let me tell you something jealousy is a beast is one of those silent killers that can mess with your peace your relationships your growth everything but the thing is most people don't even know how to recognize it when it's staring them in the face they think it's just a little rivalry a bit of competition maybe even some harmless Envy but jealousy not it's much deeper than that it's a poison and if you don't know the signs it will creep up on you sometimes even from the people closest to you now you might be thinking what
does this have to do with me but trust me if you're out here doing your thing building your life making moves living your best self you've got people looking at you and some of those people they won't be cheering for you they'll be watching you hoping you fall hoping you mess up hoping you fail and those are the people who are extremely jealous of you you need to spot them early because once you know the signs you can protect yourself and you can keep your peace first sign they can't be happy for your success you
ever had someone who you thought had your back someone who was close to you and the minute something good happens to you whether it's a promotion a new relationship or even just something small that's positive in your life they act like they can't handle it they get distant they don't call they start acting weird yeah that's jealousy and it's toxic you see a lot of times we're quick to celebrate with people who we think are on our team you're happy they're happy they're happy right that's what we believe but when jealousy enters the picture that's
when things start to shift you get that promotion at work where you finally hit a milestone that you've been working towards for months or years and instead of high fives and cheers you get silence or worse you get criticism the kind of criticism that's not constructive no no it's just the kind that digs into your past mistakes or laws they'll remind you of things you did wrong stuff that's irrelevant to your present stuff that has nothing to do with what you've just accomplished why because they can't stand seeing you move forward now don't get it
twisted you're not crazy for noticing this this is something that happens all to often and it's painful because you think that person would be happy for you right but that's the thing about jealousy it's not about you it's about them their jealousy is rooted in their own insecurities in their own fears of not being enough of not achieving what they wish they had when you win it's a reflection of what they haven't done and that makes them feel small that makes them question their own worth instead of using your success's motivation to do better they
use it as a reason to tear you down what makes this even harder to deal with is when it comes from someone close to you a friend a family member someone you trust you start asking yourself am I imagining this am I overreacting but no you're not you're seeing the signs of someone who isn't truly happy for you and that's okay but here's the thing you need to understand that's not your problem don't internalize their jealousy don't make it about you a real friend a real supporter they're going to be in your corner they're going
to lift you up when you succeed they're not going to make your achievements feel like they're too much or too big for the room they're going to celebrate with you and even when they're going through their own struggles they'll be happy that you're winning because they see your success as part of the bigger picture they know you're not in competition with them because there's room for both of you to shine but with a jealous person that's different they're going to find a way to make your wind feel smaller they're going to try and cut you
down to size and what's even worse is that they might try to do it in a way that makes you question yourself your worth or your achievements they might start bringing up your past things that are completely irrelevant to the present moment why because they want to remind you of your flaws of things you've already learned from they want to deflect attention away from your success and shift the focus to your mistakes to things that have nothing to do with the person you are now and that's where you have to draw the line don't let
their jealousy make you second guess yourself don't let their inability to handle your joy steal your happiness the moment you realize they can't celebrate your success is the moment you realize you need to keep your distance from that energy you don't need that negativity in your life you don't need people around you who aren't genuinely happy for you you need people who lift you up who see your success as something to be proud of not something to be threatened by the truth is your success isn't their failure it never was and it never will be
but if they can't see that if they can't handle your joy then it's time for you to move forward keep growing and leave that energy behind real friends don't let jealous stand between you they stand by your side and they cheer you on no matter what so someone can't do that for you then let them go and keep moving forward because your success is your own and nothing or no one can take that from you here's the second sign they throw shade but it's always disguised as advice you know there's always that one person who's
got something to say no matter what you do no matter how you move they've always got advice ready for you they act like they're looking out for you like they've got your best interest at heart but deep down you know it's something else it's never really about helping you it's about putting you down about making you second guess yourself about taking shots at your choices your path your life they don't come out and say it though nah they're too slick for that they disguise it they frame it as advice like they're just trying to show
