Best Video on Love and Marriage Ever by Dr. Myles Munroe

Our not being so amazed then I have been the last couple of weeks and emails that I've been receiving from people here from Nassau and also from those who watching us around the world about the sessions that I have been speaking on on relationships I didn't realize you had so many problems yeah people are so grateful I got letters from people right here in the church who said thank you so much for speaking on this people from The Bahamas have been writing us this past couple of weeks saying thanks and I want to tell you

that everyone in here is affected by relationships so I hope that you are aware but the more you improve your relationships the better you improve your life amen so cut find it a clean sheet of paper and when you take some notes before we leave today the word of the Lord is very clear I want to recommend all the books you see on the screen everything I teach In these sessions are in these books and I hope that you will avail yourself to all of these so that you can increase and improve your ability to

have good relationships all the books are available online from our resource bookstore on the internet they are also available in a bookstore Amelie after the session here at diplomat 7 so if you're visiting us please make sure you go to the bookstore and pick up all the books on relationships and enhance your Relationship ability in our last session we talked about love and how love is so misunderstood and I want to recommend to you that you really buy the CDs and the DVDs of all the sessions that you are listening to in this segment our

theme this year is kingdom citizenship authority that's our theme for this year so we'll be focusing on the authority of God in all areas of life and I will submit to that authority and in this interim of teaching we are looking up From the beginning of February when we talked about the love series looking at the authority of the kingdom citizen and relationships and I want to focus today on this top edges down kingdom skeleton shift laws of love and marriage the kingdom citizenship laws of love and marriage I want to focus today for a

few minutes on the subject of understanding the authority of love in relationships like marriage whether you are single or Married or divorced which the bottom line is important to you because I'm convinced that love is the most misunderstood concept on earth and I want you to take notes today for the sake of yourself but also for your children and your grandchildren in our last test in which you probably have boy we didn't get a piece get the CD I ended talking about the fact that knowledge is the most important decision every human would make in

their life Next to their decision to follow Christ marriage is a decision that's more important than buying a house it's more important than buying your first car it's in fact agree to understand marriage because you can buy an expensive house another horrible marriage lot of people have built beautiful houses but can't live in them because they spend more money on the house than they did on their relationship some who Buy a brand-new car but they can't drive together to work anymore because they don't speak to each other which means your car is not come to

you it's interesting to me that most people cars now stronger than their marriages and reason why that is is because when you go to but get on Isis viacom the government would force you to take a test study a book and go on driving lessons and they will make sure that you are qualified to drive on their streets So to get a license Narvekar can take months but if you go to that same government to get a marriage license they'll give it to you in 20 seconds once you qualify the give you license which means

that they are more concerned about your car on their streets than they are about your life in their community none of us goes on driving lessons for our marriages we don't have a requirement by the government to read Books to get married so we know how to drive but we don't know how to live with someone and this is why it's tough for most people many of you in this room and the fog of watching us around the world you are victims of a broken heart some of you have tried marriage and he's at the

point now where you thinking I ain't gon try this no more but it's amazing when you get a car that's wrecked you still buy another one somehow you don't mind get another car Because you know how to drive but you ain't sure you will get another me cuz you ain't sure if you want to drive that situation and the difference between the two is knowledge write this down on choosing a life partner for marriage must not be taken without careful and prayerful consideration you can't just jump into it why because nothing in structure and nowhere

in the bible does God command us to be married you don't have to be married to be happy Marriage is a choice that you can make it's not a requirement by God you also mentioned in our last section that God never choose with your mate and I'm so glad because God is put smart to choose your main field God knows that of you I didn't choose your mate and it didn't work out you could blame him so God gives you the complete responsibility to choose for me but he does help you he gives you a

brain with five billion cells he gives You the Holy Spirit to guide you he gives you his word to regulate your decisions he gave you past lists to give you good counsel he gave your parents to give you sense and he gave you his all anointing to desire in stirrups and yet with all of that equipment some of us ignore it and we still make our own decisions I want to say this then that long if not the foundation for marriage this statement will cause progress I know it will because we normally get Married to

someone because we say we are in love can I suggest that you please after being married for 32 years myself on a very very happy marriage not a bad day 32 years can I say to you that love does not make marriage work don't be fooled by that rather the feeling that you say you have for someone or an endearment to someone someone tells you good things don't get married because you love someone I love aircrafts but I can't apply them you can Love something but know how to do it so it isn't love that's

the problem is knowledge to function in that let's talk a little but love is this session now does not keep marriage together and I believe every divorced person here will agree with that statement if you are divorced today that means you were once in love with the person so you didn't lack love there were some other things that kill him up in the relationship that were stronger and more powerful Than the loan whether it was infidelity and faithfulness whether it was abuse physical abuse or emotional abuse or mental abuse however it is neglect or irresponsibility

in finances something came up that became more powerful than the love you had for the person which means that love can save you stop in it write this down please successful marriage is a result of the application Of knowledge not the exchange of love you can be in love young man all you want it doesn't make the woman the right woman you can express your passion to the man all you want but that love you have that Mary will make him the right man for you and we need to get this fast because you see

