Michael Singer - Mastering the Art of Always Being Okay

ch ch Masters real growth real meaning to life is much deeper than where people live and it should sound frightening if you really hear it because what's happening is as follows and it's very easy to see once you get clarity we're not okay inside it's not comfortable in there there are fears anxieties needs and that's not comfortable it's just like if I throw you into water and you're drowning it's not comfortable period it's just not comfortable it's not a nice place to be in most cases being inside yourself is not a nice place to be

we know that we don't pay attention to it like meditation a per or the attempt to meditate is a perfect example of it's not okay inside people don't want to meditate they most people don't want to do that they don't want to sit down and inside period they don't want to sit I don't go inside why because it's not comfortable inside there it's that easy you say well meditation is going to make it comfortable yeah but that means it's not comfortable you have to make it comfortable means it's not comfortable so the default state of

a human being is it is not okay inside it is anywhere from ask them I like it it's like a test we'll do a survey go walk by when you're walking by strangers could you know anything hey how you doing I'm okay that's not really very well I mean okay like kind of getting by all right okay it means I'm not suffering too much come on be serious okay it's not a good state it means all right how you doing it's been worse how you doing I'll get by I'll make it and people say things

like that to the how many say how you doing ecstatic I do I make a point of it every single time all right I mean you know that's not what you hear right you hear all get by you here here's the worst one you're ready how you doing you got a moment said no no I don't have a moment right because you'll be there a long time all right or another one how you doing you don't want to know I mean these things we say are beautiful what comes out of the mouths of babes is

a real teaching you didn't think about it when you sat there and say you don't want to know it just came out you are describing what it is like inside of yourself period how's it been since your girlfriend left stuff whoa now we're getting serious okay I hear you've been depressed lately how you doing now it's worse whoa whoa oh now what does all of this mean it's not so nice inside it's not a day at the beach it's not a really wow man this is neat can I go sit alone by myself in the

corner why is it when you were in school and you did bad they put you in the corner why is it that when you're bad you get time out it's not it's not a nice place to go why is it if you're in prison God forbid all right but if you're in prison and you misbehave they put you in something called solitary confinement why because that's the worst punishment that we know to do to another human being to lock them up in solitary why it's nice inside it's like a sunny day what's wrong with that

a lot they they literally tell you you leave them in solitary confinement long enough they go bananas why it's not nice in there leave a Buddhist monk in confinement he thank you so just get it down be honest ignit it it's not by default nice in there okay nobody's picking on you it's just we can talk about why and what to do about it the key is it's not okay in there it's not nice in there nobody when they're thrown into the water and they're drowning is just laying there they're trying to kick or do

even if there's nothing to hold on to they're trying aren't they I always I used to tell you years ago I example let's say you fell out of an airplane without a parachute okay there's two ways you go down first of all you're going down let's get that straight there's no question about it right you there's two ways you go down either like this grabbing pulling what the hell you holding on to it's just pure air but that's how they go down you understand that right kicking and screaming and pulling or just turn around and

watch it come and just whoa there's a last Rush very few do it that way and none of them live to tell about it so I don't know but the N result is you're going to try to do something to be okay it's just a totally natural thing if somebody takes a swing at you you don't have to be trained in defense your arms are going up you want to try to be okay it's as simple as that an amoeba if you stick a pin toward an amoeba it pulls back it is the natural state

of a living being to try to be okay to try to feel better to try to raise her State and there's nothing wrong with that and it will never go away you were meant to do that you were meant to seek High you were meant to be okay all right so now we have two natural forces one you're not okay and two you want to be okay and that's real Primal now the only question becomes what are you doing to try to be okay we're not going to discuss whether you're okay you're not I'm telling

you almost every single thing you do shows you're not okay what do you want to do tonight I'm bored oh you're not okay right I don't want to go there I don't want to go there I have a good time last time you're not okay oh this was good I want more huh a little bit better you want to be more okay right it doesn't matter whatever you're doing period oh God work was real hard I can't wait for the weekend you're not okay we're going to go on a vacation this year right what do

you mean why do you need a vacation for I'm not okay you need a vacation for your not okayness do you understand that please right I'm not being negative I just want you to understand the depth of this it's not okay in there so basically it's not okay there is an instinct which happens to be very deep is within your your soul your being to raise yourself to try to be okay so the only question becomes how are you going about doing it and that is the discussion of spirituality personal growth life call whatever you

