if you're always scanning always scanning as a dominant frame for danger well guess what that does to your physical body stress cortisol discomfort distrust if that is true of your past I want to let you know there's hope that was true of my past that's what I grew up in that's what I experien that's what I know but I don't have to live there and stay there you can shape a different world and when you you got that you got real personal power I cannot tell you how genius level Albert Einstein was when he said
this it's just like wait a minute this is one of the most important decisions we'll ever make is this a hostile or friendly world and I want you to know that this question can be answered detached from your past experience that we can as conscious adults goou know what I feel like it's a hostile Universe because all these bad things happen to me and here's all the reasons it is or I can say you know what let me start shaping a friendly Universe this is what I did I grew up in a very hostile place
so my emotions were primarily what you would call fear or avoidance driven emotions protect yourself be careful my thoughts were that way my immediate anxieties were that way so my sense of being on guard was all the time and my thoughts were like be careful watch out not can't trust this person can't trust this person and it was always on the lookout high levels of stress and cortisol following along with that mental frame does that make sense if you're always scanning always scanning as a dominant frame for danger well guess what that does to your
physical body right stress cortisol discomfort dis trust and avoidance Detachment not being vulnerable not sharing because you don't want to be hurt shamed attacked and listen if that is true of your past I want to let you know there's hope that was true of my past that's what I grew up in that's what I experien that's what I know but I don't have to live there and stay there now I didn't have to do therapy for it I happen to be somebody who just did personal I've read all these personal development books which by the
way everyone craps on personal development books half of them are written by psychologist for Pete's sake so it's like wait these were incredibly powerful and thoughtful people and I was reading these personal development books and it was saying hey even if you came from that you now get to shape your current world based on intention and I'm sure even our therapist friends will agree on this one that's that's the switch that's the power that's where you find a new level of of self-control over life is go oh yeah maybe I did grow up in a
hostile world but I'm not going to perpetuate that as Ed melet says I'm gonna be the one to change that in the course of my family I'm going to be wanting this generation to shift us from a hostile family to a friendly family yet just because you had and you were in danger mode it doesn't mean that you can't now decide to build friendly world and that's what I did I said you know what I'm scared to everybody uh I'm going to read How to Win Friends and Influence People and start building a friendly group
of people around me I'm going to learn to engage people and create friendships with people that is going to allow me to live in that emotion to live in that feeling live in that experience even more than the past it doesn't say that those things didn't come up for me it just says I was going to consciously create something different you can shape a different world and when you got that you got real personal power I really believe you have more mental health you can be aware of these things you can be accepting of these
things you can be forgiving of these things I'm not saying deny it I'm saying yes those things exist but the switch in our human behavior in changing the future happens that moment ago I can create a friendly Universe the universe doesn't just happen to me I have high agency in this I I can shape this if I'm in a marriage that is hostile I have input into this thing I can ship this thing I can shape this thing I can leave this thing I can do something about this thing that's that's the moment people get
freedom and I want to give you that you have the freedom to now choose you have the freedom to see and sense and feel and experience things but also create shape structure things right for me why do I meditate well it's not just to move away from these negative things that happen in my life is to shape an entire new brain is to shape an entire new way of thinking it's to shape the feelings of freedom and presence that I want to experience more often now notice it doesn't happen you me I I meditate every
day in other words I made it a practice your emotions and putting yourself into emotions feelings and moods that you want to experience becomes a practice and the more you practice it the more the world feels more friendly because you've got a guiding hand in it does that make sense you you're back in the game you're back at the driver's wheel this shifts everything it doesn't mean you don't have negative experiences I I got tons of negative experiences negative people negative days negative events negative emails negative bills you all these things happen and are true
I don't deny them but they don't drive me what drives me is my positive conscious practices that allow me to feel good to connect to succeed in the world does that make sense to feel good to connect with other people to achieve meaningful Pursuits you all have heard me share this before that I believe that the four primary desires and of course these all have emotional states with them too are that we all want we all want aliveness connection meaningful Pursuits and growth aliveness connection meaningful Pursuits and growth well I can practice those things as
I practice those things I feel feel those things as I feel those things over and over and over and over again it's like rebuilding the inner architecture of My Mind Body Spirit and all of a sudden the more I get to feel those things listen the more I get to feel those things sense those things the more I practice the things that drum those things up the more listen my impulses start to fall in line This is why change is possible you practice positive things for you your impulses start over time to fall in line
