every woman should know her worth every woman should understand her value but I'm GNA be real with y'all the whole knowing your worth knowing your value can get tricky and I think it gets tricky because what you're hearing some people argue is essentially the idea that your value is based off of what someone is willing to essentially pay for what someone's willing to give for it right not on what we want to think it is now I want to establish something off the top the idea that it's only based off what someone's willing to pay
for it so to speak well my belief is that the right person for you is willing to pay the price that you deserve all right now the price you deserve isn't simply about things that you hope and would like so to speak but more so about what you need about character about being treated right about being loved about being poured into about being invested into these are the things that say I value you these are the things that you deserve as a woman and should not settle for anything less and so when you are dating
or in relationships You' got to understand how to establish your value because if you don't see your value well no one else will you know I have this analogy that imagine you were a car know some like being compared or to cars but just work with me here all right let let's just say man owns a car dealership and he's selling a Rolls-Royce right there's going to be people who walk by that Rolls-Royce and say man that Rolls-Royce is too expensive that's ridiculous they're crazy they think anyone's gonna pay that kind of money for a
car like that you'll have some people who pass by the rollro and say man that car is beautiful but I ain't got the money for it I wish I could but I can't but then you're going to have some one or even people who passed by that rollro and say Here's the money I wanted when that dealer has to deal with the individuals who either did not see the value of the Rolls-Royce or did not have the money for the Rolls-Royce he didn't change the price of the car he didn't change the value of the
product you see what I'm saying because he understood there's someone who is going to step up and pay for that car well that's how I need you as a woman to understand you don't change your value because this guy don't see it or this guy don't respect it this guy don't honor it you have to understand that if you are walking in your true value because knowing your true value is also knowing that you're tapping into it like here's another I I I I want to get to these points but I got another analogy I
got to use real quick so I let's use houses there's a lot of women out there and they are essentially a million dooll home right however in their current condition they're only can sell for 300,000 why because the kitchen needs work the house needs to be repainted the floors need to be redone the house possesses the value of a million if it Taps into it by doing the work that needs to be done but that doesn't mean in its current condition it can sell for that so yes I love y'all but the truth is for
many of you you still haven't tapped into your full value you are not maximizing your potential and you and in knowing your value you have to also recognize where you have to improve what things you have to work on but do not forget what your true ultimate value is all right now without that out with that out the way I want to get into how you now establish your value with men so that you are not getting sold short you're not getting offers or you're not accepting offers below what you're really worth right and you're
really receiving what's best for you so the first way to do this is to understand that not every man is built to see your value so again like the analogy I gave with the Rolls-Royce there will be people who pass it and say this car ain't worth it there will be people who pass and say I like it but I ain't got the money for it they are not built or wired or in that current position to embrace and honor and purchase what's in front of them majority of men you come across are not built
to honor see and pay the price of your value and you have to make sure that you don't let that discourage you you don't let that throw you off you understand that's just life everyone's not going to you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's fine because everyone's not your cup of tea all right you don't like everybody everybody don't like you that's life all of us have that and here's the thing here's the thing even if you are walking in the full potential of your value there will still be people who
just are not built to see it there are celebrities I'm not going to name any names but you can think think of a celebrity woman that people go crazy about right there are men who will say ah she don't do it for me uh I I wouldn't talk to her I'd rather this person instead it don't matter how amazing you are it doesn't matter how near perfect you are everyone's not gonna see it and that's fine that's not something to be offended by bothered by or allow it to cause you to view yourself differently one
of the phenomenons I see happen with people in general but let's focus of course on women right now is a woman could go out be complimented by 10 men right everyone tell her oh you beautiful you so fine blah blah blah blah blah blah guy number 11 and God forbid she actually liked guy number 11 a little bit more than the other 10 who told her she looked good but guy number 11 paid no attention or flat out rejected her she will forget the 10 that complimented her and start to question herself her value is
something wrong with me maybe I'm not that pretty because the one guy didn't see it all right and so that's why I I am stressing this point so much because you really got to learn how to understand everyone's not built for this so it's cool it's fine but as long the minute you buy into them not seeing your value and you get caught up in this idea of well I'm going to show them how valuable I am I'm gonna prove it to them and go out of your way you end up selling yourself short you