in the book of Proverbs verse 4 except for verse 7 it says wisdom is supreme so get wisdom and in all you're getting don't get love get what understanding you want to Understand what it is to be a woman what it is to be a man how to live with a human you want to understand the idiosyncrasies of a female and the uniqueness of a male you want to understand communication skills one of the data manage emotions and how to handle anger you want to understand the dynamics of disappointments to an understand how to handle

unfaithfulness broken trust you want to understand because you don't understand those Things you can't dump that marriage many marriages the day could have been saved and I'm sure of it but the individual didn't have the equipment the knowledge to use to fix the situation no marriage is irreparable believe me but most people either don't know or they just so tired try it they quit and believe me problems can make you tired and this is why it's important to you to get understanding I like what it says in The book of Habakkuk Hosea rather chapter 4

one of my favorite verses in the Bible it says my people are destroyed for what a lack of knowledge now here's the part you always miss it says because you have what rejected knowledge I can also reject you says the Lord God is saying that ignorance is a choice here's what's important here about this verse you cannot reject something that was not available I know I know I'm human too I know you sit there and get tired of me saying go borrow this book and you sit there and you got hair at home but walk

past the bookstore do you know that all your problems that you can see now are probably solved in a book in your house you haven't read we reject knowledge I'll give a second obsession like this and you hear this kind of teaching and your first thought is boy he should have been here who they should have being here to hear this what You saying is they missed it they rejected opportunity to get knowledge and God said because you reject knowledge I also can reject you because I can't help you with what you don't know then

he said something very important he says and you cannot be a priest before me you see that the word preach means representative cause I don't want it represent me if you are stupid I don't want to go to tell people you know me on you dawn start saying Praise the Lord and you can't handle your life you haven't gotten the material to represent me and they tell everybody you know me he says don't tell anybody about me please because you are messing up reputation and yes the worst part it ends with this and I must

also reject your children what God is saying write this down ignorance is generational what you don't know is transferred to your kids so if you cannot stay married And get it right you got to be careful because your kids may also be in danger having the same problem that you have can you always remember this learn for your unborn children read a book for your unborn children go to a seminar for your unborn children because that's what it's about the less you know the less they can learn the more you learn the more you can

teach them because when you have the information you can transfer it to your children process You need to get understanding and knowledge now I want to write this statement down the most misunderstood elements of relationship is love the most misunderstood elements and ignorance that we have is love we don't know about love ladies and gentlemen I speak as a servant of the Lord today with a heavy heart because we are struggling many of us are tired trying to trust people and it's because we are unrealistic we are ignorant about What level is as quickly review

what we talked about in the last session there are 4 types of love in the Bible one is called believer which means brotherly love the second is called eros which is erotic mode or fleshly level set you alone and the third one is steerable and this is friendship love between two friends and then there's the number 4 and that is a debate that is the divine kind of love that God gives you that's the kind of love that is not normal very Important kind of look as a matter fact that's the kind of love that

begins a person who commits adultery on you you cannot get back with a person who break trust with you with polio you can never make up with someone who breaks up with you with arrows keep your spouse committed adultery on you you don't want to sleep with them anymore on sexually so the air loss is even gone you crave you'll probably get AIDS or you can't even imagine what they were With with the other person and so your memory in your imagination does set from you and you can't even imagine sleeping in the bed with

them anymore errors can help you the only way to get back after that brokenness you got to go 204 and dump it you have to get to the point where you can do what God did even while we were yet sinners he died for us that's tough luck that's love that ignores all the rebellion it ignores all the cursing of God cause of a stims of you when I got me is in the believer it's not in the world but because they don't understand it is tough to do it make a note of this please

only a got a makes permanent relationships possible only agafia every other relationship will be temporary so you Carib really experience God's promise of marriage which is permanent until death do you part without God's material which is adopted Everything else will fill you let me put it another way please write this down during this trip good stuff here today write this down no is not emotions and this is a very dangerous thing because emotions are actually chemicals did you know that when you feel for someone that's an emotional chemical reaction and the problem with chemicals is

they change every five seconds in your body they can chemicals are never stable in other Words when your eyes look of someone your eyes interpret certain things and you have a pleasant experience we become a person's face or their lips or their hips for their breasts but that man's subscribe and your eyes have a sensation and the rest of your brain you go now the attendant game kicks in and your body begins to produce as we're running or do the Pavillon enzymes and you become excited now the exciting you feel is adrenaline it's our Love

and you think I'm excited about the person now you are drilling about the pressure and the interpretive feeling as low no that's a chemical reaction and if you or a loved on adrenaline excitement which some people call in saturation the problem is we're gonna help you look at someone else again a different person to get the same experience then a third one and then a fourth one what you gonna do with the first one you look down and that's why people to live In luxury that's what I close to are engaged to be married still

will that engagement and going someone else because they they confuse adrenaline with lower love and emotion secondly love is a choice you have to choose that and you must choose to love why because love is the response to understanding the value of another thing when you bow you something you put a certain amount of love or endearment on it for example if you bought a brand-new car 2012 and It costs one hundred and twelve thousand US dollars I think you would want to clean that a few times but wait the more vulgar thing is to

you the more you want to treat it nicely if you bought yourself or watch for $50,000 you would probably want to keep that watching a different place and you keep the one you would have now because the more value you put on something the more you feel engage to take care of it so love is really a response to understanding value That's why God loves you God looks at you and he sees himself the Bible says you are made in God's image so when God sees you he will see what you think he sees himself

