Balancing Your Feminine and Masculine Energy | Alexi Panos | The Higher Self #63

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right into it Alexi panel say hello hi so great to be here who's with you yeah this is cool this is cool by the way I don't even know what we're gonna talk about yet which is the best which is the best because we're gonna flow yeah and it's gonna be authentic and real and raw and That's always the best absolutely and I just got the sense to start with we both moved from California yeah here to Austin Texas God bless you if you live wherever you live but one of the things that I mentioned

to you is that energy in location is a very real thing yeah it's undeniable when you get here to Austin for those of you coming to awake and you can genuinely feel it at the airport it just feels different right and so I'd love to just get your take on Not only energy and location but the energy of the people you surround yourself with the energy of food the only energy of who you are as a human being when I mention energy what comes up energy for me it's the context of the universe saying yes

right so for me it's am I in alignment with my yes with a greater yes around me um without that sounding too because it can I'm a very earthy grounded person What that can mean is realistically so I'm in Austin I moved here because there were certain things for my family certain things I valued certain um life experiences I wanted to have and so I set my life up for the the environment to be conducive to what's already happening and I believe that everything is infinitely happening so whatever you're a yes to It can happen

but the environment has to be set up to be conducive for that right that's right so we're in La I've got a family I'm pregnant with twins at the time we're starting to look for houses to buy investment properties and it's like oh something's not feeling right just want something more grounded I want something more earthy I want um just different values right and L.A is great love LA but I grew up in a small town so I love me some like good old-fashioned Small town values especially when it comes to family I've got four

little kids so Austin just had this feeling of it was like an emergence of spiritual energy an emergence of authentic like people living their life and actually being true to where they're at and not trying to position or prop or prove themselves for sure and I don't know there's just something for where I'm presently at two years ago When I moved here my husband our family that was like we need this this is going to open up an emergence of what is begging to come through but the conditions aren't right in La for wow so

that energetically is what we do with our food it's what we do with what we consume it's what we do with our people in our lives um I mean everything from podcasts I listen to to books I read to how I wake up and spend my first hour all of that Is conducive to the energy that wants to emerge through it's you know what and this is and I wanna I don't want to go into this here because number one I remember being a place in my life where I didn't know that there was such

a thing as this doesn't feel right right I just did what I did right you know I was in relationships that I was just supposed to be in right had friends that well these are just my friends I've had them forever yeah I've had them forever So this is just the way it is so it's like it it didn't allow room for any sort of growth or any sort of transformation inside of me and as a result you know I feel like so many people when they reach out and they say how do I change

my life you know I think it starts by you just being awakened to the fact that your answers are within you so when you were looking for a home there was something that wasn't feeling Right that caused you to say where else yeah you know what what else is it yeah right yes one of the myths that people buy into is life is exactly the way it is and there's nothing I can do about it because this is just the way it is so that's a hard one to buy it is right that's a hard

one to live by absolutely oh man yeah and I know it well I did it for a long time for sure and this is what causes people to stay stuck right yeah and yet what you said is we were Looking for a home and something didn't feel right and so my my question for you is how do people and I'm going to say this and and women because that is a woman's truest power superpower is your intuition yeah how do you tap more into your intuition well first you gotta exit the premises up here you

know I know for me being a woman in a very male-dominated world I was very much in my head very much success driven goals priorities productivity Usefulness very much in the masculine mind and I still am there's nothing wrong with that but I also activated a deep connection to my body which I think most women especially but also men are very disconnected from their bodies right we're we're on screens all day we're listening to things watching things constantly talking ding ding ding ding ding on our phone we're never taking the time to go right Center

Point Body how am I feeling what's going on what's what's happening right so for me being in touch with my body is what had me connect to those conversations of like oh this doesn't feel good in this friendship what else is possible oh this doesn't feel good in this relationship maybe I'm not speaking my needs having those types of conversations that Force us to get radically honest with ourselves and where we're at start with getting Radically honest with what's going on inside or what's lacking from in here and in order to do that we have

to be connected in order to do that we have to be less distracted so it's you know it's all the things absolutely but most of us are too distracted I would say so so I'm gonna chime in on that one it's it's so interesting that you use that word distracted because I remember when I moved here um this is where the TV was supposed to Go and as a matter of fact behind this painting there's actual there's the wires that stuff and I and I and I came in and I thought you know what this

is a season for me to not own a TV right this is a season for me to just like be with me you know that was a large distraction for me and then you're gonna get a kick out of this because the universe always tries to test us right well we always try to test ourselves our future self tries to always test our Mile cells right so right after I made the decision someone walked in and goes you're not gonna have a TV there like with the face and everything right yeah and I was like

does it yeah I know well what happens when the kids come over well what happens when you know they get bored what happens well you know we'll find a way yeah and and we get so easily distracted right what do you think one of our listeners who might be listening right now that Were that resonated with them could do to get undistracted or to become aware that they are distracted um well to become aware that you're distracted and this is going to take it a cut deeper but I think we could go there okay how

do I want to frame this a lot of people most people self-included and this is the work I'm up to right now We Outsource our power to something outside of ourselves right so this is a form of distraction oh my partner my marriage my husband my wife if they don't love me this way then I don't feel fill in the blank oh my job if it's not being successful or hitting these numbers or if I have this amount of clients then I'm not worthy or then I'm good enough once I hit it all of that