end up pulling yourself into a place where now you may look desperate now you may look inauthentic it causes more problems so rather than trying to now prove yourself just accept this one ain't for me all right so now here's another way for you as a woman to establish your value with men and that is you need to be confident and authentic so let's start with being confident so there's a great quote I once read that said confidence isn't about thinking you're going to always get it right it's about not being afraid to get it
wrong okay and the way that I apply that when it comes to dating and relationships is that it's not about thinking everyone's gonna like you it's about not caring when someone doesn't all right it's not being bothered by it not being phased by not being thrown off your game that's what confidence is it's accepting yourself loving yourself and understanding that hey whoever's going to like it going to like it and whoever doesn't doesn't all right and walking in that confidence but here's the crazy thing when you walk with that level of certainty with self and
not caring if someone does or doesn't like you you end up like you you it naturally increases your value you naturally start to look like well damn what she she must be something she the way she's carrying herself and the way she views herself like it starts to feed into into people's perceptions of you you know and and I'm sure you've seen it with men too where a man sometimes like someone doesn't have to be the most amazing looking person them having confidence can at least bump them up a little bit now I'm not saying
it can completely transform some people all right I'm just saying it can give them some points it can add a couple points to the to this to their score so it can do the same thing for you and so being confident goes a long way in showing and that you know what your value is and conveying that value to people without you having to speak because that's the other thing I said be confident not arrogant and so a good saying with that one is confidence presents itself arrogance has to announce itself all right it's not
about having to prove yourself and say I'm all that or whatever no just show up being you and feeling good about you and let that energy exude and that spirit will start to flow through others and they they'll see it for themselves all right but if you have to be all braggadocious and talking about it and exalt yourself in all these different ways that really speaks more to insecurity and it's like who you trying to convince you see what I'm saying you don't really believe what you saying anymore but you're just gonna say it enough
times hoping that people will believe it and that you'll convince yourself no get to a place of true confidence now the second part of it was be authentic because here's the thing and I know for a lot of you ladies you've seen this with men you know a lot of times when when when we when individuals refer to a man or a person as lame part of the reason why is because he's trying too hard or he's being something he's not and it makes him look weak it makes him look lame it makes him look
whatever right and so a lot of women don't realize that can happen with them as well when you look like you're trying too hard when you look like you're not being your true self maybe the word is not lame that will be used but it's not attractive all right and it doesn't convey value because it conveys you're not sure about yourself you're not confident or you don't even know who you are all right so in being authentic you got to take time to learn who you are and accept it I I'm a firm believer that
for most people it's not even about discovering themselves it's about accepting themselves all right and part of the reason why we don't accept ourselves is because we're too worried about other people's opinions and society's perceptions of things and all this outside noise that deters us from accepting parts of us and and who we truly are but once we block that outside no the only outside input that truly matters is God everyone else they they need to worry about themselves plain and simple all that matters is how what God sees you who God wants you to
be and walking in that and when you walk in your true authentic self and you understand that in this authentic self again I have to keep bringing this up everyone ain't gonna like you right you can be doing everything God wants you to do everyone ain't gonna like expect people to dislike you expect people to talk bad about you expect people to try to misconstrue perceptions about you that's life there's a lot of Envy there's jealousy there's a lot of different reasons why that happens but that that should not stop you from walking in your
authentic self and when you do that with that confidence you will establish your value with not just men but with people in general all right so let's move things along and the next thing a woman can do to establish her value with a man and this one is going to be about like something that you're going to have to put effort into and that's creating peace around you now I thought I felt this was very important to talk about because you know you always hear about how to be a man's peace and I literally have
a video about how to be a man's peace and I do believe in that right and I talk about how you have to have have peace within yourself and we're going to talk about that aspect in a second but I don't think what what's talked about enough is creating the peace around you right because the environments that we are in and expose ourselves to can impact what's going on with us from within can impact our moods can impact our perception our habits you name it they have an influence on us as well as if I
as a man meet you as a woman and let's just say man you're beautiful you're sweet you're all these things however when I get a glimpse into your environment it is chaotic so let's just say toxic friends toxic family drama baby daddy drama whatever that's a deterrent that undermines your value at least when it comes to a willingness to be with you in a committed relationship all right so though someone may see you as man she's a great woman it's like yo all this stuff going on is too much and I think that sometimes we