you a better way to do things but when you really listen you know it's not about you doing better it's about them trying to make you feel smaller to make you doubt the decisions you're making they're not giving you advice they're giving you shade and they're doing it under the guise of concern they'll tell you how you should have done this or how you could do that better all the while ignoring the fact that what you're doing is working for you it's not about improving you it's about controlling you making you feel like you're not
good enough if someone's constantly telling you how to live your life how to make your choices but never celebrating your wins that's a red flag that's jealousy that's insecurity in disguise a real friend lifts you up they support you even when they don't have it all figured out for themselves they don't make you feel small so when you hear more constructive criticism than support it's time to recognize the truth third sign they talk behind your back but never to your face if you've got someone who's always got something to say about you when you're not
around but they never say it to your face that's jealousy at its finest this one is sneaky and it can fly into the radar if you're not paying attention they'll smile in your face act like everything's cool but the minute you're out of the room they're talking behind your back gossiping spreading rumors talking down about you they're trying to tear you down because they can't stand the fact that you've got something they want they see you out here living your life doing what they wish they could do and it eats them up they can't be
happy for your success so they'll try to tarnish your name spread lives or twist your words they'll make you out to be something you're not because it makes them feel better about themselves it's like they're hoping that by talking about you they can drag you down to their level they'll talk behind your back because they know they don't have the guts to say it to your face why Because deep down they know you wouldn't stand for it you call them out but they know when you're not around they can say whatever they want and get
away with it the truth is a person who's securing themselves doesn't need to talk about others to feel better they don't need to spread negativity to lift themselves up a real person a strong person will talk to to you directly if there's something on their mind but jealousy jealousy hides in the shadows where it can spread its poison without consequence so if you catch wind of someone talking behind your back you better believe they're not your friend they're just too scared to say it to your face now let's move to the fourth sign they try
to compete with you in every area of life you ever notice how some people just can't let you breathe you'll do something and before you know it they've got to run up you you buy a new jacket they buy a new jacket but theirs is just a little bit fancier you go to a certain place they try to top it with something bigger it's like you can't take a step without them trying to make their move right behind yours they're not just trying to live their life they're trying to outdo yours they're turning every little
thing into a competition and not in a healthy way it's like they've got a scoreboard running in their head and every time you succeed they're losing they can't stand it so instead of supporting you they try to outshine you they'll copy your style your moves your circle they'll find a way to mimic your life like it's a race and they're trying to catch up but here's the thing this isn't about self-improvement no it's about tearing you down they don't want to be better for themselves they just want to make sure that you don't stay ahead
that's the jealousy speaking and here's what's dangerous the more you succeed the harder they'll compete every win you have only pushes them to try harder to one up you they'll pretend that cheering you on but deep down they're plotting their next move to make sure they don't fall behind the problem is they don't realize you're not competing with them you're just living your life doing your thing the sad part is they can't see that because in their eyes if you're winning they must be losing and that mindset that jealousy it's a heavy burden for anyone
to carry fifth sign they make everything about them you ever have someone around you who just can't let you have the floor you're talking about your accomplishments your struggles the things that matter to you and somehow they always find a way to twist it and turn it into something about them every time you share something good they got to bring up something bigger they did every time you talk about something hard they'll start talking about their problems making it like their struggles are somehow worse than yours and the thing is they never truly listen to
you they're not trying to hear your wins they're not acknowledging your hardships they're too busy making everything about them when someone's jealous of you they'll hijack every conversation every situation and turn it into an opportunity to lift them eles up if you've got a success they'll find a way to downplay it they'll act like it's no big deal like you didn't work hard for it like it doesn't matter but don't get it twisted this isn't about making you feel better this is about making them feel more important more validated they'll find a way to make
sure you're achievements feel like they pale in comparison to what's going on in their life no matter how small it may be they don't want you to shine they don't want to hear about your growth because if they do it forces them to face their own lack of progress so they'll twist The Narrative they'll make your good news feel irrelevant or even diminish your success just to keep the spotlight on themselves and that's how you know jealousy isn't just about what they don't [Music] have it's about the insecurity that keeps them from celebrating what you've