want your entire life is about trying to be okay when you were terrible twos you tried to be okay by screaming and yelling for what you wanted how early does it start if you ever had a child how early does it start that they want what they want and don't want what they don't want right I mean even before that you know your little baby he's hungry you're trying to be okay it's the only way you know how to try and be okay you have always tried to be okay you will always try to be

okay people people are afraid to die do you understand that people are afraid to die let's talk about that well I guess they're all going to die so that's just if you're afraid to die and you're going to die you're afraid that's just such a silly thing all right why are people afraid to die because they think they'll miss out on something even though they all they do is complain their entire life then when it comes time to die I don't want to die well it didn't sound so good you know but basically you get

down to because I'm waiting for my ship to come in it hasn't happened yet there's something else I want to experience I haven't se people want to see everything people are afraid of missing things have you any idea how much you're missing right now you're experiencing this hey you're not missing this what are you missing everything else literally everything that's going on everywhere is all over Florida underground above ground all over the entire United States all over the world all over Saturn Mars This say the farthest galaxies far far away every single thing that's happening

everywhere is you're missing every single time all the time so do not dare let yourself be afraid of missing something but that's how it thinks cuz what it's really saying is I'm not not okay yet you hear me I'm not okay yet I was lonely I was lonely I met somebody I hope they stay with me I want to get married why I want to be okay I want to be okay nothing sacran around here you want to discuss honestly all right it's just amazing how pervasive this is and what it means not how pervas

of trying to be okay is right either avoiding what will make you worse or getting what you think will make you better but everything's saying the same thing I'm not okay and nobody's paying attention all right because everybody's not okay like the fish don't know they're in the water because they never seen out very few people have ever reached the state of always being okay it it is reachable let's get that straight your inner State can be more beautiful than anything you can ever experience from the outside that this happens to be its natural state

so the key is not okay let's get that straight not okay I'm trying to be okay all right there are lots of different ways people are trying to be okay lots of different ways just depends on how your mind thinks you're out there trying to manipulate things outside so that you can be okay inside all right so now the question becomes if this is what you're going to do spirituality is very straightforward let's get first of all people really really mix up spiritual growth with renunciation and I got a pet peeve with that one renunciation

has nothing to do with spiritual growth why what is renunciation I'm not okay I want to be okay but I won't whoa don't renounce that that's ridiculous there a totally natural instinct to try to be okay renunciation is basically saying I think this will make me okay but I'm not going to do it as long as you think it's going to make you be okay you miss the boat that's what's wrong it's deeper than renunciation doesn't mean you go out and do whatever it is your mind thinks you it's crazy go do drugs go do

this okay that's that's a different story The question is do you understand why you're not okay and therefore understand how you go about being okay and the answer is no the way it naturally comes out is as follows I'm lonely you don't say I'm not okay you say I'm lonely it's a natural state they'll teach you that oh it's totally natural to be lonely totally natural to need people so now you need to go out and take care of that that is totally wrong okay why you're not okay let's just do it quickly you're not

okay not because you don't have something you're not okay because there's something wrong inside of you not because you're missing something outside not because some experience you had outside in the past you're not okay because something's wrong inside if you fix what's wrong inside you will be okay now go interact with the outside it's a totally different interaction one is your interaction with the outside out of desire and fear I need something to be okay I'm afraid that something will make me worse and that's your entire interaction the other is should you get there and

we're going to talk about it I'm okay I'm more than okay it's beautiful in here when all the time well what if something goes wrong outside it's fun trying to fix it who what if you're really important that you win this sports game and you end up in the finals playing against a team that's better than you are and you're really have to struggle to dig deep to pull out the best that you possibly have and you lose wow did I grow that I learn it pulled out my best game what if all of life

is like that if it goes a way that flows nicely inside it's beautiful it's high as could be if it's challenging it's beautiful it builds you it challenges you to become a greater being I'm greater because I played that game and lost than if I played somebody who was worse than me it pulled out the best of me what's wrong with that but what if that was your interaction with every single moment of your life no matter what happened in other words you mastered it you mastered the art of being okay there are Masters in

golf there are Masters in tennis there are Masters in music well there are Masters in life you have mastered the art of being okay your inner being has been taken care of it's fine it's whole doesn't mean you don't interact with the outside you interact with the outside because it's fun you interact with the outside because you're filled with love and you share it you interact with the outside because everything's beautiful and it's like wow it's a total interactive sport but it's not out of need ever yeah I know it's hard feel I'm being tough

ever ever I mean there's need for food there's some basic biological needs of your body but there are no psychological needs psychological needs are indication that something's wrong because otherwise there's just this beautiful energy flowing inside of you there's your natural state you feel Joy all the time you feel up all the time you feel love all the time you don't even understand what needs are that's how long it's been since you had a need and the same thing with things that you don't want to be fears right whatever is you handled fine before you

