for an answer and then all of a sudden you'll feel happy that's what happens when you do affirmations or if you go I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy and you really create the physiology of happiness you know what I mean by that by using your voice that way then what you've done is the affirmation didn't do it so much as putting your body in that state so affirmations are great but what I want to know is questions are even more powerful because now you have a reason
to be happy you're not just jumping yourself up and running around with what I call a permagram where people go why are you happy and go I don't know but it feels good it's better to have all these reasons so every morning you stack more reasons to be happy you come up with more reasons that you're proud more reasons to be grateful more reasons to feel excited about life more feelings of love if you stack those every day you literally anchor them in your nervous system this is part of what I call Destiny Technologies controlling
your state you're asking yourself effective questions this is the power of focus and here's your exercise pull out your success journal and right now I want you to write down five questions after you've designed these five questions what I'd like you to ask yourself to do is this first of all let me ask you this if every single morning you got up and asked yourself five Custom Design questions that put you in Peak States and they gave you lots of reasons to feel phenomenal so you weren't just some guy out there again just babbling about
how excited you are without any reasons for it I'm not talking about being somebody just all pumped up for no reason but if every day you came up with lots of reasons and felt these powerful emotions what would that do to the quality of your life what would that do to your days would it be worth developing some new habits if your answer to these questions is yes then I'd like to challenge you to do something I'd like you to develop a new habit a one that will literally condition your nervous system to associate powerful
emotions with waking up in the morning wouldn't that be nice here's what I want you to do if you're willing to take on the challenge for the rest of this program approximately what 22 more days each morning I want you to answer those five questions and every time you answer them you've got to create some feelings so if one of your questions was what am I most excited about in my life you got to come up with at least two different answers and you got to think about why you're excited and how great that makes
you feel and you got to actually feel the answer to the question two answers to each of your five questions each morning again this is not added work you're already asking questions you just may be asking questions like oh gosh why do I have to get up at this hour that may not be the best question to ask when the alarm goes off maybe you want to install a new one that empowers you would you be willing to do that for the rest of this 30-day program now I don't want you to do this for
the rest of your life because you might get addicted to feeling excellent for the rest of your life and gosh only knows what would happen to you then so don't go any longer than these 30 days for sure but at least for the 30 days would you be willing to try it okay then go for it so you know your assignment design five questions that'll get resource courses out of you and make you feel phenomenal each day that'll make you get access to your real powered ability every single day also I want to say to
you please use your success journal to write down each day a little bit about what's happening to you what are you noticing have you already begun to notice that your attitude has changed obviously but also if you notice that maybe you're willing to take some chances that you're being more decisive you're taking some actions you've been maybe more powerful in some of your communication have you decided maybe to take some actions like lose weight or stop smoking and you're like day three or four of that or are you just feeling better about the possibilities of
your future in other words each day you might want to just keep a journal jot down a couple of key ideas about what you learned that day or what you're experiencing in your daily life besides this program I've kept journals for years because I believe that if my life is worth living it's worth recording and for me what journals are is a way to go back and notice my growth see because otherwise what happens for a lot of us is we get caught up but if you have a journal you can look and see how
you've grown in your your development and your ability and where you are in your life in addition your journals are things that you can give later on to your children someday they can look back and learn from the lessons you've learned in your life so they're invaluable I hope you'll decide to keep a success journal on an ongoing basis after this program but see if you can get yourself in the habit right now for the next 30 days when you come back tomorrow we're going to work on the ultimate secret to lifelong success we're going
to study values and beliefs they truly are the source of success or failure in life I'll see you tomorrow live with passion [Music] thank you