earned six sign they find ways to belittle your achievements you ever hit a milestone achieve something big and have someone try to r on your parade you worked hard you put in the time the effort the sacrifice and then here they come with their little comments that make it feel like it's no big deal they'll act like you got lucky like it was some kind of fluke or they might even say oh I could have done that better but you know what they're really doing they're lling your achievements because they can't stand the thought of
you succeeding they don't want to see you shine they can't handle the fact that you work for what you have and earned it so they try to downplay it make it seem like you didn't put in the work like you didn't deserve what you've got it's their way of protecting their own fragile ego they want you to think that your success is nothing special because the truth is your success is a reminder of their own failures their own fears and don't be surprised when they try to turn it around on you the moment you call
them out suddenly they'll act like you're being sensitive they'll flip the script make you feel like you're the one with the problem they'll act like your success is no big deal and try to make you feel guilty for celebrating it that's a classic move but you can't fall for it don't let them twist things and make you doubt yourself this isn't about you it's about their jealousy and their insecurity keep your head high and don't let anyone take away from what you've worked so hard for and lastly they try to make you feel guilty for
succeeding let me tell you something when you're succeeding when you're out here achieving there's always going to be someone who can't handle it you'll have people around you who see your progress your wins and instead of feeling inspired they'll try to make you feel guilty for it they won't come out and say it directly but their words and actions will be clear it's like they want to make you feel bad for doing well they'll throw comments your way like must be nice or I wish I had it easy like you as if somehow your success
is a personal attack on them and let me tell you that's jealousy and its pure form these are the people who feel like your win is their loss instead of seeing your success as something to admire or aspire to they'll twist it into something that makes them feel smaller less than it's not that they want to work harder or put in the effort to get to where you are they just want you to feel guilty for being where you are it's easier for them to drag you down to their level than it is for them
to rise up to yours what they don't understand is that success is not a zero sum game there's enough for all of us to eat but the minute someone feels threatened by your plate they'll start trying to turn your blessings into burdens they'll make you feel like your success is somehow unfair like you didn't earn it or like you don't deserve it but you did earn it you worked for it you put in the hour The Sweat The Tears and you've got the right to be proud of what you've accomplished don't let them flip the
script on you don't let them make you feel like your hard-earned success is something you should apologize for you've got every right to Stand Tall to celebrate and to know that youve earned everything that's coming your way now listen I want you to understand something real clear jealousy is not about you it's about them people who are jealous of you are simply people who haven't figured out how to be happy with their own lives they're in pain they're struggling with their own selfworth they're not at peace with who they are and because of that they
project their insecurity onto you they see you winning and it triggers something in them a reminder that they haven't reached where they want to be and rather than use that as motivation to step up their own game they try to tear you down to make themselves feel better now I'm not telling you to go out here and try to change people I'm not telling you to make excuses for them what I'm telling you is this you have to protect your peace you have to protect your energy when you spot jealousy when you see these signs
showing up in your life don't let it consume you don't let it distract you from your goals don't let it make you question question you're worth you're not here to dim your light for anybody you're not here to shrink to make someone else feel better you're here to shine to elevate and to keep moving forward no matter what but here's the thing don't let jealousy turn you cold don't let it turn you bitter don't let it make you distrust the people who genuinely support you the truth is jealous people are hurting but that doesn't mean
you have to take their hurt and turn it into something you carry with you recognize the signs protect your peace and move forward your success is not a reflection of their failures you've earned every step every inch and don't let anyone make you feel like you haven't so now that you know the signs take a good look around you who's lifting you up and who's trying to pull you down who's with you and who's pretending you know the difference stay focused keep your circle tight protect your energy because you're on a mission and no one's
jealousy is worth stopping for let me tell you something real something that might hurt a little but you need to hear it jealousy is not just something people feel it's a reflection of their inability to be happy with their own life and this is where it gets tricky it's easy to feel sorry sorry for people who are jealous of you but I'm telling you you can't afford to you can't let someone else's jealousy become your burden it's not your job to fix them it's not your responsibility to heal their wounds that's on them and they