it doesn't mean that there's not still negative impulses it means that a majority of your impulses start to fall in line with that conscious patterning and protocols and practices so the reason I consciously and consistently practice things like meditation good sleep workout good food and diet is because as I practice those things my impulses lead towards those as I practice connecting with my wife my impulses lead to love does that make sense even though I grew up in a hostile place the more I practice assertive caring kind love with my partner as I get into
practice of that my impulses start to fall my intentions when you're immature your impulses Drive Your Action when you're mature your intentions start to condition your impulses does that make sense I'm not here to say I'm not that Miracle guy I hate those uh seminar guys who are like you can change this thing in an instant forever I'm like no usually intention and practice starts to over time condition impulses to fall more in line not all of them not for forever not instantaneously but more of them and so I went from a scared kid to
a very approached kid a friendly kid a happy kid I want you to know it's possible it's possible so friendly versus hostile choose friendly and put friendly practices into your life watch how your impulses change as you get more open to other people more vulnerable more assertive more connecting driven the impulses start to fall in line over a period of time because the behavior starts shaping the emotion the feeling and the mood right this is why sometimes they say fake it till you make it I never like that phrase what they're saying is put yourself
into play the body and the mind the spirit will eventually follow it right put yourself onto that field even though you're not an athlete over a period of time you find yourself running right you got to put yourself in play that's important for positive practices okay second one abundance versus scarcity uh this is very powerful and this will be uh not liked by many people I'm just going to say it I want you to build abundance in your life n say I don't want you to have abundance I want you to build it I want
you consciously decide I'm going to build an Abundant Life abundance of Love Abundance of Joy abundance of wealth abundance of health I'm going to build that as I build that my behavior is aligned to to that my beliefs align to that my impulses align to that I didn't have abundance in my life we grew up poor I didn't understand that I could have things build things do things I just thought that you know some people have it some people don't but in every area I didn't see an abundance of affection outside of my mom and
dad the community I was growing up in didn't have that it was hostile it was also scarce there wasn't a lot of things so even at school kids stole stuff stole my books stole my pens stole my backpack there's like a lot of scarcity and so I just learned to protect and grab and hoard but I never learned to build and to generate see I'm putting you into higher agency here I want you to build abundance I want you to be very proud of yourself for having built abundance and wealth into your life building abundance
of love into your life because abundance requires intention abundance requires intention you just get abundance I believe abundance is here it's accessible from the universe from God I'm somebody who has great belief in that and if I don't intend myself to experience it and to explore it it's like it's like gone so you have to access abundance but more importantly I want you to build it I want you be so I I want you to be that person in this generation of your family who creates more abundance of affection of health of wealth of contrib
ution of creativity I want you to be that person only because you decide to you just so oh I'm going to have this abundant mindset I'm going to align my actions with it I'm G to build it and then you know what you get that self-respect that comes in and the more you get self-respect because you've built something you generated it you had high agency guess what those doubtful those diminishing impulses thoughts emotions feelings moods those start to be diminished those start to go away because your confidence your worth your sense of ability and capability
in life it grows because you grew something you made something more abundant you grew it right you grew it you grew more positive emotions you grew more affection and love you grew better relationships you grew a business you grew your wealth you grew your health and all of a sudden in growing your practices of a positive life you're like yeah I got this and now you have the emotions that feel like encouraging emotions everyone put it in the chat encouraging emotions it's almost like your emotions start supporting movement your emotions start feeling like high levels
of like let's engage let's approach let's do it we can handle this your thoughts start feeling more driven by a sense of worth and self-respect and capability that is at another level because you grew something as you grow these areas of your life you grow in self respect and your impulses align I want you to write that down in your notes your impulses start to align L and remember emotions are automatic impulses they're automatic they're reactive they're circumstantial they're physical and they're short but you can start getting those to pop in more positive ways as
you make progress in these areas okay third is the world agentic or deterministic I think You' probably seen this huge debate uh all around the world especially the last couple years is is there free will they're very brilliant thinkers from physics to psychology to more cultural uh I would say um cultural commentators who have come out and said there is no free will the universe is doing what it's doing we're along for the ride you know fate is determined and your choices are actually determined based on things you can't control your you know how your
