what advice would you give to guys who want to attract and find a good woman work on yourself for sure be constantly improving um both in terms of your career your intelligence and the way that you think about the world your the physical shape that you're in that says so much to women and I know that a lot of women kind of look at that in a superficial way but I look at that as like you are truly prepared to protect um you're willing to go to bat for me for our future children you care
about my health more than I care about my health that was a huge thing that I had to get over he was like you are going to go to the gym you are going to take these supplements um a leader um being able to be assertive and take initiative is huge I also think and this is the complicated one that I've talking about on the show is understanding the nuances in dating women are very confusing which is it sucks but we are and there's like very little like emotional things that we do but being able
to understand if a woman is actually interested and knowing how to carry on a conversation before you even ask her out that's key to just getting in the door of being able to create a connection over something that's not dating and over your interest in her whether it's you know physical or you just think she's an interesting person just seeing if that connection is even there and kind of playing that dating game that back and forth that sets you up for success in more ways than than one like that is I I feel like has
a much higher batting average than just you know going up and saying you know can I have your number and hoping that it works out but laying that groundwork just so that you know if she's actually interested um I think that also makes the fear of rejection a little easier because you actually will know hopefully if she's interested in what resp somehow exactly well I think a lot of a lot of the time about um the advantage of being around women and one of problems of remote work being that people are interacting less so low
stakes interaction with women is a really great way for guys to overcome their approach anxiety because if you're not looking for any outcome what can you lose at it's the Barista she is literally paid to give you your coffee so if you can say one extra sentence and it sounds so stupid it's the same problem as if you need to go to the gym just do 10 push-ups a day because it starts so small that people think well what's the [ __ ] point like look I I'm not I'm not Andre Tate with a Bugatti
um like what's what's the point in me trying to do this so but that is literally the only way that you can get there and you have to take that step you have to show up at a location in person where there will be women whether it is your you know whether it is a group workout class pickle bable there you go I have a problem with pickle ball though what come on okay here we go first disagreement I I did an episode about this I got reamed in the comments yeah well rightly so yeah
well the problem that I had and that it sparked this episode is I went to a farmers market in Nashville there was a tennis court next door to the farmers market it was all men playing pickle ball I'm sorry it was the gayest thing I've ever seen and not and it was because it was all it was oh my gosh I was like play tennis anyway but I also think that was just the demographic in that part of Nashville and I looked at that and I was like you go like to a boxing gym something
anyway short denim shorts cut offs yeah the shortest shorts imaginable fantastic like they I well they like they went to lul and got the 5 in than hadam Taylor this is this is liberating for men this is what we want to do this is what you want you want the this is what we want to do yeah well if you want that's great you know those things like I wonder wonder if he's thinking about me and then it cuts what the guy's actually doing and it's him high-fiving with his homies with his top off in
three and shorts this is what guys want to do stop [ __ ] oppressing us I'm so sorry the patriarchy is coming back around through pickle ball I'm so glad thank you I'll shut down the matriarchy well no and I learned my lesson from that I still don't I don't really enjoy pickle ball I play tennis growing up and so I that also probably feeds into my feeling about it but still going to some like playing fickle ball with people showing up to those leagues joining in Nashville at Centennial Park they always do soccer and
softball and volleyball during the summer you can just join these wck leagues go do that have you seen this uh ascendency of uh like 5K runs run clubs yes yeah I think that's I think run clubs are basically a they're a dating organization masquerading as a fitness Pursuit yeah I could see that that's what it is because no one go goes to the Run club for the running bit I've seen these things people walk half of them but everybody's got their brand new sany or New Balance exactly yeah and Tiny pair of shorts and they
get to run along and sweaty and see if the other oh like he's that guy from last week again yeah so again and that's okay what you just said that guy from last week that is also key repeatedly going to the same place with the same group of people and again laying that groundwork yes exactly I need you to stalk no um but the low stakes environment where you are having to grow a relationship over say six weeks of like you're going to this run Club every single week you meet a girl oh you banter
whatever you run along talk to somebody else the next week she's there pick up the conversation just being able to it's wild that this is revolutionary I know yeah I know again but that goes back to my point of my My Generation just has not had to do that yeah and it's all been so digital and then mixed in with our you know our social skills just have been totally warped by the digital age and Co didn't help at all and I mean the majority of my college experience was online so when people talk about
oh you learn to date in college people who graduated around my year in 21 nope learn to date online yeah yes in your Zoom class like oh this guy's kind of cute let me do like my like private Zoom message yes I like oh yeah the guy in my zoom you know breakout in my business class when we're working on our accounting whatever like that's those were the options in other news this episode is brought to you by nomatic last year I went on a tour across the UK USA and Dubai and I didn't check
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