12 Rules for Men in their 20's

hello guys and welcome back in this episode it's a very nostalgic one we're going to be talking about the 12 rules for your 20s as a man things that you need to know now i'm just over 28 years old so i think although i'm not completing my 20s yet i think i'm in a good position to kind of give some some decent advice on what you should do you know i've been in my twenties for eight and a bit years now out of ten as as a total so i think i've figured out this game

of your twenties quite well um you know and i believe in the next year and a bit i think everything will come together perfectly i'm really looking forward to being 30. i'm in no rush of course but i'm really looking forward to being 30 because as you guys guys know i'm a big advocator in the male advantage at 36 and beyond um i feel like i'm only getting better with time i think every guy feels like that he works on themselves so here are 12 things that every guy should kind of there are rules for

when you're in your 20s you know regardless of what age you are in your 20s but uh if you're if you're the early end of your 20s and this is really going to help you so number one start as early as possible what i mean by that is if you have any plans any ideas anything that you want to accomplish a business you want to start you want to start investing you want to start saving your money to invest in property the earlier you do this the better like i kick myself that i didn't start

when i was 14 doing everything i'm doing there because i feel like 14 16 anything like that i could easily have done what i'm doing now maybe not on the same scale but i could have made a start and just at least you know built up the skill set or failed a lot quicker so that i could learn a lot quicker if that makes sense so just starting as early as possible so the guys who i started a business my first ever business at 21 years old yeah yeah about 21 years old and uh i

got a giant head start on most people you know the average business owner doesn't start a business until i think they're in their mid 30s um you know that's the the average age of a startup owner i think might actually be something like 42 years old have a look guys but starting at 21 and having an idea to go down that route is unbelievable uh but i still wish that i started earlier you know if you could start in your early 20s you're gonna you're gonna be better set up like i said you guys before

it takes about 12 years on average to become a millionaire or for a business owner to have a successful business which they valued at like uh around about a million valuation 12 years is a long time so if you start at 20 the average person is going to walk away as a millionaire or successful business owner or whatever they're doing in their industry maybe it's your nine to five job but you've started early and you'll become successful in that but they'll be successful by 32. and if you're 20 years old 32 cents old as [

__ ] right guys you sat there thinking i'd want to be 32 i'm rich i want money now when you get to let's say my age 28 you look at 32 and you think god they're so young that is so young and i know when i'm 40 years old i look back and think oh my god 32 was a baby if i you know if i had had that perfect life of 32 like you'd always look back and at 50 you'll be like god 32 would have been magical like you might even be grateful you

didn't have money at 32 because you might have felt like you were more of a child back then you would have [ __ ] it all up um but it's funny what each decade does you know you get to the end of your 20s and just thinking completely differently to what you did at the start which i'll get to later but yeah start as early as possible guys because and it's a hard one because if you don't know it then you don't know it like tai lopez always used to say it's not what you don't

know that will hurt you it's what you don't know that you don't know that will hurt you so basically not knowing the answer isn't what's messing you up is not knowing that there is even an answer or not knowing that there's even a question to answer that's what messes you up guys so like i didn't know when i was younger that books could be read for entrepreneurship you know to help you achieve success i thought they were all fictional roald dahl um harry potter and that sort of [ __ ] when i found out that

they could be used for success i just oh my god you know and i started reading them but without even knowing that at the start it was messing me up it was holding me back in life but i didn't know what i don't know so you know but the earlier you start and you start asking those questions and that's a mindset thing so the earlier you start is a mindset thing it's just thinking i want to be successful i want money let me look into this okay now you know you know you don't know all

the answers you don't actu but you're asking the right questions once you ask the right questions you're on the root so like how what age do men peek out i started searching all of this stuff at like 18 19 years old so by the time i got to like 2021 i was really in a good mindset of let's start a business let's push forward let's do stuff and um it's just that the earlier that your mind clicks into gear which i'll get to in a minute as well which is kind of uncontrollable but if you're

watching this video i guess you got there so that's a good thing the second one is avoid financial waste what a lot of people do and i've made videos on this before about cultures so black culture white culture asian cultures the three i'm most familiar with because i've had a lot of people from those cultures in my life um a lot of black guys like i've said before spending a lot of money on women white guy and uh materialistic things especially in the 20s a lot of white guys alcohol nights out you know they always

