so why can't we just forgive and move on because forgiveness doesn't lead to closeness or safety or connection now forgiveness can lead to peace that means we forgive them to let go of the debt that they owe us that's why we say people owe you an apology it's because they took something from you there's a debt there's a wound they hurt you and we can intentionally let go of that resentment and cancel the debt that they owe us because we know they can't really pay us back anyways but at the same time forgiveness alone doesn't
lead to trust being rebuilt does it and a relationship lives or dies based on trust we can forgive and move on but if that person is still in your life and you're asking why can't I just forgive them and everything feel okay that's just not the way it works your body is too smart for that it knows they aren't a safe person it knows they aren't trustworthy why would your body want to give more of itself to someone who is only taking advantage of you