we turn a blind eye to their environments that we're in and what we need to do about it okay now I understand you can't control what other people do and some situations are somewhat out of your hands however I do think for some of you you have to consider all right do I need to complete detach from some people okay for some of you it's about do I need to resolve underlying tensions with people for some of you that environment is just your home it's hitting my spirit I feel need to say this please don't
feel judged when I say this but some of you have a dirty home all right an unorganized messy home and that chaos surround you is affecting you not to mention to some men it can be very unattractive as well all right and so learning how to create an environment at home a more organized clean environment is going to be hugely beneficial for you but also again it enhances your value because those things are taken into consideration as well as when we talk about environment and creating peace with around you I want to encourage many of
you to look at where you live and ask yourself does my home pour energy into me that is positive and what I need is it peaceful positive energy and for some of you to achieve that it might mean adding some color to your walls or changing the colors of your walls it might mean simple things like adding some art or a plant or or or a little trinket just any any little thing it could be adding candles that are that maybe you're really big into it and that helps you relax consider what you can add
to your home environment that will create more peace and positivity because little do you know or realize that will have a huge impact on you in many ways and on the value that you're able to present to a man all right and that becomes was a much more attractive environment for a man to want to be a part of and therefore share his life with you all right so that brings me to the next point the next thing a woman can do to establish her value with men is to create peace within you all right
so we talked about the environment what's going on around you your house all these things great but now it's on the inside too and this I want you to look at it from three levels physically mentally spiritually okay so when we are creating peace within us let's start with mentally slash emotionally we put those two together this is where healing comes into place all right making sure that you resolve those Past traumas release that th those disappointments and hurts and that negative energy anything that's grabbing hold and weighing your spirit Down release those those things
free yourself from it forgive and then you know check out the book after The Heartbreak it gives you all the steps to Healing all right the link will be in the description of the comment section and I'll flash it on the screen as well check that out because that will help you with the emotional healing part now mental creating peace mentally is now considering also what are you pouring into yourself what are you watching what are you listening to all these things have an impact and can pour over into your daily activities your interactions with
men and people in general and will contribute to how your value is presented and seen all right so consider that as well now let's go to physical what are you putting in your body what are you eating I'm a big believer in eating for your blood type but I'm no doctor so look it up do your research you know what I'm saying I'm also a big believer in plant-based but the blood type thing will give you some other angles either way look into how you can optimize yourself physically because people don't realize a lot of
things that they're putting in their body that they're eating is causing inflammation is contributing to their anxiety their stress their depression all these things as well as deficiencies could be vitamin D deficiency all these different deficiencies that create problems all right and again impact how you're able to establish value with a man or in general in life so take a inventory of how you can improve from a uh physical standpoint and then of course spiritually praying excuse me talking to God gaining Direction um just feeding your spirit as much as possible now listen I'm I'm
gonna be the one to tell you that this doesn't mean you got to be some perfect believer perfect woman of God none no none of us are anyone who tells you different We're not gonna get into that but no one is all right no one is so it's not this I have to be perfect but are we making progress are we growing are we improving in certain areas even if we haven't completely mastered it all right how can we get better how can we connect more with God how can we get more in tune with
our spirit how can we learn to listen to our intuition more because I do believe intuition is the extension of the spirit or is the spirit it's just a different name for it how do we cultivate those things because all of that will create more peace from within and exude a greater value of self all right so we got a couple more to go or a few more to go either way let's continue uh the next thing on the list on how a woman can establish her value with men is by not accepting less than
you deserve all right what undermines or one of the big things that under Rems a woman's value in the eyes of a man is when you tolerate nonsense and and mind you whether that's tolerate nonsense from another man or tolerate nonsense from that man because understand that sometimes people are watching all right or people are talking and they're hearing things and when you accept nonsense that can get around in some situations of course some of y'all going to meet someone who has no idea what you had going on with anybody else but those things can