is a form of distraction as well and what it's distracting us from is our ultimate Divine self Source yeah right we are the infinite source of everything Unlimited Supply right but the more we keep Outsourcing our power to something outside of ourselves the more we're stuck the more we're handing the keys out and saying here you take those I've built a prison for myself and you tell me when I can step out right and so work can be a distraction relationship can be a distraction family can be a Distraction anything can be a distraction if

you are Outsourcing your power to something outside of yourself so that's like the deeper cut right but if we want to talk just like TV and phones and all that cut it out like what you said put like do a detox 30 days 60 days for me I did it I used to be one of those people that was like 24 hours you'll get a response from me via text email whatever now it could be months it could be never Because that is not something I prioritize anymore and that took time for me to get

to so true but it started with a detox and what I realized was I was like man I put so much value on being dependable and being somebody that like response times you know like I'm a Virgo so I'm like my response time is always great and I said man that's that's me handing my my keys going here you tell me when and I'll respond instead of what do I Actually value well I value presence in life well what would allow me to be more present and engage with my real life oh not my phone

right so my phone's always on silent all my apps social apps are gone don't have them on my phone I don't even know my logins I maybe log in here and there to do stuff um text messages I'll respond when I respond if I respond email say beautiful and you know a lot of people don't like that but it's not their life it's mine And my children will know their mother not their mother looking down at the her phone wow you know so that's something that it's radical in today's world I feel like I feel

like crazy but it's true it's so true think about you know I actually heard um Danielle Laporte was did a podcast years ago I was pregnant with my first child who's now four almost five and it said it was basically the idea was about you only have a certain amount of time With your kids when they're this young like don't Outsource that like be there for it because it goes so fast and I took that on I listened to it and that's what made me consider like do I do I want to be as on

my phone as I am right now as on technology as on social media and the answer is no and so I just trusted that and I had a lot of people a lot of people scarcity come to me and say well aren't you worried you've got all this momentum like aren't you scared That if you're gonna lose and it's like on the contrary no because you step into your power exactly I'm like what momentum am I losing I'm actually gaining more of myself I'm taking my power back I'm more potent more powerful because I'm present

to life the magic of Life The Mysteries of Life the little tiny moments that when I do teach my teaching is that much more potent absolutely because I'm not diluting my energy everywhere so so distractions Find out where your energy is just being leaked left and right and cut it off that's up to us but then really think about where in your life you're handing your power out maybe it's your bank account your partner your clients your Instagram following and take that [ __ ] back yeah take it back you know what's so interesting when

we talk about Instagram I remember there was a point where like I couldn't function if I didn't respond to people within like 10 Minutes wow so I I want to respond right because that's what felt Noble and true and correct to me yes and yeah like and now it's like I don't I don't I don't like right I can't respond or the team responder I'm not even involved right because it just was robbing me of of so much of my my power and I I have this question for you I I recently came face to

face with something that I didn't realize was so missing from my life I flew out to London I hung out with my girlfriend's family for the first time at night and I noticed that they all cooked together have dinner together yeah cleaned up together and I'll be honest with you I thought I was because like there was like a special arrest you know so I said this happens once a year right so this is like because I'm here right and she's like no this is just the way we do things wow and I'm like no

way we never sat down as a family we never Did any of that right and so my question for you is this version of Alexi is she here today because she was raised to be this way or did something happen in her life where she made a a shift yeah and and like for many of us who awaken yeah was there an Awakening moment for you so many and and also I was raised a certain way too so it's both Anne okay I definitely come from like the Greek side of my family it's very traditional

we owned a Greek restaurant we had big Family dinners like all my cousins my aunt Uncle grandparents my great aunts like everyone was there every day right so it was like extended family meal every day right um so family means a lot to me for sure but I also had two parents that were entrepreneurs so they worked all the time and a family of entrepreneurs that worked all the time so it was always relating in the context of work and so what promise I made myself for my kids Is I wanted to be around more

I wanted to be present I wanted to have fun and not that my parents didn't do that but it was few and far between right um so that's how I was raised but Awakening moments so many I mean we could start at 11 when I recognize that I thought differently than most people in my small town because I had a father who studied martial arts and Eastern philosophy and Western philosophy and my mom who is a psychiatrist who thought Differently about the world and people and I was reading Tony Robbins at 11 and 12 while

people were reading Catcher in the Rye and it's like I don't want to read that stuff I want to read this stuff you know I did my first Tony event at 16 I did Landmark Education 18 to 21. um travel the world singing with a major music artist as an opening act from essentially 17 to 21. so I lived a very crazy life and a very different life very early and I got a taste of what Fame can do and produce which was not always great I got to see behind the veil of some of

the most successful people in music at that time and well that was an incredible opportunity for me to travel the world and discover my inner artist and try things that I never most people in their life will never get to try um it also was a big wake-up call like I have to live in alignment with my truth and this isn't my truth and I don't want To get stuck chasing something outside of myself money Fame significance because I see what it causes at a detriment I saw people who had everything all the wealthy could

want I mean Yachts airplanes all the things that were miserable and slowly suffocating themselves with everything that they achieved because they felt like they had to keep it up but they were miserable and so I always because of that I always wanted to continue to check in with myself and say what's true for me right now because the ego's tricky right like I've always wanted to make an impact and do things I started a non-profit early on when I was 20 and still have it so I've been doing great things in the world but the

ego is tricky even in those things right like oh I'm making an impact and doing this stuff but but from where you know and I had to catch myself a few Times like oh I'm doing this from a place of proving still like my 20s were largely about proving something to myself and it wasn't the world I was trying to get approval from it was me you know like am I worthy of this do I matter am I making a difference and I wasn't really ready to answer those questions until about 30. and then that's

a whole different Journey you know yeah for sure yeah and when you when you speak about you know or when You mention the word Journey I've got to ask you because most all of our guests here have in some way shape or form Journey with plant medicine yes I have and so you know we have we're the weirdos of society I know that we're doing the evil stuff yeah we we know that the opposite is actually true yeah and for anyone that's triggered by it like I used to be really triggered by it oh my

