for a lot of people falling in love and finding your soulmate is the ultimate goal in life and while it would certainly be wonderful to meet the perfect person for you it definitely doesn't mean that love is all there is to life but when you make a conscious choice to remain single oh boy the battles you have to face then are of a totally different kind that's because the not so single half of the population takes it upon itself to convince you otherwise what matters is not what everyone else is doing or what other people
think you should be doing but what you want and what's right for you so with that said here are eight things only single people can relate to one feeling replaced by your friend's significant other ever since your friends all started dating someone do you feel like you hardly see them anymore you're happy for them of course and you try to be as understanding as you can but there are only so many times they can turn down your invitations or cancel on you at the last minute before before you start to feel like you've been abandoned
everything you used to do with them they want to do with their significant other now like go to the movies or eat at new restaurants and you can't help but feel the slightest bit of jealousy that this person is now who they want to spend all of their time with two having to be the third wheel all the time are you always the third wheel when you hang out with your friends and their Partners does your friend significant other tag along on most of your G togethers now because they want to get to know you
better and befriend you too which is really nice of them you have to admit but it also makes you miss the days when it used to be just you and your friends and no one felt left out S three having to stomach a lot of PDA whether it's from your friends or couples you see passing by public displays of affection are honestly uncomfortable for other people to watch and no it's not because you're bitter about being single or anything but after a certain point it starts to get exhausting listening to your friends telling you about
all the different reasons why their partner is so dreamy having to awkwardly stand around while they kiss and call each other cute pet names seeing them act so happy and lovey-dovey all the time yeah no thanks it might be fun for them but it's certainly not fun for you to watch and have to stomach it all the time four always being asked why you're still single do others Badger you relentlessly about why you haven't found someone yet do they pressure you into dating again no matter how many times you tell them you don't want to
from your friends to your relatives to people you barely even know when you're single for a while sometimes it feels like that's all anyone wants to talk to you about you insist that you're single by choice but most people can't seem to understand why anyone would want to stay single oh well five being comforted because of your Rel relationship status sad to say most people just can't seem to wrap their heads around the idea that some of us are actually happy to stay single a lot of people give us comforting pats on the back whenever
the topic comes up and try to encourage us with platitudes like don't worry it'll happen for you too or you'll find someone eventually just hanging there as if being single is somehow synonymous with being miserable six being bombarded with personal questions what happened between you and your ex why are you having such a hard time finding someone don't you ever get lonely is there anyone you like once people learn you're still single they'll start to bombard you with really inappropriate personal questions they're convinced their questions will help you find your next date have you ever
thought about dating so and so and of course isn't it time you moved on already single people have to put up with hearing such insensitive questions when frankly it's not anyone's business but yours why you choose to stay single seven constantly being set up on blind dates do people keep coming up to you to say I know the perfect match for you or you should really meet so and so you'd make a great couple if only you had a dollar for every time you heard those things and while your friends and family members do have
good intentions you can't help but feel fed up over their constant attempts at playing Matchmaker and setting you up with someone and eight feeling pressured to find someone already has anyone ever teased you about being single or told you that you should just lower your standards they make it seem like there's something wrong with being single but the truth is you're happy to stay single for now because you know that the journey is every bit as important as the destination after all there's a lot of freedom Independence fun and excitement that comes from being romantically
unattached to someone in the end being single allows you to focus on yourself self and it can be a time of great self-growth and self-discovery it's better to stay single and wait for the right person to come along than settle for anything less being in a relationship has rewarding experiences when you're with a healthy partner you learn to grow with someone step out of your comfort zone and your social life expands as you build connections with their family members and friends but being single has its benefits too we're tired of social media mainly highlighting relationship
goals Why not start a hashtag single goals movement too here are eight reasons to be single one you can save money who else here is a broke Millennial although there are ways to be creative and spend less on dates a certain budget still has to be established when entering relationships transportation and gift giving for instance are harder aspects to avoid but when you're single your bank account will thank you for it unless you're an impulsive spender in general to gain insights on how to spend more WI wiely check out the financial diets Channel they offer
practical advice that's easy to use anyone can use it whether you're still a student figuring out finances or someone who wants to travel more two you can fortify your friendships and family relationships when people enter relationships it's common for them to pull the disappearing act they might not see their family and friends until they enter the comfortable stage of their relationship which can take up to 6 months to a year for them to realize they actually miss having a social life outside of their partner when you're single however you can make plans with your close