H to find now what's the future going to be like beautiful how do you know always has been always will be you mean you always gotten what you want no I've always enjoyed what I got that's a big difference so what's wrong inside that I don't feel that way why is it not that way if that's the Natural State it's not hard to understand it's not that way because because you nobody else you have blocked the energy flow that is natural within your being if you stop your breath you're not going to do real well

if you forc your heart to stop you're not do real well if you stop the flow of this Chi this shuti the spirit call it whatever you want this beautiful energy flow or first have you ever experienced a beautiful energy flow inside of you you better say yes there have been things that have happened in your life did you just blist out you opened up as this beautiful energy rushed up inside of you and you felt Joy you felt spontaneous Joy you felt love because you open that's what you say I I am so open

to him my God every time I see him I just feel all this Joy I've never been so open before that's right when you are open you are releasing putting aside the blockages that are blocking this flow of beautiful energy that flow of beautiful energy is always there it is always there it does not need anything or anyone period it is your natural state just like your heart beats naturally your breath goes in and out naturally this flow this upward flow of Joy Of Love of shaki Chi is a natural state of your being like

I said you have felt it periodically not nearly as much as I want you to but you have felt it periodically and I know when you felt it this when my psychic part comes in when you got what you wanted did I get it okay but that's very deep that's very deep that's very important when you got what you wanted something melted inside you say my heart melted I opened up those are the word you use when you got what you wanted this energy flowed the moment you found something about it that wasn't what you

wanted it stopped you understand that oh she said she loved me in high school oh she said she loved me oh my God no one ever told me they love me before this this is so beautiful and you realize she's walking around saying I love you I love you she's hippie I love you I love you I love you for everybody right well that's not going to work that doesn't feel very good anymore all right you open when it's the way you want it to be you close when it's not the way you want it

to be have you noticed just stop for a second do you understand how deep that is that's it that's everything you open when it's the way you want it to be you close when it's the way you don't want it to be when you couldn't care less it doesn't have any effect the white lies on the road neither open you up nor close you down right 99.999% of the people walk by you do nothing when you're on New York don't going the streets right but if you see somebody you like who it goes up you

see you don't like it goes down you're doing that it has nothing to do with anybody else it has nothing to do with anything else yeah but if I get the job I like oh my God I get so turned on that you did that you did that the moment somebody in that job gives you something that your boss gives you something you don't want to do you don't get excited about the job anymore right and then if all of a sudden no please do this oh you get all excited again right somebody else the

opposite it's not the job it's you the beauty and you should be happy with this it's empowering you your happiness your joy your love is not dependent upon anybody else you are making the mess inside you are doing it you are doing it all right so if it's what you want want you open up if it's what you don't want you close down now let's just that's a Basics we're doing the real basic stuff here right now let's go to the next step have things ever happened in your past that you didn't want that closed

you down have you noticed let see how observant you are that if something happens years later that reminds you of that thing you close again have you noticed that you could have been having a beautiful day everything's wonderful and a car drives by that was similar to the color of the car you got an accident with 6 years ago boom we're not doing so good so now you've compounded the problem I had it pretty simple you're not okay inside if you get what you want you're better if you don't get what you want you're worse

that lets you kind of know what's determining whether you're okay or not you okay who decides what you want you nobody else decides who decides what you don't want you therefore you're deciding how to screw yourself up okay all right so now we're going to compound it make a little more complicated because it is very complicated in there is like drowning what's that things are not even happening and they can close you or open you you have the ability I don't know why you do it but mlop you have the ability that if something goes

wrong six years ago you can keep it inside of you so it keeps bothering you have you ever done that if you do it really really bad we call it a traumatic experience traumatic means you couldn't handle it at a level that you suppressed it so strong that has stayed inside of you and ran your life how's that for a definition of traumatic experiences so now we have collected inside of ourselves all of these bad experience I mean even tiny little things tiny little things you you're going to a party that was outside and it