say drunk as a white boy a white boy wasted there's a song that says that um we're awful for it and i used to do it when i was young i was like 18 i'd spend like two three in japan on champagne cheap champagne or some [ __ ] like 25 pound bottle stuff i thought i was a baller and i'd spend like two three hundred pound in the night like what the hell am i doing you know and that was every weekend every saturday night you go out you spend 2 300 pounds come back

earn your money again and the amount of financial waste is unbelievable you know every the amount of games that come out on like an xbox or a playstation and you go and spend like 30 40 quid another one comes out next month 40 quid like the amount of wrestling games and madden and nba and fifa and all these [ __ ] things that i bought and i'm like god you only need like and now it's yeah it's just call of duty and fifa and stuff like that you know people just play one or two games

but back then we would spend thousands we would spend thousands over the period of like five years on xbox games and accessories and extra [ __ ] for it and controllers break in and you get your xbox chipped or something like so much financial waste that comes from it and a lot of that comes from women which we'll get to in a minute so the next one is stay debt free now the reason you want to stay debt free and believe me guys this is coming from somebody who knows i was living in toronto i

became pretty successful my business was making good money i had spare cash i was so young that i thought it'd be a good idea to be very impatient and instead of waiting three to four months to earn that money i knew that our trip was coming to an end so i went and took two giant loans uh use those loans plus the money i had to push the business forward quicker thinking if i invest it all it will just fire back super bowl silver bullet type stuff uh you know real hail mary punt and then

my business long story if you don't know got deleted uh none of the content existed anymore my rankings fell everything i couldn't get the brand deals as i spoke about before in a previous video that i used to get and all that money dried up so now i've got these two loans but no money to pay them off so i had to go back into the nine to five workplace to pay everything off which was [ __ ] and uh it just held me back it probably added three years to my journey i would say

yeah i would say two and a half three years to my journey you know if it didn't get deleted it would have been different but just take it like i could have easily climbed back on that horse if i didn't have those debts to pay off but they forced me to go into a job i didn't want to do to pay off some debts to get back to normal to build the business again and um you know and i'm okay now but it was a [ __ ] show for for a while and kind of

trying to fast-track stuff and it's just not the best way to do it and a lot of guys do it with uh uni loans i forget all of that personal loans forget all of that if you want to buy a car and you get it on finance just forget all of that just stay as debt-free as possible everybody thinks that the more money you earn the more successful you're going to be gen generally you know as a rule of thumb you're going to be more successful but the real money comes from saving the real money

comes from saving because a guy who earns two hundred thousand a year working at a bank but spends you know because after after tax is probably 130 000 a year that he's actually taken home if he spends a hundred and twenty thousand a year on lifestyle enjoying himself holidays whatever yeah he's gonna have a better life than somebody who earns forty thousand a year but if that person who earns forty thousand a year after tax has got i know thirty one thirty two thousand and manages to save fifteen sixteen of it they're richer than that

other person you know that other person could make a [ __ ] ton of money you know and save everything for a year and then be well ahead of them but it's more about the money that you save than the money that you earn you know your bills really decides where you're going to go in life now the next one is stay single as long as possible and this is nothing against women i would actually if i was in first woman i'd advise the same to women i would say stay single work on yourself you

know relationships aren't everything guys as i saw love island was on last night i was uh i wanted to watch an episode of family guy i thought it'd be nice to have a one hour to myself for the first time in months and uh on the same channel was love island america it was just finishing up right and uh i was thinking god some people believe that relationships are everything that they run the world like everybody's so dedicated to finding the one or the next one the next one there's a rebound i need to get

laid i need to like forget all of that forget all of that i honestly think as a man you should go throughout your 20s very aloof towards sex and relationships and stuff and just kind of just kind of take it when it lands on your lap you know as long as the person is attractive but as long as you find them attractive shouldn't i say that's very um it's a matter of perspective isn't it to each person but you should stay away from all of that as much as possible like as in don't chase it

don't actively go after it don't actively try and find a girlfriend don't actively try and find sex don't actively go to a club to get you know to get laid let it come to you if you end up in an environment and you're working on yourself you're focused on your business you're in the gym and a woman approaches you and starts talking to you then fair enough you know maybe you could sleep with her maybe you can have a date or whatever like that stuff happens but i would recommend staying a single as long as

