If you are feeling lost in life, this is for you

what's good my beautiful family and welcome back to another YouTube video I am currently using my phone to record my voice because I didn't bring a mic so we're gonna be up close and personal today but anyways if you're new here I am Liana I am in London now and I leave back home tomorrow which I feel like I've been traveling so much and although I'm grateful to be traveling I feel like I can't catch a flow I legit feel like I can't catch a flow and to be honest I have been feeling so lost

in life for it's probably been a good two months straight two months I've been feeling like lost I haven't been feeling like myself we literally did the whole tour and it was based around confident when I'm covered if you haven't watched my last video I will leave it right here but basically I did a tour and it was confident being confident when covered but deep down inside I really haven't been that confident and it's not because of the hijab those that are also new here I just recently put on the headscarf so it's like it's

not the headscarf I think it's like feeling lost Within Myself and not knowing like where I'm gonna be at in life and I know I'm trusting God's plan and if you don't believe in God just trusting what's meant for you is meant for you and I know we're supposed to trust in that trust in whatever we believe but it's like sometimes you just feel lost sometimes you feel like things are not going the right way sometimes you feel like you hit a hard patch in life and you can't get yourself out of it and you're

like constantly living in the same state of mind where it's like this negativity and you're just like trying to get yourself out of it but you just feel like it's the same rotation all the time and if you're feeling lost in life right now this video is for you and it's kind of for me too because to be honest I speak to myself when I do these videos also and I wanted to do a video that's like less production because I feel like I haven't been able to just like speak to y'all like I used

to and like speak to y'all one-on-one like we're just FaceTiming so today I am just gonna open up to y'all and speak about how I deal with feeling lost in life and what helps me get through it let's start with like feeling lonely if you're feeling lonely or maybe you don't feel lonely maybe you're around family all the time or around your friends all the time I think one thing that has made a huge impact on my life is surrounding myself with good people and people that are going to bring you out of a part

of your life where you feel like you're falling down you have someone to help pick you up and so whenever you don't surround yourself with people that genuinely love you and that won't pick you up whenever you are falling down you need to surround yourself with people that will maybe you're a person who doesn't even have the people around you then you have me and I'm telling you that you need to pick yourself up and understand that you can't rely on people to get you out of where you are today you are the only one

who can solve your own problems you are the only one who's going to get you out of bed if you feel like you've just been like rotting away in bed or you're the only one that's going to push yourself to do the things that you have promised yourself that you need to do and it's okay to have a bad week it's okay to have a bad day but when you are constantly putting yourself down and not not picking yourself up we can't rely on others to pick us up we have to do it ourselves and

I've been guilty of relying on people to hold me accountable for things and and push me to do things that I don't feel like doing and that has never helped me grow as a person I've always learned that you know what in order for me to truly get to where I want to be I have to pick myself up and you have to pick yourself up so that is one thing when you're feeling lost in life make sure you are surrounding yourself with good people and before I get off the topic of surrounding yourself with

good people really analyze who your friends are and see are they people that bring you down are they people that fully support you do they get upset when you tell them that you want to focus more on you so really be aware of who your friends are and who your circle truly is and if you are not inspired by the people in your circle or the people in your circle are not inspired fired by you and y'all are not helping each other be the best versions of yourself you have to reevaluate who your friends are

and if you really truly see them being a part of your life forever now the next topic I want to get into is being aware that you can only control what you can control don't focus on the things that you can't control because all of us go through things where we can't control but you have to focus on what you can control because if you start stressing about what you can't control you're going to get so caught up in it to the point where it's going to drain you emotionally and drain you mentally to where

you're not even going to focus on what you can control you're not going to focus on the way that you can respond to the situation you know sometimes we have a bad situation in life but your response is going to get you out of it you can control the way that you feel you can control the way that you react you might not be able to control the situation that's happening to you but you can control the way that you respond to it and we're going to go through so many tests in life where you're

going to have so many situations where you feel like you can't control and you feel like what is going on you're gonna feel like the world is falling apart or something God forbid but you're gonna feel like the world is falling apart and you can't control it but there's gonna be points in life where you know you can control certain things you know you can control still working towards your goal every day you know you can control getting up and and getting ready and feeling confident in yourself by putting on a nice outfit or just

pushing yourself to do things that you're not comfortable doing and still being in control of yourself even when the situation around you might not be in your control and when you can't control something it also comes down to perfectionism like for me let's keep it a hundred I was always such a perfectionist on how I wanted my content to be always my work had to be a certain way the way that I filmed had to be a certain way I had to have everything planned out a certain way even whenever like I put on the