rained a couple years ago now that somebody invites you to a party every time you say is it outside or inside it left this impression on you well by the time you're done which doesn't take very long you got a lot of that stuff in there well if you have collected over time a whole bunch of stuff that closed you so that now you're sensitive about it and when when events happen outside they remind you of it I always talk about you know RW shock test the ink plots right what is that saying it's saying

you got stuff in there if you go go take an ink blot test hey the doctor holds it up say what do you see ink what do you see a blot what do you see scribbles on the page he don't like you very much that's no he don't believe you no say what your first impression is it's supposed to hit your stuff you understand that that's what it's all about you got stuff in there what's that mommy and daddy fighting you're disclosing what's going on in there so if you build inside of you and you

have this collection of things that bothered you that are still inside of you and if things outside do the little raw shock test to you that the slightest Sound of Music or a smell or this or that brings it back up you're not going to be okay in there how about just rested that just what you've done with your past the problems that you had in the past that you stored them inside you made a collection of them guarantees you you're not going to be okay inside because I said if something happens that you like

you open and something Happ is that you don't like your clothes well now you stored things to make you clothes have you noticed therefore you clo quite a bit now I'm going to go to the third level I mean it was complicated enough that what's happening actually right now in the Here and Now is causing me to open and close now everything that happened in the past is causing me to open and close right you had a great vacation in Hawaii years and years ago you're having a tough day and somebody says hey you see

what happened in Hawai yesterday oh thanks you brought me back up I God got me out of of it it's ridiculous in other words you've messed yourself up completely and now you're completely dependent upon outside events to be okay either they're actually happening or they stimulate positive or negative we call them some scars in yoga positive or negative impression that you stored inside so that's the second level the third level I don't always take you to but it's really important is it doesn't even matter if what happened outside bothered you what has happened now you're

so prone to negative because what you've done is decided inside this is how I can be okay by what by getting what I want there it is but how do I know what I want past experiences so now I I don't know about you but I've developed in my mind my mind has developed this concept view opinion preference of what should be happening that will make me okay how people should behave how many people can fit in the elevator when I'm standing in there how close they can get what's personal space but I mean it

is so specific it's ridiculous you got one of those okay which is this is how it needs to be for me to be okay that was what you did remember I said it's you're not okay you want to be okay this is how you're trying to be okay by making up with your analytical mind how everything and everyone needs to be for me to be okay got one all right what's the probability that's going to happen slim to nil zero it is zero what is the probability that the moment in front of you is going

to match what you made up inside based on your past experiences we already said there's billions and zillions of moments going on why would it match yours the world is unfolding in accordance to the laws of physics chemistry meteorology psychology understand that there are laws that are determining why the moment is the way it is who do you think you are that's the epitome of ego you see it that's ego I am the center of the universe or at least I don't care about the universe but the center of the moments that are unfolding in

front of me as if they're separate from the rest every single thing is tied to everything else if you just had your hair done you don't want the wind blowing that's a very big request do not make that minor all right if the wind is tied to the mountains and this and that and the rains and Theo and L and everything in the whole world right you have no right to sit there and say right here where I'm it could blow anywhere you want but don't blow here it's not about getting what you want it's

not about getting what you want no why why you said if I get what I want I get open that's what's wrong is that you only open when you get what you want if you only open when you get what you want you're not going to be open very often and you're going to be neurotic and tense and anxious trying to make it be that way and you're going to worry all the time that it won't be that way wanting to get what you want and avoid what you don't want is the wor worst disease

you can ever get why you will never be okay why one it's not going to be the way you want it's going to be the way it is if you haven't quau on yet all right people weather everything second if it isn't the way you want you get uptight and since it's not going to be the way you want you're uptight all the time that's what creates the tension I mean I have tension I don't know I have so much tension people have tension what is tension I am resisting inside I am struggling I am

drowning and avoiding what you don't want is the same thing it's like things are going to unfold you can't say I don't want to die I love that one I don't want to die when ever and I'm really worried about it I bet you are right well I don't mind ding but I don't want to get old oh really no I don't want to get old I'm just telling you look what you do you make life impossible for yourself so I could keep going out there I was starting to say at the third level the

