this is you and this is the girl you like and this is her heart if this heart has a lock then in today's video I will give you the key if you zoom out and look at all the girls in this world and how their lives are you will notice one common thing that repeats a lot most of the ads they receive on their phones are for things like weight loss skin care or makeup you'll see that a girl from the moment she wakes up in the morning and looks in the mirror can spend hours
and hours in front of it putting on makeup and taking care of her appearance they spend tons of money on their looks and on appearing be beautiful why do you think they do that because all girls share one common trait they want to gain the approval of others this trait is an instinct deeply rooted in the genes of all women living on this planet so as a man if you can feed this Instinct it means the woman becomes yours and if you've been following this series on how to attract women for a while you've probably
heard me say this many times if you make a woman strive to gain your approval it means she's yours this rule is the key to every girl's heart and this rule is the subject of today's video today I will explain to you how to do it in short what you need to do when you're talking to a girl is to put her in a state where she is the one who wants to gain your approval now many people will hear this sentence and feel intimidated thinking it's very difficult well I have good news and bad
news for you the good news is that this is one of the easiest things you can do to make a girl want to gain your approval because this instinct is already within her just like ads can easily trick girls into spending their entire salaries on makeup and beauty products you can easily make girls want to gain your approval because it's naturally grained in them all you have to do is go with the flow not against it the bad news is that to do this you have to watch this video to the end and give me
10 minutes of your life so how do you put a girl in this state where she wants to gain your approval there's a fundamental rule we need to start with something related to your mindset that is essential to understand before discussing the method we'll use to put her in this state let me explain by giving you an example imagine I go up to someone and start saying I'm awesome I'm rich I'm famous I'm smart and then they respond by saying I'm awesome I'm rich I'm famous I'm smart how would I feel in this situation I
wouldn't like it I'm giving you the ball and you're just throwing it back at me in this case neither I would admire you nor would you admire me as humans in our emotional relationships there's always one party striving to gain the others approval and I know as a man you might say now no if I like her and she likes me we can both try to impress each other but here you're talking to me logically women don't operate on logic in relationships dating in general is something illogical it's governed by emotion this is a rule
I want you to keep in mind for the rest of your life relationships are a field governed by emotion therefore the first thing is that you should not try to impress the Girl by the way if you've been following the how to attract women series you'll find that this is one of the first things I've told you because one of the most attractive traits in a man to a woman is that he isn't overly concerned with gaining her approval the problem you might face now when you hear this advice is that if you're not someone
used to talking to girls often the moment you start talking to a girl you'll forget every everything I told you today and start trying to impress her this happens because the modern world has placed such a high value on women making you feel like she's better than you and that you need to earn her approval consequently your subconscious mind is programmed to carry out this Behavior now to counteract this subconscious programming and apply what I've just told you you need to understand something that exists within you this is an internal pressure this pressure drives you
to want to gain the girl's approval the next time you talk to a beautiful girl I want you to try what I'm about to tell you when you're talking try to think about this feeling that arises within you the feeling of wanting to impress her you'll feel an internal pressure and this pressure pushes you toward trying to gain her approval you'll feel it and the first step to overcoming it is to acknowledge it you need to be aware of it because once you're aware of it you can control how to direct it listen to me
carefully now I'm going to dive into your mind and explain how it works that pressure you feel drives you to act in a certain way this action might be telling her I'm awesome or showing her in one way or another that you're special now if you try to change this action your fail the moment you start talking to the girl you'll forget everything what you need to do is redirect this pressure in other words you need to shift the arrow of this Behavior so that you don't try to impress her how imagine you approach a
girl and start talking to her you'll feel that pressure urging you to try to impress her at that moment what I want you to do is think and tell yourself if I want to impress her I must not try to impress her I know this might sound a bit confusing but if you can make this shift in your mindset you'll overcome this pressure and please trust me you won't realize the value of this exercise until you try it yourself so when you feel that internal pressure urging you to impress the girl think and say to
