in order to understand people better you must look at things from their perspective Dale carnegy in his famous book How to Win Friends and Influence People he mentions that and one fine evening when I read that quote I was taken a back I said this is the step that I need within my personal development so I said I'm taking a step forward and I tried implementing that Within my life but it don't work out for me I said what am I doing wrong I tried analyzing it and with time I realized instead of taking a
step forward I had to take a step back instead of trying to understand others I first had to understand myself and that's when I came across the concept of mbti also known as my asb's personality type or my brick types indicator now you can ask me about again with some weird name I'm going to explain it to you don't worry my Brick's personality type constitutes of 16 different personalities one of them is going to be yours watch out so how does this thing work it basically shows you what are your cognitive functions what is your
main method of preference what is your main method of working which which is your way of moving on with life and it covers four different preference Pairs and I like to call it categories let's call it preference pairs all right let's dive right into it so the first one is based on how you gain your energy now these two words that you're looking at here is something that's usually very stereotyped when I was making my presentation I wrote up introvert I saw this guy down not talking in quiet shy I myself am an introvert and
I'm here on this stage but an introvert basically says look I have the energy for myself I'm going to direct it inwards I'm going to direct it to myself and that will leave me time to get my thoughts together the alone time will energize me whereas an extrovert says cool I have a different way of working an extrovert says look you direct your energy inwards I direct my energy outwards when I have a long day of work what I prefer is being social directing the energy outwards the energy then bounces back to myself leaving me
more energized so an introvert gains energy by spending their time alone and getting that energy by directing it towards themselves extraer says look I have energy I'll direct it outwards it will bounce back towards me great now you know how you gain your energy how do you take information how are you listening to me right now so there's two different kinds of people here all right an intuitive like myself says look I have all the information that I need it's about psychology it's about personalities what is all the information that I have pertaining to this
topic let me collect them piece them together and form a bigger picture whereas this sensor says no that's not my preference a sensor says look I'm listening to abas just as I am I'm being practical I have all the resources that I need currently and I'm only listening to him practically let's focus on the details let's not gather any information together let's be practical let's be in the now and let's focus on the details now you've gained information how do you present it it towards the outside world now this is very interesting story so I'm
a person who loves taking up responsibilities and when I take up a project I have standards and most my friends who know me they will vouch for it so I said look I have standards I'm going to make sure that it remains to the level that I want it to be in so I had two girls working with me with a project now we'll name girl a girl Z all right now the project starting and I said H I'm going to make sure motivational levels are high I'm going to make sure everyone feels included and
I'm going to make sure everyone feels like they're part of the team right that's what a leader does now I go up to girl a I said hey I'm so proud of the fact that you've taken this step I am so amazed by your work and the fact that you've just started and I'm sure you will keep on going the same way this is what girl a does exactly and I'm weirded out as well like what's going on and she tells me either your standards are too low or you don't know what we're doing here
because I have just started the work how are you complimenting me right now well there's no proof for it it just feels like you're forcing the compliment on to me and I do not feel appreciated like that y like okay sorry for being nice you know and I left next time don't be nice be rude no okay that's not the case but what I decided was look girl a done messed it up I have Girl Z now she is the backbone of my project I don't want to mess that up so this is what I
did go up to girl Z exactly I did nothing I just stood there and she was obviously like can I help you I said Noe do you do your job I'm not interfering You Know But as time went forward I realized girl a she told me not to compliment her let her do her job her productivity started going upwards wow let people be the way they are Girl Z she was the backb of my project even if girl a does all the work girl Z is the backbone she's the one who will lead it her
productivity started taking a hit I said well this is not the standard that I want I woke up gathered up the C go to girl Z and I said hey can I ask you a question without you killing me obviously you know and she tells me yes and I said you know I've noticed that your productivity has taken a decline it's going lower don't kill me but I wish there's something I can do to make it better you know what she gave me as a response abas I did not feel acknowledged enough I did not
