let me ask you an important question what do you really want most in life what do you want most in life money you want little piece of paper with pictures of dead people on it no you might want what you think money will give you what do you think money would give you Freedom security okay what else do you want love love how many want love in your life more love in your life whatever you tell me some people say I want to be closer to God some people say I want to make a billion
dollars some people say I want three perfect children what's in common the only reason you want anything is because you believe if you get that it will change how you feel you want the money because you think how you'll feel you say no no it's what I'll get know what you get will affect how you feel if you say I want to be closer to God cuz how you'll feel I want my children to be so happy why how does that make you feel when they're happy we think of ourselves in the Western World of
the mind but you're a hell of a lot more than your mind aren't you the mind is a tool that you should learn to use if you don't learn to use your mind it will use you and it doesn't usually make you happy your heart your emotions are what you're after and here's the most amazing thing every feeling you've ever wanted that you're achieving in your business for that you're building your family for that you're voting a certain way for that you're doing anything for is to either get out of a negative feeling or increase
or get a positive feel and here's the amazing thing how many of you can think of a goal you'd love to achieve that if you made it happen you'd be so happy how many of you have ever achieved a goal that you worked really hard for and after you achieved it your brain went is this all there is that's a horrible feeling isn't it failure feels better than that cuz when you fail you don't give up you just get up and find another way don't you but if you succeed and your still not happy you're
not what I call technically screwed right you don't want to be there how long did you stay happy 6 years a year 6 months 6 hours so here's the crazy thing you did all change how you feel at work for a little while and then you went back do you know they've done studies on people and they ask people around the world what is your number one fear and then they say what would be the greatest gift or surprise the greatest gift that most people in the Western World say is to win the lottery it's
the number one answer hundreds of million dollars it changed my life the number one thing people say that would scare them the thing that would be the worst thing to happen would become a quadriplegic now interestingly enough they've done studies on people win the lotteries and done studies on people are quad plgics and one thing they found out was really interesting 3 years after either winning the lottery or becoming a quadriplegic who do you think is happier the quadriplegic or the person who won $100 million lottery which one well it's kind of a trick question
it's kind of a setup right neither one is more happen because after three years their brains adjust the person who can't even move if they move their finger they now get excited by that if they're not drugged and the person who you know was in a position whether when the lottery has all these people want something from them and they're usually fairly angry they return to the same level of Happiness they were before for so how do you and I have an extraordinary quality of life we learn that what we get will not make us
happy not long term who we become will make you very happy or very sad long term and so the purpose of a goal is what it makes of you but also if you learn to use your body the right way these emotions you want most you're can to have right now when you finally achieve that goal who's going to make you feel like that who's going to make you feel that way when that happens when you achieve the goal who you so if that's true why wait I hear people all the time say things like
man this is the most horrible thing in the world this is so terrible someday someday I know we'll look back and we'll laugh about this I say why wait let's look back and laugh now so in order to do that you have to understand a very fundamental principle and that is that the way you feel is controlled by two things what you focus on and what you do with your body the way you move is the most powerful piece now when I say the way you move I include your voice your face all that this
area of your face right here has 37 muscles but if you keep making the same facial expressions you keep having the same biochemistry you keep feeling the same feelings but if you change your facial expression change your movement Everything Changes is it possible to have a really magnificent beautiful life and not feel it is it possible have lots of people love you and you not feel loved is it possible for you to have tremendous abundance but feel scarcity inside of course because you can override all this with your mind if you don't learn to use
your body so success doesn't guarantee fulfillment in fact listen to me now success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure so if you want a better life we got to train ourselves to use our body not just while I'm telling you here but to develop some new simple habits that'll make you feel this way all the time and so problems can happen you're like bring it to me I know a lot of people who have a great life but they never celebrate how many have done this how many of you have ever had something happen where
you really achieved something great you were really excited but you toned it down around other people because you don't want to make them feel bad but you know here's what happens when you have a great success and then you try to make yourself not feel too happy or excited around other people does that make things better for them no does it make them better no does it make it grow no but here's what it does do it teaches your brain it's not good to be too happy and then that becomes a habit so even when
you succeed you never fully celebrate so I've worked with so many multi-billionaires that come to me and they're miserable or people that are people you think would be the happiest people in the world very famous celebrities in music or in movies or athletes and they're miserable inside because they don't celebrate so Michael Phelps a good friend of mine also Michael Phelps has more gold medals than most countries and he was depressed all the time cuz he' get to the goal and just achieve it and like oh I have to do it again so one of
the things we had to learn was how to train his nervous system to actually celebrate cuz he didn't celebrate for long celebrate for a second work his life for8 years and then celebrate for a millisecond so let's try a little experiment what if you developed a new belief and your new belief was I don't need an excuse to feel good you go well that sounds stupid just to be happy for no reason well really most people are unhappy for no reason how's it going feel like how come woke up but if you how you feel
I'm feeling so good why do you feel good I don't know I just feel good take that person to the funny farm right there's something wrong with them so I'm telling you there's something wrong with us in our culture which has caused us to not celebrate and feel more alive cuz by the way when you're in a great state you treat other people better or worse better or worse when you're in a great state do you perform at a higher level or a lower level which one higher level when you're in a great state you're
better in every way so it's not about being positive it's about being intelligent it's stupid to allow yourself to stay in aous state you go Tony but with all the problems in the world by you going in a lousy State doesn't make any problem get solved it lowers your energy so you'll do nothing about about it so it's our job to train ourselves [Music]