have an impact so you got to be mindful of that and understand that you have to stand strong in what you deserve now I want to be clear when I say what you deserve listen let me let me let me say this there's I've seen some videos where women take issue with the type of restaurant a man takes them takes them to on a date right and we say well I'll never can't take me to some uh I don't want to say the restaurant's name I ain't trying to make them sound bad but you can't
tell me the type of restaurant it has to be this fancy restaurant to me that doesn't speak to what you like to me we're we're crossing certain lines it doesn't mean that you can't walk what you want but is that how important is that really when I speak about what you deserve I'm I'm focusing more on like the intangibles how he talks to you how he treats you how he pours into you how he shows up for you how how he how he is Dependable to you uh um you know his loyalty to you all
all these things to me speak to him giving you what you deserve all right but of course people going to have their preferences they're gonna have their desires and we won't get into that right now but the point is at the very least you don't want to from those intangibles that I just listed you don't want to accept less than that because the thing is when you start to accept less than that it's not only are you undermining your value but you're essentially saying to this man this is acceptable this is okay and then what
can happen is it's like okay to give an analogy you're a boss you hired this person at work and they start coming to work late and you keep letting that slide well now a lot of times it won't just stay at coming to work late because now they feel like oh she she GNA let me get away with that all right well now I'm slacking with my work now I'm taking longer lunch breaks now I'm breaking all kinds of other rules and it all started with because you did not establish or enforce the rule of
you got to show up to work on time you see what I'm saying so when you start to let him slide on certain bad behaviors it can then turn into more bad behaviors and I don't want that for you so you want to make sure you don't accept those things now that does not mean at the first sight of him falling short that you cut him off and you're done no you just I always say you just don't see a red flag and run you see it you address it and if it cannot be corrected
let them go because sometimes it's a misunderstanding sometimes it's a mistake sometimes it's just all right maybe it was more lack ofical his previous relationship he didn't understand how important this was to you but now it's that it's been communicated and he's serious about you he is willing to make the necessary adjustments so be willing to have those conversations but once it's been discussed and it's still not being corrected you cannot tolerate that it's time to go move in the direction and hold on to what your value is and what you truly deserve so next
on the list of things a woman can do to establish her value with men is to show that you are open to correction and growth so let's use an analogy again all right if you're house hunting something that gives a house more value is the ability to enhance the home like when there's room for all right I could add this I could do that and the values is going to keep going up higher and and we're we're able to to work with this home that makes it more appealing okay and so the same thing can
happen in relationships not not not that we are we should be getting with each other with focusing on what we can turn the individual into no I don't want to get that misconstrued but more so just understand that I have someone who is open open to learning open to Growing With Me opening to you know tapping into our full potential together and we have to be open to constructive criticism we have to be open to that correction when it comes our way and the reality is that a lot of men complain about women not being
not holding themselves accountable or not accepting accountability now of course I'm sure there's tons of you who gonna say that's what men do men don't accept accountability I ain't arguing it's happening on both sides okay we're not going to get into who does it more or whatever it definitely happens on both sides but we have to recognize that yes it does happen with a lot of women whether that applies to you or not I don't know but it does happen to a lot with a lot of women and you probably know a lot of women
who they they Dodge accountability like I don't know what you know they they just don't accept it and that is a deterrent to someone wanting to join together with you and share life with you all right because you you can no longer feel comfortable talking to them about certain things you feel like they're going to be stuck in their ways there's no room for improvement where when things are noticed that's just not a healthy place to be it's not a desirable place to be so as a woman when you can show that you know how
to humble yourself in a way that says and again not humble in undermining your value but humble in saying I know there's always room for me to get better all right and more specifically because understand this we can come into a situation with a partner and be amazing great people who have worked on ourselves and all these things but there's always going to be small little details that we have to understand about each other to make sure that we come into full harmony with each other so this is hitting my spirit so I feel the
need to mention this and I will say now I'm I'm this applies more to when you're married not more this applies to when you're married but we all know that these things go down even before marriage that's your Choice I'm not telling you that you should I'm just I'm acknowledging it and we're talking about intimacy we're talking about sex all right and the reason why I bring it up is because what I've seen on both sides men and women is they go into it feeling like oh I know what I'm doing oh I'm good at