third level is that you get so neurotic that everything that unfolds seems negative why because I have a way I want it to be and if it's not that way I consider that negative how about you if I have a way I want things to be and they're not that way to me that is a negative experience well since I already told you things are going to be the way they are and what you want is this tiny little sliver what's the probability of all the events that could possibly happen that the one you want

more than anything things to be the one that happens you must win the lottery every moment so therefore that's not terrible the terrible part is if it doesn't happen here people go out and play the lottery now I don't care I'm just playing the lottery all right that's not true when the balls are coming up or the number I don't know how they do it when the numbers are coming up their heart's beating all kind of and then when they don't get the number they go oh damn they say something dirty okay and and then

they when the next time they go and they see lottery tickets they feel either good or bad right and if they see the person who won they hate them they get jealous you made a mess of yourself when the odds were what are they one to 100 million to one that's what you do every moment of your life you have a way you want it to be you have a way you don't want it to be the way you want it to be is so slim and narrow it's ridiculous therefore anything else that happens makes

you feel bad therefore you feel bad all the time this is why you're drowning this is why you're not okay inside and the answer if you listen to your mind is get it the way you want go out there and try harder okay you just pick the wrong wife get another one whatever the heck it is it's just something's wrong outside fix it you'll be okay inside so that's the whole Direction Where Humanity goes and look at the result everybody's fighting with each other the politics is absurd countries are fight it's just War it's War

all the time why would it not be when every single one of the seven and a half billion of you is at war with life I don't care what language you speak I country you're with you have a way you want it to be and it's not that way and you wake up every morning determined to protect yourself from what could go wrong and fight for what you want and and your Society tells you that's exactly how you should be just be good at it and the people who win they're great right I always like

the picture I saw a picture once really I made an impression on me right it was in 1929 when the market crashed and they were wearing suits as they jumped out of the there were pictures of them falling out of the windows these are your Elite these are the successful people in your Society I don't think so if a stock price can go like this and they're throwing themselves out of Windows I don't think that's very healthy what about you in other words the only reason I was okay is I was temporarily getting what I

wanted people respected me I had money the future looked bright because I had what I wanted the moment I wasn't getting what I wanted boy did it change didn't it that's not the answer to how to be okay I didn't mean to be so long-winded but I hope you followed me there is no win in that game but does that mean I can't be okay no it's way simpler than that come all the way back and realize I'm okay when I get what I want I'm not okay when I don't get what I want I

open and I close well maybe we need to work with that Buddhists talk about working at the root that's the root of the problem you only know how to be okay when you get what you want and you're really not okay when you either don't get what you want or get what you don't want maybe we need to work at that that's the inner work that's meditation that's yoga that's spirituality it's called inner work instead of outer work of trying to make everything in the world match your garbage why don't we work on it you

mean I can work on that yeah you can work on that right let's start with the simplest why did you decide what you like and dislike we already said so because you had past experiences those past experiences left Impressions on you either positive or negative and basically now you're trying to match them again all right I did that quickly but you see that right well maybe we shouldn't store those past experiences well I can't not have them I didn't say anything about not having them somebody walks up to you looks at you and says God

are you sick you look terrible you're not sick at all thought you were doing thought you were doing well because I thought I was feeling pretty good about things right well that's not really nice is it I don't feel real good thanks a lot all right okay now if they stand right there and keep saying it to you over and over again for the next three to four years I understand what that that's problematic that's going to get you depressed that's a bad thing but if they walk by and say are you doing okay you

don't look so good you kind of peek it right and frail something go wrong really what happened in your life so then they walk by they walk by and that's that right well I don't understand why you still feel bad how about that that's how people should talk to you you stop making it natural to be screwed up somebody walked up to you it was one event in the universe listen we all got an ego we got stuff in here right it feels bad no question that's fine feels bad but when they stop saying it

why does it still feel bad why does it feel bad all day why does it feel bad next year why does it feel bad now that everybody walks up to you and says oh excuse me can I talk to you no and rock it's called Rock how neuronic you want to get it's all based upon whether you keep that inside of you keep what the bad experience it was a bad experience wasn't it right do you have to keep that inside of you some philosophies instead there say well you know it's a bad experience happened

to you it it Mars you for life you know you just have to find a way to cope with it right that is not what yoga says that is not the truth what it says is you resisted that didn't you you didn't like it so much that you resisted it inside you used hands to push it away he got talk to me like that I talking to me like that and you don't understand when you resisted you kept it it would have passed through everything passes through the trees pass by The Cars pass by people