possible because that extra time and money and the other one is mental waste there's a lot of mental waste that goes into relationships where you talk about garbage you just talk about [ __ ] and look i'm not speaking for experience here i'm not talking about anybody in particular but you will do a lot of stuff that don't matter that doesn't matter like moving into a new home and talking for two and a half hours about the new sofa you're gonna buy or going shopping for a new sofa and a lampshade and a carpet and

it takes three weekends to decide which one you want and 17 hours at work on your lunch break of checking out different carpets and that one's nice what do you think of this one what do you think you don't need that guys there's a lot of mental waste a lot of time wasted like i said money wasted you want to focus on yourself during this time period being single does that perfectly and also young relationships never work because two people get together let's say at 20 years old by 30 you could be completely different people

and you started off like this and instead of moving parallel with one another two options you outperform them you become super successful they don't you know you outgrow them doesn't work or they start like another thing like you you meet each other in a club and you like getting drunk and going out and getting [ __ ] up and going home and having sloppy drunk sex perfect for your 20s you get to your 30s and you know you might grow apart that person starts preferring the gym and staying in on a saturday night that person

still enjoys that lifestyle where you met and that's when people like oh you're different you've changed you're not saying it's like yeah people grow so if anything more quality relationships will come in your 30s and later anyway i personally i recommend 40 but that's for another video um the next one is get in the gym so it's easy to say when you're young oh it's okay you know i'm young i'll always be in shape like i know plenty of people who have got apex and they're like 25 years old and they drink like fish you

know they have terrible diets they're just eating [ __ ] all day they're sat around not really doing a lot but they're in shape you know or they they're they look good enough like their face they're still getting laid you know women still want them so to speak um and they're like yeah well i'll do that when i'm older you know as soon as i start getting a belly i'll get in the gym but that's a very defensive mindset you want an attack mindset you want the attacker's advantage as the book says um but check

that one out the attack is advantage very good book but it should be more of a lifestyle book i think be made for business uh but the attacker's advantage in terms of fitness is like okay you've got this frame you've got these decent genetics you you're young you're in a decent position you start hitting the gym at 20 like a lunatic by 30 you're gonna perfect body you know you're gonna have everything that you want it's a compound effect so all of that is gonna add up to give you what you want at 30. but

if you wait until you're 30 and say okay now i'm going to hit the gym you know like i said defensive mindset you're just protecting what you have you're maintaining rather than chasing after the next level so you're here at 25 you've got a very nice body okay let's let's get it better you know it's good but let's go to great it's great but let's go to incredible it's incredible let's go to perfect instead of just being like well it's above average i'm not fat yeah it's fine fine i'll wait some 30. it's very defensive

like i said so as early as you can get in the gym start doing compounds start watching videos of the top level fitness guys because honestly guys it makes life so easy when you're a big strong man with good shape everybody everything falls into line me and steve spoke about this other guys respect you more women want you whether you know you want you want women to like you just because your body whatever or other men to respect you just because your body it can't hurt can it it's an extra it's an extra bonus it's

something else you'd have to worry about right um and it's good for health as well let's not lie about that the next one is test and fail so the earlier that you start like i said the better but you want to you want to [ __ ] up more often you want to [ __ ] up as much as as possible don't try to but do as much as possible test experiment get creative if something is a terrible idea to everybody else but a good one to you try it do it you know at 40

that might be you know a reason to listen to them but by failing you learn so much and it makes you a better entrepreneur business person employee whatever it might be that you do investor but test as much as possible like i i've had a decent amount of successes but probably 10 times more failures and i i was always optimistic about them working i always thought they would work when they didn't okay next one i'll move on um but now sat here at 28 i look back and i think god that thing that i did

when i was 21 when i wrote ebooks and thought they'd make 30 grand a month and they didn't i learned so much from writing them and it might not be about oh how to write how to you know upload on amazon and stuff like that it was more stuff like discipline and focus and time management like i had to get three hours per day where i sat and i wrote and i proofread and i had to structure chapters and i had to think about certain concepts and that's the skills it gave me and yeah it