God so was I so triggered I Thought you were the devil yeah I was just like I was like oh this is like oh so you're basically a druggie that says it's Edison like cool I hope you're having fun rationalizing that to yourself like that was my judgment right and the truth is like for anyone that feels like a tinge of judgment great that's that's a teacher for you you know maybe it's that you have a conversation with someone that's done it maybe it's you sit in a ceremony yourself and do it In a light

way to introduce yourself to it because it is truly incredible yeah when done with intention with the right people in the right context and it can also be horrible depending on where you do it and what context and intention you're doing it from so you know it's easy to judge from a high horse but if you really want to know get in the game and find out yeah how did it help you man my first so it was my 30th get to myself For my 30th birthday I went to Peru Ayahuasca had been like calling

me which sounds so crazy but everyone's like you'll know yeah it's very true yeah that's true um and it it was like yes I get to go and my friend had been sitting in ceremony she is a flight attendant traveled a lot to South America and had been sitting in ceremony and it was always a no no no no no until It was a it's time and so I went and I just got my ass kicked like first time first so did I kick oh my God and it's so funny because everyone I had spoken

to was like it's so beautiful and I'm like everyone lied you know and I'm sitting here going okay something's wrong something's wrong because it's supposed to be beautiful it's supposed to be what it you know but it was in hindsight yes it was yeah it was yes why did it kick my ass because I Had a massive ego death because because you needed oh yeah and I saw all the places in myself in my lineage in my work that I was hiding that I was people pleasing that I was uh positioning or posturing I saw

the parts of my heart that I was hiding and like keeping clothes off and I had to purge all of that and it was intense yeah so intense but what's interesting at the end of that ceremony the plant basically said we're done here Your work now is to find me without me and so I was actually in Peru to do like a three session back-to-back thing and I just did the one and I was done get out of here yeah and so since then I have worked with other medicines um very lightly but it it

has been my work to find that space so I find it through movement I find it through breath work I find it through all these different portals but I can find it a lot faster because I've been there like I have a touch point right so I'm not someone that sits in ceremony a lot um and when I do it's super light maybe once or twice a year and not with Ayahuasca where her and I our work is done for now and she said when it's time if it's time you'll know yeah but my work

truthfully is how do I activate because again if I give my power to Ayahuasca or plant medicine then I'm just waiting for the next ceremony to be enlightened right Versus I am the source of that Ayah is is the thing that helps activate activate right but we have that within us breathwork activates that if you've ever had an incredible breath work just as powerful oh my gosh if not more yeah right yeah same thing with movement so I do all these different somatic practices breath work practices movement practices so that I can learn to activate

that which is already within me absolutely right create the conditions to activate That which is already within you and around you so that I can live more from that space of being someone who's awakened and enlightened whatever the hell that means right right you know I think that definition changes for me daily right right you know it's uh thank you for sharing that um and and I and I say that because I was just sharing this with someone just about a week ago okay you know um I I now well I don't think I can

say This on camera but but whenever I have the opportunity to help people find their way to the medicine yeah I I share with them the possibility yes um but you know for me myself I don't feel called to sit anymore interesting and I don't feel called to sit and that's with Ayahuasca or even with mushrooms yeah you know I don't feel called to sit because life has become the medicine that's the truth and I'm talking like I have medicine like experiences in relationship in yoga sometimes in in leading the Retreats that I lead or

the events that I lead where it's literally like I'm having ego deaths yes you know pretty continuous yeah you know yeah and so it's really awesome to hear that because I remember and it's so true which is that remember when I first sat with the medicine and I saw people that had gone 35 or 40 times oh yeah and I thought this thought like That's too much it's their Journey sure it's their Journey sure but I also have come to realize that the medicine just wants to activate within you everything that's already inside of you

yeah I love that I love that you're listening to that right yeah and the message here is is you know don't not do it but listen again it's listening like what's true for you everyone's so different and I think sounds like you're in a chapter of life that's giving you a lot of Opportunities for that growth Edge for sure and if you're already there like take it right you know some people again are distracting with plant medicine Journeys or ceremonies because life is hard and that's a way to kind of get out of it for

a second and then come back in and feel inspired but what changes right right right so I really resonate with that because I'm I'm kind of just coming out of but still navigating one of the more challenging chapters of my life and I'm getting so many opportunities to be with my ego to be with myself in a powerful way what was what was so challenging and what it's just up level like Preston and I so my littlest is he just turned one I assume thank you I'll say that again just in case so my littlest

just turned one and you know four kids under four I've been in like Mom family you've been pregnant for pregnant breastfeeding birthing for a while for a while five years yeah yeah Um so it's been intense right and at the same time running multi multi multi-million dollar companies um and then being a woman and having a life and all the things but in saying that Preston and I have been in this like cataclysmic growth right we've just been like boom business is going great life is going great more kids moving to Austin building a house