I'm done loves himself so much even fused to let himself go to hell there was a budget we put on you by the way value is measured by what you're willing to spend for something right that that please can I say it again value is what measured by which you are Willing to spend for something in other words when you pay for something that's the body you gave it so the more you pay for something the higher the value I stop it so here's the question when did God pay to get you he paid his

tiny image on the cross which means the dark place himself value for you you are worth God that's how you measure value and so if someone really really claim that they love you they have a rapport to understanding your Value that is measured by what they are willing to give up for you God love you so much he gave up himself can you meet someone who can do that someone will give up all the man just being brother this woman gave up all the way all the marijuana but she decided toys that she can give

yourself to you only until she dies that's value as well it's a choice because the man who spilled water did we leave the planet that's important they Don't go away I wish we go to work by ourselves they will recover still but see I remember I mail up Charles this woman you claimed you love what did you kill yourself for her if you cancel how you're your own mother fire you have to if you're white gotta compete with your mother then your weight is not them above the place and honor to you I see feels

fair see want to talk to you and your mother called you in the home to see you you got a choice My advice is go with your wife tell your mama asked my wife for permission to see me just like that you know why the Bible never says they'll use the person to stay with your mother it says leave your mother and father and leave to your base you were born to leave your mother I was born you know before I got married it was Claire I suffered my mom and dad leave my sister Julia

take a pen look you know I get married and you're amazing you know When you choose to marry somebody you probably will always like them forgets what that's your choice okay remember that cause you try you you keep you make a change and I made a very class and I looked my getting married to this person doesn't bring two families together it faces very pounding I must say it again because you miss this very important in the Bahamas business destroying us right now we keep thinking that two people bring two families Together that is not

right because it invites interference some you are divorced today because of in-laws will became outlaws come on come on through be nice crap yeah then go get involve in your business so you can remember look when you get married you see you two families coming together this is the creation of a ferret family then completely separate and if you want to enter that family you need to admission No one should just drop in on you if you a marriage including your mother or your you just drop in this is the private environment he needs one

reason to come in equality people wanted this is the front marriages are seeing people who drop in on people won't fit in the house how you doing gonna kiss it over the pot is your kitchen hi Oh third time now no that's a private environment protect your thank you your home There's some others who need Jesus stay out of your children's business all right you touch this no more it's real nice coming out okay like the sound quick love is a force generated by a decision love has no feelings you know wow if God responded

to you the way he felt about what you did to him you wouldn't be redeemed today now this is important because see true love has no feelings it's a choice if you wait on feelings Remember our feelings are chemical chemical change every five seconds so if I love you because I feel like I love you you might lose your love in five minutes ever it is we fell out of love we don't love each other anymore but that means the chemicals changed the way I used to pee when I look at you you don't look

that way no more so I get to feel it no more you bigger Farah heavier you know you change on me occupy children little of the same It's like women under so much pressure to try and keep their husband's eyes on them but the stress is causing the woman to get cancer just the stress because that man doesn't know what love is he thought say today is like I don't ever play Cheryl open on too much weight you know you you know didn't stick here ten years ago and then usually and they start putting pressure

on you that man League beaten by me bring him to me either whooping but he forgot that his Stomach is now bigger than his chest uh nankai and receded and it breath smell worse somebody forget that be changed to say millennia praise the Lord longer that's Christ's you lose the love make a note of this please very important love is an act of the will that should be love love is what and after the look stay with me love is an act of the will I gave you the please write that down because we keep

bigger than love is some emotional Contortion deep in the soul love is an after the width you can be sorry to love your enemy don't believe me watch Jesus he said love your enemy exist and we made a command you will bear a man commander of a will love those who history says love those who despitefully use you not those oppressed Ricky how can you do that it has to be a decision that's the kind of love you need for marriage because the person your marriage will be an enemy twice a week Maybe twice a

day people into things and you're online right your expectations you can't decide I still love you if Jesus said to love your enemies then the person you couldn't get along with you decided not to love them I just down love is a day in both but let's talk let me read where I came from all right because love is really a law laws have no feelings whatever I say Louis I'm not killing law is love is the law sometimes you feel Like running the red light but you late but the law says stop your feelings

are not the new visible do you know that if you love your children you were chasing them so now you feel for your son sir you don't live in the Bible says he that doesn't change in his son hates him you can't get your feelings in a little discipline if you love the person and they did wrong you discipline them it has to be a wheel I love you so much I feel like not spend Any time a whooping why because I love you so much I don't want you to go this way this is

