you're not popular because you're not understanding the two behaviors that make people actually like you which are agentic and communal so in today's video I'm going to show you how to use both agentic and communal behaviors to make people like you let's start with part one what we call a gentic behavior this is any action that you do to show confidence this is the type of behavior that helps you stand out earn respect and makes people like you make them want to follow you with these four simple techniques you see if you do these four
things in the order I'm about to show you you're going to make anyone obsessed with you and your aura you see on the left side is how most men act on the right is the version of you that Everyone likes first never stand or walk slouched over instead tense your glutes core and triceps to make yourself instantly stand straight and upright next never have your shoulders rolled forward instead bring your shoulders back and down and lift your chest up almost as if there's a string attached to it that's pulling it up to the ceiling next
never cross your arms or legs instead keep an open body language finally never walk too fast instead when you start walking walk slowly just look at the difference between before and after by just doing these four changes you will completely change your horor and that alone will make people like you and start following you but to truly become popular you're going to need to follow the next few techniques I'm about to show you never talk when somebody decides to talk to you when someone is talking to you it doesn't mean you should immediately start engaging
in conversation with them and this is a common mistake I see almost everyone making so the next time someone starts a conversation with you do this instead to show more confidence first when someone starts talking to you you want to make sure that both your body and your feet are pointed directly towards them if they're not it Just signals to them that you don't care second you want to maintain strong eye contact at least 80% of the time if you feel too uncomfortable doing this you should try looking at at the spot right in between
their eyebrows and then every 5 seconds or so you can glance at their ears to kind of take a break and then come back third you want to nod your head slightly up and down to show that you're focused and you're engaged in what they're saying fourth you want to give small affirmations like okay no way wow these little words are like ad libs they just show that you understand or that you're interested and fit do not speak right after they finish instead you want to pause for around 3 seconds to show almost like you're
digesting whatever they just said and it is only after all of this that you should start speaking to show both dominance and confidence third you want to spend 95% of your time on this you see true attraction to make people obsessed with you is about 5% of you talking about what you're going to do and 95% of you actually doing it however what most people do they'll spend 95% of the time just talking about what they're going to do and they never follow through for you to become likable you need to spend 90 % of
your time doing things and only 5% talking about them this becomes especially powerful when you do things that most people are afraid of for example in social interactions people are scared of rejection so here's three steps to overcome it first I want you to look for a friendly looking guy in the street and approach him then ask him if he can buy you lunch I promise you 99% of the time this guy's going to say no good because after that you can walk away and realize rejection is not the end of the world and you
need to be able to face it to truly become The Confident guy that everybody likes look one of the fastest way to overcome rejection is to talk through it check out a company like better help which is our sponsor for today they can help you work through your emotions or find the realle causes of your fears because you're going to be speaking to licensed professionals and by doing this you're going to overcome these fears faster next I want you to go and look for like an older woman ideally she'll have a ring on her finger
this time approach her and ask her for her number again 99% of the time she's going to say no cuz she's married or engaged but because you knew that you won't care as much and you're going to start normalizing rejection and won't feel bad about it anymore and we'll start to desensitize yourself from that fear and if you pair this with like speaking to a therapist from Better Health you can start talking to them and explore your emotions as to why you always feel intimidated around women this is a conversation that most of us men
can never have with our boys or with our parents or with our brother because you're trying you internalized cuz you have to be masive but if you have a licensed therapist you can talk to them in confidence whether it's through text a phone call a video call whatever you feel the most comfortable with throw the comfort of your room and start battling those fears faster but once you've gotten here I want you to take it the third and final step because at this point you started to normalize rejection from both men and women by approaching
people that you knew were going to say no to do this I want you to approach a girl that you actually find interesting and ask for her number if they say yes you've scored a number and in the worst case scenario they'll reject you based on who you are and sure it'll sting but you will get closer and closer to being sensitized from this Spirit rejection to make you that confident guy that everybody just wants to be around again if you guys want to start talking through this start talking about your fears of rejecting or
what stops you in these social settings from being that confident G you can be I suggest you guys check out betterhelp which is going to be linked down below you can go to betterhelp.com TMF and get a special discount for your first month and start talking to a licensed professional today if you guys want to check it out it'll be linked down below now we're moving on to part two which is communal Behavior this is when you're whenever you're warm or friendly towards other this is the kind of behavior that makes people want to be
around you that no one talks about which means it is the most important behavior for you to master if you want to become more popular so let's move on to number four you want to make their braids produce dopamine and every time they see you if you want to make someone like you there is a psychological mind trick you can use to make them produce more dopamine this will make them addicted to you but you're going to need to do this correctly this is based on a psychological phenomenon called the reciprocal liking effect which states
that a person will like you more when they think that you like them this phenomenon exists because by Nature we as humans we're Social Animal we need others to survive so our brains end up producing hormones like oxytocin and dopamine whatever we are around other humans that like us however remember I said you have to do it correctly you see this can backfire because that liking will not be reciprocated if it's based on three things if it's insincere if it restricts our freedom or if it's inappropriate so here's what you should never do if you
want to show somebody that you like them and make sure that they end up reciprocating that liyen back first never sit there looking at your phone second never look at her chest or her legs Third never sit there with your hands on your face looking away and fourth never stand directly in front of her blocking her exit always stand off to the side the best approach here is whenever you're with her keep your hands visible by keeping them on the table when you're talking to her you can also make large movements with them when you
see them and you're talking to them also when you're listening make a point of nodding and say things like ahuh okay or interested to show them that you like him and then there's genuine interest five say these two lines whenever meeting a girl for the first time you see anytime you meet a new girl there's two lines you should be thinking of the first thing you should use with her which it's better through text is there's something intriguing about you this I promise you will instantly Spike her interest and she's going to want to knowe
what do you find so interesting in her 99% of the time she's going to respond to your text and she's going to follow up with something like what do you mean or tell me and then you should respond with I'll tell you on our date just these two lines are going to peek her interest she's not going to stop thinking about you then after a day or two when she asks again or on the date itself you can say a line like this which I promise you she will laugh she will find Charming which will
make you addicted compliment their insecurity to make them obsessed with you look you can easily manipulate people into liking but that effect will only last a short amount of time I want people to love you for real so to make them love you forever you need to make that person feel confident by complimenting a deep insecurity they have now no girl is just going to come out and tell you her insecurity so here are the five top insecurities most girls have and how to spot them the first one is teeth if someone always smiles with
their mouth closed they're insecure about their teeth the second is hairline or their forehead if they're constantly wearing hats or pulling their hair forward they're probably insecure about that third is feeling underweight and sometimes a lot of girls will wear long sleeve shirts to hide their arms fourth is overweight if you if you notice them constantly pulling up their yoga pants or pulling down their shirt probably insecure about their weight and fifth it's bat skin someone who's frequently touching or covering her face is probably self-conscious about it now once you can recognize that sign on
that girl and what her insecurity is I want you to compliment it so here are the five insecurities in the text message or line you can tell the girl in person if I were you I would screenshot this and save it in your nose because by you complimenting their deep deepest insecurity you're going to make them feel confident around and that is the type of person people are obsessed with if you listen to me and you darate both these agentic and communal behaviors I just gave you anybody you meet will love you