while growing up we all wondered what if we had some sort of superpower in Indian households we all watch that Shak man we all wanted some sort of power like that what if I was a Wonder Woman that's what I thought when I watched Wonder Woman but reality is we can't have that but certainly there is one power we all can have and most interesting part about it is the more we practice it the better we become I don't want to sound too Buzzy or too magical but yes your ability to align your goal with
others and connect with powerful communication is the ultimate superpower in this modern time the one who knows how to connect with others with their super communication skills is the one who's relishing on all the goodness of the world and if you do want to have that superpower hendy in right away why don't you stay tuned with me for another 10 minutes and I'm going to share with you 10 super power that I have mastered over the 10 years of training the world now I don't want to sound dramatic but the fact is if you follow
these rules religiously and practice them it can truly change your entire game of communication it will make you a fantastic a charismatic speaker on the stage off the stage too now why I'm betting upon this so much is because not just hours and hours and days and days but months and years that I've spent into watching the videos of the top speakers across the globe and that didn't work so so many books that didn't work but then I had to rely back on my 12 years of experience of training the people from across the globe
from all walks of life actually from students to entrepreneurs to leaders to speakers in Hindi in India so I have trained people from actually all walks of life and training so many things I I believe I must have trained everything that I have known so far and I trained myself on however these 10 rules are something that you have practice these are very subtle very simple so you may sometimes you know during this video say duh I knew it uh so it's fine however hanging there because I did tell you before I'm going to tell
you again it will truly change your game of communication once and for all the very first golden rule that is going to smooth out your speaking that's going to be replace your verbal pauses with a dead or a complete silence what do I mean by verbal pauses it is um you know when I thought of um coming to this place well m a e all these sounds are basically of verbal pauses why do we do that we all know it because we don't want to stop a second we are a thought in our speaking they
are not aligned of course and a number of other reasons could be maybe the hesitation of speaking to people maybe the lack of practice maybe you didn't know what you're talking about and top of all this is how you have been speaking for a long period of time and it has become your habit and now it's very very difficult to get rid of habit unless you replace it with another habit so what is another habit that's going to use here is a dead silence a complete silence this is how we going to bring a complete
silence in your speaking now all of a sudden you'll notice that there's so much calm and composed behavior that you would notice not just in you as a speaker but your audience actually feel it so replace your [Music] verbal pauses with dead silence as they say without a context a piece of information is just a DOT and I call it a blah because we are inundated with so much of information day in day out by the people around us in the office by social media content creators so much so that we sometimes really wonder that
are we human or a dump side of the information now fun part reality is if I don't give you the context uh prior to giving you the information it is actually useless because you would never ever ever stay hooked to the idea so always tell in advance what is this in reference to why I'm talking about it and then go on talking about it then I can also go on listening to how the human species you know evolved over a period of time unless you give me the context I wouldn't really pay attention to so
super communicators actually know how to grab the attention of other people by giving a context a reference and then they go on talking when you have aha moment in the conversation all good when you have ouch moment in the conversation that's where it seems like you're getting hot under the collar and you happen to be unprofessional in the uses of The Words which is why I'm going to tell you that do not curse the person call out the behavior do not say you are an utter and nonsense or you're an idiot rather you want to
say well this is totally unacceptable now I have never seen you behaving like that before so yeah for God's sake just amend it that's way better at least I'll stay professional in a future Rel I mean further relationship with that person at least I'm not breaking it off so call out the behavior don't curse the person now what if I tell you in next 10 seconds you can be truly more confident in your voice just by chinning it up yeah when you speak like this and when you speak like this something changes when I speak
like this putting a chin little up my spine is straight and I'm able to breathe from my diaphragm hence the quality of my voice is a lot better than this actually so chin a little up and speak with confidence hence the voice that you are going to speak speak with is going to be super super confident now if you want to sound professional all of a sudden like immediately right at this moment all you need to do is to be mindful of the Clauses and the phrase and the words that you speak like which is
your goto when you speak I think oh there you go I lost you so if you want to sound bit more professional confident in somebody who should be taken seriously replace that I think there's no I think either it is proven fact or it is something that you believe in or it is something that you heard so use the correct for you know phrase so I would rather say I believe this is how it is supposed to be done rather I think this is how it is supposed to be done so mind the word be
mindful of the choice of the words and phrases that you speak on a daily basis in fact there is this one sentence that I hear very often the not by most people and you know I'm sure some of you might be using in fact I just wanted to tell you I just want wanted to know just or you wanted to so replace this whole wordiness I wanted to know I wanted to connect with you to know about this replace all these confusing words and The Words which are numb in nature words and phrases which do
not have the confidence attached to it replace I think with I believe replace just and I mean don't replace us just take it off off the table please and find more words and phrases that you speak you know just because you're habitual off and you don't know what damage it is doing to your communication now we all know someone or heard someone whose speaking style is so impeccable that we can go on listening to them day in day out why why do they sound so melodious why do we feel like there is something about their
