okay so you've got a choice to date two different women one of them is 30 years old and one of them is 20 years old now without knowing any of the individual characteristics or accounting for personality I would always advise you to date the 20 year old there are a number of reasons for this she's likely to be prettier any babies that she produces are more likely to be healthy she's less likely to be embittered by life fewer sexual partners she's younger so it's gonna be easier for you to take that leadership position in the
relationship but leaving all of that aside the reason that I want to talk about today is that older women are less likely to love you I want you to watch this clip from one of my older interviews I asked these girls to explain why women change their dating strategy once they get older past 30 they stop chasing the funding excitement of bad boys and start going for a more stable reliable provider type man listen to their answer don't really care about the guy I just want a baby and I just want to get married I
want to thank that woman for her honesty she and her friend were heaps of fun to talk to now in case you missed what she said what she's explaining is that older women really want to have a baby and that's their first priority not their partnership so she doesn't really care about the man or the marriage what she really wants is that baby now this isn't gonna be a video where I'm gonna get all judgmental or anything like that there's no need we're just talking about the practical realities of dating and relationships we're talking about
biology now unlike men who can have children well into their 60s or even 70s it's not the same case for women there's a different biological clock going there they have a very narrow window of time where they can get pregnant and there not be a risk of some kind of health problem for the child or for the woman or even the risk of just not being able to get pregnant at all so as much as we're living in this modern society and like to think of ourselves as all civilized basically we're still animals you know
we're the same as every other animal on the planet we have this strong instinct to reproduce and this is what happens to women when they reached age 30 or older is they start to panic they can sense that their their time window for having children is narrowing and so they go oh gosh I need to have a baby quickly I want to pass on my genes to the next generation now compare that kind of panicked mindset with a woman in her early 20s they're in a completely different stage of life and she's not necessarily thinking
about having babies yet so when she's dating she's not exclusively looking for just a man is gonna be able to provide an income and some sperm she's looking for so much more than that she's looking for a partner somebody she can learn from somebody she can grow with share experiences and forgive the corniness but somebody that she can fall in love with of course she's gonna want babies down the line but there's no need to rush that right now she's looking for somebody who she can form a genuine connection with okay now take that 20
year old woman and fast forward 10 years and imagine that she hasn't fallen in love she hasn't found mr. right she doesn't have a life partner now of course in an ideal world she'd still like to fall in love she'd still like to attract that life partner but 10 years has gone by and she hasn't had any success maybe she's a bit embittered maybe she's quite guarded and she doesn't really believe in the possibility of love anymore and so while of course she'd still like to find that life partner this desire to find love is
just not at the top of her priority list anymore it's been replaced by this desire to have a baby she's feeling less romantic and wanting to chase that fairytale that Hollywood love story of being swept off her feet by some handsome prince she's more practical now what she really wants is to reproduce and so when you meet one of these older women who's obviously got babies on the brain she's not gonna be looking at you through the eyes of love and romance and whimsy and fantasy no she's gonna be scanning you with a very practical
mindset is he reliable is he likely to leave me is he kind is he dependable does he make good money does he have a good job is he gonna be able to provide for me and our children with those considerations at the forefront of her mind it's a lot less likely that she's going to be able to see the real you so I'm not talking about the superficial characteristics of you like how much money you bring in I mean the real authentic you your hopes your dreams the deepest parts of your personality that's not what
she's going to be interested in now with all those considerations it doesn't mean that she's not going to appear to be super into you absolutely not if you tick all of her boxes one of these older women will turn it on and make you feel like you were the most desirable man alive she always makes herself available for you she does he favors she's sexually generous she laughs at all of your jokes she might even like you absolutely that is a genuine possibility but you need to be a little bit cautious you need to be
aware that maybe all of this is just an act because she's keen to lock you down she sees that you're a good catch that you're dependable that you're gonna be a good provider that you're obviously different from all of the jerk guys that she was dating in her early 20s and so she's going to do whatever it takes to make you happy to make you commit to her to make you be the father of her children and provide for them like I said before there's no need get old judgmental or moralistic about this this is
just the biological reality of the stage of life that she's in what happens is that a lot of guys don't understand what's motivating her all they see is this woman who seems to be super into him wow she's so generous look at how much attention she's giving me this is fantastic I found a partner who's really really in love with me but after you've made the commitment had a couple of babies suddenly all of that attention that she was giving you that all just dries up it just goes away or the sexual generosity that dries
up - now the two of you barely have sex it seems like she has no time with you she only spends time with the children and yet you're still expected to bring in all this money to provide for everyone even though there's very little love or attention flowing towards you anymore if you so much as contemplate leaving her trying to find a relationship that is fulfilling to you then you're a superficial shallow horrible man who's acting selfishly and so you're stuck and you're thinking what the hell happened what changed but that's the point you see
nothing changed she's actually being completely consistent with her strategy it's just that you weren't aware of what was going on you as a person didn't matter to her as much as you did as a role and that role is father and provider she was looking for a man to fulfill that role because that's what her biology was telling her to do that's where her instincts guided her to find a kind dependable man to fill that role now in order to make these videos I do need to make some generalizations but of course you need to
judge this on an individual basis there are definitely 30 plus year old women who are capable of loving the real you and there are 20 year-old women who will completely baby-crazy and are just looking for a provider but on the whole the older a woman is the less likely she's going to be interested in what makes you unique the less likely she's going to be falling in love with you your personality what makes you special it's a lot more likely you're just going to be viewed in terms of your role and what you're able to
provide her love for you is more likely to be practical rather than romantic I haven't given it a lot of thought but I don't think that this phenomenon would apply to men pause are women because they're no longer going to be guided by the instinct to have children so I'd imagine that for women who are 50 60 or so if they're dating somebody they're not gonna be so interested in just finding a provider because they probably already had their children or they've given up any hope of you know passing on their genes so potentially older
women after they reach a certain age are capable of a more sincere love I'm not sure but my larger point is this if you want to be loved and I mean really loved by somebody who wants to form a connection with you somebody who wants you as a life partner then you're better off dating young women women who aren't thinking about babies yet because they're gonna be coming to the relationship with a more pure mindset if a woman is really after babies and she's in that stage of life she's gonna be in a practical mindset
and she's less likely to see you as an authentic person
