are you nervous about your looks declining as you get older no not yet but yeah when you think when you start thinking about it of course you you're getting nervous and you yeah you think about it now how am i gonna look when i'm getting older if you meet an older woman who's in her 30s she's single unmarried has no children and she's really bitter and angry you and i both know why that is it's so obvious and yet nobody says it i know it you know it deep down she knows it but she's never
gonna admit it to herself and nobody's ever gonna tell her i mean i get why it's because it's so politically incorrect just because nobody says it doesn't mean that it's not true so what's the real reason why these single older women are angry and bitter roll the clip do most women accept their looks going down with aids or do they get depressed and upset okay um not you just yeah yeah um i think yeah it depends but i think a woman will get yeah maybe upset and depressed because you're always comparing yourself to other women
at your age and also to younger women and yeah maybe it will make you a little sad why are these single women in their 30s angry and bitter it's because they're not pretty anymore that's it they can say it's because men are shallow or that men were scared to commit to them or whatever excuse it is but that's all secondary the real reason is because they're not beautiful anymore how do we know this well you see men being shallow wasn't a problem for her when she was 21. it didn't matter to her back when she
was beautiful that men weren't committing because she had options she was at her sexual market peak and she was flooded with male attention one guy wasn't giving her what she wanted who cares she'll just move on to the next one you don't tend to see a problem with how a system operates like the dating market if you're the prime beneficiary you know if you've got the privileged position then you have no complaints the thing is though that women at their peak don't realize that they're in a privileged position they've never known anything different to them
it's just normal you sit there thinking of course women know that they're privileged they get everything handed to them on a silver platter there's nothing easier than being a young pretty girl that's the easiest position there is there's no way that they're not aware of that but they're often not you think well how could that be how could they be so blind how could they not be aware of this and the truth ironically is not pretty the reason why young pretty women don't realize that they have a privileged position in the daily market is because
they've never taken the time to try and empathize with what it's like to be a man they are completely unaware of the difficulties faced by men in the daily market i'm talking about a level of self-involvement and a lack of compassion and a lack of empathy that's honestly quite concerning i'm not saying all like everything this is nuance there are high quality women and there are low quality women but the real truth is that lots of women have never ever even once tried to put themselves in a man's shoes and understand what it's like from
his perspective if they did they would realize that they have a privileged position and they wouldn't take it for granted that insight would save women a lot of future pain but it seems beyond the grasp of a lot of women when you're blind to your privileged position you believe that the good times are going to go on forever nobody wants to admit that they get special treatment because of the class they're in in this instance young beautiful women and because to them it seems normal they end up feeling entitled to that position that's why they
get so angry when they're older once they've lost their youth and they've lost their looks instead of thinking wow that was fun what a ride i really got to have this you know 10 15 years in this highly privileged position that was amazing i feel so lucky i feel so grateful to have had that experience but now i'm just a regular person i'm having the experience of you know a typical male but that's not what she thinks she's not grateful for the privileged position that she got which most men will never have she's thinking i
am entitled to the same level of attention and special treatment that i always was i deserve male attention i had it for all of those years i deserve to have that continue but it doesn't continue it stops and that's where the anger and the bitterness sets in but remember no matter what she says no matter who she blames the real reason that she's angry is because she's lost her looks that's it i guarantee that if she was still young and if she was still pretty she wouldn't be angry she would have no complaints the aspect
of this that is most frustrating is not actually her denial it's not her inability to admit the real reason why she's angry and bitter the most frustrating aspect is that society is enabling this denial how this came about is honestly a real mystery i don't know why or how we just collectively decided i don't know that women were too fragile to hear the truth or something people sort of thought oh no you can't tell a woman that she's not pretty anymore and that's why she's upset no we need to protect her from that information she's
not resilient enough to be able to handle that i mean it's sexist really to think that women are too delicate to be able to handle reality but this is what we've done we sort of protect women from the truth and we lower our expectations you know we we don't expect women to be honest with themselves we don't even expect them to have self-awareness about this and i don't know we think that we're being kind but we're really not this kind of compassion by enabling denial seems like it's a kindness but it actually does a tremendous
amount of damage every time that you obscure the truth it creates a debt and that debt has to be paid you want to know who ends up footing that bill and paying that debt it's the next generation onto the scene burst this new batch of young beautiful women who are just reveling in their own attractiveness and because we never pointed out the correlation between an older woman's anger and her bitterness and the fact that she lost her looks nobody's pointing out to this new generation of girls that the good times aren't going to last we
all know what the consequence of this is it leads to women ignoring all the genuine decent nice guys out there it sucks and it's what we have now this huge segment of the male population who are leading extremely unsatisfying dating lives and for women they're going to completely waste their youth you know they're going to be partying and giving no thought to the future until it's too late suddenly they're over the age of 30 and instead of being in an established relationship with that nice gentle decent guy from the early 20s you know having a
family having children having purpose they're single and alone and obviously angry and bitter i don't know how to fix this this is a big problem and involves a lot of societal change but i have to believe that the first step is talking about it acknowledging that there's actually a problem here you might think i'm wasting my time with videos like this because my audience is primarily male and yes i want this video to be seen by women that is why i've created it i want women to hear this message for their own sake but also
for the sake of men i want the men of the future to live in a daily market where women have more realistic expectations where women are more grounded in reality a dating market where the women are less entitled and less self-involved because that's better for everybody so i consider this video worth it if just one older woman listens to it one older woman listens and thinks you know he's right that's actually at the source of my anger and my bitterness i'm just pissed off because i'm not pretty anymore if she can admit that inside herself
then maybe just maybe when she has her own daughter she can tell her about the reality of how things really work she'll say to her daughter sweetheart there's going to be a time coming in your life where you're going to feel on top of the world where you're going to feel like the most valuable and desirable person ever in life there is nothing easier than being a young attractive girl that's as good as it gets you'll have so much male attention and everything will be easy for you but you need to be cautious please listen
to me as somebody who made this mistake your looks will fade the good times will not last your appearance your attractiveness is a depreciating asset don't take it for granted don't be self-indulgent don't use your looks as an excuse to party with chad and stroke your own ego use your best years to attract a kind decent man with good solid values the kind of guy that you'll be glad that you chose as your partner for decades to come i mean if this video inspires that conversation to take place somewhere in the world just once then
it was worth it so in the interest of trying to get this message to people who wouldn't ordinarily come across it i'm going to do something that i don't do very often and ask you if you have not subscribed to this channel subscribe specifically on this video this is the way that the youtube algorithm works it only suggests videos to new people if that video drives subscriptions so if you haven't already subscribed to this channel subscribe on this video because it's going to tell youtube this is an interesting video and it's going to push it
out into the wider community and hopefully it's going to reach some women and inspire that conversation that's all for today's video you know how the ending goes i'm going to remind you that i do private consultations with men who need advice on dating relationships women sexuality whatever it is just contact me and we'll sort you out i'm also going to remind you to go and sign up at my patreon page we need to separate content creators from middlemen to get them not dependent on advertising guidelines or anything like that the way that we do that
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