the sad girl aesthetic is more dangerous than you think Hook's gone we broke up [Music] why do we associate Beauty with sadness he just say this but I was a sad girl last year yes there may or may not be a boy involved but I do think I almost consciously stayed in this melancholic state for too long or yes situations definitely trigger the sad emotions but I want to do a whole negative Loop of feeding into the emotions by having a sad girl identity point is I would have been over a situation a lot sooner
had I not follow into the sad girl aesthetic trap where there is a sense of beauty associated with being the main character of a tragic story and romanticizing self-destruction not healthy hit me what I want to feel something like hit me the day I am not suggesting that it is not okay to have sad emotions but the internet definitely romanticized sadness to a point where mental illnesses and destructive behaviors have become an aesthetic both glorifying illnesses and turning a serious issue into almost a trend as someone who went through situational depression let me just say
one thing it ain't pretty and it's not as aesthetic as social media or Cinema portrays so let's dive into the obsession with the sad white girl Trope why do we associate Beauty with sadness and the issues with the romanticization of mental illness what is a sad girl black and white photos of roses tears and cigarettes hanging from Red phone chapped lips after him cry I'm not crying sad girl is an aesthetic that became popular in 2015. but it's still relevant according to the Urban Dictionary a sad girl is someone who is aloof self-possessed and reserved
she is constantly depressed and miserable only talks about lost love memories why bother probably uses some type of substance to mask the pain reminiscent of a Hollywood Noir film the sexiest thing about her is her mysterious nature yoga nowhere and other sad girls and sad boys will gravitate toward her an article from artifact also describes sad girls as young girls from affluent Western countries who embody A peculiar Paradox the desire to convey their innermost thoughts through a formulaic aesthetic some examples of this aesthetic include Lana Del Rey Effie Stoneham and even balaswan in Twilight Tumblr
and Instagram were the hubs for the rise of this actoral era girls shared blurry selfies cry in the bathroom with deep and mysterious captions tweets about missing their ex pictures with teardrop motifs painted on their cheeks sadness has never looked better moreover sadness has never been more marketable welcome to the sad girl club where membership is granted for loyal sad girls who wear sadness for the world to see for only 24.55 that's why not even 25 dollars you can be like the 2000 309 other sad girls mysteriously sad confused but aesthetic toxic and should be
not included pink bat also not included but hurry because capitalism worked so well on sadness that it might just sell out [Music] must be pretty when you're sad the obsession with the sad white girl Trope the internet sad girl has more issues than you think let's first begin by dissecting the obsession with a sad white girl trip with minor exceptions internet sack girl only caters to the sad white girl the sadness of women of color or of the impoverished were and still are virtually ignored on social media because sad girl is after all an aesthetic
the whole reason for this aesthetic to become so popular was that it beautifies a common emotion while hiding all the underlying quote-unquote untasteful issues under the aesthetic to truly be sad on the internet and be a part of the internet Sacro Trope requires a sadness rooted in White Privilege do you adhere to Western beauty standards to be sad and thin to be sad and not poor the affordability of healthcare are not facets of the internets that girls woes the sad girl aesthetic is almost attention hungry do I ever get to be upset do I ever
get a lot of the framing aesthetic choices are very much conscious everything seems so poetic and deep so that depression has never looked so mysterious so sexy not saying that sad girls don't have real issues or their emotions are not valid but the whole aesthetic puts a greater emphasis on using the Trope for attention seeking instead of focusing on actually addressing the underlying issues such as seeking professional guidance and help because a visit to the therapist doesn't look as Chic as a bathroom crying selfie right people should love I hate from the people I hate
or why do we associate Beauty with sadness not gonna lie I do find beauty and heartbreaks and Imperfections of life because that reflects the reality of life not every moment is going to be a hand-holding hand cheerful dance and not everything we want will be granted by the universe sadness is nothing but a reminder of What happiness is but there seems to be an over romanticization of sadness in film and TV and social media a tragic heroin is always filled with Sorrows yet she is still glowing with beauty and elegance while her troubles deepen tears
are shining like Glitters she cries yet she does not have a runny nose nor a completely red face her hair glistens as if a new blowout is still fresh her outfit is still on point and coordinated with style yet again a woman can be anything sad angry depressed annoyed but as long as she is pretty she is still loved by the world thanks for loving me Society doesn't just associate Beauty with sadness it Associates we're more so prescribed Beauty to women Fox water is not better it tastes like cardboard please [Music] [Applause] [Music] now I'm
not a beauty Creator and I can't say much to the makeup Trend to look like a crying girl but objectively yes the makeup is pretty all the girls look Angelic all the girls look so vulnerable with the impression of having just cried all the girls look very aesthetic and seem like they have a story to tell but there is also a thin line between making it okay to cry because of real raw human emotions versus making crying being sad depressed suffering and aesthetic I used to cry a lot and I think I thought I looked
good I think I thought I looked good I think I thought I look good because I'd take a photo every time so let's do the crying girl makeup I don't know what do you guys think because strictly speaking makeup is a form of art a form of self-expression and fundamentally I don't think there is anything wrong with the crying makeup as it is analogous to a painting of a crying woman my only issue with art expressing sad emotions regardless of format whether on a canvas or on a human face is that regardless of the intricacy
of the emotion the goal is to almost always convey some form of beauty the subject of the art the woman almost always follows or highlights some standards of conventional Beauty the theory of sad girl yes that's an actual thing was produced by Los angeles-based artist Audrey Wallen and originated as a study on the cultural Trope of suicidal women which eventually evolved into the idea that women's sorrow is a political agent whose willingness to make apologies for her misery and suffering is an act of Revolt the idea sounds really empowering as the expression of emotions shouldn't
be something to be sorry for in the first place but the fact that with women's Unapologetic sorrow is seen as a political agent it shows you how much Society Embraces women's autonomy who knows maybe one day we'll be allowed to eat but I don't rest I do believe there is Beauty in the emotion of sadness itself as with every other emotion it is a gift it is the Ying do the Yang of happiness and thus beautifully completes The Human Experience however the sad girl aesthetic is not an aesthetic celebrating the array of emotions in life
it romanticizes the sadness behind death and illnesses come on come on romanticizing mental illness there is something fundamentally different between normalizing mental health issues and glamorizing it moreover glamorizing the pain and hurt for mental illnesses instead of encouraging tangible actions like seeking help this is why the standard aesthetic is actually dangerous making suicidal social media captions trendy crying alone and not seeking help aesthetic almost applauding suffering as a cool thing that makes you different that makes you special that makes you attractive at the cost of you staying unwell the aesthetic father hides the ugly truth
of high suicidal rates resulting from depression in the young adults and normalizes the association of mental illness with isolation and if you don't fit into this aesthetic you might want to start looking for things to be said for because sadness is now a personality depression is now the Gucci verse to your Balenciaga outfit everything is so decorative but real people are suffering and dying because the pain from their mental health became unbearable maybe to someone that depression only means a black and white filter to another it means a loved one lost forever Saturday not life
is filled with ups and downs and not every second can be an aesthetic Pinterest board after all your emotions are not a trend