failed but it brought me to where i am today in so many words and if you do that enough look you're going to grow quicker the quicker you fail the quicker you grow so test and fail guys next one is lose your ego we've all got giant egos and i lost mine during depression and when my hair fell out so i was very much i was very much one of those good looking guys when i was growing up getting all the girls thought that life was all about just pulling women and having fun and didn't

really know what i was going to do in life was just had like a destructive mindset every time someone was going well i'd destroy it and just think you know i'll be the the dark mischievous guy um didn't really work too well until you know when i started working on businesses and stuff it was better but like 16 to probably like 20. um you know in a couple months in my early 20s i was kind of before i started my business i was still kind of doing that stuff but when i got depression and my

hair felt like probably properly when i shaved it and stuff at like 24 25 20 yeah 24-25 i really felt so good i really felt so good to know that you don't have to be the best at everything to know that it's okay to [ __ ] up to know that there's people that are better than you better looking than you stronger than you just you know go to a big city and go and see all that like it's nice it's a nice feeling because as soon as you drop your ego you become you become

very dangerous because you can't be you can't be hurt as easily and you start seeing things of what they really are instead of instead of fooling yourself and running like when horses have blinkers on sorry when horses have blinkers on and they they're just running straight forward and they can't see what's around them they just focus on this one thing that's what an ego does to you once you lose that ego you can you can see everything you can see the bigger picture and it's very much like the ikea effect when you build something yourself

you perceive it as being better than what it is when you lose your ego you go okay that's terrible somebody told me it was terrible okay a hundred people told me it's terrible a thousand people okay like i'm starting to believe this is terrible whereas somebody with an ego would you know sit there and be like these haters like i hate that [ __ ] when people say oh they don't like what i'm doing everyone said it was rubbish these haters won't bring me down it's like that could be constructive feedback that could be a

good thing like maybe it is rubbish if you ever thought that not everyone's a hater maybe some people are just honest lose your ego you'll start seeing things better the next one is to become more self-aware and i say this because a lot of guys want to live up to expectations so a lot of guys say like i said the other day i said in a couple of videos that i'd rather go and watch a show at the theater then get drunk with the boys now i became self-aware i understood myself better and now i

now appreciate what type of person i am i would rather i would rather film a video project than go and sleep with a supermodel you know i've always said i don't want to win the lottery i don't want to win the lotto the lottery whatever you want to call it because i want that journey to success i enjoy that i know that about myself now i know that i like being in the trenches in the grind i know that i like building up to that point and you realize all these things about yourself and you

become self-aware and the good thing about that is you know you can give yourself direction number one but number two you know your strengths and weaknesses and especially in your 20s as well you know what you want to do so instead of being a yes man yeah i'll do it i'll do that i'll do that you grow a backbone when you're self-aware and you're like no i don't want to do that because i don't like it i want to protect my time and i want to which we'll get to later but i want to protect

my time and go and do something for me i don't want to do that i don't like doing that anymore i've moved past that i'm going to move on you know stuff like that it's very very nice for you um on the ego thing as well before and being self-aware i just want to add in because i forgot is relationships as well knowing that when relationships end it's not a personal attack it is you know once you drop your ego you go okay you know things they're just doing what's best for them i'm doing what's

best for me you know that's another nice touch to do in your in your 20s is become emotionally intelligent and to be like that person has things they want to achieve maybe this wasn't optimal for them maybe it's not optimal for me they will find someone else i will find someone else things will move forward you know i'm not the only person in the world i'm sure there's somebody out there who is better for them than me having something like that is great as well guys i thought i'd better add that so developing a long-term

mindset so developing a long-term mindset is a lot of people go into their 20s and they're kind of thinking about how successful they're going to be and they're going to be in paris with a lamborghini i know i did this a model on one arm a champagne bottle in the other and they're 20 and they're like oh 25 is years away by 25 we're gonna be [ __ ] billionaires like they're so long away they get there and they're like oh [ __ ] didn't really figure out you know that success line that i thought

looked like that it looks like this and it goes back to the start and it goes back to the start a couple times in a row and um people need to understand that the quicker you can develop this the better and i'm not knocking anybody because barely anybody has this mindset in their 20s in general never mind early 20s but let's say you're 25 and you're looking at 30 now and you're going okay by 30 i want to be a multi-millionaire life sorted everything i've ever wanted it's probably not going to happen number one it's