body is processing right now uh you can't control it based on the circumstances because circumstances just happen randomly by chance uh you can't control it there's this big movement that there's no Free Will and uh I share this story with you um I was being interviewed by a podcaster uh who did not run the interview because of what happened but he was very highly he says everything's deterministic we we don't have control there is no free will Brandon there's no way you can say that uh you know humans can just choose to do something because
you know we don't have the ability to do that like things make us and force us to do things from how we think to how our body is being run to the people around us and I think that was something uh I don't agree with because I've spent a career watching people like literally seeing their eyes make a choice and that choice wasn't because of biological it wasn't just because of cosmological it wasn't just because of sociological a higher intention or a higher spirit that was connected to Something in the future that was their Consciousness
making that choice in fact they had all the reasons to make other choices logic would have said make this choice but intention and Consciousness and spirit said make this choice they acted far and above impulse they acted far and above what their family did what their circumstances was they made a choice of character and Consciousness that it would actually be hard to describe we see it all the time when someone does something truly courageous and not an impulsive courageousness like they deliberated the real risk and they did it anyway that's they went against their own
human preservation they risked their life to help somebody else that is more of a moralistic character-driven or Consciousness driven thing that is a free will moment there was five other people standing there all of the right logic said don't risk your physical body five other people didn't jump in one person jumped in that was a demonstration of Free Will person didn't agree with me made lots of good debates and very philosophical um by the way everyone usually who makes the argument there's no free will have never been a coach to other people over long term
maybe they had in interesting philosophical conversations maybe they've read lots of books but they've never coached somebody over the course of a year or two like they were personally responsible to coach this person and see them shift and change and if you ever coach people you learn about the power of free will it's super obvious of course this argument is that it's one or the other and and that's where people get diminished they think like well you know there is either free will or there is not and I think of course do things influence us
lots of things influence us tons of things influence us but we can still make the decision on our own for example I told this podcaster I said um when he said you know he got in the argument and I just went right to it I said uh I think when I was reading about you I heard that you're married and he saides I said how's that going he goes what do you mean I said your your marriage is it is it high quality low quality are you happy with it unhappy with it how's it going
he says I'm yes it's I'm I'm happy with it I said okay well um what if you called your wife right now what if you just decided to call your wife right now do you have a choice or do you have to call her because I just said you should call her so that in this moment there's your podcast team they're watching you Brandon bashard just said your wife um you know you could choose to or not seems like of course you would because you love her and you're probably someone who values love is that
true he goes like uh where are you going with this I said well if you love your wife and you have a choice in this moment to talk to her or me who you going to talk to he learned a lot about Free Will in that moment uh and I could tell you he pulled out his phone and called his wife cuz talk to Brenan or my wife who' he call his wife he made a choice now of course social circumstances said he should talk to me I'm there I flew in you know all these
people are here he makes money from the podcast he chose that day he was going to do like this moment was all geared his whole life to be a podcaster all of the situation was there the money was all on the line made said call you know just talk with men but he could derail that by making a choice well why do I go off on that even if you don't agree with me philosophically that's fine coach more people and you'll start to realize people can make outstanding extraordinary uncommon unexpected choices that are good that
are moral that are Beyond impulse the social situation the moment and even every single thing that we know they can choose something new and it's like wow that choice should be liberating for you the greater you feel that you have choice in life the more you have freedom but too often you think well she's just the way she is I'm just the way that I am my family was broke this generation was like this I'm black I'm white I'm this I'm from there he's from this my strength is this my inogram says this we feel
like we're fixed to these certain situations and we don't understand how fluid we are we don't understand how adaptive we are we don't understand our ability to choose growth over impulse discomfort even right I always tell people oh you don't believe in free will go watch somebody run a Spartan Race let's talk afterwards you know it's like like there's a lot of choice and I'm telling you there's strength in your choice be a high agency person if you want something pursue it if you want to build something do it don't believe you are fixed and
stuck if you stay stuck that's a choice if you stay stuck in negative emotions that's a choice freedom is going I can choose a different thought freedom is I can choose to build a different thing I can start a new thing I can quit a thing I can adapt I can shift that growth mindset but that growth Behavior is so vital it's called having high agency in life you feel that you in command and you take actions to show it it doesn't mean there aren't train wrecks you don't mess up and there's not fail what
it means is you're back in the driver seat high agency my friends