have to do the work themselves so here's the key when you spot jealousy in your life don't be angry don't waste your time trying to prove yourself don't get caught up in trying to win their approval because you'll never get it instead stay focused on your path keep your eyes on your goals stay grounded in your own purpose jealous people are just distractions they're trying to pull you off track get you caught up in their drama their bitterness their insecurities but you've got a bigger Mission and you can't afford to lose focus now don't think
for one second that just because someone's jealous that means they don't have any good qualities that's not what I'm saying jealous people are human too they have their own struggles they have their own challenges and sometimes it's easy to feel sorry for them because deep down they just want what you have they just want the peace the success the joy that you've created for yourself but you got to remember this you've worked for everything you've got you fought for it you've sacrificed for it and you didn't get here by catering to someone else's jealousy or
insecurities you're not here to make people comfortable you're not here to lower your standards just because someone else can't rise to meet them your journey is yours your success is yours your happiness is yours and if other people can't celebrate that with you if they can't be happy for you then that's a reflect of where they are in life not where you are now let me be real with you for a minute jealousy can be toxic it can tear relationships apart it can destroy friendships it can sour the people closest to you and that's where
it gets complicated when someone's jealous of you they might try to use that jealousy to manipulate you they might act like they're your friend act like they're your oy but in reality they're using you as a stepping stone they'll try to pull you into their negativity their drama and if you're not careful they'll drag you down with them and this is why you have to guard your heart you have to protect your space you have to be mindful of who you allow into your life you can't just let anyone in you can't just open your
heart to everyone because not everyone who Smiles in your face has your best interest at heart some people are just there to see if they can tear you down they're just waiting for you to slip so they can say see I knew you couldn't do it but you can't let that happen you can't let their jealousy make you question yourself you can't let it shake your confidence you can't let it stop your grind so what do you do you keep your focus you keep working you keep striving for greatness you keep going even when people
are hating from the sidelines you don't need their approval you don't need their validation you don't need them to cheer for you because the truth is your success is not for them it's for you you're doing this for yourself for your family for your legacy and you're not going to let anyone's jealousy stop you from Reaching Your Potential and here's the thing about jealousy it's not always going to come from people you don't know sometimes it's going to come from people you care about sometimes it's going to come from people who are supposed to be
in your corner your family your friends your co-workers people you trust and that's the hardest part because when jealousy comes from someone close to you it can be a betrayal it can hurt but again you've got to protect yourself you've got to keep your heart right your spirit clean and your mind focused if they're jealous of you that's their problem not yours they've got to deal with that and they've got to figure out how to find peace within themselves let's be clear about something though just because someone's jealous doesn't mean they're a bad person jealousy
is a human emotion and we all experience it to some degree we all feel Envy from time to time the difference is how do you handle it how do you deal with it do you let it turn into bitterness do you let it turn into hate or do you use it as fuel to get better to work harder to grow that's what separates the people who stay stuck from the people who move forward so let's break it down if you want to protect your peace if you want to keep your life free from the toxic
energy of jealousy you need to be aware you need to see the signs and you need to recognize when jealousy is at work when someone is constantly Throwing Shade when they can't celebrate your wins when they're talking behind your back when they're trying to compete with you when they make everything about them when they belittle your achievements and when they try to make you feel guilty for succeeding those are all signs but once you recognize those signs once you know what's really going on you can stop it in its tracks you don't need to engage
you don't need to entertain it you just need to keep doing your will keep working keep pushing forward keep elevating because at the end of the day your success is your success and no one can take that away from you not their jealousy not their hate not their negativity you've earned everything you've got and you don't need to apologize for it you don't need to dim your light you don't need to shrink you just need to keep going keep growing and keep shining so here's the challenge don't let jealousy get in your way don't let
it distract you don't let it stop you you've got too much to offer you've got too much greatness ahead of you and no one's jealousy is going to change that so keep moving keep grinding keep winning you've got this you're untouchable and when you see jealousy in your life when you feel it creeping up when you hear those Whispers behind your back just remember this it's not about you it's about them you keep your head up you keep your eyes forward and you keep moving like the champion you are because the best revenge is living
your life so well that they can't even touch you [Music]