buying investment properties building a few more businesses like we've just been Growing growing growing and growing and it's beautiful and there's a bit of survival mode in that right when you're head down like all right we're just gonna get through this next launch and then boom oh now we're pregnant surprise okay we're gonna get through this and then boom so survival mode is a real thing you know your your nervous system is essentially in fight flight or free or freeze or fix right so we recognize that Oh man like we as a unit haven't really

come together and like nurtured this thing in a while you guys us yeah we've nurtured the businesses we've nurtured the kids we've nurtured the Investments we've nurtured our community but hey what about us right you know and so earlier this year him and I just we kind of had that wake-up call where it's like hey we should check out under the rug and anything that's been swept under there Because we've been so in survival mode and so busy like let's look at it let's clear it let's talk about our needs that aren't being met let's

talk about our next chapter like what do we want you know he's he's early 40s I'm gonna be 40 next year and it's like okay how do we want to do the next chapter of life like do we still choose this and it's a real conversation that I think a lot of couples maybe are crazy to have yeah yeah and and we were kind of forced into It because I think the pile under the rug just got so big that we started tripping over it you know it's like we should probably we should probably do

something nice right and so we did and it's hard you know it's hard to um just have those conversations with someone that you love someone that you've built so much with to talk about like hey here's where I'm not happy hey here's where I'm not happy and it's like talk about ego death right talk about Like oh [ __ ] I'm not doing it right or I could be doing it better and then they're self-beat up and judgment and shame and all the things and then there's Love and Hope and possibility and growth so it's

just like equally [ __ ] hard challenging crazy time where everything has to die in order for something to be built and we're calling this chapter R 2.0 you know like 1.0 is great but we're actually like redoing like marriage vows and just everything Like we're re-choosing back in because we don't have to like beautiful we could co-parent really well together you know because I think that's what makes I remember being married and I remember being unhappily married you know for a very long time yeah and I I didn't feel like I had a choice

yeah and I didn't feel like I had a choice because of a couple of paradigms that I was living under at that time one of them was the Pressures of society right of course right I had we had a big business people look up to us you know we were like the ones that had it all we had it all figured out right yeah what are people gonna think right oh we know that one you know you know what I'm saying that that was one and then the second one which which is I think a

very difficult one is religion you know religion was brutal like like kicked my ass for a long time Because everything I believe the I believe you know love me or hate me or whatever it's just the truth religion is the anti-you it's the anti-you as a human being it's the anti-you and your personal power because again your power is outsourced to this entity that gets to say and dictate what you do and what you don't do how you feel and how you don't feel and what you think of the future and what you expect this

life to be like yeah it's really profound yeah Yeah yeah and did you grow up in it I grew up uh so indoctrinated indoctrinated oh yeah indoctrine first it was Catholicism yeah so I was an altar boy in the whole thing wow and then I thought like I was free and I was upgraded into Christianity right right and then you know even that was like you know the religion is love yeah and that's it yeah that's it yeah and you don't need a preacher you don't need to go anywhere on Sundays it's just it's Love

Yeah but I bring that up because you know for so many human beings out there The Matrix the system has them so wrapped up in this notion that they have to do something right you get to choose whatever it is you're free people right you're free to do and become and live however it is that you want to live once you accept yourself as a free being and when you are free it's so beautiful you get to have conscious conversations like the one you in person had which it was So profoundly powerful how powerful for

a couple to be able to say we don't have to do this yeah and and that was it was like this moment where we're like wait we could actually like cope we can still run our businesses we could do all this like really well because we're friends we can still be friends we love each other right but do we choose that why and to choose back in when there's a lot of like cleaning up to do it's pretty radical like I know for Myself I have all this shame of like choosing back in on something

am I just choosing back in for the kids and I just should and I have to really sit with myself like no I'm choosing I'm not even choosing in for him I'm choosing him for the opportunity for me wow and like that it's been mind-blowing for me like to really sit with that it's like this isn't for my marriage this isn't for my family this is for an edge for me it's my medicine right I came here in this Life to really experience what it means to receive and give love and I I don't feel

like I've maxed out on that yet beautiful wow I'll be honest like there's so many barriers still to my heart and I've done so much work and I live this stuff and I teach this stuff and I still find places where I'm hiding out or I'm afraid or I'm closing when I could be opening and like that's my opportunity here is and I know Preston feels the same and that's what I just Got it too I totally felt that I totally feel that's what we've been talking about it's like do we do we say yes

to this opportunity because him and I like we're so so amazing together and we also trigger the [ __ ] out of each other you know because we're so opposite but we're like the perfect triggers right right and so there's just so much opportunity for us to heal what our parents couldn't heal and their parents couldn't heal and we've got four beautiful kids it's like Let's heal the [ __ ] for them and let's also heal it for us to be able to live like this was our first tattoo infinite love that P and I

both got and it was a download in my brain of like ah this is it this is why we're here together yeah and it's Landing for me now in so many more ways than I ever thought because I'm like what does it actually mean to be infinite in my love Yeah am I giving and my recipients like mind-blowing hey friends I got good News and bad news the good news is awaken is sold out the bad news is if you didn't get your ticket my heart is broken that you're not coming but listen I've got

