[Music] it's interesting how people can underestimate the impact of their actions my name is Ryan and the best way to describe me is as someone who loves and is generally polite always striving to give his wife everything she desires it took me two marriages to realize that being reserved and giving your all to the person you love can lead to contempt and disrespect I won't let that happen again these entitled women believe they can do something secretly without their Partners finding out thinking that as long as they're not caught everything's fine they try to hide
their guilt in various ways until they eventually get caught then they suddenly feel remorse and explain that they didn't want their spouse to find out and get hurt do they even hear themselves talking what should we think when they claim they never intended for us to discover their actions it's like they're admitting they did something behind our backs and are only sorry they got caught that's quite an insult insult I'm convinced these women can't grasp normal thinking Sandy and I met after we both ended dysfunctional relationships she had spent three years with her boyfriend Billy
who left her for a younger more attractive girl Sandy was left heartbroken and with low self-esteem because the man she loved dumped her she never really got over Billy and that always bothered me to some extent I'm Ryan and I'm 6 years older than Sandy I was married for 5 years to an incredibly attractive seductive woman who made my world spin I was deeply in love with her and expected to spend my life with my ex-wife Charlotte however she had affairs behind my back during a time when I was completely infatuated with her it took
me a year to discover her infidelity and it hurt me deeply I left her and swore I'd never allow it to happen again afterward I realized that trust would be an issue for me in any new relationship Sandy and I were aware of each other's past baggage I helped Sandy overcome her self-esteem issues as she worked hard to improve her body and appearance she devoted her free time to shopping for new clothes spending hours at the beauty salon and playing tennis with my support she transformed into a confident attractive woman in return Sandy knowing my
history helped me overcome my confidence issues she always reassured me that I was her One and Only Love and how fortunate she felt to have found me every day she expressed her love for me and ensured all my desires were fulfilled our life was still vibrant and we were at least four times a week we continued to share kisses and cuddles on the couch and our love for each other remained strong we even began discussing the possibility of having children we truly felt like soulmates life seemed great or at least that's what I believed a
week after celebrating our sixth anniversary my life took an unexpected turn I spotted my wife wearing a dress I hadn't seen before and she looked stunning which which was unusual for a typical late weekday morning to clarify I wasn't secretly watching my wife but we have a home video surveillance system that I occasionally check when I'm feeling bored at work I find solace in watching our dog Brandy my little doxen especially after enduring my stressful job as a bond broker however on that particular morning when I saw the live video feed I grew curious there
she was the love of my life dressed in a very short alluring red dress and extremely high heels her hair was perfectly done and her makeup looked Flawless it had been years since I'd seen her look this attractive and it made me feel uneasy and anxious so I decided to call my wife and inquire about her plans I dialed her number on my cell phone hey babe just sitting here thinking about you how's your day going tennis today hey honey I miss you I don't have anything scheduled for today no tennis because Cara hurt her
ankle so I've decided to take the the day off oh that's unfortunate I know how much you enjoy playing tennis so what's on your agenda then well I'm not entirely sure I haven't made any specific plans perhaps I'll head to the gym would you be interested in meeting for lunch I can swing by the house and pick you up that's very considerate babe but not today I'm feeling a bit bloated and I'm not particularly hungry right now I'll simply have a protein shake at the gym I'll see you tonight I love you baby to didn't
say my usual I love you when we parted ways and I'm pretty sure she noticed because I always say it before ending our calls she lied to me and I need to figure out why she did that some things are difficult to handle even though I trusted Sandy after all these years I had a GPS tracker in her car that I rarely used initially I installed it for security purposes but sadly I was Now using it to spy on my wife right after I hung up the phone I left my office went to my car
and activated her tracker she was heading downtown so I followed her in that direction my office was close to downtown and 15 minutes later I caught up with her when I saw her entering the parking garage I parked on the street and waited by the entrance for her to come out 5 minutes later my lovely wife wearing high heels and a dress was heading towards felinis an upscale restaurant I stood there my stomach in knots hoping I wasn't being deceived by another woman when I saw her waving to a man in front of the restaurant
I knew I was in trouble I moved closer trying to stay out out of sight and witnessed him greet her with a kiss they exchanged a few words and he took her hand as they entered the restaurant I quickly crossed the street and peered through the window as they stood in front of the hostess their arms around each other I noticed Sandy leaning affectionately on his shoulder tears welled up in my eyes but soon anger overcame me I wiped my eyes took out my phone and started taking some pictures through the window while I was
snapping pictures I saw him turned to Sandy and kiss her passionately I captured some photos just as she responded with an equally passionate kiss the pain in my heart and the anger in my head pushed me down a dark Road I couldn't decide what to do before the hostess showed them to their table I felt my blood boil when I realized the man was Billy her ex-boyfriend the guy who had broken her heart and caused her so much pain she knew how much I disliked him and that I'd made it clear she should never speak