loved ones without having to consider your partner schedule too yay freedom three you can explore new hobbies this isn't to say you can't do the same when you enter a relationship with someone in fact they might actually encourage you to try new things you never would have considered in the first place but there's something special about embarking on this journey alone whether that means Tak taking up knitting snowboarding or cooking classes you become one with your passion with less interruptions and distractions four you can go after your dream job more easily the thing about being
in relationships is that they require compromise on both Partners to grow on the same page in order to sustain but when you're single you don't have to limit yourself to one location which may affect your ideal job opportunities you can just pack up your bags and leave when ever you can if your heart is tugging you to move into the big city to become a fashion designer no problem or if you want Solitude and quiet residing in the middle of nowhere is also an option without having to worry about neglecting your partner five you can
be selfish without consequences my boyfriend and I take turns watching our shows on TV and I'm not going to lie I often miss those days where I could just binge watch my Drama Series without having to worry about hogging the screen but when when you're single you can be selfish without hurting someone else if you want to go to that restaurant this weekend you can the less people you have to run a decision by the better because when you experience these moments alone the only person it affects is you six you deal with less drama
let me tell you fighting with your partner is not fun but when you with the right person the fights serve well in which they strengthen your relationship instead of weakening it single life however works in your favor because the only drama you have to deal with is from family friends and work you have one less life Department to worry about therefore you also have fewer emotions to sort through seven you master self-sufficiency if you're someone who needs validation frequently being single can work to your advantage I know you might be itching for a fulfilling relationship
but establishing a strong healthy relationship with yourself is actually the most vital to your growth once you've established a strong sense of self you're more likely to avoid codependent relationships in the future how is that not fantastic and eight you still experience the excitement of finding your soulmate the possibilities will seem endless you might meet the one on your summer trip or maybe they'll happen to sit next to you in next semester's class work on yourself surround yourself with the things you love and the right person will come along you never know what's going to
happen so be patient enjoy the present and be thankful that you're alive in this very moment if we may ask a personal question how's your love life are you currently single or perhaps you're looking for a long-term relationship although we hope you found that special someone we understand that generally dating isn't easy do you think you might be hurting your chances at true love have you had a long list of failed relationships but can't seem to figure out where it all went wrong well here are 10 things that might be keeping you from finding relationships
that work one you have cynical views about love what's that saying again once bitten twice shy it's common for people who have been stung by love before to stop believing in the magic of romance you have every right to grieve feel hurt and learn from the experience but being stuck in your negative ways and dwelling on your pain resentment and regret is only going to close you off from New Opportunities to find the one who truly loves you for who you are two use said unrealistic standards nowadays we see so many pictures and posts online
about couples who are # relationship goals that it may start to clad your judgment and give you unrealistically high standards you might turn down great dating prospects or throw away a special connection you had with someone just because it wasn't everything you hoped it would be but the truth is sometimes relationships are more about being the right person person than finding the right person three you've set too many deal breakers you have standards you know what you want and that's a good thing but expecting too much of your potential Partners too fast sets the scene
for failure and disappointment are you so quick to call it quits and run away at the first sign of imperfection just as you deserve a fair chance so do they in the end relationships take time and effort and sometimes those flaws make this person uniquely tailored for your relationship it's in the complete acceptance of an imperfect person that we find the kind of love that's meant to last or you have unresolved past trauma whether it's a messy breakup a toxic relationship or an unhappy childhood your past can leave you with loads of painful memories and
emotional scars that you often never really get over you end up carrying that trauma with you throughout your life unknowingly allowing it to ruin your relationships resolution acceptance and being at peace with your past will not not only negate most of the detrimental effects but also help you be a better partner giving the relationship its best chance to stand the test of time five you have low self-esteem I know you've heard the quote you can't love someone else until you learn to love yourself first when you suffer from low self-esteem you tend to lose yourself
and your partner instead of developing your own sense of self your partner is used as a substitute since you feel like you're Unworthy of their love you constantly worry that they'll eventually realize that and leave the insecurity makes this a self-fulfilling prophecy through things like misinterpreting small actions catastrophizing and constantly suspecting your partner of things this can be exhausting for the other person and for you six you have a fear of Happiness hey don't laugh we know how it sounds why would anyone fear being happy we humans are strange creatures and this indeed is something
that happens even though most of us aren't aware of it are you afraid of what would happen if you ever did find the one so afraid that it leads you to sabotaging your own relationships do you push people away before they can get too close to you because having an honest emotional connection with someone scares you you try not to get too attached and suppress your desire for connection so much so That Others May misunderstand and think you're inconsiderate inconsistent and not at all interested seven you have trust issues do you feel jealous about your
partner being close with other people does it make you uncomfortable to think of them going out without you do you need to read their messages and know where they are all the time just to feel secure sad to say nothing Dooms a relationship faster than a lack of mutual trust behaving like you don't trust them will cause your partner to grow resentful of you over time no one likes being constantly controlled and Under Suspicion eight you think you'll lose your independence by being in a relationship the romcom movies always say you complete me which isn't
