Well, up to this point our class has been more general to help you understand family constellations. If you are a family constellation therapist, if you facilitate the process with others, perhaps you have already done some of these exercises I shared in previous classes, but I invite you to truly do them again and, above all, link them to your own wisdom . Now, if you already know about belonging, about the people who should belong to your family system, about hierarchy, order, and who should be closer to whom, you can tie that to the objects you place in your family field.
And if you are not a therapist and are just beginning to understand a bit more about this practice, I will invite you simply to take what is, to notice how you created these symbols, how you arranged them in the field. And now I am going to bring you a class about the three forces of love, or the three systemic laws, right? I have a little sign here that we use in the processes of horse-assisted family constellations .
This sign contains the three orders of love: belonging, the great law, balance, and hierarchy. Generally, when we talk about an illness or even a family dilemma, something you want to change, we usually look at these orders and one of them might be being violated . In other words, it could be that someone excluded is not belonging, or there might be disorder: a child becoming a parent to a parent, for example, or a younger sibling acting as an older sibling, or even a second love taking the place of a first love.
All of this is a matter of order. Or it is even a matter of balance. Balance is about giving and receiving, it is about the exchanges and, more than that, the prices paid for things to be.
That is, if I choose my profession to the detriment of my family and I do so by dishonoring the family, it may be that my profession loses strength. If I choose the family to the detriment of my profession and I do so by dishonoring the profession, it may be that my family loses strength. This has to do with the law of balance between giving and receiving.
We will talk a little more about them, and I hope it will be very valuable to you, because this will lead us to look at the dynamics of horses and how they act in family constellations. Nice.