what I do right and they shut off any ability to receive constructive criticism from their partner and understand that even if you are known to be a great lover and know what you're doing in the bedroom it doesn't mean everything will apply to your future husband or wife all right or current husband and wife you have to understand that you have to be willing to learn what they like and what flows with them and not take it as some kind of personal attack on you or your skills or anything like that no it's just it's
just how life is you know and when we learn how to have that mentality in all aspects of our relationships we can can make things so much better so to wrap up this point bottom line is when you can show you're a woman who is open to correction and Improvement you show Great Value to a man all right and so a one more strong reason or way for a woman to establish her value with men is to be the woman God wants you to be so we talked about being your authentic self earlier and this
kind of plays into it but I mean this to me it goes hand in hand if you are a Believer because being your authentic self is being the person that God wants you to be and when you are able to walk in that it's easier now for you to be that confident person it's easier for you to now remain in your authentic self and not deviate or try to be something that you're not it's easier for you to now remember what your value is and not accept less because you know what God wants for you
and what God God would say is not acceptable for you to be entertaining and engaging in all right and so by getting more in tune with your spirit more in tune with God is easy it allows you to walk in the fullness of who he created you to be this is hit my I'm having a few hit my spirit moments this video and I ain't gonna lie this one I'm a little afraid to say but I got to say it and remember I love y'all and remember I'm never trying to hurt feelings or offend I
know some of y'all feel like I apologize or I do too much of this softening the blow too much but I I feel like I just got to because I never want people to take things the wrong way many of you need to ask God if you're truly walking in your true self dang I hate saying this with your weight please again don't be mad at me don't think I'm trying to and I'm not telling you what your size should be but I remember one time I was speaking to um a friend and I had
told them at that time this is many years ago uh they were struggling with dating and stuff and I said well I really want you to consider getting to a healthy weight and they were a little offended by it and they was like well no one's ever told me that before no one's ever told me I needed to do anything about my weight and I said okay I hear you but rather than even like looking at as in did anyone tell you that before me telling you that right now why don't you ask God where
you're at and ask God if where you're at is where he wants you to be when it comes to that and please understand that that question is not about your physical presentation completely it's about the impact it's having on your health it's about the impact it's having on your confidence it's about the impact it's having on your mood I had a woman one time reach out to me and she said please do a video One day about this and I plan on actually doing a full video really diving into all of this but she said
she was someone who you know thought you know no one should ever have anything to say about your weight or anything like that and she's fine how she was but she was struggling with dating and then she said I forgot what what was the Catalyst but she eventually went on to losing a bunch of weight getting a lot healthier and she actually end up getting married and she said you know it wasn't just well now she's getting all these men coming at her and she ends up finding her husband she says she noticed she went
from being like grumpy to being more positive she went from being low energy to being more enthusiastic and energetic like these are things that the majority of people experience now again I am not here to tell you what the weight should be what you need to look like specifically I'm telling you to go to God about it but what I am saying is that getting our Health in order can have an amazing impact in so many different ways and I think that sometimes we just assume that God's like you good the way you are and
we don't ever address that aspect of it but we need to and I'mma even say for myself at one point my issue wasn't it was a little bit of weight even though to the to the outside world it wouldn't be that way but trust me it was was but more so it was the impact it was having on my fatigue levels okay and me being on tour and I'm always tired and I remember someone mention saying to me man you're always tired and that made me like say Dam okay what's what's going on because I
always just accepted it as I'm just a tired person it's just is it is what it is but no it wasn't I'm just a tired person it was I'm not healthy and I prayed and I and I that's what actually was one of the Catalyst to to me doing a 7-Day fast I'm not telling y'all to jump to seven days though I do believe fasting is powerful and amazing and everyone should consider it but that was partly what led me to the fasting then detoxing and then that really opened me up to the world of
health and changing my diet and all these different things and and I've done a complete 180 from where I was before in so many different ways so I just want to encourage that again with love talk to God about it it's between you and him whatever it needs to be and whatever you need to do I just want you to be able to have that conversation and find out if there's any improvements you you need to make but all in all understand that you deserve the best that God has for you and I pray that
you receive it and I pray that that this message resonates with you in a way that inspires you to tap into your full potential thank you for watching this video I pray it was helpful to you be sure to watch this one over here on five things every woman needs to know about men however do you would you rather just continue waiting for him and hoping that he'll come to this conclusion or make it easy and let him know and then he can provide you what you're looking for