to him again she clearly didn't respect my wishes my anger got the better of me when I realized that in just the past hour she had lied to me dressed provocatively to meet her ex kissed him passionately and was spending the whole day with him that kind of disrespect and humiliation was unacceptable and I couldn't put up with it any longer the promise I'd made to myself after my last marriage prevented me from being patient and accepting such disrespect it was over and all that was left was to hear more lies and excuses from my
soon to be ex-wife still seething with anger I drove back to the office and finished the day at my desk trying to understand how this could have happened again after wallowing in self-pity for the next 5 hours I headed home already planning my next move I wondered if Sandy would come clean about her day or if she'd continued to deceive me which would make my final decision easier with great effort I managed to control my anger and drove home to confront the end of my marriage as I pulled into my driveway tears welled up as
I mourned the loss of the woman I once loved and respected Sandy was setting the table for a delicious dinner dressed nicely and acting affectionate toward me when I entered the kitchen she gave me a warm kiss and told me how much she had missed me it felt like typical behavior of a cheating spouse I thought she was trying to alleviate her guilt and make amends by showing more affection than she had in the past 6 months no matter how hard I tried to act normal it was clear it wasn't working when she looked at
me and asked honey are you okay did anything happen I poured myself a generous glass of Mr Daniels attempted a smile and tried to relax as I said I'm fine it's just been a busy day let me freshen up for dinner and I'll be down in a bit in the bedroom I changed and sat on the bed sipping my drink and allowing it to calm my nerves after regaining composure I went back down to the kitchen and found my beautiful wife in High Spirits with dinner laid out on the table she seemed content with the
day she'd spent with her boyfriend we sat together and I initiated a conversation this is a lovely dinner Sandy and you look stunning today thank you I love you honey and I love cooking for you she replied with a satisfied smile we sat in an uncomfortable silence for a few minutes while eating I noticed Sandy glancing at me curious about what was bothering me did she feel guilty would she finally tell me the truth about her day I was about to find out in the next few minutes so tell me about your day and what
you did I asked trying to keep my tone non-threatening well after you called I went to the gym for a couple of hours had a protein bar and then returned home to prepare dinner for you it was a pretty uneventful day she said in response seeing my expression and the tears in my eyes she quickly shifted her gaze down to her plate in a hush tone I asked so Sandy how do you think we should handle this situation should we consult lawyers first or would you like to try counseling what are you referring to dear
I'm talking about divorce obviously I replied quit playing dumb what are you talking about I mean the end of our marriage divorce separation figuring out how to go through with it while still remaining friends I don't get it why do you want a divorce seriously I'll give you a few minutes to ponder that question before I respond suddenly she appeared anxious her hands fidgeted with her glass and she avoided making eye contact with me several minutes passed in silence were you trailing me tonight no I fibbed although I knew it didn't really matter but for
some reason I didn't want her to know why are you asking if I followed you is there something I should be aware of I could tell she was still bewildered and didn't know what to say typical of cheaters denying everything as expected she asserted that nothing was going on and that she didn't understand what was happening why are you bringing up divorce while wearing that sad expression I stared into her eyes for a while hoping she'd be honest with me after a prolonged silence I said well let me show you what's been bothering me Sandy
I unlocked my phone and displayed a picture of her and Billy kissing when they met outside the restaurant that photo could be interpreted as a friendly greeting I didn't want to reveal the other pictures until I heard more of her explanations her jaw dropped and tears welled up in her eyes she began to offer a excuses of course honey I can explain it was just a hello kiss nothing else occurred how did you get this photo so how's Billy these days let me explain how I got this picture sweetheart I was crossing the street exiting
a software store when I thought I saw you walking hand inand into a restaurant I crossed the street and approached the window to see you with his arm around you my initial thought was that it couldn't be you but I was mistaken it was you my second thought was why is she dressed so provocatively she never dressed is like that for me anymore then I realized you were with Billy and everything became clear I started taking some pictures just as you leaned in and kissed him that's how I got this picture in the next picture
I presented to her she had her arms around his neck and her short dress was riding up revealing her backside you looked incredibly attractive in that dress and your hair and makeup were outstanding were you going to a modeling shoot or maybe starting a new job as can you explain why you dressed that way for him I can't recall call the last time you wore something so alluring for me she covered her face with her hands and cried while I continued to gaze at her waiting for an explanation when she stayed silent I went on
my new s22 phone has an incredible camera with zoom capabilities look let me show you I said moving closer to her left arm wrapped around Billy's neck I zoomed in on her ring finger which was now bare of wedding rings and brought the image up to her face no wedding rings today that's strange I can't remember you ever taking them off during all the time we've been together today must have been a special day now do you see why I'm discussing divorce you lied to me about your day this morning removed your wedding rings dressed
provocatively to meet your old flame and lied again about your day just now you're sitting here lying to my face telling me you went to the gym today and had nothing for lunch you put on outfit for your ex-lover and spent the day with him while I worked to improve our lives you broke your promise to never see him again you kissed and flirted with another man in public you treated me like a fool and just lied repeatedly I don't know if you slept with him tonight or anything but honestly it doesn't even matter no
