if she never calls you first know this you've been texting her all week throwing hints that you'd love to hear her voice but she never calls you first or even text you first she always seems to be too busy or conveniently forgetful you're left wondering if this is just how she is or if she's Just Not That Into You what's the deal with women who never text or call First is she playing you or is it something deeper let's get real this might be the biggest red flag that you're missing and it says more about
her intentions than you think Jessica OS here welcome to the channel guys let's face it women know what they want and if she's not calling you first it's no accident because we are creatures of communication if she's genuinely into you that phone will be ringing and her name will be lighting up your screen if she's not well here's what you need to understand it's not just a habit it's a strategy and if you're ignoring this you're setting yourself up for disappointment don't get caught in the Trap of thinking she's just shy no this is often
a test a Power Play or worse aign that you're just not her priority let me give you details so number one She's Not That Into You Now I'm going to be brutally honest here when a woman is genuinely interested in you she's going to show it no two ways if she's into you that phone will be ringing like I said without you needing to nudge her about it she'll make time in her schedule no matter how busy she is to call you even if it's just for a few seconds to hear your voice right women
are natural communicators especially when they're emotionally invested in someone if she's not reaching out to you first it's because you're simply not her priority it's a hard pill to swallow but it's the truth when she never calls you first it's a sign that you're not at the Forefront of her thoughts think about it I mean when you actually like someone you're eager to talk them right you don't wait for them to always make the first move same goes for women it's no different if you're always the one calling texting initiating plans you are probably the
one pushing for the connection she on the other hand well she's just going with the flow now the real reason she's not calling you first might be that maybe she's not emotionally invested she could be keeping you around for convenience you know maybe you're some kind of a backup plan for her when her options are limited you're the one she talks to but when she ask something or someone else more exciting you'll be forgotten or maybe she's already giving her attention to another guy who does make her hard race but you're just there as a
filler she's stringing you along because maybe it's comfortable but that doesn't mean she's into you women often keep their options open right and if she's not calling you first she could be emotionally engaged with someone else while keeping you around as a safety net I don't know how many ways I need to say this but in relationships both men and women value reciprocation so if she's not putting in the effort to call you it's because she doesn't feel the need to deepen that emotional connection maybe you're someone she enjoys talking to when you reach out
but if she's not doing it first then it's a clear sign that her emotional investment isn't as high as yours think about it Point number two she's testing your effort now let's talk about another angle that gets overlooked right some women have a call first because basically they're just testing you yep it's a conscious thing it's deliberate right she wants to see how much effort you're willing to put in and how far you'll go to prove your interest in her it's a way of determining if you're serious about her or if you're just like another
guy TR you know trying his luck okay women like to feel desired and for some the amount of effort you put into pursuing them can make or break your chances women know that guys who are serious will chase at least in the beginning so she's deliberately sitting back watching how much energy you're willing to spend on her how many times you're going to pick up the phone first and whether you'll stick around without her ever having to lift a finger this can be a subtle way of checking your patience and persistence and trust me if
she's making you work extra hard without giving anything in return I think it's not a good sign and you see some women even go even further with this they're not just testing your interest they're testing your limits they want to see if you're the type of guy who will bend over backward even when they're giving you the beest minimum and the question is do you want to be that guy right you're always the one making the effort and she's reaping all the rewards without ever meeting you halfway this is where that game of control starts
she's got you right where she wants you and the more you pursue her without her initiating the more power she will hold this might sound crazy but it's the truth she might even be enjoying watching you squirm and beg literally for her attention every time you call and she picks up it's another small victory for her it reassures her that she's in control and that you're willing to do all the heavy lifting and while you think you're showing her how much you care she's just gauging how much she can get without ever having to do
give you anything in return the dynamic is all about power when she never calls you first she's establishing a power IM balance she's the one holding the cards deciding when and how to communicate and you're the one constantly chasing after her attention this will be frust ating right you'll feel like you're always in Pursuit but never quite able to catch up with her and here's the thing by calling first she's creating a situation where you'll always be the one reaching out and that will suddenly put her in control of the relationship in her mind she
might think well if this guy is willing to keep calling and chasing after me I must be worth a lot and while there's nothing wrong with wanting to be pursued the problem here is a relationship where one person person is always in control will fail you don't want to end up in a scenario where you're constantly proving yourself and she's constantly withholding so what should you do if you find yourself in this situation the answer is simple pull back if she's testing your effort it's time to flip the script stop being the one to always
call see what happens when you don't reach out does she step up and make the first move or does she let the silence linger this is how you find out if she's generally interested or if it's just a power play if she doesn't make any effort when you pull back there's your answer right there she was never truly invested guys a relationship requires Mutual effort if she isn't calling you first it's a red flag don't let her control the dynamic and test you endlessly know your worth and don't waste your time on a woman who