a short amount of time and number two that short mindset is going to make you it's going to force you to make shittier decisions because you're not thinking for the long term which is always usually the better decision whichever one is the longer term decision which is best for the longer term for the company for you for whatever you know like hitting the gym in your 20s to be in shape your 30s so you don't have health problems it's always the better decision taking steroids in your 20s might get to 40 and you've got back

problems and kidney issues and you know the long-term stuff always works better so develop a long-term mindset and start thinking okay if i'm 21 today 25 today and i'm starting a business let's target 36. let's say 38 let's say by 40 i want to be in this position like start planning 20 years ahead 15 years ahead 10 years minimum it's always 10 years minimum that's what i've got right now it's a 10 year plan i'm looking at i when i wrote it down at like 26 and uh 26 to 36 i was like male advantage

perfect year if you're familiar with my male advantage concept if not go and watch it on the channel it's a good concept but i look at that age 36 and look i'm not bothered if i don't hear by then i want to hear but i could be 42 it doesn't matter i still mean shape so i believe because i'm working on myself but you get to 36 and it's like okay that was a 10-year plan you know that was a massive chunk of time that i put in and i made some good long-term decisions for

the long-term periods of my life and it all worked out so you know thinking term is an absolute game changer guys now the next one is becoming selfish with your time so when yourself when you're in your 20s everybody wants you women want you your friends want you you know everybody wants to spend time with you there's festivals there's events there's uh playstations xboxes there's netflix there's so much stuff that you want to do there's nightside parties whatever you get invited to everything and you want to do everything you want to try it all you

cannot please everybody although we all try you know i was playing football i was doing three jobs i was dating girls i was messaging girls i was playing on the xbox with my boys i was going out getting drunk with the boys i was going on lads holidays even though i didn't have the money because i just want to go with the boys be selfish with your time you like i said you cannot please everybody so once you 20 to 30 is a giant chunk guys it's 10 years okay if you used all of that

time to grow to build yourself you will get to 30 and you will be in one hell of a position now most people can't just sit in for 10 years like bill gates did and dedicate 10 years completely to just building themselves you know you but the more that of that that you can use the more of that time that you can use the better so i would say by the time i hit 30 i'd say i probably used 60 percent maybe 70 now as it tails off towards 30 because i'm doing so many more

hours 70 of my time during my 20s wisely i'd say there was a small portion where i was kind of [ __ ] around wasting time um you know i watched a little bit too much tv here i played too much xbox here like during that 10-year period there's probably 70 of the time that i used effectively now the the reason that makes me happy is because i'd say the average person uses five to ten percent maybe five probably five to be honest they use five percent of it effectively and that five percent is probably

just being in the workplace and maybe another five percent for being in the gym but other than that you know very little of their 20s actually went towards building their life and being an effective 10-year period so they're going to struggle moving forward so that 70 percent that i used i'm pretty happy with um you know but i was very i'm i'm still am very selfish with my time but i've had at least two three year periods where i barely saw anybody i kind of just sat and worked on my business stayed away from women

i've had at least one or two years where i didn't have sex at all on purpose kind of sentence like an incel but i did it on purpose stay away from women to dedicate to my business and went down that kind of like tesla ethos that tesla mindset where he transmuted sexual energy and put it into a business because i was like well what's the point i'm not you know i'm not going to exactly get married yet i don't want kids or anything yet like 40 i was let's just build my own business and take

care of my own life so i was very selfish with my time and i'm happy for that so the next one is the progression bias and maturing quickly so i explain what the progression bias is the progression bias is when you believe what you what you want right now is what you'll want in the future or what you want for the rest of your life well a certain time slot so so many guys at 20 will want to have sex every night of the week you know go out on weekends drink with the boys watch

football sports whatever it might be buy this car you know and you say to them look stay in some guy said it to me big bold army guy when i was younger i was at house part and he was dating the the guy's mum and he stopped me and he was like you got some potential he was like you've um you're a bit smarter he was like you've got a good mindset he's like just forget about all these women he's like these women will always be here he said dedicate yourself to if you're good at

sports dedicate yourself to it you can make a career he said or dedicate yourself to business or something start your own business start thinking about this [ __ ] now get your qualifications whatever it is he said but forget about women he said women will always be there the opportunity and to be free and have no ties and develop yourself and move forward it won't always be there and i was like yeah yeah great advice yeah who's this weirdo give me another drink and you know show me where the women are it wasn't until i