the wrong way to go it's known look at there as you're dreaming we dream that's us so they're gonna be like let me be quick real quick sure George of the 13 we're 34 I brought every together dream a new commandment I give to you love one another as I have loved you so that you must love one another by this will all men know that you are my disciples if You love one another look at Romans 13 verse 8 I want to read aloud together Romans 13 verse 8 it says what let no debt

remain outstanding except the continuing death to love one another for he who loves his fellow man has fulfilled the law of God it's a death I owe you deliver most of the time when you Oh people you don't feel like they're in there you don't feel it Like paying down talk to me when I like the time you don't feel like paying a litte bit by the tiny bit of mother you don't be like paying the moment you don't feel that but excuse based on your integrity dependable that's why you love people you're obligated try

and take feelings out of your marriage please I know this sound crazy it's good to feel good you know form it just publicly like don't mix it up with love because it doesn't work let me show you how deep This is I can join 1324 read a new commandment I give unto you what he says love one another as I have loved you so you must love one another John 15:12 read my commandment is this love each other as I have loved you it keeps repeating it it's a law it's the law I can hold

it no P like this verse 13 greater love hath no man than this that a man lay down his life for his friends oh man listen to words John 15:7 read this is my command that you love one Another John 14:15 he says if you love me you'll obey what I command you I got is the love one another you can you love me you will love people who teach you he will do good to those who abuse you who despitefully use you you will still decide I love you No Istanbul get his blood come

from I'm talking my real love Nana agape I mean not a steerable and Philly ona arrows arrow from the waken erotic did you want Less sex with an auger Vista does ironic that's that cuts arrows that flash love don't get little be dead don't ever consider sex love they are never the same good someone tells you they love you and therefore you shall let them sleep with you enough sex what person does not love you you can't equate that below matter fact they call sex in this society making love making it making it that means

doesn't exist we got to make it Let's make love but you mean make little let me don't get it please not be with a and they make it for 25 seconds over and then if we want to talk to you anymore for weeks snob Logue well you're quite a beauty series a little going on make an OD distillation file it says the employer law is summed up in a single command love your neighbor as yourself Galatians 5:22 it says but the fruit of the spirit of love is love love is not a Gift it is

a fruit understood there's no gift of love in the Bible either it is came you by God's grace or you ain't got it now let me say something very interesting here if you are born again that means you have the holy spirit is that right okay that means you get the love of God then why you go to divorce me explain why because hovering the Holy Spirit is not equal to having knowledge inside from thank you very much someone unfamiliar with it Okay let me give an example you can you can have a complete tool

set and can fix a car that it is that you wanna buy new to settle warm I mean I open it and you have it for weeks and you let's go bring down on a new car use nothing there even though you got it having the love of God it's not the same as having the knowledge to fix stuff that's why you need to sleep she you need to know how do I use this equipment Everybody in this room everyone in this room who gotta be Boss everyone and those watch me by told me everyone

ago divorce still loved the person during the time when we get the divorce I still love them but you just can't bump the protests the closures the problem was they couldn't live together that's all because there was so much ignorance there was so much misunderstanding really used the pool let me weep people people will abuse a Rich someone and then it's a great love you a little why I did there what they're saying is I'm still got the entire thing I'm still the Holy Spirit but I didn't know how to use the pool as well

you need knowledge don't get married or not let me come from the first John chapter 7 chapter 4 verse 7 sorry it's a living together together dear friends let us what love one another for love comes from God That's number one that would look there's a cafe at that day read on everyone who loves agape has been born from God and they know God whoever does not love agape does not know God because God is adapting he doesn't have it that writer Bible says something else of a love I love it readers recognizer says whoever

does not know that what what even know God he thought Mary got a because God is love again as you want for read God is know whoever lives in Love lives in God and God again this is the real love it comes from God first of all you need someone they don't know God but they look good they smell good he dress nice they got a good job because powerful obsessed the money they get all the nice cars and rides in the house they got the you know the health behind the gate me Oh Gauri

Carter yeah yeah I got yeah but they don't from God it says nothing to be friends even those who got Gorica trouble you know no for you Because someone tells you insane I need no qualification to marry them all they tell you is I got a tool set do more how to use a Christ thing in it but I got a tools it doesn't it I'm saying this I gotta do it I got this stuff don't know how to use it now don't get me wrong run iffy if we can take a chance take a

shot with some of the tools that forever take don't make a guy who ain't got nothing just walking around who know God the wind steps what God is not what if Whoever lives in love lives in God and God lives in him that means this person gotta be intimately public by God even that's money nope not only not but at least they got the raw material to work with it makes plain wine is not enough believe me cozy okay write this down because love is this here's what love is write it down everyone ready down

love is a decision to commit to meet another person's needs for the rest of their Lives without expectation and that's a high order a slow but is look love is a decision to commit to meet the needs of another person or life without expectation the whole thing is love that's a dumb thing let me tell you something if someone calls them to clear with you a pension law that means at mutual agreement you treat me nice I treat you nice is for treating me right I stopped coming with you But that's not a graphic I