the healthiest of messages perhaps you subconsciously fear commitment because you think you'll lose your Independence or Freedom when you do find a relationship the truth is the opposite remember this in a healthy relationship you should never have to sacrifice your personality your Independence or who you are for a romantic partner the Hallmark of every strong enduring relationship is learning to maintain your Independence while still being happily committed to someone nine you want someone one you can't or shouldn't have most of us are guilty of liking somebody against our better judgments probably even more than once
whether it's because they're already taken or emotionally unavailable it's easy to fall in love with the wrong people obsessing over the forbidden fruit closes off your ability to consider the more compatible and better suited people for you and 10 you don't learn from your mistakes we all make mistakes we're only human but what mistakes have you made in in your past relationships and what have you learned from them what's changed about you and how you look at things because of your mistakes if you don't know or believe you've never done anything wrong this may be
the most detrimental factor to your ability to find a lasting relationship mistakes allow us to learn grow and be better the next time around if there's no learning the same mistakes occur and the cycle is endless a relationship takes more than one person luckily enough one of those people is you how do you think you're doing what went sideways in previous relationships do you relate to any of these signs in this video or perhaps you see your friend who has these signs knowing the answers to these goes a long way to helping you on your
quest for love Hollywood marketing companies have a lot of people chasing after love like it's a prize or a status symbol but what's the big deal with relationships do you need a New Year's kiss or a valentine are relationships overrated maybe not for everyone one but there definitely are some benefits to being single relationships can be wonderful but being single can too you don't have to be bitter and lonely let's take a look at a few of the benefits of being single strengthening bonds according to maso's hierarchy of needs something we all want is love
and belonging we want to be loved unconditionally we want someone who we can talk to about anything a lot of the time especially as we get older that Gap seems to become more obvious and we tend to think that the thing that's missing is romantic love because of that we lose sight of the fact that we can receive love and affection from many sources not just a romantic partner a study conducted in 2016 revealed that receiving support from other sources like your friends and family can mitigate feelings of romantic loneliness in other words spending time
with friends and family can keep that nagging feeling that something is missing away permission to be selfish a 2013 article published in politics philosophy and economics titled can a compromise be fair states that compromises need to occur in relationships even at the cost of fairness this means compromises aren't always fair but they are necessary for a relationship to work that's good news for single people of course compromises will still come up as you balance work or school friends and family but the most stressful and timeconsuming compromises come with being in a relationship you don't need
to discuss plans of the significant other you can just decide on things yourself you don't need to compromise feel like trading yourself to Sushi in a movie on a lovely Sunday afternoon you can that includes not worrying about the option needs or wants that a significant other would have no worrying that they're not in the mood for sushi or that they don't want to see the movie you picked it's the one time aside from your birthday that you can be a little more selfish than usual look within when you're single and don't have to compromise
you have more time to discover the things that make you you whether you like to spend entire days playing video games or watching Niche films that make other people squeamish you can do whatever tickles your fancy when you aren't in a relationship this also extends to introspection you have time to look in wordss and learn about yourself you can figure out everything that you need and want in life you'll also have time to recognize and heal past trauma when you're in a relation ship your goals need to fit into the relationship or a compromise needs
to be met you shouldn't have to compromise on your dreams and the things that you're most passionate about in a thesis written in 2019 titled seeking Solitude the positive effect of being alone PhD candidate Samantha Voss wrote being in uninterrupted silence gets you involved in your own emotions and thoughts you get to really understand them create an inward awareness that helps you improve your outward awareness and that sums it up perfectly mental health existentialist philosopher Jean Paul Sartre has a famous quote that says if you're lonely when you're alone you're in Bad Company being in
a relationship shouldn't negatively affect your mental health but it can this also goes for being single but when you're single you can choose that alone time for your mental health whenever you need it a few Studies have been done on the effects of a relationship on your mental health clinical psychologists Scott braith White found that improving your relationship can improve your mental health but improving your mental health won't necessarily improve your relationships this suggests that if you have mental health issues now getting into a relationship isn't a way to solve these issues according to psychologist
Adele 4th there is a possibility that your relationship can lead to trauma if your partner is or becomes abusive that shouldn't be something you have to worry about while you're single take time to appreciate your own company and make sure your mental space is healthy use this time to care for yourself do a face mask work out or watch some trash TV treat yourself well you can always experience romance on your own through a solo date unlike Lady Gaga you don't want a bad romance relationships can be wonderful but if you're waiting for the one
not interested in relationships or you've just left a relationship just know there's a lot to enjoy in the single life let us know how the single life is treating you in the comments leave a like And subscribe to Psy to go for more videos like this and if we can leave you with one thing it's this being single doesn't mean you have to be lonely
