It Took Me 25 Years to Realize What I'll Tell You In 16 Minutes

today I want to share some lessons that took me over 25 years to fully grasp and I still can't really even say that I fully grasp them these are all things that I wish somebody had told me when I was younger and I hope by the end of this video you have a few more tools to put in your life toolbox each of these things I'm going I'm I'm going to to share and talk about I think they could they could all each have their own video in fact I might have even done a video

on each one of them already but at this point I've made so many videos I don't really I don't really remember if I've already made a video on it if you if you go check out my sweat talk playlist it'll be on the end screen you'll be able to find out if if I actually did go over each one of these and make a full video on them welcome back to another episode of sweat talk my name is Chad I don't have these numbered in in any order of importance at all I'm only using the

numbers so that I can keep track of exactly what it is that I already went over number one quit selling yourself so cheap and know and understand your value there's one thing that I've learned over the course of my life is it's that time is the most valuable thing you have and we often sell ourselves short by giving away our time with little to no return When you know the value of your time you'll begin to see what your actual worth is and you'll begin to stop treating it like it's an un unlimited resource because

it's not our time is finite and we only have some so much of it and whether it's a relationship or a professional goal if it's your job if you don't value your time nobody else will the reality is when you start giving away your time to people or projects or whatever that don't serve you you are telling the world that you do not value your time and you can start valuing your life by valuing your time quit wasting time on things that don't push you forward and quit spending time on things that drain you with

little to no return quit hanging around with people who don't value you or people that don't respect you and remember you're not obligated to hang around with those people even though you you may have known them your whole life sometimes they could be family members you don't owe them if they don't serve you if they don't treat you right if they don't treat you well you don't need that [ __ ] in your life you owe it to yourself to get it out of there the number two thing is men men have to create and

provide in order for them to feel useful or to feel that they have a purpose as men we have an innate an innate drive to create provide protect and if we're not doing that we'll start to feel lost this is why purpose is so important is because it gives us something to work work towards and it gives us something that's bigger than ourselves and if you're feeling unfulfilled and you take a look at your life look at it and and and think are you are you creating anything are you providing anything for anybody are you

building something of value and when I say building something of value it could be anything it could be your body could be a career it could be a business it could even be a a strong relationship if you're not if you're not providing anything to the world you'll feel empty because we have to feel like we're contributing to something that's how most of us are going to Define our value and when we lack purpose it leads to frustration depression anxiety and even anger get out there and create build something that's worth your time and your

energy build something that's amazing the number three thing is men and women need each other and this red pill blue pill nonsense is a disease I know a lot of people are going to disagree with me on this one but I don't care I'm not here to give advice I'm not here to seek validation when I say this I'm speaking from a man who's been married for 24 years who's built a strong healthy relationship with his wife this whole idea of men versus women or women versus men ideology it's nothing but garbage it's no way

to think it's no way to be it's like a disease that creates Division and it's complet completely missing the point it's completely ignoring our Primal instincts and trying to push our instincts to the Wayside if a man and a woman has a disagreement they don't get along they get a divorce the woman takes the man for everything or the the man takes the woman for everything cuz I've seen it go both ways it's not the gender it's the people that are involved because ultimately men and women were meant to compliment each other and because of

that we need each other when we know our roles and we support each other then we'll actually begin to thrive and all around stop buying into this nonsense that that one gender is supposed to dominate the other because that's just not the case we're always going to be stronger together and if you're stuck in that mindset you're limiting yourself to how powerful a positive and true relationship can actually be you're missing out on a true partnership us as people we we're here to reproduce and we have to go back and look at look at our

lizard brain and we have to figure out what our instincts are again because we're being told to go against our instincts we're being told that our lizard brains are wrong and it's causing laziness and victims as well as loneliness the number four thing is learn how to take advice and this is something that I learned the hard way on both ends learning learning the hard way of of of receiving the advice as well as giving the advice because when you go to somebody or somebody comes to you and asks for advice and then they only