expect you to behave yourself then I'll be with you that's pelea Ellis says you give me some I give yourself I give you money you give me sex more money no sex so we got this stuff run get expectations there you see so that's not love then you got spare to go Stella go is you know we we are friends as long as you don't hurt me so there's expectation but a dumpling is the strange kind of low it has no expectation write this down Love is therefore caring for a person now caring is defined

as anticipating a person anticipating a person's needs before they demand them and meeting them right now we say it again caring is to anticipate a need and mean it right now can you care about someone you study what they need tomorrow and give it to them today it's a 2d we tried again when you care that to care means you anticipate the need that may come in to need next week And you meet it this week in other words catering means i/o thinking oh this is too much the word here there means that I don't

even let you ask for anything scary if someone can't see you they spend all their lives figuring out what you need next I'm giving you now why would it be nice and high to someone like that people say they care for you checks every day anticipated you need it See you guys the Bible says cast all your cares upon the Lord why for who cared for you the wife Karen is the Hebrew word it means to anticipate of need a meter it says God anticipated your need a minute before you even ask you don't let

God serve and you play to him watch God now you pray to me for what you need is important isn't any play remember body was speaking I will say Here I am Volume everyone yet speaker here with it otherwise even before you finish the sentence we ask you a question the God died for you after you say no because that's not caring then God created you he anticipated the possibility that you might fall so the Bible says Jesus Christ was slain be for the pump because the world is in case you fell give God a

hand for curing you know the kingdom standard for marriage is interesting the kingdom says if I propose to you to Marry you as your money it says I will pledge you my clock we call it so I call it engaging today so I say I'm gonna marry you okay that means I decided to commit to meet your needs but reckon your life and expect nothing from you and I am going to care for you rest of your life now okay so I say to you I want to marry you that means marry means I want

to commit to meet all your needs rest of Your life and I expect nothing from you in return I care for you so I go away and I buy a house before we got married I make sure it has refrigerator and washing machine dryer iron electrics to whom I even make sure has a maid oh I get it now and there's a car in the garage with your name on the license plate we're married yet you know hey and I got a closet take us their house but I know you I gotta shoot it can

hold at 300 Another word okay the Bible calls it a darling my dowry is clearing you go on and prepare a place and then you come back and you see them into yourself can you give on your merit you got no money you broke belly hanging on to in John 17 Utz and you won't marry a person and you living with your mother and you tell them I want to care for you leave them in their mother's house you Ain't ready to clear yet for I get will be back off back speak they were Tom

then never love you always remembered many villas love we don't now what is love come on love it or not I want to get me brain what's left the decision to come live and meet my needs for the rest of my life and I stepped up there that's love so next time some guy or woman says to you I love you excellent so that means you are going to meet my needs the Rest of my life and expect nothing from me don't leave me get over but that's what they are resting twisting just say verse

he says live all of our needs according to him because he got something if you're gonna take him on the house you gotta have something brother brother it gotta have something to care some people are better off just staying single little older of replacing you going with you too expensive they don't Understand the level of your demand and so high you don't get frustrated the first week I know all you women know what it is to marry a stingy man or Lord to marry a stingy and even know where every penny gone you got a

big bag a shoe for three weeks and you get the quick bread but that's what longer is I told you we don't understand love love is a high order so you take notes good and you love your conversations over coffee if they want to serve ice cream Take your notebook let's Robert ice cream and they're probably this yours didn't me let me find out if you understand we'll be getting into here cuz I don't want you you know I got a good life right now I mean I'm in don't need no but I got a

good life right now so I don't want to mess with my moral eNOS he goes exchanged or singly for frustration you maybe no ruling I'm talking to men do you know some men do will finally marry a woman with a Parasite she won't break nothing to the relationship suck the life out of this guy he knew everything should I stop now doc all right let's do it but if they bring us down low is the manifestation of inherent nature of God of like the other stuff I'm gone kids all the time it's when God's agape

flow to the human spirit that's true love let me just find a gap link for you in a practical way you ready You gotta write this down this how a gap is defined a practical way don't ever forget it teach it to your children and everyone get a copy this CD plays a DVD because this is one of the most important second you ever had young people listen it is ten times before you wink at anyone but you don't want to take a chance with your life then many people in here who are hurting right

now going through this already They're saying my God if I have had this many five years ago for 30 okay here's what agape is true love has no reason what I say true love has a reason this is what love is about true love has no reason in other words if you could find a reason why you know someone you just cancelled though I will say it again if you can tell a person why you love them the love is canceled is no longer love this is why I know where in the Bible nowhere on

any Page does God ever tell us why he loves us it doesn't exist in the Bible because the minute you give a reason is no longer love you know I'm gonna get in trouble boy but the next time someone tells you they love you ask them why and wait for the answer because the answer will be the destruction of the relationship I guarantee it whatever the answer with destroyed relationship you don't believe me let's prove it First of all if there is a reason it becomes a condition I love you because you got a good