more good news I want you to go right now to dannymorrell.com backslash awaken and sign up to be notified because we are about to release the dates for the next awaken and I'm telling you right now you're going to want to be a part of this list I'm going to give you guys like a one-time offer The very first week and that we announce it that you have to take advantage of and it's gonna sell out again based off of all the messages we're getting right now so go to Danny morrell.com backslash awaken and if

you're coming I'll see you there if not I'll see you at the next one you know it's so incredible um I'm in a new relationship right now and um and she caught something and you know in many ways she's my medicine you Know as I am for her absolutely I've seen her I've Seen Her Go from like high masculine defense mechanism like my heart is not available to anyone to just like this just okay okay baby whatever you want but but it's beautiful because she knows she's safe with me yeah I know yeah that's awesome

you know and it's in little things that you know she's doing the same for me yeah like sometimes you know she will like rub my back you know and I'll start falling asleep and feel Peace and then wake up and go wait a minute why are you still doing this ah it's a trip right right of course of course she's doing it because she loves you not because there's an exchange exactly right you get that right but when you're just one night when you're not used to being loved in that way that's your ego that's

an eagle death yeah you know for those of you who are listening whoever ever thought what is an eagle death and ego death is this Protection mechanism that you've been holding on to for so long that slowly gets the chance to just go and it's just one level closer to your heart right man yeah we just hopped out of the shower one day yeah we hopped out of the shower and she grabbed the towel and she like put it over me and even thinking about me gets me like uncomfortable yeah but it's like what's wrong

with that nothing nothing at all it's just the ability to receive that Kind of love and that kind of care and I had to just let myself be in that moment it's beautiful I love that you're sharing that because what I'm hearing is that the initial resistance of like can I trust this what is this what's the ulterior motive like what does this mean like now do I have to give something back it's all the stories versus can I just be present to the love and that is that's so human like I there's so many

moments in myself where I see myself doing that where it's like there's this like moment of intimacy and then the ego's like too close that's right do something that's right that's right that's right right and it shows up for us all differently but what a beautiful thing to just witness it and catch yourself and choose love in the Moment Like that's that's my work right now it's like oh I'm doing the thing okay what do I choose instead what am I committed to right right yeah and so for For people who have a hard time

with this you know um I talk all the time about our ego and our defense mechanisms right were created based off of pain or wounding or trauma or whatever that happened in our past including stuff that is generational oh yeah right you know for someone who's out there says you know I get this all the time how do I start like where do I begin like I I can only imagine myself six years ago Hearing us speak being like how are these [ __ ] people able to process all the things it sounds crazy what

what like you know I'm just you're not just being honest right like for someone who has yet to really open themselves up to to to to to Life's beautiful Journey that says all right this this is magical like the fact that you guys are even able to talk like this yeah where do they begin well the biggest thing is you want to Look at places where you're resentful like that's the the big one for me that's where we're handing our power away to something else if you're resenting someone or something or the government or your

boss or Society or inflation or your partner whatever it is look at the areas where you're holding resentment at or to something else that is an area where you are deferring your power out that is an area where you can go okay what is it that I'm looking for That I'm not getting and then how can I give that to myself like it's such a simple thing but I find even people who have been in the work for 20 plus years myself included that's the thing I'm still working on when I feel myself going oh

I wish that this person would X Y and Z okay what do you actually need I need certainty okay how can I provide certainty to myself I can take a deep breath I can feel my feet on the ground I can feel the sun on My face I'm certain I'm alive in this moment okay just that trains my nervous system to go your Save Right the more your nervous system feels safe the less it goes into hyper vigilance around your life where it's like go go go go I have to prove I have to get

safety or it checks out and goes this is too much and we go into a depressive state right so nervous system safety is really like it sounds so complex because it is it's science it's your whole like electrical Wiring but it's actually so simple if you can provide yourself with safety and certainty and love and worthiness here then you stop doing it out here and looking for money to make you feel that your partner to make that make you feel that the world X Y and Z so that's something that's huge second thing get in

a community get in a community get in a community get in a community why because you can read all the books listen to all the podcasts you can know All the things but if you're not living in a different way it doesn't mean anything right it's just what I call mental masturbation you're just like oh my God this is so great I'm so inspired ah right but if your life's not changing what's the point yeah you're you're you're just you know doing it to please your brain which is great but for me in community is

where my because I'm a researcher I'm an investigator like that's a part of my my Blueprint so I went deep in I read all the books and did all the things and but it was still a way for me to hide the more I knew the more I knew that I didn't have work to do because I knew a lot right first is when I got into community and relationship intimate relationship all my stuff started coming up I couldn't hide anymore I hired mentors to call me all my [ __ ] and to like hold

Amir up and say hey I'm gonna call you forward here because You're saying all the right things but you're not an embodiment of it and it was like let's talk about ego death it's like what do you mean I'm not doing it perfectly but truthfully Community is where I leveled up because it forced me to get honest about what was actually showing up not the idea of myself that I thought was showing up because I had a feedback loop and that feedback loop is it's the way it's the hard way it sucks sometimes but it's

the only way because We can't really see ourselves objectively yeah and that has created more humility more humility creates more space for learning more space for embodiment um just more space for growth beautiful I love it and specifically to the women listening you know you're someone who you're a business owner you're a mother you're a wife you're on your own personal Journey how If you could give advice to you know the woman who is trying to find that balance between her masculine and her feminine yeah because it's something that I cover a lot not intentionally