yourself to impress her I must not try to impress her and of course with time this process will become automatic and you won't even have to think about it when you stop trying to gain her approval you give her the space to want to gain your approval what you need to do now is push her into that state so how do you do this listen to me carefully now our recipe consists of two ingredients not giving her validation while at the same time telling her what you like in a girl don't worry I'll explain everything
in detail and it will all become clear to you the first point is to not give her validation immediately do you remember what I told you at the beginning of the video a woman is a being who craves admiration and validation this is something ingrained in her jeans now for her to want to earn your validation you must first not give it to her easily why because from the start she will try to earn your approval and if you give it to her immediately it ends the game meaning don't like every post she shares on
Instagram don't comment on everything she posts and don't appear obsessed with her but before we dive deeper into this point let me explain the entire recipe so you have a clear understanding and then we'll move on to the application you must not give her validation and at the same time you need to tell her what you like in a girl's personality and appearance when you do this what happens to her first when she sees that you're not giving her validation her internal instincts kick in she starts thinking why isn't he giving me validation I need
to make him admire me how do I make him admire me I have to do what he said he likes and girls in other words she tells us herself to get his approval I have to do what he likes then she starts doing the things you like when she does this she automatically enters a state where she's trying to gain your admiration these two points must be combined together so to make this recipe work you need to know how to cook it there are certain rules you must follow the first condition is that when you
tell her what you like in a girl for example that you like girls who wear dresses instead of pants or introverted girls or social ones or those who don't wear too much makeup a small portion of what you like should already exist in her but not everything meaning 40% of the things you like should be present in her and 60% should not in other words don't make it seem like you don't like anything about her because that would make you appear intolerable and insincere look you need to understand something important about girls when a girl
is attractive almost anything she does gets validation from men let's say a girl wears a shirt any guy who talks to her will tell her the shirt looks good on her so when you don't give her validation and tell her instead that you like girls who wear dresses she'll start thinking why isn't he giving me validation I need to make him admire me how can I do that I need to do what he said he likes and girls in other words she tells herself to get his approval I need to do what he likes let's
say you and three other guys are standing with an attractive girl this girl wants to earn everyone's admiration because that's her nature if she wears a shirt all those guys will give her validation but you won't however if she wears a dress you will give her validation while the others will still give her validation regardless because they don't understand what I'm explaining to you now so the the way to make her nurture that instinct within her the desire to gain everyone's admiration is by wearing a dress and since you're the one who influenced her to
wear the dress you become the person out of all the others who put her in the state of wanting to win your admiration and just like that the girl becomes yours anyway this is the first condition 40% of the things you like should already be present in her and 60% should not the second condition is that when you talk and express what you like you must speak in a general way and your words should only reflect your opinion nothing more for example if you're talking and you say I like girls with short hair don't follow
that up with you should cut your hair or say I like the collar green don't say wear green you should simply express your opinion and nothing more at the same time don't convey it in a way that implies your asking her to do this thing for you to accept her this is a mistake I used to make and I urge you not to make it as well in other words don't give her the impression that you're telling her what you like so she can do it and earn your approval becoming your girlfriend when you talk
you should only convey that you're expressing your opinion Nothing More by the way the ability to express yourself is an essential skill for attracting women and people in general it's one of the keys to Charisma I plan to make a dedicated video about how to express yourself as part of a social skills Series in summary when you say what you like talk casually and don't direct your words at her specifically when she hears this she will automatically start applying it to herself for example if you say I don't like girls who smoke or I like
organized people and she hears this this she'll start thinking to herself he doesn't like my posts he doesn't comment on them and he doesn't show interest in me because I don't have the qualities he likes then she'll start doing the things you like to gain your approval the third condition is to not react to anything she does simply because she did it let me explain this with an example that happened to me some time ago one day I was out with a friend in a group that included other guys and girls my friend and I
