all right this is a deep topic that I have never once talked about on this channel don't come at me in the comments saying Oh you talked about it at this time or this time because I didn't and if I did I did not touch on it deeply what we are doing in this video today is we are touching on it deeply we're going to be going so deep that by the end of it you will question how it's even possible to go any deeper and then by the end of it you'll realize it's impossible
because we already went to the deepest of depths do you understand what I'm saying how fake masculine men signal massive in congruence with women and cannot retain her attraction this is what I'm going to be teaching you today I'm going to say it one more time because it is very important if you have a short attention span use some patience today and sick with me because you need to learn this how fake masculine men signal massive in congruence with women and cannot retain her attraction this is what I'm going to be covering now on top
of that we crossed over8 00 members inside of our community I'm helping these guys learn understand and master the language of women and I want to show you this a guy in our community commented and he posted language of women is gold exclamation mark I just want to say thank you for creating this Brotherhood at Casey's Ander and helping us in regaining our masculinity I'm glad to be here so much value this is the type of post that I see guys saying so much value guys saying how they actually love the community but I watching
them learn understand and master the language of Wom women at such a fast pace join us inside of that let's dive into today's video this is what you have to know there is a huge difference in the bad boy look okay versus the bad boy temperament and attitude and this is what most men are missing is the temperament and attitude that lets them say I am a masculine man so I'm going to give you a perfect example I was at the gym the other day there was a guy and a girl lifting weights together I
think that they were a couple I think that they were boyfriend and girlfriend okay and I don't work out with headphones on never have I get distracted I don't do it so I can hear everybody's conversation okay and the boyfriend this guy is like tattooed head to toe right tattoos all over his neck you know the face the arms all that stuff right he wants that look he's tatted head to toe the girlfriend is really pretty okay I don't wear headphones so I'm walking by to go to the next machine and this is what I
hear I hear him say something along the lines of like well babe what exercise do you want to do next do you want to do that one and she goes well I don't know and he goes well uh do you want to do like that one bicep machine or we could do the tricep machine which one do you want to do and once again she goes I don't know and I can hear her saying I don't know in frustration and the reason why I'm telling you this is because I could hear the frustration in her
voice okay because she clearly did not want to be making those decisions which is why the more she had to think think during those decisions and she doesn't know what machine she wants to do in the gym she's obviously hoping that he makes that decision where now he chooses the equipment and he was not picking up on it and I could hear the frustration in her voice and I could see he was losing her he was losing her by the second now I'm not saying she's going to completely abandon the relationship but I could hear
the frustration and whenever you hear that frustration it translates to lack of Attraction she's feeling like she's not being led or at least led the way that she would like to be so this is what I constantly see is like here's an example right this guy aced like the female lens of attraction that women go for which is why he chose the aesthetic that he had right the tattoos or the clothing that he was wearing or whatever you could tell the guy tried to look the part of I'm the guy who attracts all the women
okay cool congratulations if you talk about like personality temperament that would signal traits of the bad boy it would be something like rude or selfish or does whatever he want right so when your look does not match the attitude this is when a woman feels that in congruence so moving on to this column this is what I want you to take away from that story in congruence and insecurity is one of the fastest ways that you'll lose your woman that you're dating to another man so what I can tell you is this never ever ever
under any circumstances never try to be someone or something that you are not you cannot do this because this right here here's what you're going to slowly understand me telling you this this is going to take maturing and maturity to understand and it's probably going to take a lot of failure to internalize but in time you will see that this actually happens okay in life you'll see that the best friendships that you ever have with people the best relationships that you ever have with women and the best situations whether that be in your life or
in your career are the ones that happen organically it's the ones that happen organically without any thought or any effort Never by purposefully trying to create a situation anytime you purposefully try to create a situation the woman can feel that or the other person can feel that and that situation that you created starts to feel not authentic so let me give you an example for the longest time okay on like a dating app let's say my best forming photo was this one right here for the longest time and what you'll notice is this picture just
happened I was just out on a boat I was out on the lake and a friend of mine just took a picture of me and it was random I didn't know it was happening it just happened and then I smiled that was one of the best performing pictures it happened organically it wasn't staged I didn't plan it I didn't plan my outfit I didn't plan any of that right it just happened and I use that as an example because what you're going to see is that that one thing happens a lot in life okay your
best relationships with women your best interactions with women everything it comes from you not attempting to do something or to be someone that you're not okay that's what you're going to find so never under any circumstances ever try to be something that you're not it's going to Signal insecurity and potential in congruence so in congruence with a woman equals lack of an identity it truly equals lack of core identity which is not masculine so this is what you're going to find okay as a man if you do not have that core identity which only truly
