we are built hunt we are built to chase something we are built to build every human wants more aliveness more energy more pop more vibrancy you are the power plant you get to choose to bring joy even to the suck to the difficulty to things you don't want to do you have principles of how you are operating your life I want you to become Ultra aware of them you're you're being Guided by something guiding principles do you know what yours are the triangle my organizing life philosophy what's your picture look like this is what my
picture looks like I know exactly what my philosophy of life is because I know what human desires are I know what my desires are they look like this aliveness every human wants more aliveness more energy more pop more vibrancy sometimes it's adventure sometimes it's variety sometimes it's just the feeling of passion and excitement enthusiasm or even Health every human what's deeper connection real relationships with real family real friends real Team Real Community every human wants those meaningful Pursuits you want to pursue things that matter to you that bring meaning fulfillment real depth and if You'
fallen out of pursuit you're also like I don't what happened to me I was so driven I was so excited and you might have a meaningful life a lot of people have a meaningful life they got great kids they do good work they try hard they do have good relationships but they forgot the hunt we are built to hunt we are built to chase something we are built to build it is something that defines us so importantly that when you remove it from people do you know most men in North America they die two years
after retirement that's the average they retire and die two years later now retirement in North America is in the 60s most of us and most healthy people live in their 80s for literally thousands of years and so you have to understand it's like oh no biologically we can do that unless we poison ourselves or we forget purpose we don't take care of ourselves and I'm here to tell you growth has a lot to do with what you're pursuing and pursuing might just be you're pursuing an interest or a passion trying to make more for your
family trying to make your impact but that I got something to do today part now it's okay I I'm Mr take time off recover vacation sit in the sand in Puerto Rico with their pinac colada if you don't know you got to know but you got to pursue something and in the middle you got growth well there it is that picture is a huge part of my life philosophy so number one I got to live love and matter because life is short I want to live it I want to love people I want to make
a difference life is short it's precious I'm going to be present I'm going to teach myself to tap in I want to be here I want to be with God I want to be in this moment I want to be here with you I want to sense this moment because it's magical I know that when I leave this stage I might not ever get another one I know that when I make that call with a family member there might not be another one I know if I get to work with a coaching client I might
not ever see them again when you take life seriously it changes then I add the triangle I know what I'm after these are operations for me right like if you're a CFO or a COO and you're paying attention to all those metrics of your business are you paying attention to the metrics that fulfill your desire and your Humanity but bringing Joy is entral philosophy of my life it's why I teach every audience for 20 years about Joy I teach about you being the generator you are the power plant you get to choose to bring joy
even to the suck to the difficulty to the things you don't want to do there is Days on the Road or clients I'm talking with or some big crisis in some business I'm working with or I have and it's like h i can be like oh this sucks I can just be angry angry and frustrated all day you were not destined to be angry and frustrated all day you got a get out of jail card you got a hall pass when you were in high school after high school being frustrated and angry all day is
a lack of commitment to doing the work it means no one ever taught you how important personal development could be it means you didn't read the books get the mentors get the coach the therapist ask for some help your destiny is not the level of angry and frustration that people feel especially in our country today when there are so many blessings and everyone's running around mad that's up here that's not doing the personal development your hardship really sucks if you think it's unfair I'm here to say it might be but your hardship is also extremely
common you're not the first to lose a child have cancer you're not the first to lose a business you're not the first to be cheated on you're not the first to be taken from you're not the first to sit alone in a room wondering if you can if you can pull it off if you can turn it around your back's against the wall you're not the first to lose your health and I think part of our struggle in our world it's become such a selfie culture become so individualized we forget there there's literally 8 billion
other people on the planet there's Generations before us we have written record back to like literally 15,000 years ago 15,000 years ago they had diarrhea too 15,000 years ago they also wanted to smack their kid crazy but you shouldn't do it I'm just saying they did 15,000 like listen there's nothing new that you're going went through it feels like it for you but if you make it extremely personal you ensure your suffering soon as I know man I'm going through this this is hard I bet somebody else has too hey Ryan how you doing you
ever dealt with this you ever know someone who does no let me talk to him that immediate it's like an escape hatch humanity is escape hatch from your pain you're in that Silo oh all you got to do is open up the door and talk to people ask get the mentor work with a therapist talk to your friend your counselor reveal the truth to your spouse to your parents like all you do is open the door they're there there's eight billion of them have you driven in La there's at least nine of them in right