but yeah it just it just comes up you know that re-harmonization that realignment um and and I love when I'm sitting with women like you who are doing it all what message would you have for our female listeners who say you know I want to have a business but I want to be a Wonderful wife but I want to be a wonderful one like I want to I want to be at all yeah well there's so many ways that I could answer this I'll start with something that um I think I learned about it in

the big leap I think it was that book glass balls and rubber balls right so we can juggle but there's certain balls that are rubber that will bounce if you let it go but there are certain balls that are glass And if you let those go you're gonna lose them yeah so you have to know what's glass and what's rubber for me Glass Family partnership although I let my partnership be glass and thinking it was Rubber and it was like oh I got it we're good we're good we're good we realized oh actually that shattered

a long time ago and now we've got a piece of back together and then we're like oh screw it let's just get a whole new one that's Why we're calling it 2.0 right so glass balls rubber balls you can have it all but not all at the same time right so you have to know what to prioritize and when very important second piece balancing the masculine and feminine this is interesting because I think there's a lot of damage that women do to themselves as it relates to society as well like kind of saying oh I'm

too masculine or I'm too this or I'm too That and we're punishing ourselves we're just punishing ourselves for not being there yet or fixed or perfect balance or whatever the case may be the truth is we're all being masculine and feminine all the time you just have to focus on it right so find the places where you are feminine find the places where you are in your creative mind your creative expression your movement your body your receivership find those places and celebrate them spend time on them focus On them amplify them more and then the

places where you're a little more structured and masculine and the way your brain works is a little more kind of pragmatic maybe you can pull back on that or Outsource that to somebody else but the truth is when we're hyper masculine it's usually because our feminine doesn't feel safe that's right right so again this goes back to nervous system so if you really want to find that like you know lateral place where Everything can exist in harmony it's a safety within yourself that you have to start cultivating and I used to say well my feminine

doesn't feel safe in this relationship or my feminine doesn't feel safe in this business partnership and it was still me being a victim and blaming right it's so powerful or you just said it's crazy and again like the ego's tricky it keeps me going oh still my power's out there so the minute you change or the minute this structure Changes or the minute the patriarch or patriarchy changes then I'll feel safe and is it true that all that could change and it could affect things absolutely yeah yeah but why am I waiting for that to

change when I am the source of everything I could change Within Myself and feel Sovereign in my being safe in my being totally in control in my being no matter what I'm facing I could be standing across from the most punishing presence in the world But if I'm taking care of myself I don't need this person to take care of me that's right and so that's been a huge wake-up call for my feminine is I was the one betraying my feminine the whole time me because I was waiting for them to fix it so that

my feminine could feel safe meanwhile that's my job and so that's my invitation for most women is we are deferring our sense of safety to something outside of ourselves be it our partners be it our money be it whatever It is our turn now if we truly want full empowerment we've got to take care of ourselves we've got to tell ourselves you are worthy you are so worthy of being held you are so worthy of being loved and I am going to give that to you relentlessly until you believe it I love me I love

it yeah yeah it's huge so powerful you just said so much truth in that little five minutes you know and it's I go like this with my hands because it's So often the truth is so simple so and so profoundly powerful yes so hard to accept yeah because we'd rather it be somebody else's fault somebody else's responsibility somebody else is doing yeah fix it for me fix absolutely but the fact of the matter is is that the only one that can fix it is you yeah and it's it's hard it's hard to hear that like

especially and I'm a woman who has been a victim to certain sexual crimes And I I have of I have been a victim it's real it's real I'm not discounting that you know I think there's a lot of people absolutely personal development there's like you're never a victim no you can be a victim in physical circumstances Yeah but whether or not you choose to be a victim in your mind is your choice and that's that was a hard thing for me to get you know that's still like a recent thing that I'm getting it's like

oh it's it's neat it's Just it's me it's me it's me it's me and it's all an opportunity for me yeah life is going to keep disappointing you until you take your power back from life and say okay I got me and then life can't disappoint you because you got you that's right and that's it absolutely that's hard and it's hard man it's hard because we live in a society that is set up to celebrate oh absolutely absolutely and it's set up to remind you and use and Trigger that that victim in you I Mean

even marketing right like we look at like the makeup and beauty industry oh sure it needs you to believe you're not enough absolutely it needs you to believe that you need to get this injection and that procedure an X Y and Z in this outfit and you got to look like a Kardashian in order to be worthy it's like says who says who right if you say so then yes absolutely then you're right absolutely yeah I love it so I'm gonna I want to end with this but this Is going to be powerful and it's

gonna feel like we're not ending because it's not going to open up a whole nother account you know so um one of my mentors taught me that there's three energies of human Mastery and if you can Master these three like you are you're in Bliss yeah the first one is money the second one is food and the third one is sex ah right your your most intimate relationships with your Partner facts it it shows you so much about you facts like big time Big facts yeah fun with money okay when I say money and I

say mastering the energy of money what comes up well to me energy is currency right money is currency currency flows so where am I blocking the flow of that right I I my friends all know this like you have the craziest abundance mindset ever I do because I just truly believe that it's all here like it's just all Here for all of us not just for me for everybody everybody it's for everybody and most people my joke is like most people are holding up a pen and they're like all right this is my receiver tube

