15 Savage Reasons WHY MEN ARE USED By Women!

15 Savage reasons why a men are used by women now it can feel humiliating being played for a fool and taken for a ride not the kind you like let's look at the reasons why men are used by women now we all know a good man who suffered heartache Financial ruin or loss of family or even his freedom at the manipulative hands of an emotionally damaged or even Evil Woman maybe she was a compulsive liar and manipulated him into spending all his savings on her and then left when the money ran out or she strung

him along until the guy she really wanted became available her selfishness drove him to Crazy Town one slippery mile at a time now there are plenty of men who have been used and discarded and that breaks my heart and yes I know there are also men who take advantage of women neither is right whether you're a man or a woman watching this the fact is you can only do what you can do you can't control someone else's beliefs or behaviors only your own the good news is that taking control of your beliefs and behaviors can

lead to positive change even if that change means walking away in this video we'll look at where being used often starts the reasons why you get used and the one thing you must do to stop it if you're new to my channel I'm Anna jinson I help men decode modern women so you can find a trct and keep your keeper or simply have better relationships with women welcome to just the tip let's start with where being used often begins a crappy childhood many of the reasons people allow themselves to be used stem from not feeling

good enough which often starts in childhood sometimes even those with a great childhood get bamboozled by a master manipulator and that often leads to the same reasons we'll explore however if you were neglected abused or abandoned by your primary caregivers the people who were supposed to love you the most you may have come to believe you weren't worthy of a healthy love okay when you internalize the blame for your caregivers lack of ability to love you in a healthy way you often behave in ways that attract people that treat you poorly it's not your fault

you were just a kid and the harsh truth is most of your parents were doing the best they could even if that came up short people who lack self-worth often go into two different directions either they become users I'll get them before they get me or they become the used I'll give everything to win their love these seemingly opposites are often instantly attracted to each other reminder we are all a bit damaged but we can heal our emotional wounds if we acknowledge them you can't heal what you won't see it's not about blaming yourself but

taking responsibility where you can it is critical to give yourself Grace if you recognize yourself in this list well that's actually good news that means there are things you can work on to be happier or at least less miserable even if you decide to stay single forever not because you're worthless but because you deserve better so without further aded you let's look at the 15 reasons why men are used by women that you have control of now let's note these can also apply to women who allow themselves to be used by men or whoever in

fact it applies to anyone who allows themselves to be used by anyone one low self-esteem men with low self-esteem might believe they don't deserve better treatment and therefore tolerate being used they might say to themselves maybe I don't deserve better after all who else would even want someone like me have you said that two fear of loneliness the fear of being alone can make men accept less than ideal relationships to avoid Solitude they might say I hate being alone anything is better than facing that feeling even if it means putting up with her crap have

you ever said that before three desire for validation seeking validation and approval from women can lead men to overlook being taken advantage of you might say to yourself I just need her to like me if she does maybe I'll finally feel like I'm worth something Have you ever said that one four emotional attachment strong emotional bonds can make men blind to being used prioritizing their attachment over their own well-being you might say to yourself I know she's using me but I can't help it I'm just so in love with her I'd rather be miserable with

her than lose her if you ever said that one five Financial dependence men who are financially dependent on women May tolerate being used to maintain their Financial Security although it used to be men bringing home the bacon in the modern world a mama often makes bank which can dent a man's self-esteem you might say something like I may not bring the big bucks but at least she's providing for me I guess I owe her for that have you ever that six Hope for Change the belief the woman will eventually change and treat them better often

keep men in those situations you might say to yourself maybe she'll change maybe one day she'll see how much I do for her and start treating me better have you ever said that one I know that one is very common among men now and probably in the past seven laziness the sheer effort of starting over might spur men to stay in relationships even when they're being used you might think to yourself it's just the way women are plus it's just way too much work to start over I'll just grin and bear it have you ever

said that eight fear conflict or avoiding confrontation avoiding confrontation or conflict can make men tolerate being used to keep peace in the relationship maybe you thought I hate confrontation I'll do anything to avoid an argument even if it means letting her walk all over me have you ever said that one nine romantic idealism the idealization of romance and relationships can make men ignore red flags and accept poor treatment maybe you said I'm a hopeless romantic I'll put up with anything as long as she tells me she loves me or gives it up on special occasions

have you ever said that one 10 sexual gratification men might accept being used in a relationship if it fulfills their sexual needs this is more applicable to men than women maybe you said as long as she satisfies me in bed I guess I can Overlook the rest H have you said that one I know you have 11 lack of awareness sometimes men may not even realize they're being used due to a lack of awareness or experience you might think I'm so clueless I don't even realize how much she's using me but ignorance is bliss right

no have you ever said that one if you're young you probably have 12 emotional manipulation women who are skilled manipulators can exploit men's emotions making it difficult for them to recognize the manipulation you might have thought to yourself did she manipulate me nah couldn't be I'm too smart for that right just saying women are sneaky it's true it's in our nature I didn't cause it I didn't create it whether you believe in evolution or God is the creator it's a fact sorry fellas and ladies if you're watching anyways let's move on 13 past trauma previous

emotional or psychological trauma can affect a man's self-worth and decision-making in relationships maybe you thought I'm the damaged goods maybe that's why I put up with her treating me like dirt have you ever thought that 14 caretaker role men who see themselves as caretakers or caregivers or providers may allow themselves to be used out of a sense of Duty or responsibility more common with older men you might think it's my job to take care of her even if it means sacrificing my own happiness how common is that I bet some of you said that 15

misguided loyalty loyalty to your woman even when it's not reciprocated can lead men to stay in relationships where they are being used you might think I'm loyal to a fault I'll stick by her side no matter what oh ouch now have you ever said or thought any of these statements share your experiences in the comments and I'm sending you a huge hug next up how to stop being used just before that if you're finding value in this video please give it a like and consider subscribing and thank you if you already have okay so what

can you do if you're feeling or being used solution set boundaries boundaries aren't about controlling what the other person does you can't control what other people do however you can influence them and boundaries help you do that a boundary is about what you can and will do if the other person does something unacceptable example let's say Sarah is dating Alex she knows he's deeply invested in their relationship she regularly asks for favors and expects him to drop everything for her despite giving little in return she keeps him hoooked with a occasional affection exploiting his emotions

and vulnerabilities for her own benefit Alex could say Sarah I've noticed our relation feels a bit one-sided at times I value our connection and I'm happy to support you but I also need to prioritize my own needs and well-being let's work together to find a balance that works for both of us ah boundaries can only potentially be effective if they are followed through on if you cry wolf and then do nothing you have taught her there are no consequences which provides low motivation to change if you have never set and followed through with boundaries you

may get a poor reaction especially if you have allowed the mistreatment for a while however if she agrees to the boundaries you may need to give her some Grace as habits take time to break gentle reminders work best after all that's what you would want right yes and if she consistently reacts negatively every time you try to lovingly set healthy boundaries you may be happier walking away you can only do what you can do Now reminder this applies to men and women we can all act childish at times now if three or more of these

reasons feel a little too close to home well I strongly recommend talking to a therapist you deserve to be treated with respect and that starts with you treating yourself with respect there's no shame in seeking help to heal the wounds that still hurt you if you're ready for for that step there's only one online company I currently recommend that's fair to both men and women they serve customers from the USA Canada Ireland and Australia and my viewers get a 20% discount code so I will put a link to that information in the show notes if

you're not sure she's using you or stringing you along you might want to watch my video when a woman is using you she'll tell you these sweet lies as well as how to handle conflict with an angry woman remember remember you are worthy of a healthy love I believe in you lots of love God bless