hijab filming content completely changed for me bro it was like I was literally a new human being like I used to just film this videos like waking up out of bed like legit I would set up the tripod right away come out of bed go in the shower and show and be so easy with it and then I started overthinking everything when I put on the headscarf I was like I can't get up get ready put the hijab on then pretend to get out of bed like I'm tired obviously this is like freaking influencer stuff

but like just showing you that we overthink so many things in life like who cares who cares the way that I film the intro of my video like I literally would stressed for like an hour of how I would film the intro for my video like what is wrong with me I'm being a perfectionist and this is causing me to not put out the content that I want to put out and that is literally taking me away from my goals taking me away from growth that I should be going towards like or a perfectionist on

the littlest things like I remember back in the day whenever I had my first apartment I did not care about anything I didn't care about anything I didn't care the way that I filmed my content I didn't care about the edit I didn't care about the lighting the lighting my apartment was terrible it was so bad but I still put out the content you can't care what people are thinking and even for those that want to start creating content and you feel like you don't have the aesthetic do not worry about the aesthetic you can't

constantly rely on like perfectionism to get in the way of your goals to whatever you're doing so do not be a perfectionist all the time yes put out quality stuff in life and yes have quality work but don't be a perfectionist to the point where it's going to push you away from getting to where you want to be because it's just going to push you further from your goals like it's literally going to hold you back and then you're gonna look past a year later and you're gonna be like what did I do with my

life what did I do with my life because I want because I wanted to be a perfectionist and nothing was perfect I'm literally sitting here in a hotel room talking to you from the bed I used to just care so much about production and filming and the way the lighting looked and now I'm not even now I'm filming from the freaking phone because I don't have the mic but I usually would have been like I can't film because I don't have the mic sorry if I'm yelling in your ear but like don't be a perfectionist

all the time it's okay to have a little bit of it because perfectionism can be a good thing but it can also be a bad thing so you have to recognize yourself when you're being too much of a perfectionist what's another topic that I want to cover on feeling lost in life that has like resonated with me okay when we tend to focus on the end goal all the time so we're constantly so we have a dream right or we have a goal an end goal and we're constantly thinking of it in the back of

our minds and sometimes social media can even play a huge effect in our life to the point where we're comparing ourselves and we're comparing our lives and we want to get to somewhere so bad to the point where we don't enjoy the process we don't enjoy the journey we're so focused on the end goal in getting to the result which you can't always focus on the result because in order for you to get to the end result you have to love your journey you have to love the difficulties that you're going to go through you're

going to go through so many ups and downs to get to where you want to be and if you're constantly looking at social media or people that have it already you're going to get so discouraged and unmotivated because you're not going to love the journey that you're on because you're so focused on the end result you can't keep focusing on the end result you have to go through the hardships and then you will look back and people will look up to you and be like how did you get there and you're going to be able

to tell your story and be like you know what I went through this this and this to get to where I am and understand that it's a it's the journey that you have to fall in love with you can't fall in love with the end result before falling in love with the journey because the journey is what's going to build you it's what's going to make you it's what's going to be able for you to share your story with other people of why you are where you are today so fall in love with the journey

feeling lost in life is a part of the journey when you get out of this hard time that you're going through you're going to look back and be like I felt so lost in life during this time but I realized I had to pick myself up and get myself to where I needed to be and that meant by staying disciplined staying focused on the end goal yes but knowing that you have to be present in the moment and focused on the day in order to get to the end goal because if you're not present in

the moment and present and the day of what you're doing and the stuff that you need to be working on as a person to get to that goal then you're never going to get to that goal so fall in love with the journey do not fall in love with the result I know it's hard it's not meant to be easy life is not meant to be easy and I feel like we're constantly looking for happiness and that's why we feel lost in life sometimes because when we go through times where we don't feel happy it's

like we feel stuck because we lose motivation we lose hope we go through a hardship and it brings us down and then we feel like there's no way of getting out of what we're going through but I promise you there is and I'm saying this because I have literally been feeling like this for the past months and I felt so lost to the point where I was like you know what bro is this even for me I questioned everything and like I know it's just selfish to say but sometimes we can just not see all

the blessings in something we can literally not see all the blessings and everything because we're focused on the negative things in life and you have to focus on the blessings the simpler things in life even if that's as simple as like food on the table or a roof over your head if you can't see the positive in some things and like there's so many people that are struggling in life right now like homeless people if you think about homeless people it's like how can I even be sitting here feeling ungrateful basically because there's so many

more people that are going through worse and you have to love your life you have to love your life and and find the blessing in the smaller things and one thing I want to say that has probably been a negative thing in a lot of Our Lives is social media is comparing Our Lives to other people because we live in it we live in a generation now that social media is is a huge part of all of our Lives I mean I literally do social media for a living now like it's definitely a part of