here there's so many people so these are some guiding life philosophies now what are some of yours see when I tell people to get organized they think I'm going to tell them about file folders but I'm like without an organizing philosophy of life it's all just stuff and tasks and activities next deepen the life philosophy with life principles meaning you have principles that are guiding your behavior you have principles of how you are operating your life I want you to become Ultra aware of them see other people might use other words you know some people
call it like a life ethic or a way of being but see there are certain principles that make you operate the way that you do you need to know those right a a principle of humanity might be as an example you you have a conscious mind and an unconscious mind now not everyone uses that language and I just call it the default mode Network good job scientists you name something we've been talking about for 15,000 years but you know we get caught in our how would we label things but more importantly is you're you're being
Guided by something guiding principles do you know what yours are I didn't when I got into personal development I never even thought about about it before I'm like why do I operate the way that I do I had no Clarity into I'd never done personal development I was a teenage kid who was coming out of depression and suicidal ideation and I had to figure out how are people happy how are people dealing all this I know I am Guided by three principles that these things are just running they're my operating principles of life whether I
know it or not conscious or unconscious number one is identity who do I think I am or as one of my great mentors friends and business partners in our coaching business Ethan Willis says this he goes it's not always just who do I think I am it's who am I I love that one I'm a Child of God I don't know if anyone else in here but I believe in God so whether that's your belief or not I have a lot of faith and I have a lot of connection a lot of my identity isn't
just little Brendan struggling it's not part of something bigger my identity is a communal identity to humanity it's a it's a place in which I feel a connection to something higher and so I don't get down in the dumps about myself an operating principle is Brendan you're taking yourself too seriously and your identity is hurt that's why you're lashing out you have a principle of protection oh see people lot to have a you have a principle of protection you got to fight you got to argue you got to protect yourself because you got hurt and
you don't know that that's what's happening you take things so seriously and personally and a lot of us got into personal development to learn a deal with that stuff like why am I offended and angry all the time why do I like scream at my girlfriend that's why I was I was like what is the principle that makes me like scream at my girlfriends I remember at some point in my life um I'm I'm sorry one some point in my marriage Denise said something to me and I'll never forget it she said to me and
we were just talking and I think I had condescension in my tone she told me I did so I must have 30% of men can't hear it they they actually canot discern it in auditory tests that that 50 people will listen and it's so obvious that someone's being condescension but 30% of men can't identify the tone versus other tones is that weird so she said something changed my life she goes what is it about me that makes you think you can talk to me like that and I was like I don't know it was such
a powerful I what is the principle that makes me think I could speak to someone I love like that where did that come from that was coming from a principle of protection in my identity is this too deep you all here it's just like oh wow intention I have a principle of intention that means if I'm going to do anything I do what one of my mentors and Friends Oprah Winfrey taught me she starts every meeting with asking the people the meeting what's Our intention for this meeting everything she does I'm like oh wow that's
more that's we more conscious the principle of intention the principle of initiative we're going to move we're going to take action I'm going to take initiative I'm not going to wait wait everyone say don't wait don't wait you got to go to the next level not five years from now now move take initiative right that's why I love that old school personal development right that's when you're sitting there reading you know Napolean Hill or Earl Nightingale you know you you you're you're deep in it with these guys and you're like oh man initiative they make
whole chapters on taking initiative I love that stuff fourth I know my principles that I am operating from the 4ds as well you know in our industry we we like to make it easy we like to say hey you're operating from that principle that you either move towards or away was never sufficient for me I'm like that's too basic there's got to be something beneath that actually what I found out is a lot of us we operate based on a principle of deficiency I don't feel sufficient so I need to fix that or make up
for that or compensate for that does that make sense anyone ever date someone who's always compensating for something yeah only the girls ever laugh I thought that was funny I came up with that joke just now that's a good one I want to watch that one on the internet so of us we're operating our life based on demand the demands our family tells us our principle is meet the demand if they said I have to do it I got to get that degree I got to go to that school I got to marry that person
I'm gonna my principle is to match the demand of the world other people their principle is distraction to turn away from things to distract themselves instead of engage themselves and I also know one of my principles is Drive am I operating based on an inner drive or am I operating based on deficiency demand or distraction [Music]
