gaslighting love bombing and victimization are just a few examples of manipulative tactics used to take power from someone but there are even more subtle manipulation tactics that can be difficult to detect as they often involve subtle cues and psychological manipulation rather than over threats or coion so what are they today we'll look into how others can subtly manipulate your perception through your blind spots and vulnerabilities aiming to help you protect yourself against such manipulation scotum scotum is like having a mental blind spot it happens when people unconsciously ignore or Overlook certain information and it can
be used as a manipulative tactic where someone intentionally exploits or takes advantage of another person's tendency to ignore or Overlook certain information manipulators may use this psychological phenomenon to control or influence someone's perception by strategically presenting or withholding information for example a manipulator might provide selective information that supports their agenda while deliberately omitting details that could lead to a different interpretation by exploiting the individual's blind spots or scotomas the manipulator aims to shape their Target's perception in a way that serves the manipulator's goals balance Theory the balance Theory manipulation tactic involves influencing someone's preferences by
leveraging positive relationships essentially people are more likely to adopt the likes and dislikes of those they have a good relationship with manipulators take advantage of this by intentionally fostering positive connections and then subtly steering others towards their preferences suppose a person befriends someone who is known for their generosity and kindness over time the manipulator pretends to share similar values and interests to deepen the friendship but behind the scenes they're just using the kind friend to borrow money without any plans to pay it back on top of that they're also using the Friendship to get access
to different friend groups and other social perks taking advantage of the Friendship for their own gain if you found this video helpful so far be sure to hit the like button and subscribe to the channel smear campaign a smear campaigns are when the manipulator launches harsh attacks on someone's reputation manipulator often use this tactic when they can't control you anymore they try to manipulate how others see you hoping to cut you off from the rest of the group when people are power hungry they go for smear campaigns or what we call burning steak shows we
don't literally burn people on Stakes these days but these smear campaign moves can still mess up someone's life by damaging their reputation for example spreading false information and rumors about someone at work or in their personal life can be part of it so if you know someone who loves gossiping about people they don't like or can't control be cautious and don't believe everything they say you might become their target too especially if you see through their controlling behavior and lies manipulative self-disclosure manipulative self-disclosure is when someone spills fake or unnecessary personal details to earn social
brownie points planning to later cash them in to get more important information from their target see personal information is really valuable in Social dealings it can make the person sharing it feel empowered but it also makes them a bit vulnerable plus it builds trust and strengthens connections now in the world of social exchange giving out valuable information sets you up to get some in return or at the very least it kind of pressures the other person to Spill the Beans because of the whole I scratch your back you scratch mine idea but here's a Twist
manipulators mess with the system they might throw out useless or unasked for personal information making the target feel pressured to spill their own valuable details or if the manipulator has a clear goal in mind they might drop some personal information nobody asked for and then straight up ask for the juicy stuff they really want in return it's like a tricky game of give and take that's not fair play manipulative moralizing manipulative moralizing is when someone makes you feel guilty for not living up to their idea of what's right or moral now who gets to decide
what's a good set of morals if it's the manipulator there might be a hidden agenda they use guilt to push you to change your behavior making it fit their idea of proper conduct often seeking to influence behavior or gain a sense of power and satisfaction when they're good at it you end up feeling judged and not good enough so to avoid this you might adjust your beliefs and actions to match what the manipulator thinks is right or you might even hide your true self moralizing often comes across as judgment from a self-appointed Authority sometimes known
as moral pleasing for example imagine a friend who constantly criticizes your lifestyle choices making you feel like you're doing everything wrong over time you might start changing your behavior just to avoid their judgment even if it means hiding aspects of who you truly are the friend in this case is using manipulative moralizing to control your actions and beliefs according to their standards pity party pity plays are like when someone tries to make you feel sorry for them either by acting helpless or by playing the victim they want you to do something for them out of
pity imagine a friend who always complains about their tough luck and portrays themselves as a Perpetual victim making everyone else the problem and hoping you'll feel sorry for them and help them out of pity it's even more powerful when combined with guilt tripping when they make you feel guilty and say I'm a victim because of you so you need to make it up to me pity plays are like a last resort manipulation tactic when someone has no other way to get what they want they might pull a Pity play when this happens it's important to
be cautious since pity plays can also be used to unfairly make someone look bad to wrap it up knowing about manipulation tactics helps us stay alert in relationships awareness is our defense by setting healthy boundaries and keeping Communication open we create spaces for real connections where manipulation has a hard time I'm finding a foothold have you encountered any of these tactics share your experiences below if you enjoyed this video remember to hit the like button and subscribe to seg too for more content as always thanks for watching