I'm ready to receive yeah right and for me I'm like there's no limit no like I don't even have a bucket right I'm just like I'm fully like yes rain on me I I'm not in resistance to money that's right so for me money is Just Energy and I'm a yes to my energy I'm constantly again Checking in how's my energy feeling circling back all the way to the beginning of our conversation we are have to be responsible for our own energy that energy is a frequency that frequency attracts or if it repels exactly so

most people aren't even aware of the frequency that they're emitting and they're going why am I not making money well let's look at your energy right right and your belief system so when you're blaming Trump or you're Blaming Biden yeah you're blaming the economy or you blaming or you're even paying attention to any of it good luck good luck you're not going to get my good luck yeah good luck with your money absolutely right and that's the thing is if you and it's not just like a belief right it's it's a knowing a lot of

people say okay I'm gonna do affirmations I'm gonna do exponentsy it's like yeah dude I was gonna say that because when you use the word beliefs it Was like even you know your energy in it I was gonna but it's not a belief it's annoying and that's it your energy has to be so certain like I know my name I'm so certain of my name that there's you can't convince me otherwise that's how I feel about money I'm so certain that there's an abundance in infinite Supply how do I know nature look at a strawberry

I literally was looking at a strawberry the other day I was sitting with Preston I was like look at the Strawberry it's all these seeds this is just one strawberry it's not even two strawberries it's an infinite amount of strawberries because one seed on a strawberry all those seeds could plant a whole Orchard of strawberries which compounds compounds compounds it's endless absolutely nature is that we are nature why would I think I'm anything different that's simple yeah that's it that's simple you either choose to know it or not that's it beautiful I love That the

second one is uh food food so I have an interesting relationship with food because again it's energy right so I have a sweet tooth and I like certain things and I don't deprive myself of anything for you right so I believe the energy that I meet my food with is how it'll enter my body so I don't eat my food with like guilt I'm gonna eat this thing and what does that mean and how many calories it's this is energy I'm energy yes thank you And that's it so I eat what I want to eat

but it's so funny people say oh well then you just eat like crap no because I get that food is energy I have a different relationship to it you know so it's like certain food is higher vibration because it's alive versus other food it's not so so give us an example because I don't know uh fresh organic vegetables picked from your garden right made a salad or roasted or whatever it's alive right There's actual enzymes in there that enter your body and help break down the food and do all sorts of amazing things versus an

Oreo I happen to love Oreos right right Oreo is a dead food there's nothing alive about an Oreo it could sit on the shelf or God knows how long it is not alive right but it tastes good it's childhood favorite right yeah so I'll eat my salad I'll say yes thank you oh my gosh so grateful for this food energy enters perfect I eat with the Same energy that one Oreo I'm gonna have without even thinking about it but I also know that that carries its own frequency just like you carry your own frequency I'm

not responsible for your frequency right but I'm responsible for my frequency of how I receive it so the Oreos frequency let's say it's zero right because it's a dead food the salad is a ten or a hundred right I'm not responsible for that energy but I'm responsible for how I receive it so they Both get received as a 10. I love it yeah awesome that's good yeah I mean I'm gonna take that one yeah no not everyone everyone's like you know I'm regimented and I eat it I'm like cool to each their own yeah yeah

you know food for me I I love to eat I grew up in a you know we own restaurants like I love food so food is a pleasure point for me so I do not deprive myself of that you know what else you know what else I found the more that you're in love the more that you Love food yeah oh my God yeah like whenever Jen is around I'm just like the ABS go away yeah I get my love handles that's and I'm okay with it it's okay yeah it's okay but there there is

a happy medium right like I I find that when I'm in that frequency and energy towards my food like I love my body why because it's an energy right so it's just like my body's no matter what it looks like yeah yeah I mean yes yes my body's awesome like thank you body You're incredible absolutely you know I love that yeah and the last one is sex oh that's when I'm like diving deep into right now so when you said that I'm like yes because that is there's a so much programming in society around like

what sex is and isn't and how you should be or shouldn't be what's a good boy or a good girl and what's a bad one and you know there's so much stigma around it um I think it's designed that way by the way the Matrix designed it that way Because if you think it's the thing that created you right so they can control the thing that created you oh yeah to control you oh I never thought of it that way that's so true yeah it's so true and and you know Preston and I again in

this 2.0 of our relationship like this is a big thing that we're looking at it's like how do we like what do we want our sex life to look like and we're just having more fun with it and being explorative and curious and for Both of us that's kind of radical because we grew up in households where it was like very traditional you're right talk about that right yeah he grew up religiously I didn't but it was like good Greek girls don't talk about sex yeah get married and that's it we don't talk about it

you had all these babies we don't know how it's fine it's just yeah it's fine um so it's interesting because that's Something that we're exploring but again I'm responsible for my experience so I'm diving deeply into sensuality classes uh movement uh playing with the energy of the Muse and pleasure and like what does that look like some days it's painting some days it's um pole dancing class sometimes some days it's like a conversation with my girlfriend where we're creating and ideating so I am responsible for my connection with Eros right like the Energy of the

the creative Divine energy and it's not always physical sex right like you're having sex with life or you're not and we meet people that are like so turned on to life you're like wow that's you are magnetic like what is that person doing I want some of that right and then there's people who are just like you're turned off and that truthfully is like what I'm playing with it's like how do I bring the spirit of turn on the spirit of like life is sex Like everything nature the weather even if it's raining and not

perfect like that like how can I be in the pleasure of receiving life's magic right because that's the dance sex is a giving and receiving dance and most of us can't even be in that dance in real life so if we can't do it outside of the bedroom like we're probably not going to be well practiced for inside the better absolutely you know it's it's so interesting but I I'm seeing more and more that the the way that your body shows up both masculine and feminine in the bedroom is a definite representation of the way

