Tip number twenty for married and single people In the previous video we briefly mentioned the following question: What kind of wife would you be if you were married to the best husband in the world? What kind of husband would you be if you were married to the best wife in the world? This question may seem absurd, but if we stop to think at it we can come up with new ideas and ways of changing our behavior.
One thing we lose over time, year after year, in today’s modern society, is the desire to please each other. If I believe that I have married the best person in the world, that my husband is the best in the world, then it will not be difficult for me to do what he likes, search for ways to please him, find time to be with him or to sacrifice things that I like in order to please him. This is a part of how I feel and think about my husband.
But people do not normally think this way or have this mindset. So women think, “I am going to do what I want to do”, as if she were the better person, “I am the best wife, the best mother. .
. so I want everything for me. ” People are naturally motivated to better themselves when they see another person doing better than them.
For example, if I live in a house and my neighbor paints his house, takes good care of his garden, or has a new car, it would be natural for me to want to do better because my neighbor is showing me that it is possible. If I am not careless, detached or abnormal, it is only natural for me to improve when I see someone else doing well for themselves. And so the idea to ask, what kind of husband would I be if I am married the best wife in the world, is meant to encourage you to change.
Though you do not yet have the best person by your side, imagine that you are married to the best wife or husband of the world. So, if I say, “If she is the best wife or woman in the world, then I have to be the best man, and treat her really well. The best man for me.
. . Exactly.
Renato, many think they are the best wife in the world, but they are not acting like the best wife for him. She is the best wife in the world in her own eyes. Or they list their qualities, like we constantly hear from women and men, “I make the money and work like an animal.
” “I do the laundry, cook and iron. ” They mention what they think are their good qualities, which in fact are good. But they do not see what is missing.
For example, if I’m faithful to Cristiane every Monday, Wednesday and Friday those 3 or 4 days of faithfulness do not matter. What matters to her are the remaining days of unfaithfulness. So, if I am doing some good things, but not doing what is necessary, then I am not being the best husband for her.
I may think I am, but for her I am not. When you think this way you start to understand the other person, because everyone is different. Your mother or father may accept the way you act as a wife or husband.
That is the way they are. But your husband or wife is different, they have different views. She is different.
She is not like you, or your mother, father or siblings. How can I be the best wife or husband for a person who is so different from me? What are this person’s needs and requirements?
This is when you will work at being the best When my husband is customized for me obviously, the other person will notice this, even when he is disconnected, and would not be unwilling to meet you halfway. So, here is a challenge for you. We are not telling you this so you can say, “Oh, how nice, good idea.
” No. We challenge you to do this. Over the next 30 days, why don’t you decide to be the best wife and imagine your husband to be the best husband Even though he is not yet that way.
But treat him like he is. How would you treat your husband if he were the best husband in the world? Would you shower him with smiles, affection, make his favorite food, stop nagging and criticizing him?
Let your imagination run wild. How would you behave as the best wife in the world? And for the husbands, what kind of husband or man would you have to be for the best wife in the world?
Let your imagination run wild. Think of the needs and desires of the person by your side. Start doing this.
Be consistent even when things get difficult. Go against your nature, even when the other person doesn’t deserve it. Do this with certainty and with all of your faith.
Like we said in the previous video, imagine what does not yet exist. Then, tell us about the results. After the 30 days you will see results and will not want to stop.
This is one of our secrets. Exactly, we try to do this. And for singles, you may say, “Oh, I’m single.
This isn’t for me. ” Sure it is. The concept is the same, but the question is a little different.
If you were a princess, the most eligible single waiting to marry a prince. . .
what type of woman would you have to be to attract a prince? Let your imagination run wild. Start to prepare yourself to be a woman who is worthy of a prince.
. . someone a prince would be attracted to, and want to win her heart.
If you were a princess, how would you behave? The kingdom’s most refined, beautiful, loved, well mannered, virtuous – a prize someone he would give his life to conquer. Start to become this woman, even though you don’t have a frog (that will turn into a prince) that is interested in you yet And for the single men, the same advice.
If you were a prince that the best woman in the world would be interested in marrying, what kind of man would you be? Take advantage of this opportunity. Do not expect the ideal women to come your way if you are not the ideal man.
Start preparing yourself while you’re waiting for your princess. OK? This is today’s tip.
