Once You Understand This.. Everything Changes - Sadhguru Motivational Speech

human experiences costed from within not from outside right now I'm going to abuse you in a language that you don't understand so I'm going to use some Indian language and abuse you with a smile on my face you think I'm saying something very sweet to you go ahead yes so my abuse is not hurting you at all it's only your reaction which is going to hurt you so in whichever language it is whatever nonsense it is it is only your reaction which hurts you not my words ever but you think my words are hurting you

this you must change within you you need to understand it's your compulsive reaction to life which hurts you not what other people are doing if somebody hurts you physically that's a different matter it's a survival issue you need to take care of that properly okay physical hurt is different physical pain is actually very good for you if there was no physical pain most people would not know how to survive so in that sense pain is good for them it prevents them from doing something absolutely destructive towards themselves so physical pain is a survival mechanism that's

a different aspect but rest of the pain is caused in their own mind I can cause physical pain to you but can I cause mental pain to you so if I initiate things in a language that you don't understand you're just fine so it is not my words are my actions which are causing pain to you it's your compulsive reaction yes which is causing that this is a beautiful concept but for a lot of people they develop these patterns of behavior and thinking that are very difficult to break so how does one come up with

the practices that would allow them to consistently and continually understand this and apply this to their life see uh the patterns are formed not only in the psychological structure the patterns are formed in the chemical structure of the body the patterns are formed in the energy structures of the body the patter patterns are formed in the karmic structures of one's system so the memory patterns establish themselves in every way and make you that kind of person all right but that that kind of person you are is something that you created unconsciously if you can create

something unconsciously you can also create the same thing consciously isn't it so you can fix the same thing consciously you mean no I'm saying if you create one kind of persona unconsciously yes you can also create another kind of persona consciously isn't it yes you can a conscious choice to create a healthy so right now because the patterns patterns are so well established it's like a rut in the Stree a road all right if there is a deep rut in the road even if you steer it this way it drags you that way yes so

that is what is happening in people because they have formed patterns strong patterns even if they once in a way think oh I must give up the drink they come off for 2 days and again they slip back into the same thing because there is a chemical pattern there's a karmic pattern there is a psychological pattern there is a compulsiveness built into the body itself the whole system so that is working that way there are various tools and Technologies as to how to break these patterns but they must be willing to subject themselves you can't

force them to do it it is not something by force it can only be done when somebody is willing when they have a genuine desire then there are tools if you do don't have the desire even if I give you the screwdriver you'll turn it the wrong way and tighten it further so what actions should someone take besides recognizing that the way they react to things is a conscious choice that they choose to either be upset or not be upset or to to react external go there don't go there see upset not upset that is

not the point no are you a conscious response or are you an unconscious uh compulsive reaction this is the only thing reaction or response response means right now I say something that you may not like mhm now you can respond the way you want not because of what I said right you continue to say what you want this is your response right you don't have to react if you react you in some way unknowingly you become enslave to me that's what a lot of people love to do right that's why they start fights they they

always reacting yes they think reacting is the way to live yeah well if you react you become somebody's slave I must I must tell you this on a certain day a yogi was coming this way coming to Joe Rogan show on the way somebody stopped him on the street and abused him in every possible way he listened to everything carefully not ignoring them listening to very alert listening to every word of abuse then he looked at the time and he said see I have a show I need to go I'll finish that and come back

if you have something more to say you can tell me then now these guys don't know what to do with him if these are that kind of people they will say 100 things if you say one thing they will next thing is they'll beat you but now if you say 100 things he says I'll come back for more you don't know what to do with him why he's like this is he's decided that he is the master of his destiny no matter who does what he will go where he wants to go int intelligent man

or no a man who goes where he wants to go no matter what anybody else is doing to him that is a smart man isn't it it's definitely a better choice than just being a reactionary if your reaction you'll go away their way yes somebody will take you their way somebody will take you this way somebody will take you that way such a person will they ever achieve anything that they wish to in their life who cares about your feelings almost no one maybe your parents if you're lucky enough but even then sometimes they value

their reputation or recognition from others more than your feelings and sometimes even your spouse can't fully share your emotions with you no matter how hard they try but no matter what don't blame your parents or your partner this is something you have to accept and internalize don't ever make yourself the victim why because emotions are a game it's a game designed uniquely for each person and every day we're all just figuring out how to play the emotional game we've created for ourselves when you live with a victim mindset you'll always feel frustrated wondering why no

one understands your feelings but if you shift your perspective and take control of the game you'll feel lighter instead of asking why don't they understand me ask yourself why not or why can't they do that take a deep breath because they're all busy dealing with their own emotional game in fact they might be struggling even harder than you and they probably ask themselves the the same victim questions why doesn't anyone understand me for example let's say a child doesn't listen to their mother the mother might say you don't understand my love for you you're making

me heartbroken and the child might respond you don't understand me either mom you're not letting me live my life the way I want two victim mentalities Collide and neither side understands the other to break this cycle you need to slowly let go of the belief that others must always understand your feelings whether it's at home work or out in the world no one has the time or energy to care about your feelings it's not that they don't care it's just that they have their own burdens to deal with when you cry how many people will

cry with you and when you're happy how many will genuinely share in your joy if you have people who do I truly congratulate you if you don't I also congratulate you because you've learned a deeper lesson you might think I'm being pessimistic about life but in reality this is just the way things are and sooner or later we all have to face it be kind still be respectful you can can care about others but don't expect them to care about you in the same way that's ignorance your emotions need to be nurtured and taken care

of by you no one else can do it for you no one can live your life for you no one has the responsibility for your emotions not even your parents or your spouse you have the right to feel whatever you feel anger Joy love frustration but at the end of the day when you lie down it's just you and your emotions your life is yours to manage whoever makes you sad or disappointed whether by accident or on purpose Let It Go move on because no matter what it's just you dealing with your emotions no one

is going to be there to feel sorry for you forever so stop seeing yourself as the victim [Music]