turned like 20 21 years old i was like [ __ ] i think i was right i think i was bang on and this like it wasn't bad because it was only four years earlier that he told me you know it could have been worse i could have been like 35 and think [ __ ] he was so right so i was happy about that but the progression bias it's funny how back then i was like what is he talking about i want women i want alcohol i want i was drinking it like 16 14

to be honest but it's 16 i was drinking a lot and um i cut i you know i'm sitting there and thinking i want all these women i want alcohol i want parties i want my friends i want to enjoy my life and now at 28 i look back just 12 years later and i'm like god i wouldn't want that at all somebody said to me your life from now on is going to be sleeping with women getting drunk and living the party life i'm like god how did i end up down that route that's

like my worst ever life like i'd much rather just have i'd much rather just be working on my business and dating like one beautiful classy woman and taking her out for like two three four five dates and then kind of going back to my own space and time and just getting on with what i want to do like taking her on a trip for a week somewhere and uh you know and then going back to my my own life and being selfish again and just kind of segmenting stuff like that but you know there's that

progression bias what you're you're thinking what you wanted when you were young is what you want in the future and it just isn't guys it just changes and this is why i say mature quickly and you have to have that self-awareness like i said earlier and these the guys who have this mentality are [ __ ] dangerous like i'm sat here now at 28 and i'm thinking but what will i want at 40 that's dangerous that's dangerous that's massively dangerous and if you're 20 years old now and you're thinking you know i want women alcohol

cars whatever all this [ __ ] i spend my money on this and i get my dick sucked and if you can change that and sit there at 20 and think what will 36 year old me want you know let's look around the other men that are 36 what do they want out of life like what are they targeting what are they going for what is what is chris he's an entrepreneur he's ambitious what is he what's he targeting what is he aiming for i predict i'll probably be in a similar situation to him i

want similar things to hear me he has similar traits to me you know we find another guy he's you know who i model myself on or i want to be and whatever if you can do that in your 20s your early 20s especially and you could start thinking okay that's who i'm going to want to be in the future let's start working towards that now even though it's not particularly what i want right now and make those sacrifices when that time comes around you'll really thank yourself you'll really thank yourself like i on a smaller

scale and this isn't what i'd want but i know a lot of people who women a lot of women actually who what all they ever wanted was a house a husband and a family okay fair enough that's what they wanted right they wanted to own their own property they left school at 16 everybody's laughing at them you know no grades no ambition what not you know you're not going to uni or sixth form or whatever college they went and got a job they worked their way up you know it's not the best job in the

world now but they they've still worked their way up to a decent point and they managed to save something like a hundred and twenty thousand hundred and thirty thousand in that time frame that everyone else was at uni whatever immediately they want to bought their own property paid it off in full and then they have their own property you know they don't have a mortgage they have their own property paid off in full they met a husband along the way married whatever had two kids and they'll be like 25 years old with their dream life

and i'm not saying that's the route to take i actually say the opposite for most men but some women that i grew up at school with they they knew their plans early on they had that progression bias everyone was at party and they were like i'd rather work and do overtime because i know by 25 i'll have my husband my house and my kids and i'll be happy and that was their plan and they completed it and you know if you guys are looking at becoming business owners or whatever or starting something great and you're

thinking long term using that progression bias to be like okay i want to go out and get drunk and [ __ ] that girl over there because she's beautiful but i know in 10 years time she probably won't look like that anymore number one that club will probably be closed down i'll be in terrible shape and you know nothing's gonna go the way that i want it to have gone whereas if i stay in tonight if i invest if i work on my business i get up early tomorrow i hit the gym you know all

these moments they compound to create the you that you'll be you want to be in the future and the quicker you can mature the better and i actually found that people from cities big cities with big populations they mature a lot quicker because they're exposed to all these elements so you grow up in a small town nobody around you is rich everybody just wants to have babies they're baby factories a lot of these places are baby factories where i grew up it was exactly the same whereas when i went to toronto a couple you know

days in paris and there and i lived in london you know all you're ever seeing is all you've ever seen is successful people like it took me like two months to see my first bugatti veyron and you go oh [ __ ] like this stuff exists now imagine if you were 20 years old and you're seeing all of this you're going to mature a lot quicker because you're going to think well i know it's a comp i know it can be achieved you're probably going to be exposed to a better life you're going to know

