in this video I'm going to share with you some of the story behind me and my wife dating and eventually getting married how we got married in 7 months only after 7 months of knowing each other why we got married so young and so quick uh there's particular five reasons for that then I'm going to share with you in this video I hope it'll be an encouragement for you if you're in a relationship and you're looking towards maybe getting married these are just some of our experience and our perspective and uh hopefully you can take
something from it okay I'm going to talk about objections to what and how we did uh our relationship and the timeline and all that in a little bit but first I just want to tell you why we got married right why we got married so quick and and young for most people I mean I was 24 my wife was 21 when we got married just about a year ago and so one of the reasons particularly was to avoid Temptation and it becomes really clear in 1 Corinthians let's just pull that out for a second 1
Corinthians 7:9 and it says but if they cannot exercise self-control they should marry for it is better to marry than burn with passion for it is better better to marry than burn with passion we wanted to avoid Temptation avoid Temptation I think in any context like if you really really like somebody enough to marry them then there's going to be Temptation there for us we felt like man temptation is real this is hard we really like each other actually we like each other enough to get married right to spend the rest of our life together
to uh become one and in Covenant in Union and so we were like why do we want to delay getting married right why would we want to delay getting married we can avoid this temptation we we don't want to burn with passion so we should just get married the second thing was intentionality like from day one we were asking the tough questions we were sorting through the our beliefs and values and past and all the stuff that you really want to know yeah there was a lot of fun and and light-heartedness throughout it like that's
that definitely characterized our relationship but from beginning on like we both knew we wanted to get married and so there was intentionality and communication about our expectations about you know our timelines about who you know we were and spending time with each other in intentional ways like outside of just oneon-one like with families and with friends and in different scenarios and circumstances that was something that we really wanted because we wanted to expediate our dating process cuz we we wanted to get married we wanted to create space for us to be ourselves and for them
to be the themselves so that we could actually see what we're really like you move past like the the the date formality into okay what do you really like on a day-to-day basis how do you occupy your time what do you care about what are your priorities what is your relationship with God like what are these things for real and being intentional about exploring those things and being in those environments together now when you're being intentional like this often you know your struggles come up and for a lot of people their struggle is lust it's
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the third thing is that we wanted to be in deeper relationship with one another you know when you are dating okay when you're dating the truth is is there's a lot of people that are kind of on the same level as you like okay so if you have a girlfriend it's like well maybe your mom is on the same level as as your girlfriend or maybe your mom is even higher you know or your dad is even higher or like you know those priorities and those people in your life they're not yet established as your
wife right or your husband so they're not they're not number one yet they're not number one yet and I think there was this longing to be like number one in each other's life apart from God obviously um it's like to to be that person that they go to that that you can confide in that you know you can help them make those make decisions and work through stuff and there's also that proximity we just wanted to like live together and be together and like get to spend that time because there's always a sense of disconnection
that we were experiencing when we were dating it's like you know not getting enough of each other not having enough time not being able to share our hearts as deeply as we as we wanted to or as we had opportunity to because there just wasn't there wasn't that Covenant in place we weren't weren't husband and wife yet and there was that deep longing to be closer so the fourth reason we got married so young and quick is that no objection really swayed us like I'm going to read through some objections that we received and that
we kind of heard about and and and how they didn't really impact us that much the first one was that you you don't really know them you don't really know them it's been such a short amount of time you don't really know what they're like you don't really know you know who they truly are well I would just throw the intentionality piece there like saying actually no we we've been in enough circumstances we've been in enough environments we do know this person and with what we don't know because trust like there's always things that you
you don't fully understand till you're married and there's things that you know come out because you have the vulnerability and the the safety of being married it's like you work through those things and you trust that God will guide you through and and and encourage you to continue to like work through those things even if they're hard the second objection was that you need to experience the single life you need to experience more of that and you know whatever things this often comes from more secular like Outlets but even still Christian folks should be too
like hey you know you need to hey just experience what it's like to be single friend I was single for like my whole life until I was 24 so I that really was not a factor for me I'm like yeah been there done that I'm okay I'm okay uh the third thing was you don't really know what you want you don't really know what you want yet so like how can you know and you can you can commit your life to this person if you don't really know what you want you haven't you know and
it's like no actually I do actually I do and and that's the cool thing is that you grow together right I'm not going to pretend I'm some marriage expert I'm not right I'm I'm learning but the reality is is that like you you got to trust yourself and trust that your relationship with God is solid and God has given you like the values that are that matter and are important and like you just make the decision right the fifth reason that we got married so young and quick is that we were ready for marriage like
we were ready for marriage we both came into it with the expectation that this could lead to marriage and that if it if everything lined up that we would want to get married like there wasn't anything holding us back per se that was something we needed to deal with or you know some school we needed to achieve or amount of money we wanted to make or some whatever like that before we got married or some emotional or spiritual you know lengths that we needed to get to personally before we were going to get married no
we both came into it ready to get married and this is what I would say is that if you are not ready and you kind of know you're not ready I just don't understand why you are entering the dating sphere I don't know why you would if you just know it's going to be some years for me it's going to be a while for me I would say honestly it's just my opinion but like hunker down like hunker down get that stuff sorted out and wait because when you bring another person into your life and
you know immediately like man I'm not ready for this kind of commitment or I'm not ready for marriage and I'm definitely not ready for kids like if that that's your mentality I would just say then maybe there needs to be some more time just you and God you and God just working on it and and that's okay like I spent plenty of time doing that you know I plenty of my friends got married 18 19 20 21 um I was still single I was still single and was that a challenging thing sometimes absolutely but I
could see how God was using it because there were a lot of things that he wanted to work on me and and I was thankful for that time I was thankful for that time and even now he's still working on things in me in marriage but I would just say hey if you know you're not ready for marriage that's okay like you don't need to get married young or or quickly you don't need to but I would also say don't burden yourself or the other person by getting into a relationship that doesn't really see marriage
in sight the bonus reason that we got married young and quick is because God loves marriage God loves marriage he loves it when Believers get married and when they submit themselves to him and he he loves it and so hey I want to be a part of that thanks for watching this video If you enjoyed it subscribe because I'm putting out new videos all the time and until next time keep pursuing the mission