feel like I was part of the team you did not compliment me enough and this was more confusing than my maths exam because what is this I go and compliment someone they tell me to back off I go up to someone not compliment them I'm still told off what do I do but that's when it hit me that's when I realized there's two different kinds of preferences that we have girl a what does she prefer logic rationality things that makes sense you know so if somebody's complimenting her she'll go okay why is this happening okay
because I did XYZ and I deserve the compliment for it but she is a thinker and she's more of a rational person if we go up to girl Z you did the same thing with her you saw how much of a disaster that was but what Girl Z says look I want to Value Harmony I want to Value motivational levels I want to maintain a very peaceful environment for myself so I can feel like I'm part of the team so when you compliment me it encourages me to do more when you make me feel like
I'm part of the team it makes me want to do more and that's how things come into play so obviously thank God the Revelation came I implemented and it worked out for me so in simple terms thinker prefers rationality logic things that make sense I can see some of the faces change here now it makes sense right it's not a problem within a person it's just a preference and a feeler says look I'll value Harmony I'll value feelings and I'll value people being around me in a nice way and just because you're rational or just
because you're a feeler does not mean you cannot have the other in times you'll have to implement it just like my story now you've gained your energy you've taken information You' presented it to the outside world now how do you go about with your day-to-day life right now A judging type within the mbti what does it mean does not mean literally judging no it means the person prefers a to-do list a person prefers to have a task list or a person like me who prefers to have a whole Google Calendar for the day for the
week for the month goes up to three months or even a year I can see some of the face changing I'm not psychotic I'm normal but what matters here is I have also done and I'm sure most of you have as well for those of you who prefer judging I have written down tasks on my to-do list that I have already done just to check them off just to feel better some of you have I know you can't lie to me now a judging type simple says you have all Google Calendar you have a whole
to-do list you prefer things to be in order and I like to know what is coming up next and then we have the perceiving types most of my friends are perceiving types you know what they tell me H I can see them smiling you know what they tell me you have all Google Calendar you have a to-do list I prefer to let life surprise me I prefer to take things as they come and I'm feeling anxious as I say that by the way I prefer to be spontaneous I prefer to just go with the flow
wow right now in simple terms that that's what it means you have a prefer but but I can see them laughing there but what matters here is a perceiving type says look you give me a plan you keep me in control I won't be able to be productive but go to a judging type like myself remove my G Google Calendar on my laptop I have it on my phone remove it on my phone I have it on my iPad I cannot work without a plan and just because you prefer having a plan does not mean
you cannot go with the flow there'll be situations in life where you'll have to just move forward with things as they come and for perceiving T by the way you do not get out of planning you have to plan to a certain extents of your life now we've covered all four different aspects let's type ourselves shall we so you'll get more information if you just go on Google write 16 personalities and take a test but for a broader view let's take it together shall we if you think you're an extrovert you take the letter e
you prefer energy going outwards you think you're an introvert you take the letter I okay now you feel you are a practical person you prefer focusing on the details you will take the letter s which is for sensor you feel you're more of an intuitive person like myself connecting the dots together I take information by putting them together you take the letter N all right because we used I in introvert you feel like you're more of a rational person you prefer things that make sense all right you take the letter T which is for thinker
if you feel like you're more inclined towards feelings Harmony and emotions you take the letter F which is for Feeler and finally if you have my favorite EnV you perceiving type take the letter P and finally if you think you're more of an organized person thank God like me take the letter J so my type is i n TJ I'm introverted I'm an intuitive I'm a thinker and I'm a judging type what is yours so I'll prove that to you with an example right I want all of you to take your hands forward like this
all right now some of you didn't even realize you have a preference some of you put your right hand forward some of you put your left see now put your other hand on top of it on my count you will start clapping and you won't stop until I tell you to all right on my count 3 2 1 clap keep on clapping it's a cheap way to ask for Applause thank you so much
