Want to give her an unforgettable experience? Then let me introduce you to the art of a yoni massage. Something that will blow her mind, deeper her trust and connection with you, and open her to deeper and even multiple orgasms.
And as you're listening, pay close attention because there are seven principles you absolutely have to follow. And number three is the one almost every man gets wrong. It's the biggest reason she never feels fully turned on or connected to you during sex.
A yoni massage is a tantric practice. I spent four years living in a tantric sex community and I've helped thousands of men master this practice and they're always amazed by how quickly it transforms the way their partner responds to them. Just in case you're wondering, yi means her [ __ ] So, this is quite literally a [ __ ] massage and it's all about worshiping and pleasing her most intimate place.
Why is it so powerful? Well, most women carry shame around her [ __ ] We don't really like how she looks. We compare ourselves to porn.
We judge our own anatomy. Many women can't even look at her. Many can't imagine touching her, let alone loving her fully.
So when you offer her a yoni massage, you help her appreciate her own body. You help her fall in love with herself and when that happens, she becomes much more open sexually. Because think about it, if she's judging her own [ __ ] she can't fully let go in bed.
She's wondering, "How can you like her? How can you enjoy her taste? How can you love this part she can't accept herself?
" So she gets in her head overinking instead of feeling. Helping a woman release shame around her yoni is one of the most powerful things you can do to increase her desire for sex. But that's only part of why this practice matters.
There's another reason you can't ignore. A yoni massage opens her to vaginal orgasms. Many women don't orgasm from penetration alone.
They need clitoral stimulation or even a vibrator. That happens when the inner tissue is numb or there's discomfort or even pain. A [ __ ] massage helps to release that numbness.
It helps her feel more sensations inside and trust her body again. That means she can finally experience deep vaginal orgasms, a G-spot orgasm, a spot, cervical, or even squirt. And yes, she can have a full body orgasm, too.
So, how do you do a [ __ ] massage the right way? There are seven principles you absolutely have to follow. Skip any of them and you'll likely never get far.
The first is simple, but most men underestimate how important it is. You have to take your time. This isn't a nice suggestion.
It's the foundation. Look, think of something you really love. Maybe getting a massage, hitting the gym, or drinking a cold beer.
Now, imagine being rushed through it. When you enjoy something, you want to savor it. Well, so does she.
At minimum, this massage should last 45 minutes. But if you truly want her to drop into deep relaxation, an hour or even 90 minutes is so much better. Don't rush.
Don't watch the clock. Make her feel like there's nowhere else you'd rather be. By the way, if you'd like to find out exactly how you're performing in the bedroom and what she secretly wishes you'd do differently, I've created a free quiz called How Good Are You in Bed?
Really, it only takes a few minutes and you'll find the link below this video. Now, let's talk about second principle, something that is absolutely non-negotiable. It has to be all about her comfort.
She is the one receiving. That means you have to pay attention to what she needs down to the smallest detail. Set up the bed so it's comfortable with plenty of cushions.
Make sure the room is clean and organized, otherwise her mind won't be able to relax. And keep her warm. If she's cold, she simply won't enjoy any of it.
Women get colder than men, so adjust the temperature for her, not for you. You might even be naked and sweating. But that's part of holding space for her.
And by the way, being naked yourself is more than recommended when giving a yoni massage. Okay? Even if you've prepared everything perfectly, this third principle, if not done right, can kill the experience before it even begins.
This third principle is where most men go wrong, and it's to start on the outside. They think yi massage means going straight for her [ __ ] But a woman's body needs to be warmed up slowly. So, first give her a full body massage, both back and front.
Use plenty of oil. Make it sensual, never painful. Once her whole body is relaxed, then move to her breasts.
Let her energy awaken gently. Then focus on her belly, her inner thighs, and her groin. And when you finally touch her yonyi, remember how you begin determines everything that follows.
The fourth step might seem small, but it makes all the difference. Use natural oil. Unrefined virgin coconut oil is perfect.
It feels warm, safe, and nourishing. You really don't want to be introducing any chemicals inside her [ __ ] And don't be shy. Use plenty of it.
When you touch her, glide slowly and never dry. Rub oil all over her vulva. And focus first on the outer lips, the thicker tissue where the hair grows.
Here you can squeeze a bit more firmly. Then move to the inner lips, the soft part that frames the entrance. Gently stretch the tissue.
and only then touch the head of their clitoris over the hood first. If you lift the hood, be very gentle. The clitoral head is sensitive and can get sore from too much touch.
Finally, start teasing the entrance. Place one or two fingers at the opening and pause. Let her body invite you in.
Never force your way inside. The fifth principle is where the real magic begins. Explore everything inside.
Massage the whole inner tissue in slow circles. Start closer to the entrance, gently working the front, the sides, and the back. Then slide your fingers deeper and repeat.
Spend extra time around her G-spot about one to three inches in on the front wall. And remember, unless she's fully aroused, you might not feel any difference in the tissue, that's perfectly okay. You just want to be roughly in the right spot and stay there a little longer.
Some great strokes for the G-spot are tapping, pressing and holding, moving side to side, or come here motion. The sixth principle is what makes the experience feel safe and not performative. And it's no judgment for whatever happens.
Let go of any expectation. She might moan, cry, scream, or just stay quiet and still. All of it is perfect.
A yoni massage can bring up deep emotions. That's a good thing. It offers healing and builds trust.
If emotions do come up, don't be alarmed. There's nothing you have to fix. Just hold space and let them move through her.
And finally, never forget principle number seven. Do not end in sex. Otherwise, it can feel transactional like you only did this to get laid.
And that can undo everything she just experienced. So, when you're done, just hold her. Let her rest and integrate.
If she wants sex later, suggest she enjoys the afterglow first. If she still is in the mood later, then you can make love. If you'd like to learn exactly how to create the kind of safety, trust, and desire that makes a woman open to everything with you, I'd love to help you.
You can book a private consultation with me using the link below this video. We'll create a clear step-by-step plan to transform your sex life together. Lots of love, darling, and hope to see you next week.
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