job but you better keep that job brother that's a condition you say I love you because you were a 132 pounds 36 28 42 listen you better stay that size or your life it's a condition you want hopefully you will in all their wars yeah don't you ever get in an accident and get tripled from the neck down cuz the love is Canceled wherever there is a reason there's a condition all right step number two wherever there's a condition it gets worse that's expectation I love you because you get along here then listen to me

you better not cut that here I expect you to keep your here the way I like it so the passer is on a mini slab growing an apparent one and stop falling oh I don't want to see you anymore Because it was they hear that got me with you it's a condition Kaleigh condition becomes an expectation it gets worse the expectation will guarantee disappointment because nothing in life remains the same you love a person because they you know a cleric or they got to know that coke bottle shape listen to me brother answer three babies

and put up with you she can't keep no cool bottle what you gonna do now she look like her mother now The swinging man go running around looking for these young women they never regular bus doesn't leave me a shake the condition of your sake so that you're looking for it again around the high schools for love it was the condition she loved you because you get a job CEO and that company and that company shuts down because the head causes own histories and now you had on this deal brother I wanted to still be

live with you Condition she expects you to live and work there everything's alright it gets worse expectation and disappointments believe the divisions in a relationship have you been with this I didn't expect the come to this what they saying is the division in my expectation you let me down the division results in the worst thing in the world your boss by the way the word to visible about a very capable di names to vision means one so when you have disappointment the End of the two visions in the house and Jesus said anyhow division against

itself cannot stand once you change and get two visions is over in relationship this is why I love has an expectation like sticking to always make $100,000 Alina you're in trouble you better never lose their job and the company in England never better close down in the Bahamas I'll kill them but you can control that there's so many People in this place who are pressured because of expectation I see them in the morning 5:00 a.m. try why some dumb husband signalmen a big belly say new girl you need to look right sit on the platter

expectation who do you think you are you look ugly do you get a good job you fat belly let me get this unrealistic expectation and here the worst part divorce divorce leads to death now put him in by day the boss is a deaf artist any one of them Divorce in this room it's again something died and it's all because of number one you tell me why you like me and I am in trouble because now I got a maintain would you expect to expression so God simply says I so love you that's it no

reason never gives it I so love you and give myself for you that's why I have an interesting say I'm working some of you don't think you know pastor miles is crazy you know years ago I told you when I first got married 30 years ago in Vietnam a terrorist enough I expect nothing from my wife from that nothing and the day she tell you I expect method she ironed my shirt yesterday I told her what you do we have a robust she had a my shirt that's it honey I did that waked ready to

iron that why cuz I don't expect you that I'm so I tell her thanks every time she cooks until a bang boy already Michael Nevada cook then you expect I Think we prepare do you think I'm in some of those of your facility this is real he won't know spin my groove woman what you talkin about you get this burger in addition she's been working all day to with your problem she got on bottled rock what's wrong with you impression on these people might listen you love someone you anticipate the need what a new brain

food already cooked butter where did you buy something for her Interpretation tired - why won't you do it really I let him eat already go home behind so I anticipated you'll be crying baby I might cook filet mignon it big but sweet up with some asparagus on the side with cheese on the top better let alone walk in the room I I wake up gather to bear that make the bed or I see what you're doing when I slept in this there should a young guy saying I know but I expect to do it I

don't expect you to do this That's why we are so close maybe let me tell you so much there's no reason for our love you gotta get rid of it conditions destroy and remove item we give the final thought here next we can pick up here number eight the depth of a marriage goes deeper it creates dysfunctional family kids without two pairs in the same house so the kids grew up now with a defect and usually a divorced parent will breed a divorce child who also gets divorce In other words number one destroys society that's

how deep that is when you find reason for your love you are destroying the Bahamas because you are creating criminals potential broken homes broken hearts just by the recipient to have a reason a loving a person it goes all the way to the social decay in the country sever we don't understand it any kissing and hugging and touching the body's body parts now the so deep we are still in eros we need To go to the kingdom level number ten social decay results in community destruction you want destroy a community find the reason for your

love so your relationship is personal but it's never private it affects all of us all of us some of you in this room your parents got a divorce and you were 14 or maybe 12 and you are still trying to recover mentally healing between two houses you make an appointment to see a parent I mean this is not easy it's Pretty logical issues going on here the people to understand I started a young lady the other day I've been New Jersey she said that's the mouse I just want to see my daddy I just want

to see Anderson what she was saying this is he lives in California on the west coast I just want to see it I'm at the age in my life now right I need to hear father talk to me he said I got some decisions to make and I need a daddy I guess who had his helmet she was 22 social dysfunction look I know there are many conditions in this room but I'm dealing with the hope part let this which should be better than the present you are not married learn this message today you have

been married and you kind of get my heart again learn this lesson today go into relationships with sobriety house card to give you wisdom and make this interest even though there might be hard decisions they called Somebody to you buddy you know they right break it off now because you on your way to destruction some of you got some friends you involve it right now talking about you plan to get married you better take this session to them and say let me check you out closely but my life is so important to walk around with