my life but I I'm saying like for other people that are consuming the content I used to be a consumer and if you are consuming content every single day you really need to think about what is the content that you are consuming because if you are not consuming content that inspires you and that uplifts you and brings you to want to be a better person and to want to be a better you then you should not be consuming that content and really think about it when you are scrolling on Tick Tock or scrolling on Instagram

or scrolling through stories are you wasting your time are you gaining beneficial knowledge to help you be a better you even me doing social media I'm gonna I'm gonna keep it real with y'all I had to set limits on my social media time because I really developed a bad relationship with social media it was to the point where like I didn't even want to do social media anymore because of the impact that it was having to my mental health and I'm the one putting out the content but imagine someone going through a hard time and

consume zooming content and comparing their lives to people you can't compare your lives to people because I promise you people that are showing showing themselves on social media are only showing the perfect life they're only showing the perfect sides it's rare that you're gonna find someone showing like the dirty laundry or the dirty clothes or the hard times of truly being in your bed and like sitting there crying every single day like trying to get yourself out of bed you're like you're not going to see that as often so you have to understand that social

media isn't real life majority of it is not real life and please make sure you are consuming content that is actually having a positive impact to your life because it can be such a negative thing to the point where it will destroy your mental health coming from experience it will destroy your mental health so if that means you have to set time limits I literally have 45 minutes on my Instagram and 15 minutes on my Tick Tock be real with yourself because the more time you spend comparing yourself to other people and looking at another

person's life imagine you using that time and putting it into yourself so if you spend 45 minutes a day watching someone else and not even feeling inspired you just feel upset those 45 minutes could have gone into you 45 minutes is valuable time you have to think of your time as valuable genuinely think as your time as precious and it will make you look at things completely different social media can be a positive thing or it can be a negative thing so you have to be aware of what you are consuming and how much time

you are consuming content I'm gonna say aware and a lot of this because I've that's probably one of my favorite words right now is being self-aware being self-aware when you're feeling down being self-aware when you are not holding yourself accountable being self-aware when you are telling yourself it's okay when it's probably not okay like we're constantly gonna fight a voice in our head I like to say we're gonna fight demons like I'm constantly I like to say I'm constantly fighting demons because we are constantly in a battle with ourselves sometimes because we can tell ourselves

so it's okay which sometimes it is okay but then sometimes it's not okay now I don't want to make this video too long because I could just sit here and Waffle on and talk to you guys I say waffle as in like waffle I just like speak so much I'm trying to be more concise with my words it's something that I'm trying to get better at anyways that literally has nothing to do with this but I think another part of feeling lost in life could be not having habits and whenever you start to build in

more habits into your routine and you stay consistent with them then over time you will get closer to your goal so I want you to pick up a piece of paper and a pen write things that inspire you write about things that you are passionate about remind yourself of your purpose and if you don't know what your purpose is truly think about the things that you enjoy in life and what you feel like truly you can have an impact on and write about what motivates you what are you driven by are you driven by helping

people are you driven by being creative are you driven by money you have to think about these things we're all driven by different things and when you start to understand who you are as a person and what it is that you want in life then you can start creating habits that align to you for example in the beginning of me feeling like the lowest point of my life I started off by journaling and practicing gratitude and reminding myself of the things that I'm blessed with and that is somewhere you can start and make it a

promise that you're going to do it every single day and start with one don't put so much pressure on yourself to the point where you're like having like 10 habits or even five habits is a lot if you start with five to ten habits a day you're not going to be able to stay consistent with it until you stay consistent with one but slowly start to build them up and you will find the discipline whenever you start to stay consistent with your habits and you will find yourself getting closer and closer to your goal because

you're practicing discipline you're practicing consistency and whenever you are feeling low and you're feeling lost in life you still have that habit to go back on to pick you back up so those habits could be journaling it could be meditation it could be prayer it could be reading a self-help book find what works best for you but know that whatever you are going through in your life right now is a part of your journey it's a part of the plan it's a part to test you to be able to build you and to strengthen you

and you can get yourself out of this you just have to be resilient which means you can get yourself out of difficult times and you can recognize when you are going through a difficult time and really bring yourself out of those times and that is going to build resilience so this is the end of the YouTube video I hope you enjoyed it to be honest I enjoy just speaking to y'all like one-on-one and I miss talking to y'all just like literally no production and I really want to be on YouTube and take it seriously I

have such a big platform on here and I love you guys so much I don't know why I have just like been overthinking content and overthinking the smallest things and being a perfectionist but if you're not subscribed make sure you subscribe I'll also leave my Instagram up here somewhere and I hope you guys feel better if you're feeling lost in life and if you don't feel lost in life thanks for watching this video and I hope you got some insight but I will see you all in the next video