speaking style well it is not monotonous if I may say so they are not monotonous ous that's the beauty in it now how not to be monotonous develop a rhythm and a pattern in your speaking style it's not that difficult find the good words that you really want to emphasize on and take more time in speaking those words hence automatically you'll notice there's a pattern there's a rhythm in your speaking now I'm not saying that we have to speak like how people spoken back then you know the speakers actually used to speak four scor seven
years ago I'm not talking about having that pattern I am talking about developing a pattern of your speaking which is very natural to you and at the same time where you actually emphasize on the important words in the sentences it shouldn't be flat you see even Lifeline flat we're not alive so if we want our audience to live longer we ought to have the pattern the Rhythm in our speaking practice that if if you think how to practice that if nothing just go on I don't know pretend like an actor uh and uh take their
dialogues and practice in front of mirror I think that also suffices a lot of times a vocal leaders a fantastic Communicator or speaker is not in a business to impress you but to attract you and how does that happen by mirroring your talk they're not there to show you how great their vocabulary list is they're not there to tell you how great and you know interesting individual they are they are rather going to take the words from you take the sentences from you and repeat in front of you hence you are attracted and you don't
even know that mercy so mirror the talk if you are in conversation with someone and you think there are certain words and phrases and something that makes sense and something that's so interesting try using those words and phrases in your Communication in your answer immediately right then and there in fact this is very good practice for impromptu as well you'll be able to think on your feet I mean literally on your feet there is truly something magnetic about those communicators who wouldn't have so story who wouldn't have like victim card Story I mean I'm talking
about an individual who always put a good spin to the bad phas who always has optimistic explanatory style in their speaking like they wouldn't say that I grew up in such a small place we had scarcity of things or so they would say you know it was amazing like we didn't have light and we used to rejoice in the evening because there was no electricity so we didn't have to study and we used to have truly truly a blast when I was a kid so putting a good spin to the bad phase of life is
truly magnetic about some of the speakers and mind you all the world leaders I'm talking about the one whom we look up to and we have looked up to in the past are the people who always have this op optimistic explanatory style in their speaking they wouldn't say oh my goodness now world is going to be over they always say oh there is a hope and we are the hope so always put a good spin to the bad phase of your life I'm not saying that they are not true I'm not saying you shouldn't talk
about something that wrong has happened to you but no for example um interestingly I was watching um I don't know what um yeah you see a lot of times we don't know what we watching uh but there was this Bollywood actor who was talking about the fact that the first time when he bought a car when he started working um so his car the front door wouldn't open so he would always every time he would go to some award function or so he would be really embarrassed uh you know by giving his car to the
valley and then he'll jump from the passenger seat or so and while he was talking about it he was so you know rejoining rejoicing with the fact that the time has passed and then he would jump on his seat while talking about the funny part of it like how he would really manage and make it you know explain it to his friends or so and I felt connected all of a sudden because he didn't create a so story like he wasn't saying there was such a bad phase of my life I bought a second hand
car no third hand car like come on man we all know that we'll understand when you talk about it even if it is with a good spin to it there are two two kinds of people in the world one who says here I am and another who say there you are and a good speaker a communicator an individual who can make great impression is the one who would say there you are because they always know and understand it is about the people I'm talking to it is always and always about the people that I'm talking
to addressing to it is not about me no matter who I am it is always about the people that I'm talking to whose time I'm taking so if you really want to connect and engage them and be and make space in their head always understand the fact that I have to speak in the language the content and everything that I'm sharing for the benefit of the listeners the people who are listening to me the people I'm in conversation with rather than going on and runting about yourself only so be the person who says there you
are finally my favorite no matter what you have to say and how you saying unless there's a Clarity in your speaking nobody is going to pay attention a second they won't understand even if they pretend to and third you know your image over a period of time will be something that you might not enjoy listening about so walk on the quality of your Clarity that you speak with and for that very simple very simple trick that I believe I used this for so long in order to sound correct because English was never my first language
neither my second language was third language so I wanted to make sense with my ideas I wanted to make sure I connect with people but at the same time I also wanted not to hear all the time sorry what did you say what was that uh I didn't get you I wanted the the godamn clarity and this came handy now I'm not saying when you go to a meeting room and you just say okay all right where is the pen and then you start speaking but this practice with the this pens sides anything between your
lips when you speak like this what happens is your mouth really gets a good stretch your mouth muscles gets good stretch hence you have to make more effort to articulate the words and if you do this practice let's say 5 minutes a day over a period of 1 month or so I would say you would notice a great great difference in the clarity of your voice so if you are someone who has got all the great ideas but you keep hearing sorry I didn't get you or maybe you eat up the words maybe you don't
know you know what goes wrong because of the you know Clarity always go for this one practice for a month and then you would see a great great difference because after all at the end of the day at the end of the day what matters is the clarity of my not just thought but of my speaking too and these were some of the great great ideas that I believe I didn't just talk about but I made each individual practice in my classroom hence the change now if you liked what you watched and you enjoyed those
ideas and techniques I'm going to ask you this if you want me to make a detailed video in thorough step by step know process to work upon any of those ideas or technique do write in the comment section below I might make some good length video which can be really really handy to you now I'm going to ask you again subscribe to this channel because we're going to come up with so many great ideas which will be truly time worthy to you and by then I Kushi Singh signing off