a broken heart the rest of my life and bring them next week bring all and I will you know this after next week co-op them up dumping we need sense Let's go get some steps because we are destroying our country because we don't understand no you love this man open no condition on him he may get fired in the morning or get laid off and he comes home with a pink slip now what you going to do and he tells you we got to move back in an apartment we got to give this house but

you're still out or do you attack him your failure I should have never married In the first place would you need Jesus here with me your expectations create the problem I love you pick me get nothing now do you get something what love is this that's the love that works let that love be Shelbourne your heart and Holy Spirit let me call to the verse read aloud please when you make a vow to God do not delay to fulfill it you come down that aisle in your white dress and you stand there with your tuxedo

in your Black suit and you stand before God and you start opening your mouth here's what God says when you make a vow to God do not delay to fulfill it coz God has no pleasure in fools he called you a foolish person if you stand I said I love you turned into a pod and you don't know what you're talking about you make a viruses and you don't prepare it I have no present fools so fulfill your Promises it is better not to vow verse five than to make a vow and not fulfill it

do not let your mouth it says do what lead you into sin rush to no altar by the way the most important statement in that verse is God is God you never make vows to people you make promises to people Vale's only made to God but you're telling God is if I don't keep this you can judge me it's tipping from the promise you can break a promise but You can't break about because of our tracks judgment he says do not protect to the temple messenger and say my vow was a mistake every day I

made a mistake my review because if you should never come to this house and say that in front of me these are verses you never saw I made a mistake we can't sit down be so angry and what you say and destroy the work of your hands must dreaming of many words are Meaningless are you dreaming I love you how and the sickness and in health what is the feeling poverty and wealth Richard footballer yeah boy you don't mean that many words you boat are gone Richard good para I gone maybe we made our concepts

what are you doing you giving this to me he's words he put in my hands you give me the power to judge you this is a no picture is it to me slow Down take your time at the NASPA he says therefore standing or of God that means don't rush to no church with no bride dress don't buy no tuxedo to pass and get five minutes damage with bow tie slow down it says here stand this be a real God be upon come down that aisle our problem is we ain't afraid no more ever doesn't

work I guess I get another one let me go down here to try this one and you keep changing people and get by let's do it Everyone doing it is it's like people think this is a game doesn't look be afraid of me cuz I will judge you my god I miss you miss what did you try this time promises are made to humans we can be broken I love you the only one I know that's a promise don't trust that they need to say that to God and they on the judgment promises have no

consequences Varro's how consequences that is why when you make a vow before the altar have you noticed here would you say I Promise to love you to care for you in stings and in health in riches and poverty watch this until death the death is the judgment you're telling God if I don't keep this you could kill me it has an inherent judgment in it promises don't an engagement is a promise a marriage a wedding is a vow you can break off an engagement without consequences before God but you can break off of our garbage

judge they're fortunate for Maura Who who experience they've been on the Judgment Day they know the feels like they break that vow they smuggle some things some get in their spirit death and a motion they heard so deep lower could explain to hurt that's judgment so new merit Paul says stay married fight for it try your best to put it back together you don't want the judgment on you then divorce find God for this session go buy the CD let's do it 10 times and the very Very maker to tell them listen to this tune

14 times cuz I'm going in twice in the wrong direction the play Steinem shame on me second I have shame on you know why sighing shame on you that's it second down shame on me because I get food place you don't fool me twice this one gotta work man you got sense now you know what to do let your children see you recovered and you know how to do it I want all of you who are married to Standardly those who are watching this program where ever you are you married please stand up your spouse

is not here still span it's a very solemn session isn't it it wakes you up doesn't it it makes you realize how smart you was or is it the other way around tell your neighbor there's room for knowledge now your spouse is standing next you put your arm around your spouse come on hug him a little bit kind of money I don't know why I love you Anymore say it again save the harmonica here you are trying to get mushi mushi on me I want to say it louder me God's anointing tell us I don't

know why I love you anymore I tell them I don't ever want to know again yeah you want to kill that fancy you want to destroy the reason because there there's no reason there's no condition all the married couples in this room God really loves you because God God have You here today in this session he must be really love you he wants you to have success he wants you to make this a testimony of the kingdom nature on earth your spouse is not the most perfect person in the world boy do you know that

you know all of their problems and secrets are already Beck's matter but you remind them of them often but guess what that's yours that's what you chose tell your neighbor I cannot believe I chose you but anyhow It's the case say that I killed you say it loud your spouse in here I want you to go home and tell them to their place I chose to marry you and you ain't going nowhere you can never get rid of me I chose to marry because being need to get to a bucket God will give us Chris

he's going to help us I want those rod for Bill divorce stand up please all those are painful divorce talk to me to pray for you all too I know you're glad you get a day don't follow it back look at me listen I know no one understands but you improve testing yes you only know the demand for it when God's good isn't he he still loves us and he still uses us and he still practices us and God gonna make you a testimony hallelujah he's gonna save away but he will come back from I'm

still a victory there's a future for you good relationships in Jesus Christ use wisdom From this day forward because God has a plan for your life no matter what you've been through your purpose is still intact your assignment was never touched that experience God still have a big vision for you to book build on you in the middle of his new he's going to bless you through all of this I would would Satan would was hoping would destroy you it's going to give you the greatest testimony you ever had God is a God of Resurrection