matter what you say in my mind it'll be a lie but your actions have shown me that you can't keep your promises and you're willing to lie to cover things up you tried your best to look appealing for your ex-lover worked with him and abandoned our marriage by removing your rings then you lied to me over and over it seems to me that's a valid reason for divorce and I think you know it Sandy was deeply shaken she hadn't truly considered the consequences until now the way Ryan articulated it made her feel like she had
been unfaithful which had never crossed her mind before up until this moment she had regarded it as harmless teasing and flirting nothing serious but for the first time since Billy had approached her she realized that it had evolved into an emotional connection and could easily be seen as cheating on her husband if not physically at least emotionally she continued to cry and realized that if the roles were reversed she would react the same way what have I done she muttered to herself her heart achd and she felt sick to her stomach due to the pain
she had caused her husband she had to get through to Ryan and save their marriage Ryan you have to trust me nothing happened we parted ways after dinner but you have to believe me nothing happened it was just lunch she said sobbing and searching for a way out I understand now how it looks and if the situation were reversed I'd feel exactly the way you do now I'm so sorry can you please try to forgive my foolishness it's more than just foolishness since you did this with your ex-lover the one person you vowed to avoid
can you explain why you dressed like that for him without your wedding rings can you explain why you held hands and kissed him can you explain why you lied repeatedly to my face tell me darling does our marriage mean nothing to you and yes if the roles were reversed I'm sure you'd feel very differently Ryan honey we can't let our marriage crumble over something like this nothing really happened he was in town and he invited me to lunch I know I shouldn't have gone and I'm aware of your jealousy but we had a long history
together I thought one lunch after all these years wouldn't be a big deal I guess I dressed up to show him what he missed when he left I kind of wanted to tell him to his face what he lost and how happy I was without him remembering how he had left me back then still hurt and I wanted a bit of payback yes I kissed him but it wasn't a romantic kiss more like two friends meeting or parting ways you have to believe me I want nothing to do with him please baby let's work this
out I'll do whatever you want really that doesn't mean anything you'll do anything I ask hearing that she had a chance to save the marriage marage she smiled eager to hear what she needed to do and said yes of course I'll do whatever you want me to do baby all right Sandy I'll give you one chance and just one chance I have one request let me see your cell phone why she looked at me with a puzzled expression well Sandy if it doesn't mean anything then show me your cell phone I want to see if
there are any text messages between you two and what you've been saying to each other no you don't need to see that she said her gaze falling to the floor she understood that if I read those messages it would cause me pain and reveal things she'd rather keep hidden that's exactly what I had in mind so let's revisit my initial question how should we handle this tears welded up in her eyes as she pleaded for forgiveness promising never to repeat her actions it dredged up painful memories of my first marriage I couldn't believe I was
reliving that nightmare this time I wasn't going to accept all the lies and let things continue wait wait please just wait Ryan if I give you the phone will you promise to give me another chance you have to know that I love you and I've never cheated on you before I might have gotten caught up in a foolish online relationship and yes with my ex-lover but I was acting foolishly like a teenage girl the flirting and compliments were flattering and it boosted my ego I know how childish that sounds if I hand you the phone
can you promise to give me another chance I can't do that Sandy but I promise you if you don't give me the phone our relationship is over my next step will be to call Mark Wilson the attorney I've already spoken to and have him prepare the divorce papers this week can we work on this I want to be as transparent and open as you are my issue is that I never want to hurt anyone and will avoid it if possible now I see that not being honest is actually worse well honesty and transparency were the
only things that could have salvaged this marriage but you weren't forthright and candid until you had no other choice the fact that you refused to let me read your text messages until you realized you had no alternative sealed your fate tears streamed down her face as she sat there fully aware of how those messages exposed her dishonesty and lack of trust she knew I wouldn't accept it and eventually realized that her emotional relationship with another man was just as damaging as a physical affair she vowed never to make such a mistake again sadly our once
happppy marriage came to an end we signed the divorce papers and 3 months later we were officially divorced we sold the house divided our assets and parted as friends no reconciliation no vendettas or bitterness all that remained were the smoldering ruins of a once happy marriage destroyed by deceit lies and a loss of trust I continued to date but after being burned twice marriage was not in my future Sandy and Billy got together and two months later Sandy became pregnant Billy abandoned Sandy as soon as he learned about the pregnancy instructing her to handle it
because he wasn't ready for children the next day Billy vanished leaving Sandy holding the baby according to her sister Debbie Sandy was a mere shadow of her former self her self-esteem had once again been shattered Sandy remained in a Perpetual state of depression especially when she lost her baby due to a violent fall down a long flight of stairs in her apartment her life had gone from Paradise to sheer hell all because of her vanity and selfishness she simply couldn't forgive herself for ruining our once happy marriage and losing my love and respect trust loyalty
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