[Music] i used to be one of those people who had the disease to please i said yes many times when i knew i should have been saying no and then i would be mad at myself for saying yes you say yes then you mad when they come back again because when you say yes when you really mean no people follow the intention of the yes because why do you say yes you say yes because you don't want the person to be upset with you they're not you don't want the person to be angry you want
the person to think you're nice they do and that is why they keep coming back nothing is showing up in your life that you didn't order there if it's there it's there because you needed to see it so how do you set boundaries for yourself i was having trouble setting boundaries myself for myself for even stranger so what i learned was is that the reason why people keep showing up is because my intention is to make them think that i'm such a nice person that you can ask me for anything you can get me to
do anything i'm going to say yes i'm going to say yes so many times you will have angst and worry about things and you will put yourself in a state when the other person really isn't even thinking about you so learning that i could specifically determine for myself what the boundaries were for me what i wanted to do give my money give my time give of my service to who i wanted to give it to when i did that i get to make that decision and just because you get a hundred requests a week doesn't
mean you have to try to fulfill all of that just because you have all of these demands on your time and on you doesn't mean that you have to say yes you get to decide because you're the master of your fate the captain of your soul and understanding that really changed the meaning of my life in that i was not no longer driven by what other people wanted me to do but took charge of my own destiny making choices based upon what do i feel is the next right move for me