Alleluia is a God or resurrection I want you to forgive your spouse the one who it was from forgive them again right now because the knowledge gives you deeper understanding of your own self release whatever may be left in the recesses of your soul sometime a session like this could wake up sleeping babies and that's good can help you realize that you still have some things that you said I cannot do Holy Spirit want you to release it this Shall be a new day for married couples and divorces if you are a widower or Widow

please stand up let me just start dying I know that vacancy in your life that that emptiness that you feel the Bible specifically talks about widows with such tender love the Bible says care for the widows and stays of them because God knows and when you love someone and death takes them away it's like ripping a piece of your whole life away God says I will be the heel of broken hearts it was oil into your wound today and gives you peace again and say now I will be your husband then a winner a little

bitter was gonna travel beyond late today embodiment except his life he gives me back but you list he fills the spot with himself what better they can have been garden zone I am the husband to the husband lives have you single today and you'd like to be married please fender that's Me everybody given I good with you something similarly I don't we'll get married well praise the Lord that's not it some people are not ready for this and then someone has a stock mobile I I'm finding the latter won't get married right now nothing wrong

with that the Bible talks about a person choosing to be a eunuch if you want God to bless you and you willing to make a decision to give your life to someone to be married I hope you Heard the word of God today don't compromise for the sake of temporary pleasure you want to be married again God will provide you an opportunity and he's going to bring the right kind of persons into your life and you have an opportunity to make some decisions and make good decisions now you want to live a like this happy

and free from all this stress god is great let's all have together oh you married some of your spouse right Now here I got an EpiPen my wife is the audience really will you be baby and oh she had become a live language is well love them away I did my wife she had to rush home I love your baby boom are you ready Fred the Holy Spirit is working here you gotta pray in tongues right now let's pray we'll be a spouse have you been divorced being a friend house if you are single you

believe God for a future in marriage go ahead Printemps you're Single and you have no interest in marriage right now bring it down for those around you and pray for God to keep you pure father I have done what you told me to do I I surrender these to you I pray for every married couple today that then you were removed from them all the reasons that are left for them being together Lord take away the conditions destroy all of these standards we place on each other Let us laugh at our expectation let us commit

to meet each other's needs without demanding things from them Lord let us love the way you love you relate this unexpected moving even while he was soon as you die for us well live that pure agape love coming to these families into these marriages in the name of Jesus we rededicate ourselves for your love today what we play with also being through divorce and who experienced the brokenness of our relationship I pray Lord again that you would give them hope that there is still life after divorce that they can have a light that is youthful

on full and joyful and peaceful and fulfilling long affinity will continue to heal their hearts restore them to wholeness and those who have been ready now to begin again give them the right partner in life but I pray that they will never be abused again never be misused again I pray in Jesus name that you would cover them and Protect them by your own power and that your love would be in their hearts big you pray for those who were separated Lord who stand here today is saying I want my marriage back those who are

on the brink of falling apart those who fall apart lord I pray for holy spirit you know how to change the heart of a human act on the will of the person Lord and bring them to the sanity and let there be restoration of Marriages those who want to see it work I pray for miracles today Lord I ask you in the name of your son to go and invade the couple and bring them back together by a miraculous intervention let them entirely you the Lord and let their will submit to your word and heal

these marriages that are hurting in Jesus name we pray for everyone here today who are vidoes thank you for being their strength thank you for being their husband and their wives thank you for Giving a gap in yourself Lord where you are their spoon is of joy let them know that you've not forgotten them that they are special to you and that you are going to continue to restore them and you're going to give them a better life and you're going to have more life after death thank you Father Lord you thank you for those

who are here today who you are given the gift of no desire or may teach them how to love everyone and let your Love being them that they would love all with your love 11 what the time to love everyone give them ministries of notes and love those who've inner love those who've been abused give them the power to love those who have been misused let them do this to be a Ministry of love because they love everybody we thank you for this meeting today we leave here wiser we leave here with more understanding help

us to go to work tomorrow I'm never enemies not those to Abuse us through despite we used us on a job help us to decide to love those who didn't treat us right nor let us buy them lunch tomorrow let us let us buy them from flowers let us do something good he said do good to those who despitefully use us let your love be seen tomorrow in everything we do Lord those who are here today we gotta go home I make a phone call I pray you give the color to pick it up phone

and call someone to say I forgive you I love you I'm sorry it Witcher this way but I ask God to forgive me and forgive you nor let them make that phone call and make reconciliation father you know all I can do is keep your word it's up to you and the spirit working with human spirits for results if there be anyone want to know you as Lord and Savior and then come to know you today in your love and now I made a grace of God and the love of God the Father And a

bunch of the holy spirit being you strong and baked in the name of Jesus we pray amen you