you are showing up outside of it yes you know and so many of us store trauma you know sexual trauma like literally in our body parts our body parts will not fully operate the way they're intended to yeah they won't fully it's open or closed open or closure yeah yeah and it's either you have to like force it or it Just kind of flows and happens that's you know um I I just I have to ask you this I I feel comfortable enough with asking this but have you ever heard of Yoni eggs yeah of

course I practice them because because for our female users yes ladies yes two words Yoni yes they're people it's so funny because I never heard of it until probably about six years ago then I got one started the practice and then I got pregnant so you're not Supposed to do it you're pregnant you still can but you know I was like super cautious with my first but it's incredible because it's developing a muscle that's that's right and it's like okay you want to be more capable during sex like that's a muscle it's a game changer

oh my gosh and then post birth for any mamas out there who have given birth like your body held a lot and that muscle begins to atrophy and weakens if we aren't rehabilitating it so there's a Whole Rehabilitation process that the Yoni egg is incredible for yeah um also mamas anyone who has um diastasis where your abs separate during pregnancy so many women have that and they don't know they have that that is your core that is your foundation get to work on rebuilding that there are specialists in every area that for me has been

a game changer danger just to feel my Center Point in my body it's huge and I've you know I had a twin Pregnancy and then I had you know two singles but three big pregnancies it can be a lot on the body and so it is it is a part of our Mothership and our motherhood to actually rehabilitate the body that birthed these babies because if we want to be there for our kids I mean we get to be in our strength we get to be in our power and we get to actually have it's

we'll never get a body back I hate that because you're initiated into a whole new body but it Is your job to build that body in a way that makes you feel so powerful and come back into communion with it in a powerful way because birth can be traumatic for a lot of women absolutely you know absolutely and how have you done that so I'm doing I'm doing a ton of rehabs literally on just because I had a four finger separation so I'm literally like building it back with these like subtle it's like painstaking exercises

but it's subtle and for me It's been this reminder of like this is me taking my power back this is me feeling great in my body this is me being able to take care of my kids for decades to come Yoni eggs practices like that um strength training is huge especially for women because women's muscle tends to just decline over time so strength training and then just simple practices of breath is really huge because when we breathe most of us don't know how to Breathe and we're breathing write a check and so when we breathe

we want to like picture it almost like a core set like zipping up and you're pressing your belly button into your spine like that and zipping your body up and that that practice alone will help to mend your body back together and get you connected to your core which this is our our Intelligence Center yeah most people think it's here but this is actually the guy informs the brain yeah so if we're Not solid here then we're just on autopilot here absolutely and so it's really important from a somatic practice to be grounded in our

center point I love that yeah I love that final message in particular for all the mom entrepreneur wives out there listening be gentle featuring so I think Society is so hard on us already um again like we've got to start nurturing Ourselves we're waiting for the world to treat us fairly and see our invisible workload and all the things and it may never happen so the question is how are you going to take care of you right now and how do you do it with love and compassion and kindness so that your children especially if

we're talking about mamas your children see what it's like to be a woman in her power completely Sovereign and not Outsourcing herself so that they can attract a Partner like you or be a partner like you in their future because as you know our kids model absolutely you know they look at it and then you could be saying one thing but they're looking at what you're doing and that's who they're going to become yeah and so that's the thing that keeps me on track when I feel like being lazy I'm like nope my daughter's looking

at me like what is a sovereign woman and her power look like and my sons are looking at me like oh This is the type of woman that I want in my life and so I get to to help my children even if it's just a little bit by being a model and an example for them absolutely yeah I love that yeah this was awesome so good yes we didn't need an outline no no no outline right I don't need that the feminine in practice absolutely no absolutely how do people get a hold of you

get in touch with you yeah on Instagram at alexypanos I've got YouTube videos I've got a podcast top 10 podcast called Unleashed with Alexi Panos uh Preston and I are bringing back the bridge which is our somatic embodiment training it's been a couple years since covid but we're coming back to Australia and here in Austin so bridgeexperience.com for that okay it will blow your mind and it is like nothing out there because we do deep somatic work deep trauma work and it's all about unleashing the truest Expression of who you are I love it and

you know what I I will say even before I met you guys I had heard about that oh it's in chat I hear it I hear it's I hear it's legit it's legit I mean we have we have people in the industry who train and teach take it we've had some of Tony Robbins top coaches take it and they're like holy [ __ ] beautiful yeah we well because we're not afraid we push the envelope that's right so that we do nudity works I've heard oh sorry yeah But really it's for Freedom yeah and it's

it's really we believe that when you're free you are free from your automatic responses in the world and that's true sovereignty that's true Freedom it doesn't come for money it doesn't come from you know lifestyle or whatever we think it does it's when you are sovereign in your choices as a human being and you can enter any space in the world and feel like yourself I love that it's so beautiful we're gonna end it Right there yeah yeah thank you so much of course thank you yeah and that's it this week's episode for the higher

self I feel called to tell you especially for those of you ladies like you you I want you to listen to this two and three times because you're gonna get so many little things uh that Alexi shared that I don't think many women have the capacity to share you're in a really special place and I want to commend yeah absolutely and so that's it we'll See you next week on the higher self thanks for watching or listening in this week's episode resonated with you deeply and you're ready to discover more about yourself go to dannymorrell.com

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