pass until you do something with it the water flows by until you put a rock in the way then it creates edies and currents and keep screwing things up right if you resist the event that took place even though it's not comfortable we'll talk about that you have to resist it you can experience not comfortable you can experience not comfortable without resisting it resistance makes it worse if you go through childbirth that's not a oh my God I can't even think about it right that's a very painful you know getting the ship out of the

bottle that's serious stuff all right that must hurt a lot all right and that's not one of those folden ships either all right and so and so you're going to go through that right if you you resist it's worse they teach you lamons they teach you to breathe and relax breathe and relax because you allow more room it's exactly the same if you resist this event that was not comfortable inside you tense around it when you tense around it you don't give it the room to pass through and it actually stays in there and that's

what leaves these Impressions so bad experiences don't make Impressions they're like ramakrishna once someone as ramach Krish the Great Master do yogis great Saints get angry or do they have problems he said oh yes he said but it's like riding on water how long does it last you can't even see it was there so it makes the impression as it comes in but then it's gone why go write on concrete why the concrete resists the writing doesn't it all right it's a substance that's hard so therefore it stays if you resist the event that took

place inside inside you resist it push it away way I'm telling you it's staying that's what makes it leave Impressions that's the deepest thing I can ever teach you everything I've said all day led to that if you want to be okay inside don't store the garbage you want to collect something collect stamps don't collect bad experiences and you are collecting bad experiences do you understand that but you don't even know it it's so natural right of course I told you if somebody takes a swing at you you throw your arm up but don't keep

it there don't walk around like this now he swung at me once wi 16 years ago how do I know if he's going to do it again that's the difference an event took place yes it was not comfortable of course there's going to be some reaction of discomfort inside stick The Rock in the water it Mak some edes and pull it out it's fine there's no impression that's what you should be doing inside now right now you don't know how to why nobody ever taught you nobody ever got into the discussion yes into every life

some rain will fall but I don't have to keep it raining in there just CU it rain once it can pass through events only last for a moment I have a rule with Mickey I'm not perfect at it in any way shape or form right if it ain't happening outside it ain't happening inside it happened before it's not happening anymore and it's still bothering me no wonder you're not okay if you're going to do that you're not okay in there how about that that alone will Define this you're not okay in there if every single

thing that ever bothered you is still bothering you whether it be subconscious or conscious I don't care it means it's in there it's getting stimulated it's messing up your life you're doing that you stop doing that it's all going to change and then the other end of the book end is it hasn't even happened yet and I'm singing it might and I'm scared no this past future stuff is that's we here now now you understand we here now right it it means don't be there then where else are you if you're not here now it's

the only place there is well there's this mind in which I stored there then and I made up a gonnae oh well as long as you're stored a there then and made up a g toe don't make believe you're here now cuz you're not right it's all about letting go of that garbage that you stored inside of you you want to do effort that's your effort is everybody following me so one these are the easy ones I'm not telling you be okay with the fact that somebody told you you don't look good right it's natural

your ego's natural it's going to have its day and so it's going to feel a little bit of a reaction it'll get less and less over time don't worry but basically you have a reaction it's gone how do you do that can we discuss that because that's really important that's your soda that's your spiritual practice learning to let go learning to release learning to be open all the time unless a moment happens that temporarily closes you and then release it release it why you don't want to stay closed you already said getting what you want

opening makes you feel feel good why do you want to not feel good all right I'm just trying to get you to do efforts that raise yourself the Gita has a beautiful line it says one should raise the self with self not trample down the self and it's using Atman capital A and lower a the higher self and the lower self your conscious self should raise your lower self you have a psychological mess in there a little baby you shouldn't be given into it you should be raising it now how do you let go it

is a practice and it's easy and people write me from all over the world right to write read these books they say oh my god I've been on a spiritual path for 50 years I'm an older lady for 50 years I've read everything there is I studied this that and the other thing I read the untel soul and for some reason I got it and immediately my life changed that's how long it takes right now you are using your will to keep your garbage she will not talk to me like that I'm not going to

put up with that no one should treat me like this this is Absol ridiculous I don't have to put up with this you're using your will to keep your garbage the moment you catch on and say I don't want somebody else to be able to bring me down especially somebody who's not as conscious as I am why would I let somebody who's not as conscious as I am who hasn't meditated hasn't done their work behave in some stupid way and that affects me and brings me down I ain't doing it okay then you raise yourself

you work with yourself how do you do that don't start with the big stuff do not start with the fact that your ex-husband's still locked up inside of you and every time you hear his name it freaks you out don't start with that why because that's not how you solve it you solve it by doing the following you know I don't understand I'm so sensitive and picky If somebody walks up to me and stands you know two feet away I'm fine but if it's stand a foot and a half oh make I get all weird