use part of it or they completely ignore it you're not just wasting the other person's time you're completely disrespecting them and I just ran into this friend came to me asked me for for some advice on his situation I laid it all out step by step and I actually gave him advice because I know his scenario I know his situation and then he went and completely ignored everything that I said I don't know if it was too hard I don't know if it was ignorance and I don't know why he wasted my time and in

my younger years I did this too I was 100% guilty of it and now the people are coming to me for advice over the last several years I know exactly why people say the things that they do about giving advice I'm not here on this YouTube channel to give advice I don't give advice on this YouTube channel I'm only here to offer my perspective and share my life's experiences I can't give advice to everybody and about the only advice I will give is don't take advice from random strangers on the internet I see people in

the comments section giving advice and I would suggest to steer stay clear and carve your own path when when somebody comes to you and wants advice for something and they just ignore it or they don't use it it's it's like kicking somebody in the balls but free advice is it's often worth what you paid for nothing and that's that's because if it's free if you paid nothing for it then that means that you don't value it or you won't value it as much as if you were invested in it and there's a reason why often

times people have to pay for good Sound Advice whether it's through a life coach one-on-one sessions with somebody a therapist a psychologist psychiatrist but even still most of those people don't give advice they ask the proper questions to where you give yourself your advice and you're capable of having that aha type moment is when you invest in something you are going to take it more seriously you're going to find that you're going to be more eager eager to learn and you're going to be more eager to actually apply the advice that you are seeking when

you're asking for advice either apply it or don't ask to show respect for the person who's providing it or who would provide it just don't waste their time and more importantly don't waste yours the number fifth thing is how you spend your time is how you spend your life cuz every single one of us has the same 24 hours in a day and you can't save that time you can't save any of that 24 hours it's impossible for you to store it up but what you can do with it is you can invest it how

you choose to spend your time is how you choose to spend your life and just think about that for a second every moment you spend that doesn't serve you every moment that you spend that doesn't serve your goals and every moment that you spend that you don't grow that doesn't help your well-being that's a moment that you can never get back and when you look at your life ask yourself how am I spending my time am I investing in things that will bring me value in the future am I investing in things that will that

will benefit me or my family in the future or am I just going through the motions and wasting time on things that just flat ass don't serve me and time is time is the most valuable currency we have make sure that you spend that [ __ ] wisely number six giving gratitude will create happiness and that's the only way to find true happiness and one thing that I've that I've learned is happiness does not come from achieving success for ourselves it comes from sharing that success with others when we finally get to a point where

we've actually achieved something some sort of success whether it's Financial Freedom career sex Career Success personal growth I firmly believe that we have a responsibility to pass that on we have a responsibility to give back we need to take what we've what we've learned and what we've struggled with and share it with others cuz remember giving giving isn't just about money it could be about time knowledge or even mentorship and when you start giving to a cause that's greater than you you'll feel a shift that shift is the Gratitude and it's filling you up inside

begin to realize that that happiness isn't just from what you've succeeded at or that the happiness isn't just what you've achieved but it's the impact that you can have on others as I don't feel that it's enough to succeed for for ourselves because real fulfillment comes when when we're able to lift others and when we're able to create opportunities for others remember a rising tide lifts All Ships gratitude with the combined with the act of giving it creates a a cycle of Happiness that'll grow and when you give back you're going to be reminded of

the journey that you've been on and it's going to help remind you of where you were and it's going to help you feel more gratitude for where you are it's going to help you it's going to help to keep you grounded and focus on what really matters that contributing to something bigger than you in itself is Success number seven sometimes the most productive thing you can do is absolutely nothing remember we live in a culture that glorifies the the hustle and the go go go and to a to a point I agree right hello hey

