what the Stoics talk about is the idea of loving what happens Marcus really says that what you throw on top of a fire is fuel for the fire so what you want to cultivate what you have to practice you have to almost repeat it like a mantra to yourself is the practice of love in everything that happens not just accepting it not just tolerating it but leading into it going this is for me I chose this I've wanted this way and it's the best [ __ ] thing that ever happened to me when the computer
eats the manuscript you've been working on you say amor fati I love it when you're stuck in traffic you say amor fati I love it when you're criticized on Twitter when your boss calls you out you say a more fatty I love it I'm gonna be better for this haven't happened to me when you're hungry you say I love it I'm alive I feel this I'm gonna make the most of it you say a more fatty when you lose someone you love it might seem crazy to say a more foxy but no amount of anger
no amount of resentment no amount of sadness brings them back so you you take what you can from this that's what amor fati is you use it as fuel you become better from it and become improved by it you have cancer you're disabled you're white or black you're short or tall you're rich or poor amor fati I'm gonna make the most of it I'm not gonna let this stop me I'm gonna be better for this haven't happened when Thomas Edison's factory burned down he finds his son his son is stunned shell-shocked that's how most people
are when they face obstacles but Edison grabbed him and he said go get your mother and all her friends they'll never see a fire like this again that's what a more fatty is I'm gonna use this and he rebuilds that Factory he tells a reporter the next day this is gonna prevent me from getting bored it's gonna be the next act of my life and that's what he did he rebuilt he didn't whine he didn't complain he didn't point the finger he just moved on and just kept going and that's what we have to do
with every obstacle that we face whatever it is big or small fair or unfair chosen or tragic we say amor fati love it all use it as fuel become better for this happened and that's a formula for human greatness it's the only way that we should go through the world because it's the only way that turns the bad things in life into good things if there's one thing that philosophy can teach any athlete whether you're an amateur whether you're a collegiate prospect whether you're a top-ranked recruiter whether you're making millions of dollars in the pros
is something that I talked about to the Cleveland Browns this year when they had me talk about stoicism they started my talk and I said look everyone in this room controls one thing they control how they play you don't control what your teammates do and control how you play you don't control what they say about you on Twitter you control how you play you don't control the size of your contract you control how you play you don't control what they say about you from the stands you control how you play you don't control what the
ref says control how you play you don't control whether it's snowing you don't control whether it's raining you don't control whether it's a hundred degrees you control how you play you don't control whether your teammates get hurt you don't control if your teammates are fair you don't control if the guy in the position ahead of you wants to groove you and mentor you or not you control how you play you don't control whether your opponents cheat you control how you play you don't control if your coach is a bully and he screams at you you
control how you play you don't control if people are doubting you if they don't believe in you you control how you play you don't control yesterday's game you control how you play today you don't control if you've lost to this team a thousand times you control how you play you don't control if your team wins you control how you play you don't control if you lose you control how you play all you control if it's not clear enough is how you play right now right this second whether there's doubters whether you're being adored all you
control is how you play the effort that you bring the decisions you make the principles by which you operate and that's ultimately all you can judge yourself on you don't control the outcome you don't control the facts you don't control anything but how you away but if we can focus on this the stokke said if we can focus exclusively on what we control not only be happier we'll have way more energy and way more to focus on what is in front of us while everyone else wastes time whining about complaining about worrying about thinking about
bragging about what they don't control there's two words that come to us from the ancients that I think we should remind ourselves of repeat to ourselves in any and every situation we're in you win the lottery you strike it rich you get recognized you get an award you say to yourself memento mori remember you will die you go through [ __ ] you go through trouble someone cheats on you someone betrays you someone lies to you someone steals from you someone gets what you earned someone gets promoted over you you say to yourself memento mori
remember that I will die you could leave life right now Marcus Aurelius said let that determine what you do and say and think you get in a fight with your girlfriend or your boyfriend your parents say something mean or let you down your neighbor pisses you off you break your leg you blow out your knee you fall out of love with someone you're stressed out by work your kids are sick you say to yourself memento mori life is short I'm going to die and what that means is you can't take any of this seriously you
can't let it weigh on you you can't hold on to it you can't let it puff you about either if you're rich if you're famous you have a million Instagram followers you just got hired you just got into Harvard you just got nominated for a Nobel Prize you just got a call from the president you just got a promotion you just got a raise memento mori you will die you can't take any of this with you it pales in comparison to the idea of eternity how many people have come before you and had these same
honours and where are they now they're dead just like you will be well Marcus really said is this practice of memento mori of saying to the good things and to the bad things in life that we will die it's a reminder that helps you accept the good things without arrogance and to let the bad things go with the difference your plane is delayed you're stressed you're tired you're hungry you're frustrated you're cynical you say memento mori I'm going to die what does any of this mean why am i taking any of it so seriously why
am i letting it get to me what's three hours here or three hours there remember you are going to die what you do control is whether you waste time getting upset by this whether you waste time taking it personally whether you're the best in the world at what you do or you're an unpaid intern whether your work is being beloved by the critics or savaged by the critics whether you have more opportunities than you know what to do with whether you can't get the one shot no one will even give you a chance whether you
have all the money you need or you can barely get by you say memento mori remember I will die none of this matters in light of that whether you're having sex with a beautiful supermodel whether they're putting your kid down to bed whether you're sitting there in your pajamas eating cereal or you are standing in front of a prestigious audience memento mori you will die is this how you want to spend your time are you wasting it or are you living it are you embracing it or are you letting it escape from your grasp memento
mori remember I will die you could leave life right now let that determine what you do and say and think whatever your experience and whatever you're going through however awesome your life is however frustrating it is right now memento mori remember you will die this too shall pass must not forget that hey it's Ryan I just wanted to thank you for supporting daily stoic if you want to support us more please subscribe like our videos comment share with your friends sign up for our email at Daly's TOCOM slash email you can also check out daily
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