doesn't see the value in you point number three she wants you to chase but not too much so some women never call first because they want you to chase them it's not that she doesn't want you or like you and it's not that she's testing you in a manipulative way either for her the chase is part of the attraction she gets the thrill of knowing that you're willing to put in the effort to pursue her and in her mind it validates her desirability but there's a fine line between showing interest and overdoing it and if
you don't recognize where that line is you could be sabotaging yourself without even realizing it now let me be clear there's nothing inherently wrong with the chase in fact most women enjoy it to a certain degree they like knowing that the guy is willing to make the first move and that he's interested enough to go after you know basically what he wants but here's the catch if you chase too much you risk appearing desperate or overly available and that will be a turnoff so you need to balance this she wants you to show your interest
but she also wants to feel like she's earning your attention not at just being handed to her in a silver platter without any effort right and here's where it also gets interesting she might not even want a relationship with you but she loves the attention you give her every time you call her first she's getting that little dopamin hit knowing that she still got you on the hook when you give too much too soon it's a turn off because you're no longer a challenge The Thrill of the chase Fades and suddenly you're just another guy
who's too eager in her life some women enjoy the attention of multiple men chasing them at the same time believe it or not you might think you're the only one putting in the work but chances are you're not alone she could be enjoying the Chase from several guys each of you giving her the validation and attention that she needs without her having to actually make a move on any of you this is where the dynamic can become toxic if you're not careful if she's never calling you first but loves it when you call she might
be keeping you around for the Chase and not necessarily for the end result and keep this in mind just because she wants you to chase her doesn't mean she's going to reward you in the end that's the sad part and the reality some women enjoy the chase for the sake of the chase not because they're looking to build a real relationship with you when the chase is over you might find yourself ghosted ignored or friendzoned so how do you handle something like this I gave you a hint of it it's about balance right you want
to show her that you're interested but you also need to create a space for her to reciprocate don't be that guy who's always calling and texting first every now and again pull back and let her come to you if she's genuinely interested she'll make the for it but if you find that she never does it's time to re-evaluate whether this Chase is even worth it okay set those boundaries for yourself if you've been calling her first for a while and she never initiates pull back pull back and see what happens don't immediately assume though that
she'll lose interest because if she's into you she'll actually start making that effort right especially when she realizes you're not going to be doing all the work and if she doesn't well now you know she was just in it for for the attention and nothing more and the final point point number four the real reason she's unsure about you so she could be weighing her options she's keeping you in the picture because you're a possibility but you're not her only option maybe there's someone else that she's more interested in but hasn't fully committed to yet
she doesn't want to completely lose you so she'll keep responding when you reach out but she's not willing to chase you because well she's waiting to see if something better comes along in other words she's keeping you on the hook just in case the other one falls through right that's why she's not initiating guys because deep down she's uncertain about how much she actually wants to invest in you and that uncertainty leads to hesitation which is why you're the one who's always calling when a woman isn't sure about her feelings she'll hesitate to make that
first move because she doesn't want to give you the wrong impression she doesn't want to lead you on by calling first and making you think that she's more invested than she actually is so instead she'll wait for you to initiate keep things at a distance so she doesn't have to fully commit keep that in mind now women like men experience doubts and insecurities she might be unsure about how she feels about you and about the relationship or even herself and that's legit right maybe she's not ready for a relationship right now or she's scared of
getting hurt and this internal battle will create those mixed signals on one hand she enjoys her company and doesn't want to lose you but on the other hand she's not ready to take the next step to be the one to reach out first and it's often the reason behind the pull and push Behavior or the push and pull Behavior where she responds to you but never initiates now there's the issue of her just playing it safe she's not fully committing to you because she's hedging her bets maybe she just came out of a relationship and
isn't ready to dive into another one or maybe she's talking to other guys and doesn't want to put all her eggs in one basket but never calling you first she's keeping things casual and on her terms making sure that you're there as an option but without having to take that risk of putting herself out there it's a common tactic when a woman doesn't doesn't want to completely invest in a guy but also doesn't want to lose them a lot of women do this actually she's keeping that emotional distance and by doing so she's keeping her
options open if she's not calling you first she's not prioritizing you and you're likely one of the many potential suitors hanging around or maybe just maybe she's not over someone right and she's afraid of committing too soon and making the wrong choice so what can you do if something like this happens to you I think the best thing you can do is create some distance stop being the one who's always reaching out and let her come to you as well if she doesn't well there's your answer she's not really fully invested in the relationship and
if you continue to chase after her you'll only end up feeling frustrated and undervalued here's the deal if a woman isn't sure about you there's nothing that's going to magically change her mind she has to come to that conclusion on her own if you keep calling first you're only going to reinforce the idea that she doesn't need to put in any effort by stepping back however you're giving her that space to figure out how she really feels if she's generally interested she'll start making an effort and keep you in her life if not you'll save
yourself from wasting time on someone who's not fully invested in you four things for you to consider four things for you to think about I hope you found this video helpful if you did Smash that like button don't forget to subscribe my name is Jessica os I'll be catching you in the next video cheers