I got are weird and then when they walk away I don't like them so okay maybe we can work with that that's not so powerful is it right maybe maybe you could let it be a foot and a half instead of two feet let's just little by little let it get a little closer not much maybe even 1 11 in I'm begging you it's the lwh hanging fruit where you'll stay conscious and you can start to work with yourself just like when you play the piano you don't start with Mozart you start with the scales

you practice that's what you need to do you need to practice letting go that is spirituality the act of practicing how to open back up after you closed a little bit just a little bit and how to stay open when there was this tendency to close those are where you work right at that moment so if somebody walks up right and you know they tend to take your space that person tends to stay a little too close and you haven't been comfortable in the past now they walk up immediately right it's okay low hanging fruit

what's low hanging fruit the only reason it's bothering you is it's bothering you right you're deciding to make it bother you you have decided I'm not okay with this therefore I'm not okay with it how about we reverse that pattern so that now the moment that person starts to walk up I immediately click back to this talk I click back to my morning and evening meditation or my affirmations whatever it is right I immediately click back to I'm going to use this to go to God I'm going to use this to practice being able to

handle something that if I can handle it I'm fine and there's no reason not to right what do you do they walk up you're now you it's called being conscious being centered you're clear clear you're there what does that mean there you're there in a seat of clarity instead of getting involved in the garbage that's starting to come up inside of you the reactive garbage doesn't mean it doesn't start coming up but you stay above it how breathe relax I have found that and yoga teaches it it's the essence of yoga that relaxation if you'll

relax around the tendency to close it doesn't close as much or as fast or even at all cuz you gave it the room it's used to he walks up a little too close your heart starts to close you starty everything gets weird in there you start resisting and you're there it is man you can't wait till he leaves you better watch what you say also you got caught so you're not there in the place of clarity you got involved in your reactive reaction all right instead you remind yourself to Mantra breathing talk to yourself I

don't care that's your business you know it's private in there you do your own thing but basically stay stay clear stay conscious the reaction is going to take place relax just relax and people sit there and say how can I relax when it's getting tense inside until you understand that that's perfectly reasonable to relax when it's tense inside you're having a massage it's your first massage you've ever had it's a very good masseuse they're right in tune with your body and they go right for the part that hurts like hell and they're going there and

they're massaging and all of a sudden they hit that spot and you freak you almost hit them you go Theus is going to say to you just just relax just relax let me work there just relax what are you going to say no I can't it's only by relaxing through it that you're going to release the cause of the tension it is exactly the same inside there is no difference it can start to get reactive inside and be uncomfortable you get to relax and I am highly advising you to learn to do so when you

can relax in the face of the reaction you left it room to pass through and that's all it takes in the end if you can keep relaxing around everything that closes up inside of you you're going to change every single day every day you will be a new person you'll be sitting there saying wow this used to bother me now all of a sudden you know somebody walks up somebody else walks up you don't even notice you don't even notice that they're a foot and a half away wow this is neat okay somebody your husband

or wife comes home after work and they had a bad day and you were all excited about coming home me kind of in an open space and made something romantic they walk in the door say I can't do anything today I'm I'm in a band mood and they walk in they close the door woo that's not so much fun is it all right so what Let It Go Let It Go people get to have bad days doesn't mean anything does it you sure didn't feel good disappointing whatever let it go I dare you I dare

you you wait till you see what happens when you make the meaning of your life to raise yourself to not let the lowest part of your being run your life right now it's hard to imagine isn't it because you're very sensitive you got a lot of reactive stuff and it's bad enough you're closed to what happened now you're closed to being closed and your whole mind starts doesn't it he's not going to talk to me like that I have put up with that that's ridiculous did you see what they did you start telling everybody did

you see what she did you're just cementing it inside of you you're making it be a big deal right instead of fine and Know There's 7 and A2 billion people on the planet Earth I just met one and you just learn to let go let go let go practice with the tiny stuff I told you the ultimate is the driver in front of you who's driving 10 miles hour below the speed limit you're actually talking to them if you're like me come on you see there's a sign you see the sign they don't hear you

