everyone experiences rejection that could mean someone has said no turned you away or decided you're not the right fit rejection can leave us hurt deflated disappointed and even angry today we'll break down what rejection is what it can mean how it can affect us and how we deal with it we'll even look into reframing rejection and how you can strengthen your resilience and bounce back stronger than ever we'll be referring to rejection in a romantic context but the information we cover can be applied to almost any type of rejection friendships school job opportunities or even
family let's Jump Right In have you ever noticed that some people are more sensitive to rejection than others they might find it harder to process or just take it more personally this is called rejection sensitivity the term rejection sensitivity means the tendency to anxiously expect readily perceive and intensely react to rejection an example could be When approaching your crush to ask them out your palms could be sweaty and your voice shaky while you take any little reaction from them is a sign that they might reject you rejection sensitivity can make you feel intense emotions if
someone doesn't seem to reciprocate the way you want them to and there's a good reason why we react this way research suggests that the same areas of the brain that register emotional pain are active when a person experiences rejection especially in people who are more sensitive to it although there's nothing wrong with feeling this way it can be exhausting to deal with feeling knocked down like this each time a perceived rejection can confirm to you every little insecurity anxiety or fear and why wouldn't we want to avoid or minimize this feeling to avoid rejection completely
you'd have to pretty much live under a rock that also means not putting yourself out there or getting any of the amazing experiences or opportunities life can give us so how can we experience all that life has to offer while facing rejection well the first step is remembering that not everyone or everything is meant for you in life and it's better to find out sooner rather than later the longer you prolong a rejection the more that rejection will hurt and feel like a waste of time and energy on the other hand finding out what is
meant for you is an amazing experience and the longer you hide from rejection the longer you prolong finding that perfect fit an important tip to remember is to get direct about how you approach the things you want by being open and not holding back we give ourselves every opportunity we can to get what we want imagine this scenario you choose not to tell your crush you like them or ask them on a date spent a long time wondering how they might feel maybe even obsessing over it you waste a lot of your time and energy
in this uncertainty it's not direct or open and this ultimately causes your crush to be just as uncertain as you are resulting in them rejecting you anyway but Improvement pill you ask if I'm more direct about my feelings for someone won't that mean I'm more likely to get rejected sooner and more often Yes actually and that's why getting comfortable with rejection is a good idea experiencing rejection is common particularly when you venture out of your comfort zone or attempt something new it's an essential part of growth in learning and a fantastic way to continue this
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a strong emotional reaction ancient philosopher epic tetus explained that we should be careful with desire and opposition if we don't get what we desperately want we instead encounter what we don't want in this case if we really want to be accepted we don't want the opposite rejection the more we want to be accepted the more we suffer when the opposite happens epic tus concludes that we shouldn't desire things to happen as we wish but let them happen as they will this neutralizes the pain of rejection because we aren't actively being rejected but instead surrendering to
the moment and letting things happen we can't control everything and it's healthy to focus on things that we can control we have more control over our mental and physical health than we sometimes might realize we take care of our mental health by letting things happen and being more accepting but we also need to find ways to look after our daily physical health too so let's take a look at letting things happen and rejection in a bit more detail picture this scenario instead of rejecting you your crush accepts your invitation to go on a date with
you even when they don't want to you wanted this date to go well but it does not go well they don't relate to the conversation you make and they don't seem interested in you there's something off about it and it's because it wasn't meant for either of you going one step further if you still try to force the situation it could result in a total mismatch there could be disagreements and arguments resulting in more pain further down the line there'll always be a reason you'll be rejected and more often than not this is because what
you wanted wasn't for you the stoic philosophy of amorfati means to embrace fate and not attach yourself to specific outcomes don't let your happiness and joy depend on someone else in reality a rejection is a blessing it means you bypass any further pain or discomfort that you could experience from spending more time with someone who just isn't for you although yes rejection is disappointing there's also a power in uselessness what this means is that when you're turned away from a person or situation there's Peace and Freedom in not being needed or wanted the Silver Lining
here is that you get to focus on yourself and move on to the next thing when you're ready which means you're that much closer to finding that better fit for you the next step in rejection is bouncing back it's important to remember you are never worse off after being rejected but instead remain in the same place if not wiser having leared what is or isn't for you do not attribute more meaning than necessary to a rejection in isolation a rejection is simply someone communicating their feelings with you if you want to make make it mean
more than this it will only cause you pain often you will experience rejection and although it is painful you'll move on a year later you won't remember the situation or the person and will have moved on to something better suited to you in the grand scheme of Life rejection is a drop in the ocean especially when you do the personal work to figure out why you may have been rejected and learn from it that is why after any rejection it's important to let yourself feel all the things that come up for you pain hurt hurts
sadness anger frustration and blame it's all part of facing rejection next it's a good idea to review the situation and yourself can you think of any reason you were rejecting perhaps the other person just wasn't attracted to you if you want to learn four foolproof ways to become more attractive without altering your appearance you need to check out this previous video now it's time for the final step and that's to move on do not let this rejection set you back for too long the longer time you spend down and out about a rejection the harder
it is to get back on the horse everybody lives through trial and error it's how we learn about ourselves and the world around us so letting sensitivity to rejection get in the way of this will only stop us from knowing ourselves better and guess what knowing ourselves has a knock on effect on our confidence levels the more we know ourselves the more confident we are making facing rejection even easier so whether you're crushed doesn't like you back you're healing from a broken heart or perhaps you didn't get that job you wanted by going through these
steps to deal with rejection we can bounce back even better than before we give ourselves the confidence to be open face more rejections and put ourselves out there and in return we get to live a meaningful life that someone else will fit right into when the time is right if you like this video consider hitting that Thumbs Up And subscribe for more Improvement pill content we'll see you next time