bud but honestly sometimes the most productive thing you can do is nothing taking time to to reflect and and rest and relax it allows you the opportunity to recharge and focus when you're constantly moving or you're constantly in motion you don't have the time to to calm down relax relax your brain calm down your mind and your thinking Stop Those racing thoughts and think deeply like in a meditation or prayer doing nothing isn't always laziness it's a conscious it's a conscious decision to pause and allow yourself the mental space to come up with new ideas

to plan your next move because I believe you need that time to grow and don't feel guilty about it embrace it as long as it's productive and intentional hello number eight a perfectionist is somebody who's making excuses for procrastination so I just want to call it what it is perfection is an excuse for procrastination because you're delaying taking any action because you're afraid of failure you're afraid of judgment or something not being good enough but that truly is all in your head if you're constantly planning you're stuck in analysis paralysis and never doing anything then

you're just stuck because at some point you need to realize that the Perfection is an impossible goal and you just need to start because the time won't be be perfect the weather won't be perfect the scenario won't be perfect no situation will ever be perfect and you need to be able to push the [ __ ] aside and just start and quit procrastinating and realize the Perfection is never achievable in any situation you can always course correct you can always fix a situation but you're constantly Running Out of Time the more you wait to start

and realize that that that Perfection that procrastination is a thief of success and this idea that everything has to be perfect before you start it's it's just pure nonsense if you're if you're waiting for everything to be perfect all you're doing is holding yourself back you're waiting for everything to align everything's everything's got to be perfect you are missing out on opportunities and you'll look back and you'll realize that the the only thing that was stopping you from success was your obsession with getting it just right let go with that start now improve as you

go because ultimately progress is better than Perfection number nine you can only control your feelings and you are not responsible for another person's feelings this is a big one and and it's one that it's it's hard for us to understand but you truly only can control your feelings I'm not saying that we can't or we won't have an impact on other people but that person is ultimately the only one that can control their reaction or how they react to you because you're not responsible for how how other people feel and too often we carry the

burden of of trying to carry other people's emotions and trying to to change how they think or how they feel but the harsh truth is is that's their responsibility and not yours but what you can do is you can control your response your actions and your mindset focus on that cuz when you let go when you're able to let go of that feeling that that belief that that you might have that you are responsible for somebody else's feelings when you can finally get rid of that and and let it go you will you will feel

free you will feel that burden lifted off your shoulders you'll be able to give yourself the power to stay centered to stay calm and and to act with a purpose and that leads into number 10 number 10 is you cannot change somebody else's mind you can only offer your perspective because we all have our own experiences beliefs and viewpoints and if you try to force somebody to see things your way you will end up frustrated and the best thing that you can do is just offer them a different perspective to try to look at at

things or life through a different lens or a different Viewpoint a different point of view present your ideas share your experiences and let them decide and if they're open to change that's great but if they're not that's on them perfect example is don't waste your trying your time trying to get somebody to like you focus on yourself and share that Journey with others who appreciate you who appreciate your perspective and who are open to your perspective because we don't we don't need to agree with each other we we don't have to see something somebody else's

way all we have to agree on is that we all have our own perspective and that our perspective is our truth that is our 100% truth and these lessons took me over 25 years to learn but now they're all yours I hope you're able to take these to heart and and reflect on them and put good use to them and apply them to your life remember time is precious your purpose is essential and per Perfection is the enemy of success in progress learn how to take advice value your time let go of things that you

can't control and always know that that gratitude is necessary for happiness and fulfillment if you made it this far do me a favor go down in the comments section and write the write write the word value that's it just that one word value we need to find Value in each other we need to create value for ourselves and for one another because every single one of us is extremely valuable all of our lives have value whether we realize it or we believe it or not that's all I got for today guys I want to thank

you for showing up I want to thank you guys for those super thanks it's it's blowing me away your guys' generosity is unworldly it's it's amazing that a normal dude like me can go out there and offer his perspective and his thoughts and other people greatly appreciate it and for that I appreciate the hell out of each and every one of you thank you for showing up I hope you're showing up for yourselves and I hope each and every one of you has a wonderful day peace