were talking and a beautiful girl joined us and started talking at one point my friend and I were in the middle of a conversation and this girl said something I don't remember exactly what it was but it was a dull and boring joke yet as soon as my friend heard it he stopped talking to me looked at her and started laughing by himself what did he do in this situation he reacted to the girl even though she didn't say anything worth reacting to simply because she was beautiful this is a mistake I see many men
making don't react to a girl just because she says or does something in the example I mentioned the correct Behavior would have been for my friend to ignore what the girl said glance at her Bria briefly and then return to talking to me as if nothing happened in other words don't laugh at anything a girl says if you're on a date or talking and she says something dull or silly don't laugh I know you as a man think logically and worry that if you don't laugh she'll feel embarrassed or uncomfortable but the truth is yes
she should feel embarrassed and a little uncomfortable to be attracted to you if she says something and it doesn't make you laugh don't laugh remember me and understand this clearly don't laugh not everything a girl does is worth reacting to of course if she says something genuinely good or remarkable there's no problem in reacting to it by doing this the girl will understand that you're not impressed by just anything she says or does for her to earn your admiration there must be genuinely good things in her personality or behavior never let a girl feel that
anything she does will impress you this is golden advice I want you to remember for the rest of your life always convey to her that your admiration requires her to have unique and exceptional qualities the fourth condition is curiosity what does that mean this is something related to your mindset and you need to understand it imagine you meet a girl and start asking her questions to get to know her the way you ask should come from a place of curiosity not admiration for example when talking to a girl and asking her about her job you
should not ask because you admire her or want to get to know her better no you should ask out of curiosity as if you haven't yet decided whether or not you admire her this should be reflected in your body language and tone don't approach her with an overly eager smile and say enthusiastically what's your job speak with body language that shows your asking purely out of curiosity it's hard to explain this in detail but what I want you to do is this whenever you ask a girl something or try to get to know her or
talk to her remember me and feel internally that you're asking only out of curiosity try to change your internal intention this feeling will automatically reflect in your behavior by the way since we're talking about this topic I want to share something very important that I've wanted to say for a while never put yourself in a position where a girl interrogates you this happens a lot especially early in conversations with a girl you'll find her asking you a question and you start answering and explaining yourself then she asks another question and you keep talking this is
a mistake please don't fall into it don't let the girl take the lead by questioning you doing so gives her control of the conversation and makes her judge you which goes against Natural Dynamics you're the man and you're the one who chooses so if you find yourself in this situation avoid it by saying something like it's a long story or take a guess or giving a short answer and then Shifting the question back to her in short don't let the girl inter at you where you keep talking and she takes control remember you're the man
and you're the Chooser the fifth condition is tied to the internal pressure you feel when trying to gain her approval listen carefully I'm going to give you a golden piece of advice if you follow everything I've mentioned in the video the girl will start trying to win your approval she might say things like I practice Taekwondo I love kids and know how to deal with them I read books and so on this means she's trying to put herself in a superior position in such cases the internal pressure you feel to gain her approval might be
triggered if you hear something you both have in common imagine she says I have a black belt in Taekwondo and let's say you train in boxing when she says this your internal pressure might instinctively push you to say I also train in martial arts I do boxing be assured this feeling will emerge but the problem is if you say that you don't give her the opportunity to try to win your approval what you should do here is either comment casually on what she said or and this is the best approach make it seem like you're
bad at the thing she's trying to Excel app for example if she says I practice Taekwondo you could say I tried it once and I almost broke my leg in any case try to come up with a response that makes you appear not so great at the subject she's talking about another example if she says in high school I always got excellent grades in math you could say well I was terrible at math this way you give her the space to try to impress you showing how smart and capable she is and so on all
of this when combined and applied creates a strong desire in the goal to win your approval it puts her in a state where she's actively trying to make you admire her as a result she becomes yours and you gain the key to her heart by the way don't forget to hit like and if you want to subscribe to the channel go ahead I always forget to remind you to do these things and this was the dark needle see you in the next video
