a 95% yes Hey man nice one I didn't even study h i studied 3 hours for this and he just Wings it why even bother H she's so pretty her life seems so perfect and easy why can't I be like that I know I'm not alone in feeling this way because you've told me about how you feel like giving up after someone achieves more than you with less effort you may feel the constant pressure of competition and you might have thought that since I got into Caltech while playing Varsity Sports and getting enough sleep that
I must be the Prodigy that others are jealous of this could not be farther from the truth since elementary school I was comparing myself to a guy that always seemed to get everything way more easily than me he was like an actual genius let's call him Joe Joe the genius I was basically like Hermione from book five of Harry Potter trying so hard following the instructions while Joe Harry over here outshines Me by barely trying but with reflection I learned that it's so silly right who cares if they got a 99% I got a 95%
and I wouldn't have gotten that if I didn't try like you would still rather have that good grade from trying than have a worse grade gradually I learned to love myself for who I am for my strengths and weaknesses but most of all for embracing that you know what yes I am that try hard and guess what embracing who I am has led me to my dream life I have today that's why in this video we're going to break free from comparison and start celebrating the incredible person that you already are let's go you know
when I said H she's so pretty at the beginning What If instead it's wow she's so pretty turn uh into wow reframe comparison as inspiration Joe the genius was also my friend so when he achieved something cool I would try to be the friend that I would want I showed amazement and genuine happiness for him then Joe would reciprocate and show his support toward me this makes everyone happier because humans are actually hardwired to reciprocate others actions I let successful people inspire me and I try to be an inspiration to others as well that's also
why My Philosophy is to be generous and help other people because when you don't feel the need to gatekeep you will also feel less comparison and competition some people people may actually say to change comparison into motivation but I think that's toxic and here's why like I explained in this podcast episode about inspiration and motivation when you're motivated you might use someone else as the goal to Aspire to so if you see a guy at the gym with ripped biceps you might use him as motivation to be like oh my gosh I need ripped biceps
too but that's actually comparing Yourself by believing that what he has is exactly what you need to instead you want to be amazed and inspired to create your own form of Fitness in your own body not jealous like you want what they have specifically when everyone cool out there is just like another inspiration to pin to your Pinterest board you will feel more driven and you will thus be using everything to your advantage because you think if they can do that I can do this too to stop comparing yourself you have to fix other parts
of your life outside of the comparison you have to get in the habit of putting yourself first for example many times in high school it just seemed like everyone is going to that football game tonight like me you might feel tempted and have fomo the fear of missing out but I decided to choose my own well-being and my values of getting good grades staying fit and sleeping enough all over going to that football game when you choose to put yourself first and then you get a great grade that you feel so proud of yourself for
that gives a positive feedback Loop this will make you choose the actions that put yourself first even more because these decisions lead to a reward and now instead you will feel Jomo the joy of missing out embracing Jomo builds trust with yourself so you care less about what other people are doing in general you are your own best friend I think it's super important to remember that comparison is not just a surface level activity when you do that you are actually decreasing your trust in yourself if you're always looking at other people instead of absorbed
in your own life you will find it harder to stick to the commitments on your to-do list that's because you're constantly betraying Yourself by inviting strangers into your mental space get out of my head get out of my head when they could care less or they don't even know you exist and that's why Jomo is the perfect shield to protect your energy you also need to protect your safety because you know what else infiltrates Our Lives hackers and internet scammers you watching this video right now on the internet if you don't have a VPN you
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be another worry you can try nordvpn risk-free where if you don't like it within 30 days you can get all of your money back protect yourself with nordvpn Now using my link here or it's linked in the description have you ever thought H I wish I had her life I wish I was as smart as him maybe you've considered what if I could just switch bodies with that person see that's dangerous that is very dangerous you know why because you have absolutely no idea what issues are going on in their life you don't know the
heartbreaks they're going through the losses emotional turmoil these are all beneath the surface because how much of the surface is real you have to understand that you would not risk switching with someone else's life because they're just far too many unknowns you're already aware of the things going on in your life and you can control yourself so feel comfort in knowing yourself you already have so many experiences skills and knowledge that equi you to boss exactly the life you have right now speaking of your experiences you should acknowledge your wins no matter how big or
small instead of New Year's resolutions self-improvement always focusing on what you can be doing better let's write down all of your successes from the past year first this is your own yearbook when I see successful people on the internet sometimes I fall into a rabbit hole of thinking thinking that I'm just not good enough but with my yearbook I'll remember for example that 2020 is a year that I met the love of my life and I finally started recovering from Ed 2021 is when I graduated from Caltech and started my first job and 2023 is
when I took the leap to move to New York and I was brave enough to make new friends and go to events alone which increased my confidence in myself of all the areas in our lives none shape our behavior health and happiness as much as our environment my dad who is a very wise man has told me so many times about how essential how crucial your environment is to combat comparison and feelings of inadequacy create an environment of gratitude go to your following list on any social media platform and unfollow people who make you feel
bad about yourself don't follow Picture Perfect people on Instagram or vloggers with picture perfect lives on YouTube instead follow people who inspire you and who show you you their struggles as a human being listen to their stories hear the advice of those who show you they're human with human insecurities and failures also spend time with people and activities that light you up when I was playing tennis with my super chill no drama friends I was so present and grateful for what I had that it was just silly to consider comparing my life to someone else's
comparison is a thief of joy and when you bask in the presence of loving people and hobbies that make you happy you will not let comparison steal that away from you an environment of gratitude also includes treating those around you like a team and do teamwork hence why I named our community the 18 like you all are so kind and supportive to each other in the comments definitely keep doing that you're truly making the world a better place but remember be that kind and compassionate to yourself as well so yeah yeah yeah Amy that's all
good and all but what happened to you and genius Joe so you might have already heard this but Stanford was my dream school I pulled out all the stops I even started my own summer math camp and I even invited Joe to do that with me to also boost his resume hoping it would be a win-win at the end Joe got into Stanford and I didn't he was the chosen one comment if you got that reference but in the end it didn't matter because that was my destiny my destiny is going to CCH being inspired
to make Vlogs about our school which is like Hogwarts and now inspiring you to live your A+ life remember that you have your own destiny the more you compare your destiny to someone else's the farther you run away from what's meant to be yours so let's kick off the self-love and to quit comparison by doing this exercise in the comments share something cool big or small that you have achieved recently this is awesome because it kicks off the to-dos like make your own yearbook and to create an environment of gratitude because this is like team
bonding please note that even today I still fall into the Trap of comparing myself it's all too easy on social media where everything everyone is doing is online and especially because I can't escape it since social media is literally my way to reach and help people and I'm over here spending 3 months on a video that's uh 22 minutes long but it doesn't reach and help as many people as I would like it's incredibly incredibly demoralizing but the only thing I can do is to keep trying by the way it's this video it's the best
video I've ever made so please a team please watch it and support anyway that is all to say I'm still constantly applying all the advice I shared today I'm not just someone lecturing at you to do that think of me more like a big sister on this journey with you together we're all in this together all in this all right remember to protect yourself with nordvpn using this link or it's in the description great job today keep shining like the diamond you are and love you in inadequacy inadequacy adequacy why does that not seem like
sound like a word no I was saying that right but I just said so many times that doesn't sound like a word anymore C the C and fies fies canot speak