comes from fulfilling your god-given purpose something will always be missing you will never feel like the masculine man that you were probably called to be so you need that god-given identity that core identity this is what women look for that you're strong and stable as a rock right you can't be moved you can't be changed you are who you are and you are who you say you are okay so let me give you an example here this is why women have literally zero problem leaving guys okay or exiting a relationship with men who are oftentimes
very handsome or very attractive men who are very good-looking men who generate a lot of let's say pre-election based off of how they look women have zero problem exiting the relationship with these guys because here's what happens she starts to get an in internal feeling that you don't know yourself she starts to get an internal feeling that you don't know yourself and then she feels like you actually need her in order to be complete she feels like you need her to be complete and what happens is it shows that you are not necessarily self-sufficient she's
going to go well why does he need me is he not self-sufficient is he not okay by himself is he not okay being alone without receiving that text message from me she feels like you need her to be complete okay she gets a internal feeling that you don't know yourself now hypergamy is not satisfied so here's what I'm trying to tell you you have to learn to really take a deep breath and to be patient okay and to let things happen and unfold in life organically at the pace that things just happen and that could
be in your job opportunities that could be in your career that you're trying to build that can be in a relationship with a woman that could be in a friendship whatever things just have to happen and unfold so women see you through far more than just the physical let me give you an example in this example over here at the gym she was probably very attracted to how he looked he looked like the bad boy right but what you don't see is what she's thinking and feeling from an internal level when she starts to see
how you act okay and how you act this is what I would call internal personality characteristics and how you act with those internal personality characteristics has to really match your core identity okay how you look has to be congruent with how you walk talk act and operate and how you look often times sends from your interests okay your sense of fashion how you carry yourself day-to-day in your Fitness and your nutrition habits right your career all of that ties in together into how you look and how you operate and how you are well if you
have Harmony or Synergy or congruence she sees that you have a core identity this is very important because here's the thing since women see you through far more than just how you look through the physical she's looking at your spirit she's looking at your strength okay and that translates to her looking at your ability to not need her yes it translates to her looking at your ability to not need her so here's what you're going to notice most of this that I'm teaching you here today will take time as you age and it will take
so much self-reflection as I've gotten older I've had to reflect on certain circumstances over the past 5 years and there's things I've handled terribly there's things I've done that were not good as far as how I handled the situation there's certain things that I've done um dayto day even where I wish my habits or my routine was different from time to time you have to make loads of mistakes in order to learn what not to do but it takes the wisdom to internalize and to self-reflect okay you have to have that wisdom and that comes
from growth so how I see the world today is far different than how I saw the world at age 21 or 22 so with age comes wisdom and you have to always on purpose okay because the wisdom only comes with the age if you're actually aware of these things you have to always self-reflect on each and every single situation you have to reflect okay so your in congruence will show always when you're putting on an act so what does that mean well that means a lot of times when guys want to interact with women they
think that they have to have a process right I believe you have to have a process I believe that the best process for a man to follow is called the language of women this is why I'm telling you you need to see this but you see when a guy comes into that process or when I help a guy copy that process into his dating life here's what he's going to find out in a quick hurry any form of game or any form of you know processes that you're following or any form of strategy any form
of this that you use here's what happens it cannot just be an act you have to slowly internalize until you become something more you have to internalize the things that you're doing until you build almost like a new version of yourself because if you're always just at surface level putting on an act right you know I can wear this type of clothing I can get this kind of tattoo and now she'll like me I can wear this type of necklace or jewelry and now she'll like me I can drive this kind of of car and
now she'll like me she will see the ACT whatever you're doing you have to internalize until you become something more and something stronger and this is how you grow this is how you actually become the type of man you want to be without having to just be stuck to surface level tactics so you'll see this at all levels with both men and women today in life it's not just men who you'll find in congruencies it's just people in general people in general this is what you'll find people will party every weekend just to fit in
even if they have no interest in doing it think about that for a second people will party just to fit in even if they have no interest in being there and they have no interest in doing those things okay people will also wear clothing just because they're in style that person might not even have an interest in that clothing but because everybody else is wearing it they buy it and they think that they need to keep up with the latest fashion trends people will buy cars that they have no interest in think about that one
okay just to conform to what they think that people want them to be now I wrote this in all capital letters right here so write this down on a sheet of paper if you need to so that way you remember lack of a core identity will always cause a man to be dumped heartbroken or cheated I'm going to say that one more time lack of a core identity will always cause a man to be dumped heartbroken or cheated you might be wondering why well why would that be Casey why would lack of my core identity
make me heartbroken dumped or cheated let me explain the reason why is because you're either trying to be what they want you to be you are either trying to be what she wants you to be or you are trying to be what you think you need to be okay instead of being what God wants you to be and that right there is the essence of the masculine spirit that you're going to have to figure out for yourself