that it's available so your mind like i said at the start it wakes up quicker it's not what you don't know that'll hurt you it's what you don't know that you don't know that'll hurt you these people in bigger cities and they're exposed to stuff they answer they ask these questions a lot quicker because they're forced to they're seeing it all the time so their minds they they grow quicker they become more curious and my final one maybe the most important is to leave nothing to regret now it's very cliche but the the last thing

you want to do guys is get uh like even 30 years or 30 years old is massively recoverable there's if you were 35 years old and you're like i want to start a business have a great life you could be 45 with a perfect life and feel young as hell and be like that was a great life i really did what i was supposed to do but i think even that person would agree that they wish they started in their 20s and nobody wants to get to 30 and be like wasted 10 years nobody wants

to get to 40 and think you know i started a business when i was 30 i got to 40 and i'm successful but [ __ ] i could have been doing this at 20. like i wasted you know could have been doing this a lot earlier i could be in the same position i'm in now but 30 years old and 10 years ahead of this current era so i'm positioned even better if that makes sense um kind of before the industry disruption or something like that and you don't want to have that regret you don't

want to have a child with the wrong woman because you were just too drunk and fueled on testosterone that you couldn't pull out and you're like [ __ ] now i've got this now i'm kind of married with two kids and my ambition was actually to become a fitness influencer like you're gonna regret if you don't do it and living with regret dying with regret it's just not nice guys take massive risks be selfish don't necessarily do the things that make you happiest as well people who say do what makes you happy what would make

most people happy is you know getting married having kids having sex all day getting drunk like making me happy i'd go and message my friends right now and say let's all go on holidays raining outside i [ __ ] hate it let's all go to barcelona get drunk and sleep with spanish girls you know that would probably make you a lot happier than what you're doing right now but don't regret what could be so you know stay away from like i said the stuff that might make you happy so i've turned down multiple relationships and

chances to get married and have kids so that i could eventually have the life that i want because of the progression bias and i know when i get to that stage when i'm like 36 40 years old whatever i'll sit there and i'll be like good decision good decision for me because there will always be other women but time just keeps going there will always be other opportunities but time keeps going like stuff does pop back around there'll always be other there will always be a new model of car that you can buy there will

always be a new better house that you'll find when you've got more money that you're like oh okay that was actually my dream house glad i didn't get that mortgage now there'll always be opportunities in the future guys and i think living with regret in a let's say a business sense or an ambition sense or dream life or life goal sense that's way worse that's way worse than living with regret over put it this way people say oh the woman that got away she's only the woman that got away because your life isn't where it

needs to be so she's still on a pedestal if if you're let's say a guy's 40 years old and he's like oh the girl that got away when i was 28 i missed her you know oh [ __ ] she was perfect i should have wifed her she was she was beautiful if you rise up to multi-millionaire level you're in fantastic shape massively successful entrepreneur dresses well great connections hosts [ __ ] yearly parties or something and you start dating models and they're beautiful and they've got great personalities she will not be the woman that

got away anymore she'll just be one extra you know things are only the one that got away when you have a scarcity mindset because you can't get any more of that you know so when people are saying i should have invested that 50 grand when i was young but i spent it on a car and a house yeah you're right number one you're right but if you were then to work your bulls off and become a multi-millionaire you know that 50 grand you wouldn't blame it anymore would you because you you'd be like well i'm

so rich it doesn't matter it's peanut changed to me and that's what you can't regret guys so like the whole thing about regretting the woman that got away and all this [ __ ] and i should have married her that's what you see in hollywood films the real regret comes from not doing what you want to do to make yourself the man that you want to be so i'll leave you with that guys i hope you enjoyed this uh went a little bit deep on this one but i believe that's what if i could go

back and tell my 20 year old self all of this and put the mind that i have now into that person i think i'll probably be five years ahead of where i am now which is a scary prospect scary scary prospect because i think in five years by 33 i truly believe streaming platform will be built um and i truly believe that that streaming platform is going to make something like 10 million per month when it's at its peak maybe even more uh but yeah that's it for me guys so i hope you enjoyed the

content and i'll see you soon you