all you're doing is making yourself uptight there's no benefit to this use every see I don't teach you how to meditate there are lots of techniques for meditation you use them it's good to do but don't tell me I don't teach techniques it's just my technique is so Universal you can't even hear us the technique which is every single second of your life let go not just on the meditation pillow on the meditation pillow you're doing your practices practicing for what this until you get to the point that you are willing to say it's not

that I want to go deep and have a nice meditation I don't even want to have to meditate I want to be so freaking high that there's no difference between 3 hours of meditation and work and this and that and kids and doing the taxes and every single thing it's just all high it's high it's fun it's exciting I'm sitting on a planet Earth sping in the middle of nowhere it's a ball and this is how you get and you're able to do that if you will take every moment of your life and I'm not

exaggerating every moment of your life especially the simple ones that you're causing yourself trouble how do I measure simple if they wasn't bothering you there'd be nothing to do there too many people in the elevator if it wasn't bothering you there's nothing to do about it is there oh my God there's traffic if it's not bothering you there's nothing to do about it why guess there's really nothing to do about it anyways right you just decide either I experience it or I be bothered by it decide not to bother yourself that's my spiritual path live

in there become conscious and decide to stop bothering yourself and what will happen is things that happen won't leave these Impressions inside of you you'll find out that more and more moments are okay with you why because you said they were enjoy the weather what weather all of it if it's hot it's hot if it's cold it's cold if it's windy it's windy if it's rainy it's rainy if it's bomy it's bomy enjoy it why you'll enjoy life more if you enjoy the weather right change I've been telling you all lately that we you should

go visit it we we were involved in the new Chapel in the new hospital the uh cardio neural hospital and it's it's called the sanctuary of wisdom and it's very beautiful you should go in there and see it people do they go to the hospital just to see it but it it has quotes from very wise people and roomy is one of them and there's a table that has a beautiful quote carved around the table the edge of the table and it says yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world today I'm

wise so I want to change myself that's everything that's the entire spiritual path in one little phrase you either out there trying to fight with the world and everyone in it to make it match your screwed up stuff you have inside or you have decided to clean out inside and you have that opportunity every second of your life you understand that you're you're going to freak out when you find out that everything bothers you right that's that's you know when they come to me and say Mickey since I heard your talk I'm doing way worse

than I was before since I started practicing witness Consciousness I am really screwed up it's like everything's bothering me welcome to noticing what's going on inside work on it work on it all right if you do this you you will raise yourself and if you raise yourself you will raise everybody else some people s they say but isn't that selfish to work on yourself no it's not selfish to work on yourself if you're out there polluting the world right let's say first stop polluting it before we worry about everybody else is doing and you are

polluting it if you're not okay inside I guarantee you what you do outside is hurting other people if you're okay inside and I'm going to stop here if you're okay inside it doesn't mean you don't work with the outside you go to work just like everybody else you your family whatever it is everything the same the only difference is your motive I'm okay inside so from the moment I wake up in the morning to the moment I go to bed at night I'm okay it's beautiful inside it's fun it's exciting can little things happen they're

not so comfortable absolutely they last two seconds a little pin prick all right and you let go and you're you're fine so now when you interact with the outside it's not because you're trying to make it be what you want because you don't have any of those and it's not because you're trying to make it not be what you don't want because those are fun those are challenging there's always going to be some stuff you don't want all right so exciting well why are you interacting because it's fun why are you going to work because

I'm trying to contribute not to make money so I go on a vacation why are you in a relationship because I feel love I Feel Love For What Happens the relationship ends or they die or they leave and I'll still feel love love is my natural state and so now you come out into this world and you bring light you bring joy you bring inspiration you you don't have to teach you are a teacher your being is teaching people start start seeing you can handle situations they can't right I don't care in the business World

relationship world doesn't matter right other people are freaking out you're not that's a very good teaching all right people will look up to you they they'll see your strength so you develop this core inside please I'm begging you if you want to be okay this is your work if you think you're going to be okay by making everything else be the way you want wake up it's never worked for anybody the richest people in the world are worrying more about money than you do the most beautiful people in the world are worrying about getting old

the most respected people in the world are afraid of losing losing their Edge losing respect you're not going to get there that way but there is a there you can be always okay but it's by doing the inner work all right so work on these things